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In love - jealousy?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am madly in love with my boyfriend, and we play on here together. We have been together in the last 2.5 years.
Before we meet our first woman for a threesome, what can I do so that I do not get jealous when I see him f-ing her? I really want to see them, and I want to play with the lady myself, but because I am in love, I wonder how it may feel. Any advice? |
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"I am madly in love with my boyfriend, and we play on here together. We have been together in the last 2.5 years.
Before we meet our first woman for a threesome, what can I do so that I do not get jealous when I see him f-ing her? I really want to see them, and I want to play with the lady myself, but because I am in love, I wonder how it may feel. Any advice? "
My advice? Seriously, if you have any inkling of jealousy, don't swing.
You can't un do it once it's done. |
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"I am madly in love with my boyfriend, and we play on here together. We have been together in the last 2.5 years.
Before we meet our first woman for a threesome, what can I do so that I do not get jealous when I see him f-ing her? I really want to see them, and I want to play with the lady myself, but because I am in love, I wonder how it may feel. Any advice?
My advice? Seriously, if you have any inkling of jealousy, don't swing.
You can't un do it once it's done."
I agree with what's been said above, your profile is asking to meet a secure couple but you don't sound secure in the swinging sense yourself -
Don't rush things, if you don't feel ready or your worried about jealousy being an issue keep a meet or a meet with another female as a fantasy for the time being
You're profile mentions meeting single males, maybe make that your focus to start, maybe seeing how your partner handles seeing you with another guy, how you both get enjoyment from it will help eleviate some of your fears about meeting another woman |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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A really frank heart to heart conversation to determine what you want individually and together, before the threesome-if you decide to proceed, and a frank conversation between the three of you, and afterwards when you return home.
Myself and my former, who separated for reasons completely unconnected to our lifestyle choice, found that the more honest and open the discussion the better; she wanted to try DP and then later DVP, and we enjoyed watching each other and discussing with the other couple how we were developing sexually together. Eventually she also used a strapon to peg me and we both DP'd another fem in a threesome, which was interesting for the three of us to talk about together.
Swinging is more than just penetrative sex; the whole social scene, confidence building and sexual experimentation is a large part too. Keep talking and developing.  |
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You’re either a person who can handle and enjoy your partner having sex with other people, or you’re not. You need to be fairly sure you’re the type that can do it before you start. If you’re worried at all then don’t do it. As has been said above, you can’t take it back once you’ve done it. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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"You’re either a person who can handle and enjoy your partner having sex with other people, or you’re not. You need to be fairly sure you’re the type that can do it before you start. If you’re worried at all then don’t do it. As has been said above, you can’t take it back once you’ve done it. "
Precisely. You need to be very secure both individually and as a couple, and your 'other' partner needs to have right attitude/mindset too; it's a tricky dynamic. Threesomes, foursomes and group events need to treated with 'respect'; a fragile relationship could potentially de dwzteoyed. Tread carefully, but if everyone is up for it, it can be exciting and memorable.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am madly in love with my boyfriend, and we play on here together. We have been together in the last 2.5 years.
Before we meet our first woman for a threesome, what can I do so that I do not get jealous when I see him f-ing her? I really want to see them, and I want to play with the lady myself, but because I am in love, I wonder how it may feel. Any advice? "
Think of all the do’s and don’ts in your first ffm. For newbies - kissing is often a no. Think of scenarios where you are both involved so no one feels left out. If you watch another female getting fucked you are going to get jealous in your first time .. so make sure it’s a fully inclusive 3 way. |
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OP, I would maybe start more slowly.
Watch first, share a room with another couple, soft swap and then sex with others if they all go to plan. Clubs work well for this.
Swinging isn't for everyone, reality can be very different to the fantasy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talk honestly is the key. Swinging has actually strengthened us as a couple because everything has to be open and honest between each other …, what you like, don’t like, want to see or enjoy…. We are more open to each other , and I’ve found I enjoy watching my wife taking dicks ha! so long as I’m included at some point lol. - Griz |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am madly in love with my boyfriend, and we play on here together. We have been together in the last 2.5 years.
