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Transitioning from drinks in lobby to play room
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Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though  |
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"Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though "
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We are almost every time in the same situation because have problems to start conversation.
We just go to play area,and start together.
Most of the cases someone join to us as ask to join.
If not we always have good fun together |
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"Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though "
The end of that did make me chuckle more than I should ???? |
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Great question…We find that we often chat to lots of couples then it ends up as just a chat… I think we miss many opportunities to just ask outright or missing the obvious cues.
Do most people just go for it and ask? |
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over a year ago
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Some clubs make it more awkward with music being too loud. You find yourself having sexy shouting at each other. Then after 10 mins of small talk you got find a way to shout , SHALL WE FIND A SPARE ROOOM!! |
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"Great question…We find that we often chat to lots of couples then it ends up as just a chat… I think we miss many opportunities to just ask outright or missing the obvious cues.
Do most people just go for it and ask? "
You've got to judge it and get a feeling that theirs a connection and attraction. No harm in saying "we're going for a play if you want to join us", if they don't no harm done. |
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I normally ask if the person/couple has any boundaries when it comes to playing then lead on from there. You can get a feel for if you’ll be compatible and they’ll know you have intentions to progress toward them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You usually know within the first five minutes where the meet will lead. I the Mrs is usually a good judge if character. So I think I know when the chemistry is right. It's easier if we're meeting single guy's as there's only really me to please. As guys brains are in their trousers. But if your meeting couple's everyone as to interact. But you more or less know straight away. Keep alcohol to a limit as this can spoil thing's. |
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We tend to meet single guys in their own homes. After a drink and a bit of a chat, I sometimes say to my wife she’s wearing too many layers. Then I take her dress off and present her in her lingerie/underwear to the lucky guy. It goes pretty quick from there. |
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It is as others have said just a matter of saying something on the lines of shall we take this somewhere else. The harder thing is being able to judge the chemistry and having the bravery just to suggest. Because if wait for them to make that move it may never happen. Sadly I think there's many a hot missed opportunity in a club because both sides too shy to ask.
Also another less direct option could is to suggest you all go for a perve around the play rooms. With the hope that this will to you all actually ending up in a room together yourselves (possibly additionally aroused by the other goings on you've just watched together). |
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Ok update:
We have taken all feedback on board and now are fairly confident, the bit we are not too sure about is social meets but we are learning to notice those couples for whom social means just that... social.
Whoever said something about chemistry is spot on, those few couples we played with, there was no awkwardness, it just happened. |
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Just suggest a few games or deep flirting , you will be surprised how things quickly get going when you are all up for it , my wife shocked me , she was so horny she practically dragged the first guy we met into a bedroom , I had to shove my cock in her mouth to keep the noise down , he was very experienced swinger and said wife was that good , it thought I was lying when I told her he was her first me experience |
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"Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though "
Great line *stolen* |
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"No fucking idea! However we think we'll work it out next Friday.. "
We have decided to take charge of situation as we are lot braver now. Worked really well with last few planned and unplanned meets, everyone was just glad with our new approach. |
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Before visiting a club, I hadn't realised how much socialising there was before everything else happened inside! Definitely felt like people knew each other or were regulars. Need to take the plunge and chat to others and hope the rest flows from there next time.  |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"No fucking idea! However we think we'll work it out next Friday..
We have decided to take charge of situation as we are lot braver now. Worked really well with last few planned and unplanned meets, everyone was just glad with our new approach."
We pretty much adopted the same approach.. Well Y did, pretty confident she didn't want her lingerie to go to waste..  |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
"Before visiting a club, I hadn't realised how much socialising there was before everything else happened inside! Definitely felt like people knew each other or were regulars. Need to take the plunge and chat to others and hope the rest flows from there next time. "
The more times you visit clubs, the more people you get to know, it also helps when you get to know the staff really well too over time. We never plan meets any longer, we just rock up at the club and go with the flow. Never get let down that way xxxxx Suzi |
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I just wait till all is comfortable and we're near the end of our drinks.
A simple, "Would you like to go upstairs" is perfectly acceptable.
Don't overthink it, it ain't work it
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"Before visiting a club, I hadn't realised how much socialising there was before everything else happened inside! Definitely felt like people knew each other or were regulars. Need to take the plunge and chat to others and hope the rest flows from there next time. "
Just be mindful of those who are there to just socialize, we saw some chatting till almost closing time and we were like.. guys c'on action time lol |
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We're nipping upstairs, it would be lovely if you would like to join us but no problem if not.
Give people the space to choose, never pressure them.
Had someone not take us up on the offer one visit and couldn't wait on next visit. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Its trickier for a single gent I think , for me anyway , dont like to be to pushy. "
It’s much trickier for 2 couples , one person usually has to guess that all 4 feel alright , it’s normally me as after 2-3 hours of small talk I’m getting very bored and no one else does it ! |
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"Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though "
This is the perfect way to ask xxx |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
Last night we were talking about some of my bondage kit, the lady said can you show me it in dungeon. Fine at that point we had a brief discussion about what she wanted and cracked on
Each person is different  |
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