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Have ended up in too many vanilla relationships over the years - finding that illusive partner than you both click with on different levels, as well as sharing a kinky / swinging side isn’t easy. But there are so many great couples oh here who have clearly found exactly that.
So, how did you find your partner? Are there any particularly good dating sites for people like us? Or maybe meeting people in clubs are the answer? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No
Trust me buddy, the vast majority of couple here and I mean a very big majority met their couples befroe swinging/sharing etc etc.
Also, most cucks here love to hear/watch their wife fuck strangers than fuck themselves as its a igger turn on.
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Yeah I presumed that may be the case. But if you already know what you want out of life and a relationship, you don’t want to end up with somebody who isn’t into the same things. Hence, trying to find somebody likeminded from the outset. |
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We met on here as singles and at some point we became a proper couple and here we still are.  It was just the way the universe designed it, so no actual advice I'm afraid other than enjoy the things life brings you. |
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I winked C , even though he was outside my usual search radius .
A wink led to a chat which let to friends . I travelled a few times to see him and vice Versa then he never left! We now live together and got engaged last night.
We both enjoy the swinging side of our relationship and it was something that brought us together  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of people meet on here and end up in relationships, some last a few days/weeks and others forever. You can find love in the strangest places, including fabs and swingers clubs
I think getting yourself out into the club scene, making friends, getting a circle of swinging pals, is the way forward in terms of finding more meaningful and longlasting connections, rather than a fuck-n-go meet. You've got some great clubs in Leeds, OP, so go have fun! |
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Thanks MissHoldUps - seems to be good consensus that the Leeds clubs are among the best, so that sounds like the right path for me. Would still be nice to go along with somebody as a first timer, as uncool as that sounds. I’m a confident sort of guy, but even so. |
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It just comes naturally.. I don't think its a case of finding but as case of both being on the same page.. I would never look for a partner with "oh I wonder if they'll become a swinger with me".. in my mind..love and attention first.. |
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"It just comes naturally.. I don't think its a case of finding but as case of both being on the same page.. I would never look for a partner with "oh I wonder if they'll become a swinger with me".. in my mind..love and attention first.."
Going by our own and others we met expereince, none had started off as wingers sharing the wife seeing he get fucked. It was always the hubby being the driving force the wife being shy, start off steady/easy by vissitng a nusidt beach/club and it develops from there often with the Mrs agreeing to a masage knickers on but they soon come off, lol.
Those that have met others here and are together, good luck as imo, sharing your wife seeing her get fucked iis great and no one is left with a reason to cheat as those couple that are swingers are often very happy together |
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"Thanks MissHoldUps - seems to be good consensus that the Leeds clubs are among the best, so that sounds like the right path for me. Would still be nice to go along with somebody as a first timer, as uncool as that sounds. I’m a confident sort of guy, but even so."
I've not been to Pandoras so can't comment, but Quest has a very friendly and chilled bar area for socialising. It's not that different to a normal pub, apart from some people may have fewer clothes on. Not scary, and a great place to start meeting people. There are lots of single women who go to quest too.
There are thousands of men on here looking for someone to babysit them to their first club visit, I get dozens in my inbox each day. Most of us women prefer to attend solo so we don't get stuck with someone we might not like for the evening, and also aren't then associated with any bad behaviour if the +1 acts like a dick in the club (it does happen!). So I would suggest heading down for a drink and mingle and making some friends in real life at a club, rather than waiting for someone to be your ticket in.
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"Thanks MissHoldUps - seems to be good consensus that the Leeds clubs are among the best, so that sounds like the right path for me. Would still be nice to go along with somebody as a first timer, as uncool as that sounds. I’m a confident sort of guy, but even so.
I've not been to Pandoras so can't comment, but Quest has a very friendly and chilled bar area for socialising. It's not that different to a normal pub, apart from some people may have fewer clothes on. Not scary, and a great place to start meeting people. There are lots of single women who go to quest too.
There are thousands of men on here looking for someone to babysit them to their first club visit, I get dozens in my inbox each day. Most of us women prefer to attend solo so we don't get stuck with someone we might not like for the evening, and also aren't then associated with any bad behaviour if the +1 acts like a dick in the club (it does happen!). So I would suggest heading down for a drink and mingle and making some friends in real life at a club, rather than waiting for someone to be your ticket in.