Before we meet our first woman for a threesome, what can I do so that I do not get jealous when I see him f-ing her? I really want to see them, and I want to play with the lady myself, but because I am in love, I wonder how it may feel. Any advice? "
I tried it was very happy to do it. But when I saw him I couldn't do it. She left. You have to be sure its for you |
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Don't meet until you are more sure and ready. Don't trust to luck that it will be OK, be sure before setting it up that it will be.
Don't jeopardise your relationship. It's great that youyou are sharing what you'd like to enjoy with full honesty. Keep the relationship equal and only introducing others when you are well past the stage of being certain that it's right. |
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In various situations in life, I try to imagine the scenario turned on its head.
In this case, would he be happy to see another guy fucking you?
Maybe he would, but if you’re not comfortable with any of it you must say no. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, I would maybe start more slowly.
Watch first, share a room with another couple, soft swap and then sex with others if they all go to plan. Clubs work well for this.
Swinging isn't for everyone, reality can be very different to the fantasy. "
Thank you for the thoughts everyone. I really want to do it, so I am in agreement with you that we ought to take it easy and "no kissing" to be involved. |
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OP I am madly in love with my husband... It's sickening really after 20 years he's still the sexiest person in the room to me, but I don't get jealous.. I get turned on, start out slow as others have said but if you feel jealous or put out at any point it may not be for you. That's ok! You just have to be honest with yourself and your partner. A club may be the way forward with no intention to play just observe, see how you feel. Best of luck xxx |
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Wow if you were not a bit jealous you would be a machine so it's absolutely fine the feel jealousy and like any other emotion jealousy can be managed work on yourself to overcome your insecurities before going further but don't just stop there some amazing time head if you can overcome this personally we've gone through jealousy on both sides as I say it is something that can be overcome with honest conversations.
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"I am madly in love with my boyfriend, and we play on here together. We have been together in the last 2.5 years.
Before we meet our first woman for a threesome, what can I do so that I do not get jealous when I see him f-ing her? I really want to see them, and I want to play with the lady myself, but because I am in love, I wonder how it may feel. Any advice? "
leave the scene, jealousy doesn't have a place in swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am madly in love with my boyfriend, and we play on here together. We have been together in the last 2.5 years.
Before we meet our first woman for a threesome, what can I do so that I do not get jealous when I see him f-ing her? I really want to see them, and I want to play with the lady myself, but because I am in love, I wonder how it may feel. Any advice?
My advice? Seriously, if you have any inkling of jealousy, don't swing.
You can't un do it once it's done."
this..
i still in love with my husband more now than ever (29yrs) swimging is about fun if you love your man and trust both way then swinging is great but if theres cracks or signs of jealousy dont swing it will break you up ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"P.S. I just looked at your profile. It’s very obvious it was written by your fella, and he’s in control.
Just saying. "
I did get that sense from the profile text. |
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You're not a swinger so just don't swing. It's blindly obvious from what you've written that you're monogamous at heart and that's absolutely fine, nothing wrong with that. Seriously, swinging is not for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meet a couple so can get pounded while you watch.
We get the impression this is more about his enjoyment with another female instead of both of you swapping partners.
Besides, it's just setting yourselves up to fail if you aren't both motivated to do it. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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It’s a bit simplistic to suggest jealousy has no place in swinging, isn’t it?
For cucks and cuckqueans the jealousy they can feel is often a big part of the thrill of the experience for them, and precisely why they love it. Does that mean they can’t be swingers? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Aren’t we all in love with our partners
The opening post did sound like jealousy only happens when you are in love "
For me, jealousy doesn't happen when you're in love... Being in love with someone means you trust them implicitly, so won't entertain jealousy  |
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