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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"any tips??? 8 months and one meet beginning to wonder if there is any local ladies/ couples anywhere near!"
no offence... you have a ton of clubs on your doorstep.... the site is what you make of it and that includes being proactive......
go out there and meet people... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any tips??? 8 months and one meet beginning to wonder if there is any local ladies/ couples anywhere near!
no offence... you have a ton of clubs on your doorstep.... the site is what you make of it and that includes being proactive......
go out there and meet people..."
Exactly this ^^^^^^^  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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that wasn't what i was saying... lol, just looking for tips on the profile, never tried a club before but they all want 20-30 membership then at least £40 a visit and it ain't something ive tried before, thats a good few drinks down the pub or in town! where i do meet people! |
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By *hinaManMan
over a year ago
Twickenham |
"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though"
You don't have to go to clubs and I can appreciate that they may cost a lot (I have never been myself). This site is about patience, persistence and creating a good impression. Don't give up, the site is free so even if you don't use it someone may see your profile and message you so my advice is not to delete it since you have nothing to lose  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"that wasn't what i was saying... lol, just looking for tips on the profile, never tried a club before but they all want 20-30 membership then at least £40 a visit and it ain't something ive tried before, thats a good few drinks down the pub or in town! where i do meet people!"
check out an organised social night then, try the chat rooms..... or just stick to pulling on nights out |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
the point being is that is it more than just the site... it is socials.. it is clubs.. it is chat... it is the forums (of which you had never posted in before this, so how would people have known about you here, as an example) it is your profile...
you make as much or as little of swinging as you want... but if you decide not to use all the avenues open to you... then in the end it is you that loses out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesnt cost that much the club we go to cost 20 pound for a years membership then 15 or 20 pound admission depending what night we go its less than a night out and if you treat it right you will get the most out of your night instead of wingeing about giving up on the site dont expect the site to do the work for you get out there and do the work yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"fair point, ain't had much luck in the chat rooms so far but will look out for the next social, anything i can do on the profile though? better pic??"
Would you shag a 99 year old? really? If not change the age range - it shows a lack of thought about your profile. Just a little hint. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i'm not asking the site to do the work for me! i'm asking for advice... any waysi can improve my profile, not sure if i fancy clubs, and i am northern... so don't fancy paying over the odds... and sam... was thinking the exact same thing! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"fair point, ain't had much luck in the chat rooms so far but will look out for the next social, anything i can do on the profile though? better pic??"
Well you'd struggle to make the profile worse I suppose...
How long did you spend writing it? 5 minutes? Why would anyone pay attention to it, it says nothing of any substance.
As others have said you get out what you put in and you don't seem to be putting much in. |
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Ask yourself what it is about your profile that makes it stand out from the 100's of other men in your area who will be contacting the same people you are...
If you think it does stand out .... great.
If you can't pick anything from what you've written in it that you can honestly say would make someone reply to you before the other 20 people who have mailed them that day, then change it.... and make it stand out.
No one can tell you what to write on it..
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"tactful 2wheels, very tactful lol, fair play to you! if i'm honest i never know what to write in these damn things! anyhows cheers all"
Sorry you come across lazy and in need of too much spoon feeding. If you can't "sell" you... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"tactful 2wheels, very tactful lol, fair play to you! if i'm honest i never know what to write in these damn things! anyhows cheers all"
At the end of the day you are the one seeking advice because you have got nowhere. I could tell you a load of crap that makes you feel better but it won't get you anywhere. The wording may have been harsh but let's be honest you can;t disagree with anything I said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"tactful 2wheels, very tactful lol, fair play to you! if i'm honest i never know what to write in these damn things! anyhows cheers all
Sorry you come across lazy and in need of too much spoon feeding. If you can't "sell" you..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though
oh... so u wanted a free shag 
That's harsh coming from a single woman who can often get into clubs without paying "
Ive never been, so wouldnt know. Not my thing |
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Hi Cheekiechappie1,
As a fellow single guy I fully sympathise with you. It can be frustrating at times.
I've been swinging for about 18 months now and I've had a few barren spells.
But before you give up though, just accept that when you're a single guy the odds are very much against you in this lifestyle. The majority of couples and women are only looking for other couples or women. You only have to read their profiles to see that. It's frustrating, but there's nothing you can do about it.
