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"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." Exactly! I met a lovely couple at a club and we had a great time. I don’t even meet couples! | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are. Exactly! I met a lovely couple at a club and we had a great time. I don’t even meet couples! " The one night stand element was fun as well  | |||
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 ...dont get me wrong. .90% on here are..lmfao..not all tho..  | |||
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"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." Clubs certainly have their place in the swinging world, and they work well for many. For me personally, they’ve been hard work going in as a single guy, and I would always recommend using Fab to a mate, than visiting a club 
Glad you had a great night though OP | |||
"Looking forward to reading the verifications OP" Displayed on profiles now xxx | |||
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"So swinging is like househunting..." Literally everything is like house hunting 
You see if you like, You view, ask questions, see if you'll feel comfortable and be happy  literally everything | |||
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"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." Never judge a book by it's cover or profile, in this case. | |||
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I'll meet a guy by chance in a club and play, when we swap fab names it turns out they'd messaged me and I haven't had my interest piqued enough to reply | |||
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"I had it before. And seriously I’m not blow my own trumpet the lady said I look much better in the real world then my photos " I'm with you on that one, try to take a pic and it just all goes wrong. Have met in clubs and socials and also got told I'm better in person by people that have previously turned me down on here. | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." | |||
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glad to say that they and a few other couples do now | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." Totally agree. I have met a few guys at parties who I have said no thank you to previously via message. Clubs, parties and large socials are the best places to meet face to face. | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." I've been saying this for years. It also tells me some don't show themselves in a proper way on a profile. I think women are better with it then men.... Shame really | |||
"So swinging is like househunting..." Omfg so funny xx | |||
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"I also find clubs a lot easier. Not only because people might not represent their selves in the best way through their profile, but also because you get to know them better face to face. " I’m the opposite. I’ve found the club scene to be the most disappointing and frustrating side of the swinging side to life, certainly being a solo male in one anyway. My most recent club visit proved just how invisible a single guy can be in one  | |||
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"I also find clubs a lot easier. Not only because people might not represent their selves in the best way through their profile, but also because you get to know them better face to face. I’m the opposite. I’ve found the club scene to be the most disappointing and frustrating side of the swinging side to life, certainly being a solo male in one anyway. My most recent club visit proved just how invisible a single guy can be in one "Ultimately, if you have the right personality and charisma, you can probably do well at clubs. But you would also have no problem meeting single girls at bars, so you might have no need for swingers clubs anyway. | |||
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"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." Goes to show how dire most men's profiles are! They really don't do themselves any favours most of the time . | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." This has happened to us in clubs, people who on here we would of probably not thought our type but had great fun and a laugh with, taught us not to be concerned with just looks x | |||
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"I’ve had to unblock guys on here after playing in clubs numerous times haha. I don’t really use fab for 1:1 meets anymore so not as important. I just tell guys to club now and see what happens! X" Yes, you do…… | |||
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"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." It also goes to show how important accurate and interesting profiles are. | |||
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"(This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) " I cannot see anything wrong with it. | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) " Hope you’re well Mr Polar Opposite | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." The oerson you met probably wouldn’t have messaged you either. The last line of your profile says not interested in single guys. So sounds like you all got what you weren’t expecting | |||
"Strange things can happen in clubs "A lot of the messages we receive on here are strange....clubs involve real life interaction which is far more interesting | |||
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"Years ago I did socials with a female friend. One guy that attended was not my type at all on paper. But he was really nice and we saw each other until he fell in love and left. Socials are good for this too "The only organised Fan social round here excludes single guys that aren't guests of a couple... It's getting harder and harder not to feel completely ostracised  | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) " Do you ever look at people's verifications? If you click the profiles of the people who have verified the ones you're interested in, theoretically you will be seeing 'successful' profiles of guys who have managed to get meets with the type of person you're interested in. Most of them are either A) rubbish or B) the polar opposite of what people advise you makes a good profile - endless dick pics, one or two fairly generic lines of text So either these guys write amazing opening messages, manage to time things just right, or there's something else intangible I can't put my finger on... I will say though that almost all the friends I've made on here have been through the cam chat rooms - again, I think there's something in people being able to see your face and a genuine laugh or smile from time to time. | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Do you ever look at people's verifications? If you click the profiles of the people who have verified the ones you're interested in, theoretically you will be seeing 'successful' profiles of guys who have managed to get meets with the type of person you're interested in. Most of them are either A) rubbish or B) the polar opposite of what people advise you makes a good profile - endless dick pics, one or two fairly generic lines of text So either these guys write amazing opening messages, manage to time things just right, or there's something else intangible I can't put my finger on... I will say though that almost all the friends I've made on here have been through the cam chat rooms - again, I think there's something in people being able to see your face and a genuine laugh or smile from time to time. " Yes, I have noticed the phenomenon you describe. I figured it was because they'd hit it off in person at a club first and then verified subsequently, rather than meeting online based on their profiles. | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Hope you’re well Mr Polar Opposite "I think about you every time these threads come up! Hah. I'm okay, given the circumstances. Waiting for the pandemic to fuck off a bit so I can return to environments in which I can actually meet people, rather than just depressing myself with how uniformly ignored I get online! | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Hope you’re well Mr Polar Opposite
I think about you every time these threads come up! Hah.
