So a few months back my ex got in touch with me. We had the best relationship and really loved each other. I use to work nights and she found her grandmother deceased when she went to see her one evening. She started drinking daily and drank to where she didn’t know where she was and could hardly recognise me at times. My housemate would go to our room while she was d*unk climb into bed with her f her and leave. I’d come home in the morning none the wiser but one day I came home and caught them . She was blind d*unk the lights were off and he had got into bed and taken her from behind. She was saying my name and telling me she loved me. I beat him up and he moved out but the drinking continued. She started a new job and at her Xmas party didn’t come home and we broke up. She married her boss 8 months later and I thought that was that. She got in touch and we started sleeping together and rarely drinks but she told her husband about us and he filmed her d*unk a few times and recorded her making her look like a bad mother. He spent all they’re money and now she is struggling financially.,I can’t afford to buy him out and he threatens to kill himself if she leaves. We sorted everything out it was as if she never left. She cut me out of her life as quickly as she returned. She’s with him but I know she will cheat because she doesn’t love him it’s purely financial.
I’ve saved 8k in 5 months do I track her down and try pay him out or forget and move on. I never found anyone else I wanted to settle with it was only ever just some fun. But the way she cut me off makes me feel a fool. What do I do?  |
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She has done it once and she will do it again.
The only difference this time is you will be 8k down and she will know you will come back if she calls again.
Leave it move on but a campervan and explore the world (ok the uk) |
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By *akie32Man
over a year ago
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she sounds like she will always be trouble, keep your money, thats why she keeps coming back, and end it, easy for me to say, way harder for you to do, been there and have the t shirt, not easy, but you will thank yourself in the future if you pull off the plaster |
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"So a few months back my ex got in touch with me. We had the best relationship and really loved each other. I use to work nights and she found her grandmother deceased when she went to see her one evening. She started drinking daily and drank to where she didn’t know where she was and could hardly recognise me at times. My housemate would go to our room while she was d*unk climb into bed with her f her and leave. I’d come home in the morning none the wiser but one day I came home and caught them . She was blind d*unk the lights were off and he had got into bed and taken her from behind. She was saying my name and telling me she loved me. I beat him up and he moved out but the drinking continued. She started a new job and at her Xmas party didn’t come home and we broke up. She married her boss 8 months later and I thought that was that. She got in touch and we started sleeping together and rarely drinks but she told her husband about us and he filmed her d*unk a few times and recorded her making her look like a bad mother. He spent all they’re money and now she is struggling financially.,I can’t afford to buy him out and he threatens to kill himself if she leaves. We sorted everything out it was as if she never left. She cut me out of her life as quickly as she returned. She’s with him but I know she will cheat because she doesn’t love him it’s purely financial.
I’ve saved 8k in 5 months do I track her down and try pay him out or forget and move on. I never found anyone else I wanted to settle with it was only ever just some fun. But the way she cut me off makes me feel a fool. What do I do? "
Forget about her...she'd be with you for your money then move on with other guys...re-read your post again and again and it will make you see that she's not good for you and you deserve better. If you keep telling your self you won't meet another that makes you feel the same then you won't...but you will just takes time. Good luck and shame on those guys that took advantage of her when she was d*unk...that's borderline r*pe  |
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over a year ago
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You should keep your well earned money and go on holiday. I know you want to help her but it sounds like she's fallen way down the rabbit hole, only she can want to get herself out of it. I've been there and helped an ex out financially. I'm paying the price for it now, in other ways and it has scarred me emotionally and mentally. Look after yourself OP x |
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