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Haven’t had my first meet
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By *estivalMan
over a year ago
borehamwood |
Welcome to the world of fab where its about 100 single males to every female or couple.when i first joined many moons ago i found the chatrooms were better for making connections with people no idea what there like now though |
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Tbh with you OP… there’s a sad reality that it could possibly be down to your age being a factor as well. Pretty much most women and couples on here having kids your age. Heck, I’m 10 years older than you and still referred to as a “baby” by women in clubs and at parties lol
The one hope we do have is that time is on our side so I’d stick at it and you’ll reap the rewards I’m sure. A well written bio, about who you are and what you have to offer also goes a long away  |
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"So been on here for about a year and still struggling to get my first meet. Starting to make me think I’m ugly or something??"
If you want people to offer advice on your profile you have to comment that before we can x
There are also 100s of threads about profile advice x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So been on here for about a year and still struggling to get my first meet. Starting to make me think I’m ugly or something??"
You've got no public face pics, so no one could possibly know if you're ugly or not. So it really can't be that.
Must be something else.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So been on here for about a year and still struggling to get my first meet. Starting to make me think I’m ugly or something??"
Well I guess you understand people haven't been actively meeting because of the covid thing, plus you are young in the swing world, I'm at the other end and am out of peoples age range. Shit happens, go to a club or a social in your area and network |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To the posters saying to go a club the OP is 19 yrs old.
The lowest age limit on the clubs we have been to (rightly in our opinion) is 21 and its 23 for our local one.
OP that current status "I can give you the best cock of your life" comes over like something a teenager would say (which is ok as that's what you are).
Maybe get out to normal nightclubs, gigs etc and live this part of your life first as it only comes around once. Build up some life and sexual experience and maybe revisit the swinging scene in 5 to 10 years (at which point you will still be considered young in the swinging scene).
All the best
KJ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would remove the ‘I can give you the best dick of your life’ statement from your profile. Even if you can it’s not the greatest thing to write on your profile IMO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Welcome to the world of fab where its about 100 single males to every female or couple.when i first joined many moons ago i found the chatrooms were better for making connections with people no idea what there like now though"
There shit now since covid |
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"To the posters saying to go a club the OP is 19 yrs old.
The lowest age limit on the clubs we have been to (rightly in our opinion) is 21 and its 23 for our local one.
OP that current status "I can give you the best cock of your life" comes over like something a teenager would say (which is ok as that's what you are).
Maybe get out to normal nightclubs, gigs etc and live this part of your life first as it only comes around once. Build up some life and sexual experience and maybe revisit the swinging scene in 5 to 10 years (at which point you will still be considered young in the swinging scene).
All the best
KJ "
Pretty much spot on advice. We'd be surprised if anyone has the sexual maturity at 19 to handle swinging, we certainly didn't! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Off-putting status!  "
Well he asked for advice 4hrs ago and he put out his status up an hour ago.
looks like he didn't take our advice, which he has every right not to, so now it's up to him with his swinging journey |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We honestly think they should have like a FAQ page on here because the same questions/points gets asked over and over. ‘Improve my profile’ , ‘Why don’t I get any meets?’ Etc . Some really good advice has been given - work on your profile, get to clubs , get chatting , build up your confidence , meet like minded people , maybe get a verification or two, just relax and have fun and ease yourself into the scene. |
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"Off-putting status!
Well he asked for advice 4hrs ago and he put out his status up an hour ago.
looks like he didn't take our advice, which he has every right not to, so now it's up to him with his swinging journey"
They usually never take the advice given..I have said this before : a ploy to get traffic to profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Off-putting status!
Well he asked for advice 4hrs ago and he put out his status up an hour ago.
looks like he didn't take our advice, which he has every right not to, so now it's up to him with his swinging journey They usually never take the advice given..I have said this before : a ploy to get traffic to profile "
I'll start a topic tomorrow then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe people have reverse image searched your dick pic?
Whoops!