I'm okay, given the circumstances. Waiting for the pandemic to fuck off a bit so I can return to environments in which I can actually meet people, rather than just depressing myself with how uniformly ignored I get online! "Mate, I visited Club Play on Friday 17 December, and felt uniformly ignored in person, and I can tell you, it’s a much better feeling online! | |||
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"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Hope you’re well Mr Polar Opposite
I think about you every time these threads come up! Hah.
I'm okay, given the circumstances. Waiting for the pandemic to fuck off a bit so I can return to environments in which I can actually meet people, rather than just depressing myself with how uniformly ignored I get online!
Mate, I visited Club Play on Friday 17 December, and felt uniformly ignored in person, and I can tell you, it’s a much better feeling online! "Oh no, I'm sorry you didn't have a better time of things. Are clubs still quiet? I haven't been to one since before the pandemic. I'm glad you have a more positive experience online, but things are completely different for me. | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) " Perhaps it's your interactions on the forum? | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Perhaps it's your interactions on the forum? " Maybe. I understand the general consensus is that the overwhelming majority of Fab users never even look at the forums, though. | |||
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"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Perhaps it's your interactions on the forum? Maybe. I understand the general consensus is that the overwhelming majority of Fab users never even look at the forums, though. " But you're asking on a forum thread. I block or don't respond on the basis of forum interactions fwiw. As do others. | |||
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"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Perhaps it's your interactions on the forum? Maybe. I understand the general consensus is that the overwhelming majority of Fab users never even look at the forums, though. But you're asking on a forum thread. I block or don't respond on the basis of forum interactions fwiw. As do others. " I didn't ask anything. I too block or ignore based on forum interactions. | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Hope you’re well Mr Polar Opposite
I think about you every time these threads come up! Hah.
I'm okay, given the circumstances. Waiting for the pandemic to fuck off a bit so I can return to environments in which I can actually meet people, rather than just depressing myself with how uniformly ignored I get online!
Mate, I visited Club Play on Friday 17 December, and felt uniformly ignored in person, and I can tell you, it’s a much better feeling online!
Oh no, I'm sorry you didn't have a better time of things. Are clubs still quiet? I haven't been to one since before the pandemic.
I'm glad you have a more positive experience online, but things are completely different for me. "I'm used to visiting clubs on the 'wrong night/quiet night' lol I hear "You should've been here last week" a lot But it only takes two people to make it a good night right? One friendly regular would have made all the difference I had (literally) zero expectations, and would have been happy to just get my name put around a bit, but there you go. Think I should have gone to Infusion first on a daytime ticket, then had some food before going to Play a little later than I did, when more people were probably in
FWIW; I do have my share of tyrekickers online, I'm just more used to spotting the signs early on, then blocking before they waste any more of my time. Think of it like speed dating......tick, tick, yes.....or cross, cross, block! | |||
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"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Hope you’re well Mr Polar Opposite
I think about you every time these threads come up! Hah.
I'm okay, given the circumstances. Waiting for the pandemic to fuck off a bit so I can return to environments in which I can actually meet people, rather than just depressing myself with how uniformly ignored I get online!
Mate, I visited Club Play on Friday 17 December, and felt uniformly ignored in person, and I can tell you, it’s a much better feeling online!
Oh no, I'm sorry you didn't have a better time of things. Are clubs still quiet? I haven't been to one since before the pandemic.
I'm glad you have a more positive experience online, but things are completely different for me.
I'm used to visiting clubs on the 'wrong night/quiet night' lol I hear "You should've been here last week" a lot But it only takes two people to make it a good night right? One friendly regular would have made all the difference I had (literally) zero expectations, and would have been happy to just get my name put around a bit, but there you go. Think I should have gone to Infusion first on a daytime ticket, then had some food before going to Play a little later than I did, when more people were probably in
FWIW; I do have my share of tyrekickers online, I'm just more used to spotting the signs early on, then blocking before they waste any more of my time. Think of it like speed dating......tick, tick, yes.....or cross, cross, block! "If it's any consolation, I don't even get tyre-kickers. Maybe three profile views a week, last wink two months ago, last conversation three months ago. My tumblew33d collection is coming along pretty nicely, though! | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Hope you’re well Mr Polar Opposite
I think about you every time these threads come up! Hah.
