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Single people coupling up

By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

For me I have been poly for 7 years and I like my independence and freedom. I am happy to have a new regular but I still want my independence and freedom as an individual, I just can’t be doing with a jealous, possessive and manipulative nature…. I need to be free?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?

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By *r easy1981Man over a year ago

leeds

I need a swinging partner

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By *iner69erMan over a year ago

inverness

I've tried to get somebody to team up with. It's as fruitless as trying to find an actual meet.

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By *azylivingMan over a year ago

random location

I’d like a partner in crime

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By *ig bear 65Man over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

I'd lv to partner up I'm bi and find so many time wasters on here.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?"

Swingings a broadchurch as it were, all sorts of combinations happening so yes it’s acceptable to some to others it won’t be. I personally prefer the freedom of being a single Pringle

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?

Swingings a broadchurch as it were, all sorts of combinations happening so yes it’s acceptable to some to others it won’t be. I personally prefer the freedom of being a single Pringle "

Okay cool thanks for you advice I am very clear about my position so if some don’t like they know my position xx

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By *portyndNaughtyMan over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

It did not work for me as we had different prefences and attitudes in relation to playing. Still loking for someone. Nevertheless, very happy with the freedom of being single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happy to mingle single

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?"

More than acceptable!

There's no reason why you can't take one another seriously AND you both have space too.

It's difficult to find those with the same equal amount of time to spend in swinging though (that's how it's been for me)

So would it still be classed as taking it seriously, if you have to wait around for one another?

I'm not sure.....

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?

More than acceptable!

There's no reason why you can't take one another seriously AND you both have space too.

It's difficult to find those with the same equal amount of time to spend in swinging though (that's how it's been for me)

So would it still be classed as taking it seriously, if you have to wait around for one another?

I'm not sure....."

Thanks so much for you advice

Have you ever experienced someone being possessive and manipulative in the swinging community yourself ?

Or are you good at vetting potential partners?

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By *ohnj21Man over a year ago

Leeds

I would like to find female friend to go to club with

Social with no expectations

Love to start going to clubs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?

More than acceptable!

There's no reason why you can't take one another seriously AND you both have space too.

It's difficult to find those with the same equal amount of time to spend in swinging though (that's how it's been for me)

So would it still be classed as taking it seriously, if you have to wait around for one another?

I'm not sure.....

Thanks so much for you advice

Have you ever experienced someone being possessive and manipulative in the swinging community yourself ?

Or are you good at vetting potential partners?"

I think it will raise its ugly head as you swing, quite early on. It's a chance you take isn't it, part of the learning curb, as such - but it could even happen to married couples too.

Sometimes you can tell via communication on here, way before you meet (I don't want to give away the clues on the forum)

...

What I do know though, it's difficult for us singles to find only one - with similar lifestyle, no commitments and enough time on each others hands ....

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By *r SensualMan over a year ago

London

As a single male I’ve found it much easier to meet in a club/party initially to form this kind of dynamic with someone.

It’s great being able to have a lady friends to attend clubs with. We arrive together, do our own thing when in the club/party, still check on each other throughout the night and always leave together

Always put our names down for events as singles, not looking to couple up with someone just for the sake of getting in somewhere cheaper

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?

More than acceptable!

There's no reason why you can't take one another seriously AND you both have space too.

It's difficult to find those with the same equal amount of time to spend in swinging though (that's how it's been for me)

So would it still be classed as taking it seriously, if you have to wait around for one another?

I'm not sure.....

Thanks so much for you advice

Have you ever experienced someone being possessive and manipulative in the swinging community yourself ?

Or are you good at vetting potential partners?

I think it will raise its ugly head as you swing, quite early on. It's a chance you take isn't it, part of the learning curb, as such - but it could even happen to married couples too.

Sometimes you can tell via communication on here, way before you meet (I don't want to give away the clues on the forum)

...

What I do know though, it's difficult for us singles to find only one - with similar lifestyle, no commitments and enough time on each others hands ....

I would really appreciate some detailed advice can I private message you on fab?

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

"As a single male I’ve found it much easier to meet in a club/party initially to form this kind of dynamic with someone.

Always put our names down for events as singles, not looking to couple up with someone just for the sake of getting in somewhere cheaper "

Thanks for your experience if we aren’t travelling from the same direction and have more than an hour difference in the time we arrive

Would you like her to wait for you or is she free to go in as a single and catch up with you inside when you arrive?

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By *r SensualMan over a year ago

London

"As a single male I’ve found it much easier to meet in a club/party initially to form this kind of dynamic with someone.

Always put our names down for events as singles, not looking to couple up with someone just for the sake of getting in somewhere cheaper

Thanks for your experience if we aren’t travelling from the same direction and have more than an hour difference in the time we arrive

Would you like her to wait for you or is she free to go in as a single and catch up with you inside when you arrive?"

I meant to say it’s in a club usually where I’ve met a lady for the first time, we’ve socialised, got to know each other etc. Sometimes we play, sometimes we don’t but if we hit it off I’ll exchange contact details so we can talk more.