V
Benefit of the doubt but it would put me off"
Reverse image is our best friend on Fab! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe people have reverse image searched your dick pic?
Whoops!
V
Benefit of the doubt but it would put me off
Reverse image is our best friend on Fab!
Isn't that bit like reverse cowgirl "
And Almost as much fun! |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Maybe people have reverse image searched your dick pic?
Whoops!
V
Benefit of the doubt but it would put me off
Reverse image is our best friend on Fab!
Isn't that bit like reverse cowgirl
And Almost as much fun!"
Yes because you are still able to use your device without them knowing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe people have reverse image searched your dick pic?
Whoops!
V
Benefit of the doubt but it would put me off
Reverse image is our best friend on Fab!"
Dick pic has conveniently disappeared lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So no actual advice?"
Have you read the entire thread?
The OP has been offered plenty of advice.
He can only be offered profile advice if he asks for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So been on here for about a year and still struggling to get my first meet. Starting to make me think I’m ugly or something??"
So am I mate !!!
And what ! ?
Stop looking and expecting what you think you deserve off this site and just have the laugh on the threads and you be surprised the options that pop up !!!!
Scrap PM the women on here genuinely get like 200 mails a day only 150 of them are from me so yeah there not stuck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m in the same boat haha. It’s hardly an ego boost ??
Here’s a boost for you 
Keep trying  "
He’s lucky to have us and are inspirational pep talks !!!!
He’s gonna be beating them away with a stick in no time |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"Maybe people have reverse image searched your dick pic?
Whoops!
V
Benefit of the doubt but it would put me off
Reverse image is our best friend on Fab!
Dick pic has conveniently disappeared lol"
Oh dear. |
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"So been on here for about a year and still struggling to get my first meet. Starting to make me think I’m ugly or something??
So am I mate !!!
And what ! ?
Stop looking and expecting what you think you deserve off this site and just have the laugh on the threads and you be surprised the options that pop up !!!!
Scrap PM the women on here genuinely get like 200 mails a day only 150 of them are from me so yeah there not stuck "
hahaha |
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"To the posters saying to go a club the OP is 19 yrs old.
The lowest age limit on the clubs we have been to (rightly in our opinion) is 21 and its 23 for our local one.
OP that current status "I can give you the best cock of your life" comes over like something a teenager would say (which is ok as that's what you are).
Maybe get out to normal nightclubs, gigs etc and live this part of your life first as it only comes around once. Build up some life and sexual experience and maybe revisit the swinging scene in 5 to 10 years (at which point you will still be considered young in the swinging scene).
All the best
KJ
Pretty much spot on advice. We'd be surprised if anyone has the sexual maturity at 19 to handle swinging, we certainly didn't!"
I did 
Pretty sure I went to my first club at 20 and had my first threesome at 17 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe people have reverse image searched your dick pic?
Ha ha what a bellend, giving real people a bad name
Two pics were removed in nano seconds!"
Should be an instant block from the site when caught using false photos but admin won't have time to do that unfortunately |
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Hi there, I have just read the original post. I would say it is very difficult to get a meet on here if you are not verified so get down to a club and get verified by a few people.
If you don’t want to do that, then maybe the website is not for you.
If I was on here for a year without a meet, I would have downloaded the dating apps after a few weeks!! There are plenty of women on there who are just looking for fun and are open about it once you get to know them.
I was on them in 2019 for 6 months, gosh that was easy to get meets and have fun. I just talked to the ladies about their interests etc, what they wanted from the site and never mentioned sex or asked for pics. I found that if clicked while talking, make sure you arrange a date for that week.
Drinks are always good as you are relaxed and there is no need to stay if something is not working. Have drinks near your house so you can straight back there. Tinder is your freind! |
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Just to back up my comments, I have checked where OP is from and I know it very well. My good friend has been on 1 dating website for about 4 weeks and lives in the next town to you. He has had meets with 3 women so far and he said he could meet many more but doesn’t want to sleep with everyone. I have seen the chats! Lots of nice ladies in his chats!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to back up my comments, I have checked where OP is from and I know it very well. My good friend has been on 1 dating website for about 4 weeks and lives in the next town to you. He has had meets with 3 women so far and he said he could meet many more but doesn’t want to sleep with everyone. I have seen the chats! Lots of nice ladies in his chats!! "
So there gamey around there then ? |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"So no actual advice?"