I'm okay, given the circumstances. Waiting for the pandemic to fuck off a bit so I can return to environments in which I can actually meet people, rather than just depressing myself with how uniformly ignored I get online!
Mate, I visited Club Play on Friday 17 December, and felt uniformly ignored in person, and I can tell you, it’s a much better feeling online!
Oh no, I'm sorry you didn't have a better time of things. Are clubs still quiet? I haven't been to one since before the pandemic.
I'm glad you have a more positive experience online, but things are completely different for me.
I'm used to visiting clubs on the 'wrong night/quiet night' lol I hear "You should've been here last week" a lot But it only takes two people to make it a good night right? One friendly regular would have made all the difference I had (literally) zero expectations, and would have been happy to just get my name put around a bit, but there you go. Think I should have gone to Infusion first on a daytime ticket, then had some food before going to Play a little later than I did, when more people were probably in
FWIW; I do have my share of tyrekickers online, I'm just more used to spotting the signs early on, then blocking before they waste any more of my time. Think of it like speed dating......tick, tick, yes.....or cross, cross, block!
If it's any consolation, I don't even get tyre-kickers. Maybe three profile views a week, last wink two months ago, last conversation three months ago. My tumblew33d collection is coming along pretty nicely, though! "There you are then; always a positive to be found! | |||
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"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Hope you’re well Mr Polar Opposite
I think about you every time these threads come up! Hah.
I'm okay, given the circumstances. Waiting for the pandemic to fuck off a bit so I can return to environments in which I can actually meet people, rather than just depressing myself with how uniformly ignored I get online!
Mate, I visited Club Play on Friday 17 December, and felt uniformly ignored in person, and I can tell you, it’s a much better feeling online!
Oh no, I'm sorry you didn't have a better time of things. Are clubs still quiet? I haven't been to one since before the pandemic.
I'm glad you have a more positive experience online, but things are completely different for me.
I'm used to visiting clubs on the 'wrong night/quiet night' lol I hear "You should've been here last week" a lot But it only takes two people to make it a good night right? One friendly regular would have made all the difference I had (literally) zero expectations, and would have been happy to just get my name put around a bit, but there you go. Think I should have gone to Infusion first on a daytime ticket, then had some food before going to Play a little later than I did, when more people were probably in
FWIW; I do have my share of tyrekickers online, I'm just more used to spotting the signs early on, then blocking before they waste any more of my time. Think of it like speed dating......tick, tick, yes.....or cross, cross, block!
If it's any consolation, I don't even get tyre-kickers. Maybe three profile views a week, last wink two months ago, last conversation three months ago. My tumblew33d collection is coming along pretty nicely, though!
There you are then; always a positive to be found! "It's not much of a positive. I've tried fucking tumblw33d, and I just got splinters somewhere unfortunate. | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." This is so true, and I wish more people got it. | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are. This is so true, and I wish more people got it. " So clubs the best way to meet. Are any open atm? | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are. This is so true, and I wish more people got it. So clubs the best way to meet. Are any open atm?" All the clubs in England are open | |||
"I say it every time this topic comes up: On Fab, I’m invisible. In clubs, I do okay. This doesn’t make any sense to me – I’m waaay more articulate in writing than I am in person – but it’s just the way it is. (This would suggest there’s something drastically wrong with my profile, but I remain clueless as to what the issue is.) Hope you’re well Mr Polar Opposite
I think about you every time these threads come up! Hah.
I'm okay, given the circumstances. Waiting for the pandemic to fuck off a bit so I can return to environments in which I can actually meet people, rather than just depressing myself with how uniformly ignored I get online!
Mate, I visited Club Play on Friday 17 December, and felt uniformly ignored in person, and I can tell you, it’s a much better feeling online!
Oh no, I'm sorry you didn't have a better time of things. Are clubs still quiet? I haven't been to one since before the pandemic.
I'm glad you have a more positive experience online, but things are completely different for me.
I'm used to visiting clubs on the 'wrong night/quiet night' lol I hear "You should've been here last week" a lot But it only takes two people to make it a good night right? One friendly regular would have made all the difference I had (literally) zero expectations, and would have been happy to just get my name put around a bit, but there you go. Think I should have gone to Infusion first on a daytime ticket, then had some food before going to Play a little later than I did, when more people were probably in
FWIW; I do have my share of tyrekickers online, I'm just more used to spotting the signs early on, then blocking before they waste any more of my time. Think of it like speed dating......tick, tick, yes.....or cross, cross, block!