I have been to a few swingers clubs - with mixed results. Your enjoyment of the evening very much depends on how much you put yourself forward and also who else is there on the night. I have played with a few lovely couples but I suspect I benefited from being in the right place at the right time.
Are you able to host parties? Could you arrange a hotel room for your guests? As a single guy you have to be prepared to go the extra mile because there are hundreds of us competing for the same sexy couples and females.
I've just browsed your profile and it's ok, you come across as a decent guy. Perhaps you could say more about yourself. What has drawn you into Swinging? What are your fantasies and desires? What experience do you have in the swinging lifestyle? Also, maybe post a few more photos of yourself. But NOT cock shots. Once they've seen one they've seen them all!
Good luck. Stick with it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well as a couple we believe that swinging is a thing for couples. S sharing thing afterall this was the original form of swinging. Many singles join fab thinking it will be an easier way of getting laid than going to a local bar etc. It isnt its much harder. If you cant pull in real life then you wont pull on here. And to us that isnt swinging anyway. So leave if you want and the reality is that you wont be missed. The same way one person leaving the olympic stadium wont be missed. Sorry if this sounds harsh but its true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"that wasn't what i was saying... lol, just looking for tips on the profile, never tried a club before but they all want 20-30 membership then at least £40 a visit and it ain't something ive tried before, thats a good few drinks down the pub or in town! where i do meet people!"
then start your own club! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well as a couple we believe that swinging is a thing for couples. S sharing thing afterall this was the original form of swinging. Many singles join fab thinking it will be an easier way of getting laid than going to a local bar etc. It isnt its much harder. If you cant pull in real life then you wont pull on here. And to us that isnt swinging anyway. So leave if you want and the reality is that you wont be missed. The same way one person leaving the olympic stadium wont be missed. Sorry if this sounds harsh but its true"
All those couples looking for single men or women then? Are they not swingers and should leave also?
Sorry if it sounds harsh, but your version of the truth is not my version - and possibly not the version held by many others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any tips??? 8 months and one meet beginning to wonder if there is any local ladies/ couples anywhere near!
no offence... you have a ton of clubs on your doorstep.... the site is what you make of it and that includes being proactive......
go out there and meet people..."
_abio could not be more right
every club has a greedy girls night they need lots of hot fit guys
and you can meet loads of people and start chatting
the rest is then up to you
good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any tips??? 8 months and one meet beginning to wonder if there is any local ladies/ couples anywhere near!
no offence... you have a ton of clubs on your doorstep.... the site is what you make of it and that includes being proactive......
go out there and meet people...
_abio could not be more right
every club has a greedy girls night they need lots of hot fit guys
and you can meet loads of people and start chatting
the rest is then up to you
good luck."
Clubs are not the answer for everyone and the idea of going to one is no more right for one person than it is wrong for another.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try the northern chartroom OP, lots of socials in Manchester and fairly regular bunch go in that room so if you go in chat you will get to know folks xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try the northern chartroom OP, lots of socials in Manchester and fairly regular bunch go in that room so if you go in chat you will get to know folks xxx "
if this was pointed at me, do you know of any around london? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
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Clubs are not the answer for everyone and the idea of going to one is no more right for one person than it is wrong for another.
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which is why i said in the 2nd post... it is clubs... it is socials... it is the chatroom... it is the forums... it is the profiles...
there are many ways to go... however you can't complain about not meeting local people, when a lot of the local people DO go to clubs.. or to socials... or hang around the forums, and they are not willing to try them....
its like people are being reactive and waiting on something coming to them, as opposed to being PROactive and going out there and doing something about it....
and THAT was the point I was trying to make... |
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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago
oldbury |
my adivce is play the long game you need to get to know people on here before playing with them trust is something a lot of people like to build up before meeting. So you need to message be polite and continue chatting until everyone is happy none of the quick messages that guys send out. Also your profile doesnt really say much about you as a person and what you really want to find on here. Socials and clubs are a great place to meet people on fab its worked for us on our joint profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though
oh... so u wanted a free shag "
I think people are entitled to say a club is bleeding expensive! Clubs are close to prostitution with some of their prices without the guarantee of sex or even meeting people. Sex should be free and among loving like mind people. Shouldnt cost the earth.