But if there’s issues regarding travel then yes, she’s more than welcome to go into the club if arriving before me and I’ll meet her inside. Although most times we’ll get a hotel for the night, split the cost and travel to the club and back together if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

jealous, possessive and manipulative mmmm sounds like alot of guys ive met and im married hate to think how some will behave with a single woman ...

also in the past the couples that gave the most problems during meets were mainly fuckbuddies and friends with benifits ...

so you will come across plenty of jealous, possessive and manipulative people

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

I do have a partner, but as we only see each other at weekends, we are as good as single during the week. And we are both free to meet others. I wouldn't have it any other way.

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

"jealous, possessive and manipulative mmmm sounds like alot of guys ive met and im married hate to think how some will behave with a single woman ...

also in the past the couples that gave the most problems during meets were mainly fuckbuddies and friends with benifits ...

so you will come across plenty of jealous, possessive and manipulative people"

Lol great answer thanks very much for your honesty I love the fact you’re so candid and up front

Thanks for joining the thread xx

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

"I do have a partner, but as we only see each other at weekends, we are as good as single during the week. And we are both free to meet others. I wouldn't have it any other way. "

Perfect that’s cool thanks for your reply xx

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

"I do have a partner, but as we only see each other at weekends, we are as good as single during the week. And we are both free to meet others. I wouldn't have it any other way.

Perfect that’s cool thanks for your reply xx"

You're welcome. Hope you'll find someone like that, too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?"

I think you should just have casual fun maybe friends with benefits with several guys or Couples!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is totally possible... I am currently cohabiting with my 3rd partner in crime since joining fab and having a great time without being tied to one person on a committed basis

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By *riskyfillyCouple over a year ago

sandbach

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?

Swingings a broadchurch as it were, all sorts of combinations happening so yes it’s acceptable to some to others it won’t be. I personally prefer the freedom of being a single Pringle "

I love the single pringle bit

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

came here as a widow to find a regular female friend with benefits

ended up finding a male husband here instead

together we were looking for a regular female friend with benefits,

we found one,

but her situation gets in the way,

we found another for a while

but she was heading in different directions to us with her preferences, so we don't see her now

we all do what suits us best I guess.

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By *lue1Woman over a year ago

birmingham

I have a few couple passes mainly to go clubs with

When you state nsa it most times doesn’t end in that way more then less they will develop feelings. In my cases

Still do your own thing but try a fwb couple for a added bonus walk away anytime

Just be honest from the start explain do/Dont’s and where the line is drawn.

have fun

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By *ickdasterdly51Man over a year ago

Lingfield

Interesting idea. As someone who is looking to play mainly with couples I quite fancy the idea of teaming up with another woman to make a foursome. However I accept that's unlikely. I did also wonder about teaming up with another male to offer services to women as a MFM. However I doubt there's much of a market for either!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a singleton I have found it much easier to meet women/men/couples on my own.

Time constraints/availability of one or other person, and differences in likes /dislikes makes it too much head work to consider anything else, or viable for a swing partnership here.

I am yet to be proved wrong!

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By *irminghamlady08Woman over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I'm single, still trying to find my partner in crime..

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By *irminghamlady08Woman over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

"As a singleton I have found it much easier to meet women/men/couples on my own.

Time constraints/availability of one or other person, and differences in likes /dislikes makes it too much head work to consider anything else, or viable for a swing partnership here.

I am yet to be proved wrong! "

I agree, it's not easy ??

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By *ed velvet thornWoman over a year ago

over the rainbow

Would love a swinging partner in crime hate cold nights alone x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a single male I’ve found it much easier to meet in a club/party initially to form this kind of dynamic with someone.

Always put our names down for events as singles, not looking to couple up with someone just for the sake of getting in somewhere cheaper

Thanks for your experience if we aren’t travelling from the same direction and have more than an hour difference in the time we arrive

Would you like her to wait for you or is she free to go in as a single and catch up with you inside when you arrive?

Yeah I was hoping it would work that way for me...

Living in hope

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By *ulluSukaWoman over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm looking for a swinging partner.

Local only, must want to attend clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A friend of any kind would be a start.

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By *ave1963MexboroughMan over a year ago

Mexborough

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?"

This is me! I think what you're proposing is perfectly acceptable as long as you can team up with someone with the same mindset.

Communication and honesty are the keys if you're lucky enough to find someone with the same aspirations.

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By *ollydoesWoman over a year ago

Shangri-La

Ive been lucky and met a few and still have a fwb. I do find though some couoles wont meet a fwb couple as its not "a real" couole.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good luck OP. While it didn't work for me as ultimately he was just looking for cheaper club entry to screw other women, it can and does work well for some.

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

"As a singleton I have found it much easier to meet women/men/couples on my own.

Time constraints/availability of one or other person, and differences in likes /dislikes makes it too much head work to consider anything else, or viable for a swing partnership here.

I am yet to be proved wrong! "

Thanks for your advice and thanks for sharing cx

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Are you single ? Do you want a swinging partner to couple up with?

How seriously do you take agreeing to be a couple in the swinging community?

I am new to swinging is this acceptable?

This is me! I think what you're proposing is perfectly acceptable as long as you can team up with someone with the same mindset.

Communication and honesty are the keys if you're lucky enough to find someone with the same aspirations."

Thanks for your advice and joining in xx

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Good luck OP. While it didn't work for me as ultimately he was just looking for cheaper club entry to screw other women, it can and does work well for some."

Oh sorry to hear that sounds like he has disrespected you there xx

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By *toC Thats MeWoman over a year ago

Sheffield

This is my ideal

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