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Explicit messages? Yay or Nay?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How do you feel about receiving overly explicit or graphic messages?
I feel that bragging of conquests or making bold claims is never a good way to create an impression online.
However I sometimes feel that by being too polite can come over as a bit too plain and vanilla for some people as they might expect a more risqué message that grabs the attention and hopefully some replies?
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Surely one take a cue from the way that the profile is written?
The whole point of a well written profile is to assist potential contacts know what is on offer, wanted and the boundaries. It also gives one an idea of the tone to adopt.
It works both ways, lowing the potential contact to move on from people who are clearly after something different to what inecseeks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find any that have began with an explicit message, they've never touched on any of our desires, only expressed what extremes they seek.
We much prefer a Polite, friendly message touching on our profile, that caught their eye and how they feel they can play a part.
We generally don't do filthy talk, only speak of how things can play out |
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"Nice normal message that shows they've read my profile plus a face pic and cock pic, job done.
Anything else gets deleted."
We second this. We’ve had explicit messages and if I read them they make me cringe. Instant delete.
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"How do you feel about receiving overly explicit or graphic messages?
I feel that bragging of conquests or making bold claims is never a good way to create an impression online.
However I sometimes feel that by being too polite can come over as a bit too plain and vanilla for some people as they might expect a more risqué message that grabs the attention and hopefully some replies?
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Funnily enough, "risque" messages aka I-want-to-order-sex-like-I-order-double-glazing-but-free are the most prevalent and you would stand out by writing to someone like they are an actual human. Also, how can anyone be "too polite" to a complete stranger? Surely that's impossible. Good manners made a good impression. |
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"I had one from a female profile last week. Obviously hadn’t read my profile so straight to delete
I’d bet my savings it wasn’t even actually a woman  "
No profile picture, but public pictures and verifications. Which actually surprised me as I thought the same as you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t even read them, especially if they detailing what ‘we’ might do, how are they supposed to know my likes and dislikes, when we haven’t even spoken.
Ridiculous |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't approach a stranger in a club and be graphic so same applies here, be polite and respectful. If after getting to know them they're into messages like that then fine but most women don't care much for those sorts of messages, especially first contact from a complete stranger in the internet |
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"How do you feel about receiving overly explicit or graphic messages?
I feel that bragging of conquests or making bold claims is never a good way to create an impression online.
However I sometimes feel that by being too polite can come over as a bit too plain and vanilla for some people as they might expect a more risqué message that grabs the attention and hopefully some replies?
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We're not interested in receiving graphic messages or images, especially from complete strangers. |
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I’d delete and block if it was from a stranger. I expect to be approached on here in the same way I would be in real life. If a person walked up to me and started talking explicitly I wouldn’t appreciate it, same goes here.
Getting an explicit message from someone I’m sleeping with would be a turn on though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't say that we're fans of sexually explicit messages but TBH we find guys that big themselves up never turn up to a meet. The genuine single Men are always polite respectful and will pretty much jump through burning hoops to get a meet ( non pushy )
Me the Man of the couple, when I was a single guy. I only started sending sexually explicit messages n cock pictures to Women once I'd sex with them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you feel about receiving overly explicit or graphic messages?
I feel that bragging of conquests or making bold claims is never a good way to create an impression online.
However I sometimes feel that by being too polite can come over as a bit too plain and vanilla for some people as they might expect a more risqué message that grabs the attention and hopefully some replies?
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No no no too cringe for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a no no for me, the people who message like that are usually all talk and zero action.
I prefer to keep the dirty talk for when the actual fun begins  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So many great points made in this thread!
Anyone else find that sometimes the chat starts off really well and then takes a really creepy turn that makes your skin crawl?
Happens mainly with the male half of couples I find, I don't allow messages from men so I can't compare the two thankfully. |
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"How do you feel about receiving overly explicit or graphic messages?
I feel that bragging of conquests or making bold claims is never a good way to create an impression online.
However I sometimes feel that by being too polite can come over as a bit too plain and vanilla for some people as they might expect a more risqué message that grabs the attention and hopefully some replies?
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I detest them |
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"How do you feel about receiving overly explicit or graphic messages?
I feel that bragging of conquests or making bold claims is never a good way to create an impression online.
However I sometimes feel that by being too polite can come over as a bit too plain and vanilla for some people as they might expect a more risqué message that grabs the attention and hopefully some replies?
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I'm glad this is a topic...so we had a guy msg us the other day saying along these exact words in his first msg...
I know women like you loves big cocks, with pictures of his cock.
My reply was well I think you are very rude and your not a great judge of character..
Guys...some women don't like huge cocks |
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The crap stories and "I'm gonna do this to you" quite frankly bores the shit out of me.
It's one of the few things that gets men blocked.
I've never received an explicit message from a lady or a couple, only horny men who seemingly can't read either 