If it's any consolation, I don't even get tyre-kickers. Maybe three profile views a week, last wink two months ago, last conversation three months ago. My tumblew33d collection is coming along pretty nicely, though!
There you are then; always a positive to be found!
It's not much of a positive. I've tried fucking tumblw33d, and I just got splinters somewhere unfortunate. "I’m with you there mate; tumbl33d is what I get in the clubs | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." Amen to this. Lost count of the number of single guys we've turned down because we only meet at clubs and they don't go to them or have never been, those are only the ones we would have liked to meet. | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are. This is so true, and I wish more people got it. So clubs the best way to meet. Are any open atm? All the clubs in England are open" I'd luv to come over to a club or clubs, can anyone recommend which one best for first visit? I'm a single guy. | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are. This is so true, and I wish more people got it. So clubs the best way to meet. Are any open atm? All the clubs in England are open I'd luv to come over to a club or clubs, can anyone recommend which one best for first visit? I'm a single guy." I’m guessing the North West would be the easiest for you to get to so we would recommend ClubPlay in Blackpool | |||
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"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are."  | |||
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"We’ve not been to a club but all the couples we have got on with on social meets have told us not to bother. Maybe we’re more suited to Fab than clubs but each to their own. " I think it depends where you are. From what I've seen on here the best clubs seem to all be in certain regions. | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." Ive played with many couples in clubs who wouldnt give me the time of day anywhere else, particularly on Fab which for meets is a real lottery. Im married which puts many off yet I wear my ring at the clubs and always say Im married if asked. My profile has me as enjoying bi-oral sex in a MFM scenario yet Ive played with couples whos profile states the usual insecure "male 100% straight". Ive even blown a few guys in clubs who are 100% straight on their profile. Clubs at least allow personality to show through and not reliant on the ever increasing airbrushed altered images that appear on the site. | |||
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"We had a guy that we turned down on here and yet without realising got talking to him at a club. Have since played on numerous occasions and he has become a good friend." That’s a great story. | |||
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"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are. Ive played with many couples in clubs who wouldnt give me the time of day anywhere else, particularly on Fab which for meets is a real lottery. Im married which puts many off yet I wear my ring at the clubs and always say Im married if asked. My profile has me as enjoying bi-oral sex in a MFM scenario yet Ive played with couples whos profile states the usual insecure "male 100% straight". Ive even blown a few guys in clubs who are 100% straight on their profile. Clubs at least allow personality to show through and not reliant on the ever increasing airbrushed altered images that appear on the site. " Less judgemental at clubs if married? | |||
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"I dont know about everyone else, but this is my view on things people are too quick to judge a profile without either getting to know the real person or even just meeting for a coffee in a bar. I like to think off myself as aan honest bloke who treats everyone with the respect they deserve. good luck in future endeavors" Unfortunately, it is not possible to meet every single person that messages in person, even just for a coffee. That's why I prefer to meet people in a club as if we don't click/can't find each other or any other reason, there are still others in the club that may float my boat. Also, it shows the person can make a bit of effort to try and meet me, rather than treat me as free prostitute, available all hours and able to meet at the drop of the hat. | |||
"I dont know about everyone else, but this is my view on things people are too quick to judge a profile without either getting to know the real person or even just meeting for a coffee in a bar. I like to think off myself as aan honest bloke who treats everyone with the respect they deserve. good luck in future endeavors Unfortunately, it is not possible to meet every single person that messages in person, even just for a coffee. That's why I prefer to meet people in a club as if we don't click/can't find each other or any other reason, there are still others in the club that may float my boat. Also, it shows the person can make a bit of effort to try and meet me, rather than treat me as free prostitute, available all hours and able to meet at the drop of the hat. " That's all well and good, if you happen to have a club on your doorstep. For me though, making "a bit of an effort" involves a round trip of 3 hours travelling, plus a single guy entry fee, as opposed to popping in to a local coffee shop or pub..... | |||
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"New to all this and want to meet like minded people to have fun with socially and possibly sexually... Any advice? Would people be interested in me? Sound so self-conscious right now loool, hope you guys understand." Nobody would know if they were interested in you because your profile doesn't reveal anything about you! Get some decent pics up, and I don't necessarily mean cock pics. They're not my thing at all but some people like them, but you definitely need information about yourself. Single guys are 10 a penny so you need to stand out from the crowd. | |||
"We had a rare evening off last night so went to gems. Had a bit of fun with a chap we met there. A lovely guy etc etc However, we looked at his profile after and both said we would never have been interested based on his profile. The feelings could have been mutual, but just goes to show how important clubs are." Yeah it does show that people can be so different than they are on here | |||
