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Advice, first time anal for female

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Asked in the chat forum but few replies. Mrs really wants to try anal for the first time. Ladies, what is the most comfortable position to use for you? Obviously plenty of lube and go gently etc, but asking more for ease of entry and the most pleasurable experience for her xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For the first time I’d recommend her on top, she has full control of depth etc slowly slowly

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Many thanks KK xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our first time (and it wasn't our last!) was Nicky laying flat on her belly and me laying on top. Very good for ear nibbling too!

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By * Sophie xTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

Also, once she has you inside her, slowly pull out as this gives her sphincter time to relax and then slowly when she is ready go back in again.

Do this maybe a couple of times and she should find that each re-entry is easier and will help her relax around you which makes things much more pleasurable all round.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks everyone xx

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By *offee and KinksCouple over a year ago

Notts/Derby

We find spooning to work great (amongst other positions). Allows more control without body weight being an issue. The lady can always move to get comfortable, control depth and angle as desired.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also, once she has you inside her, slowly pull out as this gives her sphincter time to relax and then slowly when she is ready go back in again.

Do this maybe a couple of times and she should find that each re-entry is easier and will help her relax around you which makes things much more pleasurable all round."

Good advice tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Loads of lube, all the way down the guy's length and on her. I found spooning to be best for beginners. Allowing the woman to control the depth and push back on him

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

All great advice.

I would add that you should have plenty of foreplay and anal play before attempting penetration.

More relaxed and ready she is the better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All great advice here.

I’d recommend lots and lots of foreplay whilst she’s laid on her back. Key is to be relaxed and lots of lube. I find on my front or on my side so he spoons me is easier to ‘accept’

More relaxed and ready she is the better for both of you. One tip I was given was to take deep breaths.

Have you guys attempted any things like butt plugs or even a lubed finger?

Have fun

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By *alking HeadMan over a year ago

Bolton

"Loads of lube, all the way down the guy's length and on her. I found spooning to be best for beginners. Allowing the woman to control the depth and push back on him"

So many neglect to lube up their whole cock. Then when they try to go in deeper, it's like someone's put sand in the lube!

I found the best way to introduce yourself to anal is to use your own fingers. You go at your own pace, and you will soon learn how breathing techniques can really help relax you. You will soon have a ring of confidence!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you lie on your left side the bowel drops and relaxes making it easier x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you lie on your left side the bowel drops and relaxes making it easier x

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By *alking HeadMan over a year ago

Bolton

"If you lie on your left side the bowel drops and relaxes making it easier x"

As a regular practitioner of the delights (giving and taking...particularly the taking!), I had never heard that before,! I wonder if it might help me in some of my bigger forays!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Asked in the chat forum but few replies. Mrs really wants to try anal for the first time. Ladies, what is the most comfortable position to use for you? Obviously plenty of lube and go gently etc, but asking more for ease of entry and the most pleasurable experience for her xx"

I find doggy is the best position for the woman. However, I am not a woman.

First, try rimming her arse. to get her anally aroused.

Then lube a finger. Use PLENTY of lube and see how your Mrs likes it.

If she enjoys it try your cock. Again make sure to use PLENTY of lube. Take it slowly inserting your cock. Let your Mrs get used to the feeling of your cock inside her before you start fucking her arse.

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By *hippy57Man over a year ago

Chelmsford

I had been seeing a mature lady 10 years ago,she had never tried anal,we were in hotel room,I put a pillow under her bottom,she on her back,this true but all I could find for lube was shaving foam,she lifted her legs,guiding my cock through the big white snowball,gently entering her arse,she tensed and said it hurt,I played with her clit and vagina,got her really excited,tried again as playing with her,it slipped in a treat,she must of liked it,next time she brought lube

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By *tephenBunChowMan over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Varies depending on the lady. My ex used to be more relaxed after cuming.

Most of the time find spooning to be most easiest. Gently entering at slow pace that's comfortable for both parties while cuddling and chatting, nibbling on the neck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One other thing not yet mentioned that seems to help is when entering her with, slide it down and in vs entering directly bc when you touch her butthole directly, she will automatically tense up.

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By *unmatt888Man over a year ago

Duns

I’d advise starting with something that isn’t a cock if at all possible - you want to go very slow and you want to be penetrated by something very firm; having the guy maintain a really good erection whilst the (perfectly understandable) faff goes on, when he’s probably already a bit worried about hurting you, doesn’t necessarily work that brilliantly.

I’d echo the above suggestions of a toy or some fingers, get in to it and then substitute for the real thing

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By *ixen13Woman over a year ago

Cowdenbeath

"We find spooning to work great (amongst other positions). Allows more control without body weight being an issue. The lady can always move to get comfortable, control depth and angle as desired."

I totally agree for me this was the easiest one to master x

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