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definition of a soft swing
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That’s the issue it has many meanings for different people. For us when we started it we described soft swing as basically most things up to full swap which I feel generally how it is perceived. Basically when you start this you need to have clear boundaries or limits and these should be talked about between yourself and your partner first. When you meet you or before hand you should make it clear to the people your meeting what your limits are. As everyone is different everyone has different levels of what may happen at meets. |
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over a year ago
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For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair. |
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For us, our understanding of soft swap is everything but full penatrative sex with another. That said, there are then ranges within that as some may not want oral but be ok with touching for example. As other posts suggest, put on your profile what you like so it's clear and there are known boundaries so no one accidently over steps the mark.
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"For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair. "
That's how we define it too. But obviously there may be variations to this. Know some don't do kissing for example but it's essential to us.  |
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To us its kind of everything apart from penis in vagina or anus. We consider ourselves as predominantly soft swing but we find nothing is set in stone and on occasion we go futher with the right atmosphere and people. You just find ever experience/encounter is different. What's important is just that everyone is on the same sheet with what goes on and has a great time. |
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I think the list of interests here are way too vague generally and I don’t find them that helpful. As a sub I like to be spanked, fisted etc but someone will list spanking as an interest if they like to give or receive so it would be a lot more helpful if you were able to specify in the list which you prefer. |
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"I think the list of interests here are way too vague generally and I don’t find them that helpful. As a sub I like to be spanked, fisted etc but someone will list spanking as an interest if they like to give or receive so it would be a lot more helpful if you were able to specify in the list which you prefer. "
Agreed, and with whom too. Anal for example is the man or woman in a bi couple, or both for that matter. |
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a former fwb and myself met up with a couple in a club.we all went into a locked room.the lady told us they only did soft swing.me and the other man played while my fwb and the other lady ended up having full sex.her husband wasnt allowed to with me. I quietly walked away and found fun elsewhere. I have since found out that its only the female who has full sex with other's but not the male. |
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"For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair. "
This is us and we class ourselves as soft swing... |
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"For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair. "
Same for us. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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make it what you want it to mean ..everyone is different ..you are you tell others what you want and stick to your rules until such a time you feel the need to change ...you are always in charge of you never allow anyone to change that |
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I wouldn’t worry about definitions.
Just communicate with each other and be clear with potential meets what you want and are looking for 
Nothing worse than using definitions which really do mean different things to different people xx |
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By *ashesCouple
over a year ago
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"For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair. "
That’s exactly what we did when we first ventured into the scene
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We think it's best that you state what you both want in your profile. For example say...
We are a soft swing couple. And rheres are our interests and limits. We are into same room-own partner sex and watching. Mutual masterbation or watching. Or, swapping partners for hand play and oral only. |
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We are soft swing and for us it means not having full sex with other people but any thing else is pretty much in play (with usual exceptions) we have had some great times and met some really hot people, it works fine for us. |
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