OP posted three days ago. Last online less than an hour ago. Why would anyone now waste time offering him advice when he hasn't got the basic good manners to come back and acknowledge those that have tried to help?
(Bry) |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
A man reads "mature woman" and thinks that's OK, most of them are.
A woman reads "mature woman" and thinks old woman and it's her you are talking about. Yes, they are that good at reading what isn't there. |
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Iv noticed alot of these threads with this question. Why on earth ask for advice like this and then not follow through with it. Maturity goes a long way on this site and with a status like that it's no wonder your not getting meets. So my guess is that these posts are just a way to try amd get attention through your inbox, this is a start in its own right..show willing to the people giving you advice which shows your maturity..it all rolls into one really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Iv noticed alot of these threads with this question. Why on earth ask for advice like this and then not follow through with it. Maturity goes a long way on this site and with a status like that it's no wonder your not getting meets. So my guess is that these posts are just a way to try amd get attention through your inbox, this is a start in its own right..show willing to the people giving you advice which shows your maturity..it all rolls into one really."
True that |
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Your based in Slough so your not far from either Abfab/kestrels or hellfire, go along to one of their nights, go with the anticipation of chatting and socialising only, try chatting to couples and if/when you get friendly ask them if they'll kindly verify you, who knows it might even lead to more. |
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Frankly, if we were looking for a single guy, your profile would not jump out. There are only two photos and both are friends only. Feel free to be coy but some be surprised when you're passed over for guys with more detailed profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So been on here for about a year and still struggling to get my first meet. Starting to make me think I’m ugly or something??
So am I mate !!!
And what ! ?
Stop looking and expecting what you think you deserve off this site and just have the laugh on the threads and you be surprised the options that pop up !!!!
Scrap PM the women on here genuinely get like 200 mails a day only 150 of them are from me so yeah there not stuck hahaha"
Not sure what’s so funny just giving genuine advice !
men always complain about the ratio of men to women !
But really it’s just me blocking up there inbox na I’m kidding I usually only get to maybe 10 before I get blocked  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Frankly, if we were looking for a single guy, your profile would not jump out. There are only two photos and both are friends only. Feel free to be coy but some be surprised when you're passed over for guys with more detailed profiles."
Only because he removed the 2 public dick pics which came up on a reverse image search |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP your bio isn’t going to make anyone message you, there’s no photos for couples/women to see, and you’re too young.
I’ve only had a meet in 2 months since I’ve actively started looking, and even I’ve been refused a few times by saying I’m too young. Just go out and live your life |
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"We honestly think they should have like a FAQ page on here because the same questions/points gets asked over and over. ‘Improve my profile’ , ‘Why don’t I get any meets?’ Etc . Some really good advice has been given - work on your profile, get to clubs , get chatting , build up your confidence , meet like minded people , maybe get a verification or two, just relax and have fun and ease yourself into the scene. "
There is a FAQ...
It should be a requirement to at least open it, before a profile is activated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe people have reverse image searched your dick pic?
Ha ha what a bellend, giving real people a bad name
Two pics were removed in nano seconds!
Should be an instant block from the site when caught using false photos but admin won't have time to do that unfortunately"
Using fake, stolen, false photos should result in an instant ban especially when in the case of OP there was no he said she said he was 100% caught bang to rights thanks to technology.
KJ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi guys,
You sounds really nice and approachable, and I m with the same problem of getting my first meeting. Any advice on my profile? Thanks in advance. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi guys,
You sounds really nice and approachable, and I m with the same problem of getting my first meeting. Any advice on my profile? Thanks in advance. "
Bad form to hijack someone else's post asking for advice on your own profile. Maybe start your own thread?
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