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"How long after a meet would you give it to see if a repeat is on the cards
Esp if you think it went OK but not sure if they did "
I just leave it and if ate parths cross again then it's amazing .
I have had reply meets with most of have met |
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over a year ago
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We chatted after our meet about what we enjoyed about it, any thoughts etc and said we'd love to meet again/make it regular.
We haven't met a second time yet (but only because of time, childcare etc) but I'd say we chat every other day now. |
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We don't tend to have many second or third meets.
Not that anything went wrong.
It's just we love the excitement and nervousness of first meets and having fun together for the first time.
Not looking for long term partners or friends.
Different if we meet again at parties, holidays or socials.
It's just our preference. |
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"How long after a meet would you give it to see if a repeat is on the cards
Esp if you think it went OK but not sure if they did "
We're not interested in one-offs and don't meet on the spur of the moment so whenever we've had a successful fun evening, we've already maintained contact with that guy over a period of weeks/months beforehand and we just carry on in the same fashion afterwards.
and continue with this. Life can and does get in the way of course and some things come to an end sooner than you'd like but if we're having a good time we keep in regular touch. |
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"How long after a meet would you give it to see if a repeat is on the cards
Esp if you think it went OK but not sure if they did
We're not interested in one-offs and don't meet on the spur of the moment so whenever we've had a successful fun evening, we've already maintained contact with that guy over a period of weeks/months beforehand and we just carry on in the same fashion afterwards.
and continue with this. Life can and does get in the way of course and some things come to an end sooner than you'd like but if we're having a good time we keep in regular touch."
This for me too. I tend to send messages as often as before we met, but if they aren't read as quickly or if the responses grind to a halt I assume the other person doesn't want to meet again. |
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"How long after a meet would you give it to see if a repeat is on the cards
Esp if you think it went OK but not sure if they did
We're not interested in one-offs and don't meet on the spur of the moment so whenever we've had a successful fun evening, we've already maintained contact with that guy over a period of weeks/months beforehand and we just carry on in the same fashion afterwards.
and continue with this. Life can and does get in the way of course and some things come to an end sooner than you'd like but if we're having a good time we keep in regular touch.
This for me too. I tend to send messages as often as before we met, but if they aren't read as quickly or if the responses grind to a halt I assume the other person doesn't want to meet again."
That could be true yes - a lot of guys just move on after they've had what they want. It's probably more of a reflection on them than anything you did though. That's the nature of a site like this and that's why we never play first time out or make any promises about how far things will go or when. That tends to keep the quick shag chancers away from us.
Whatever else happens, though, don't let the actions of other people you hardly know make you call into question your values or actions. |
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"How long after a meet would you give it to see if a repeat is on the cards
Esp if you think it went OK but not sure if they did
We're not interested in one-offs and don't meet on the spur of the moment so whenever we've had a successful fun evening, we've already maintained contact with that guy over a period of weeks/months beforehand and we just carry on in the same fashion afterwards.
and continue with this. Life can and does get in the way of course and some things come to an end sooner than you'd like but if we're having a good time we keep in regular touch.
This for me too. I tend to send messages as often as before we met, but if they aren't read as quickly or if the responses grind to a halt I assume the other person doesn't want to meet again.
That could be true yes - a lot of guys just move on after they've had what they want. It's probably more of a reflection on them than anything you did though. That's the nature of a site like this and that's why we never play first time out or make any promises about how far things will go or when. That tends to keep the quick shag chancers away from us.
Whatever else happens, though, don't let the actions of other people you hardly know make you call into question your values or actions. "
I do prefer ongoing arrangements to one-offs, but sometimes once is enough, nobody's fault but it just doesn't work.
If I'm up for another meet I'll message, but I don't get too hurt if the other person doesn't feel the same way.
Sometimes what works brilliantly in a social doesn't work as well in the bedroom, or what's thrilling for one person may be no more than nice for the other. I tend to be very open about my enjoyment but I don't assume the other person feels the same.
It's always great when they do though!  |
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I don't like to put people 'on the spot' and ask if they'd like to meet again during (or at the end of) an initial social.
Post social I'll always thank them for their time via message (if we've exchanged numbers, Kik etc) and will write them a veri (unless specifically asked not to).
It's usually fairly obvious if a subsequent social or a meet is on the cards from the response I get to the post social message I send. If it's not the response that I was hoping to receive, I again just thank them for their time and wish them good luck. If their message is non-committal in tone then I'll leave the ball in their court.
Of course, every now and then you'll spend some time with someone that you like a little bit more than you were expecting to. It can be a bitter pill to swallow if they don't want to take things further. In that case I just put on my 'big boy pants', respect them even more than I already did, and move forward.
Hope this helps OP?
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"I’ll never meet the same person twice. That’s more commitment than I can handle "
I have had some regulars but also prefer one offs.
Can you DM me hun? I'm dying to ask you something xx |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
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"We don't tend to have many second or third meets.
Not that anything went wrong.
It's just we love the excitement and nervousness of first meets and having fun together for the first time.
Not looking for long term partners or friends.
Different if we meet again at parties, holidays or socials.
It's just our preference. "
I love how different we all are. We are almost the opposite.
Very few of our meets have been one night stands. Most have resulted in further meets. We have known some of our naughty friends for more than 10 years (we aren’t meeting all the time but perhaps once or twice a year before Covid).
For US (different for you/others) we like the familiarity and trust. It makes for a more relaxed time where we can push boundaries and get experimental.
Saying that, it is still exciting/nervous to meet someone new! |
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All of the guys want a return fuck with my juciy wife but I only allow some of them for a 2nd chance and no more. This is stop any chance of my wife falling for the sweet BS chatter they give when I'm not in the room. Its worked for us.
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"All of the guys want a return fuck with my juciy wife but I only allow some of them for a 2nd chance and no more. This is stop any chance of my wife falling for the sweet BS chatter they give when I'm not in the room. Its worked for us.
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wow you really dont trust your wife do you lol |
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can't generalize
our meets tend to be on an "as and when" basis rather than "the first monday in the month" or whenever
haven't arranged any meets while saying bye bye so far, doesn't cross our minds.
Just the way we roll.  |
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"We don't tend to have many second or third meets.
Not that anything went wrong.
It's just we love the excitement and nervousness of first meets and having fun together for the first time.
Not looking for long term partners or friends.
Different if we meet again at parties, holidays or socials.
It's just our preference.
I love how different we all are. We are almost the opposite.
Very few of our meets have been one night stands. Most have resulted in further meets. We have known some of our naughty friends for more than 10 years (we aren’t meeting all the time but perhaps once or twice a year before Covid).
For US (different for you/others) we like the familiarity and trust. It makes for a more relaxed time where we can push boundaries and get experimental.
Saying that, it is still exciting/nervous to meet someone new!"
You've hit the nail on the head.
It's great that we are all different.
To us, it what attracts us.
Meeting people from all walks of life.
We have had a few couples and single men we have known for some time but would find it very difficult to try to integrate swinging friends with our 'normal' friends.
As long as everyone is having fun, that's our only rule.
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