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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you are having arguments and feeling like you have to check her phone then yes it is time to back away from here..... only be on here if you are BOTH comfortable with it.... xx |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Yes you are a couple so it should be about shared experiences. If one of you no longer feels it is for them or it is breeding resentment and discord within your relationship then you need to have a conversation to sort it out and make decisions about your future.
When we joined fab we set our boundaries. Some have moved, some have been discarded but the first boundary we set was that when one of us stays they want to stop swinging we both stop swinging. |
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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago
West Mids |
"We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust. "
Agree with the others totally.
Don't let this site come between you. |
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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago
Clevedon |
After several years on here, ive done what i wanted to do. The wife stopped some time ago so i think for us its a natural progression to calling it a day.think she will be happier too with me not doing anything on here now. Stay for forums and club info but feel as im getting older to concentrate more on me and her going forward as a couple as thats whats important, so im not meeting anymore now. Never worth risking a relationship over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust. "
What did you find that you didn't like OP?
When it comes to swinging if 1 partner isn't feeling it then both should stop. Your relationship is by far the most important thing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes 100%. If it’s causing issues that you can’t talk through it’s time to step away and maybe even reevaluate your relationship and what you both want from it. Honest discussion should be ongoing no matter how difficult the conversation is |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
If it's effecting the relationship being here having trust issues seems like more concentration needs to be put on the relationship so both understand your reasoning for being here so talk about everything sensibly
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If my husband and I were having issues like that we would definitely take a break from the site or at the very minimum have a long chat about what's causing the arguments & leading to distrust
Your relationship is far more important than a few hours of fun |
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Think you need a good sit down and reassess why your here and if it’s what you both still want just take your time and set your boundaries again if your happy to continue but your relationship should always come first and you’ll have lots of time in the future to come back should you change your mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the trust as gone..you are in trouble.. your relationship will need work to rebuild..a swinging site is probably not the right place for you both at this time. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust. "
I think you know the answer don’t you.
“When the fun stops, stop” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust. "
Shes right! You checked her phone!
You dont need to know the general consensus to this question, its caused arguments, a lack of communication and you broke her trust. Stop now, talk talk and talk and steer clear of swinging either for a very ling toime together or for good. Its not for you both x |
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then op you definitely should not be here 
