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Expectations for accommodating

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi y'all, what do people think is the expectations for accommodation?

Personally I think a cold bed so that we could cuddle for warmth, a shower to clean up the mess after, and a lounge area to engage each other's minds.

Looking forward to see what others are thinking!

Also, I'm asking this because I can't seem to find anything related on the forum search

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our preference is for hotel meets however if someone wanted to host and we were comfortable with that, I think so long as their place is reasonably clean & tidy, there's clean bedlinen and a clean bathroom we're happy. Over and above that, a bottle of water is welcome, and clean towels and baby wipes at hand are very useful.

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By *ucianpoundCouple over a year ago

Cap d’Agde, France

Contacted twice by the same couple, 5 years apart who said they wanted to meet and be put up by us.

When, both times we suggested they stay in a hotel they became quite offensive and rude.

We’ve invited many friends to stay with us over the years but only when we’ve met before.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple over a year ago

Coventry

Food

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yea I reckon a hotel meetup initially would be a better choice!

Wet wipes and bottled water added to groceries list X)

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By *izandpaulCouple over a year ago

merseyside

Happy to visit people in their homes but much prefer to leave on the night and stay in a hotel.

Always slightly worried if the evening doesn't pan out you then have to back peddle and start looking for a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Aw, sorry to hear about that. Sounds kinda like an overreaction to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ah the age old wisdom: good food is the way

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ah fair. That's a good point. Can't imagine having to look for a last minute place to stay.

Has there been any incidents or cautionary tale (s)?

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By *harAndBryCouple over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Food

Cake!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I think it's unreasonable for others to make assumptions that your home is the equivalent of a free airbnb, if you don't know them.

It is reasonable to provide hotel and transport information though. And to meet somewhere neutral first, before having people come to your home.

If you are really planning on an almost nonstop sex party, where you need to retire for just a little rest, you could offer beds but strangers having access to your full home is probably better only when you know them well enough.

I'd be willing to contribute towards them using a hotel, so that we had some free space and privacy. They get a subsidised trip somewhere, you get full use of your place.

If you provide the equipment facilities of a hotel room for your engagement, then you are providing enough. This would be a play space, seating and cleaning facilities. If that room and access from your home entrance is safe, clean and has easy access, you are fulfilling the facilities needed to be together. You can provide tea and coffee, plus they have access to the water in your place - any essential special requirements they have, are something that they can fulfil.

If you are pressured to provide free bed and board, I'd consider the suitability of the people.

A lot of hotel accommodation can be advance booked for £60 or so, so it's not too much for what might be otherwise freeloaders, to have to pay. It's an amount many can't afford often but if their circumstances dictate overnight stays, they could consider it to be necessary, if they don't know the people they are visiting. I'd pay half, at a push, to get them from under my feet, for a while.

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

I have had people in the past assuming that, because I said I could accommodate, I'd be happy to put them up for the night. Nothing further from the truth- I work during the day and I prefer to sleep on my own. That's why I'm not interested in meeting someone over an hour's drive, unless they happen to be at the same club as me.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple over a year ago

Coventry

"Food

Cake!"

Cheese!

And possibly if the host could also provide a small keyboard hoover to suck the crumbs out of my chest hair that would be great too. I mean I could bring Henry along with us but he's a bit cumbersome for travel and sucks a bit aggressively.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

I can accommodate but won’t allow people to stay over.

So make sure your clear on what your both expecting.

If I was to stay over, I’d expect an impeccably clean house and the offer of a spare room.

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By *amantha TSWoman over a year ago

Swindon

Unless it was with regular playmates, I would be happy to accommodate for the meet only, once things have settled down afterwards I'll be asking "shall I call you a taxi?"

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By *ore4fundevonCouple over a year ago

West Devon

We don't mind people coming to us for a social or play date, happy to put out some food and drink in the right circumstance. However we're not a b&b, at the end of the night please leave

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

If I'm playing with a couple it would probably be a bit weird if they wanted to stay over and all three of us were trying to sleep in my double bed, but if it's a single I'm more than happy for an overnight stay - I do prefer overnight.

I'm afraid I don't put food out though - there's the offer of a cuppa and occasionally I have soft drinks in, if I know it's an overnight stay I will probably have beer or cider available but that's it.

Before anyone gets into my home there's been a lot of conversation setting out expectations and a social, possibly a hotel meet too. By the time someone is at mine there should be no real surprises!

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By *hosewhomgonakedCouple over a year ago

Scotland

We started using day hotels, it's relatively cheap and just ideal for what we want.

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By *izandpaulCouple over a year ago

merseyside

"Ah fair. That's a good point. Can't imagine having to look for a last minute place to stay.

Has there been any incidents or cautionary tale (s)?"

Incident yes.

Cautionary tale, no.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't accommodate myself so if all is good at social level and I'm invited to theirs I'd say good manners would be to have clean sheets, clean towel, and a drink to hand. I don't have expectations as such.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all the great replies so far! It really does put things into perspective for me

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By *atnat85Woman over a year ago

northwest

I don't accommodate, but to the houses I've been to, as long as it's clean and tidy I don't mind. I've never gone with the expectation or thought of sleeping over. I like to do the deed (maybe a few times!) And then head home. Sleeping over seems to intimate (strange as it sounds) x

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

When it comes to “can accommodate” what we assume is that play could occur at their home and not necessarily that we are having a sleep over.

If we were looking at a sleep over we’d likely do a hotel or AirBnB meet.

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

A proper bed, clean sheets, a cuppa or a cold drink.

Same as what you'd get at mine! You have to accept it's a home, not a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only person that stays over sometimes is Sir, but we've called this home for him for some months anyway. Everyone else leaves before sleep time. I've only had one other person here over a meal time and I did us both some food.

I anyways provide as much hot drink and cold soft drink as they would like (they're always driving, so alcohol is not a good idea). The living room is there to sit together over a drink and the bathroom is there for their use too.

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