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More good advice. To be fair, I wouldn’t necessarily have wanted to visit a club with an absolute stranger - getting to know them properly first would be better. But if Quest is more like a pub environment then that’s not quite as daunting. Are normal pub clothes ok? |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
Bromsgrove |
"I winked C , even though he was outside my usual search radius .
A wink led to a chat which let to friends . I travelled a few times to see him and vice Versa then he never left! We now live together and got engaged last night.
We both enjoy the swinging side of our relationship and it was something that brought us together "
Congratulations. We also met on here.xx |
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"I winked C , even though he was outside my usual search radius .
A wink led to a chat which let to friends . I travelled a few times to see him and vice Versa then he never left! We now live together and got engaged last night.
We both enjoy the swinging side of our relationship and it was something that brought us together "
Congratulations - that’s amazing news. |
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"Thanks MissHoldUps - seems to be good consensus that the Leeds clubs are among the best, so that sounds like the right path for me. Would still be nice to go along with somebody as a first timer, as uncool as that sounds. I’m a confident sort of guy, but even so.
I've not been to Pandoras so can't comment, but Quest has a very friendly and chilled bar area for socialising. It's not that different to a normal pub, apart from some people may have fewer clothes on. Not scary, and a great place to start meeting people. There are lots of single women who go to quest too.
There are thousands of men on here looking for someone to babysit them to their first club visit, I get dozens in my inbox each day. Most of us women prefer to attend solo so we don't get stuck with someone we might not like for the evening, and also aren't then associated with any bad behaviour if the +1 acts like a dick in the club (it does happen!). So I would suggest heading down for a drink and mingle and making some friends in real life at a club, rather than waiting for someone to be your ticket in.
More good advice. To be fair, I wouldn’t necessarily have wanted to visit a club with an absolute stranger - getting to know them properly first would be better. But if Quest is more like a pub environment then that’s not quite as daunting. Are normal pub clothes ok?"
Yep, smart casual is fine.
As long as you get chatting to people, you'll be fine.
Quest is a friendly club,as long as you're willing to join in the chat.
I've been a regular since 2009 and always enjoy a good social evening.
The more you attend, the more your face gets known, and the more people will chat to you.
It's the best way to fully immerse yourself in the scene. |
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I ( James,) used to swing years ago with my ex , had a vanilla relationship or two and found it wasn't scratching that swinging itch.. so went on vanilla dating sites and after messaging a little explained my naughty past and what i was looking for. Most disappeared shortly after but luckily Isobel was intrigued and interested and we haven't looked back . Life is amazing with her now and we are so lucky.
Its hard mate but keep looking, and you will find her
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I'd say dont go "looking" for it if and when it happens then its meant to be..
I've had people ask that question after just talking for a while and then its "would you be happy to go into a relationship" but i believe that a relationship just "happens" when you both feel connected to each other..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We now live together and got engaged last night.
We both enjoy the swinging side of our relationship and it was something that brought us together "
Aww congratulations to you both  |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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Don't go hunting for a relationship.
Go to clubs to find ladies that have similar interests and sometimes you stumble accross someone special and even though you weren't looking for a relationship, it just happens. |
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"I winked C , even though he was outside my usual search radius .
A wink led to a chat which let to friends . I travelled a few times to see him and vice Versa then he never left! We now live together and got engaged last night.
We both enjoy the swinging side of our relationship and it was something that brought us together "
Congratulations! x |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Have ended up in too many vanilla relationships over the years - finding that illusive partner than you both click with on different levels, as well as sharing a kinky / swinging side isn’t easy. But there are so many great couples oh here who have clearly found exactly that.
So, how did you find your partner? Are there any particularly good dating sites for people like us? Or maybe meeting people in clubs are the answer? "
Sometimes I think the longer you are swinging and / or here , you more likely you are to avoid relationships. It’s too good, you get all the benefits without the negatives, except splitting the bills |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Me and Nicky met off the internet, clicked instantly, and that was that. Longest we have been apart in many years could be measured in hours. And we both enjoy swinging but more as a hobby than a lifestyle. M X |
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