So youre saying we should pay for sex :P |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any tips??? 8 months and one meet beginning to wonder if there is any local ladies/ couples anywhere near!"
don't worry about it, be patient and listen to the advice. I'm not verified however I have had meets,
I've already had my rant about non verified people not being able to verify each other  |
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It's down to how we assimilate information.
I took the response to the op not wanting to pay club admission when everyone knows women on swinging sites have their knickers off, legs akimbo gagging for it for free.
If you see what I mean.
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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago
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"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though
oh... so u wanted a free shag
I think people are entitled to say a club is bleeding expensive! Clubs are close to prostitution with some of their prices without the guarantee of sex or even meeting people. Sex should be free and among loving like mind people. Shouldnt cost the earth.
So youre saying we should pay for sex :P"
Are you aware of what prostitution actually is ? If so please explain to me how clubs "are close" to it ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though
oh... so u wanted a free shag
I think people are entitled to say a club is bleeding expensive! Clubs are close to prostitution with some of their prices without the guarantee of sex or even meeting people. Sex should be free and among loving like mind people. Shouldnt cost the earth.
So youre saying we should pay for sex :P"
WHAT? 
You must be pretty socially inept if you can't meet anyone at a club...
But you think sex should be guaranteed? Wos, that's an impressive sense of entitlement coupled with a total lack of understanding of the scene.
Though I fail to understand the comparison to prostitution - seriously can you explain how paying to get in to a club and not getting any sex is anyway comparable to prostitution. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though
oh... so u wanted a free shag
I think people are entitled to say a club is bleeding expensive! Clubs are close to prostitution with some of their prices without the guarantee of sex or even meeting people. Sex should be free and among loving like mind people. Shouldnt cost the earth.
So youre saying we should pay for sex :P"
Clubs have overheads...... its a business like anyother, yes you have to pay but your not paying for the sex are you??
I have no _iews on people who pay for sex or who wish to, each to their own. I was mearly pointing out that, the OP is complaining yet there are many other ways to meet people... like clubs, organised socials yet he doesnt want to pay....... |
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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago
Hertfordshire |
"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though
oh... so u wanted a free shag
I think people are entitled to say a club is bleeding expensive! Clubs are close to prostitution with some of their prices without the guarantee of sex or even meeting people. Sex should be free and among loving like mind people. Shouldnt cost the earth.
So youre saying we should pay for sex :P
WHAT?
You must be pretty socially inept if you can't meet anyone at a club...
But you think sex should be guaranteed? Wos, that's an impressive sense of entitlement coupled with a total lack of understanding of the scene.
Though I fail to understand the comparison to prostitution - seriously can you explain how paying to get in to a club and not getting any sex is anyway comparable to prostitution."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Frigging swinging police getting on there high horse again I think its the soft swingers that clog up a lot of the site. All talk and no action but think they no everything there is to know about swinging and decide to judge others by their own standards.
Sell, sell, sell my friend think of your profile as a shop window would you buy. More about your likes what you want out of fabs put some personality into it and more pics and be pro active forums are a great giggle x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try the northern chartroom OP, lots of socials in Manchester and fairly regular bunch go in that room so if you go in chat you will get to know folks xxx
if this was pointed at me, do you know of any around london?"
Socials are organised all over the place, you find them in the forums. They do happen in London, Ive been to a London social, Manc social, Bradford social, Inverness social lol see ... They are everywhere! Just keep an eye out for them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't be bothered to read through the masses of 'advice' left so i'll just put in my 2p, you said you didn't want to spend alot of going to a club, that's what socials are for, my local hold 1 per month, no membership needed just the entrance fee, take your own beer or they provide soft drinks, that way you can decide if it's for you or not, it's all about being openminded, atleast by the end of the night if nothing else you can gain a verification or two to say your real, it's always better to see than none at all or one from 8 months back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the few days iv been on here iv learnt to not take it too seriously, just have fun with it. Don't make your aim to get a meet out of every person you talk to, the most important thing is to just have a good time, wether its talking to people or meeting there are plenty of good people on here that will help you out where you think you're going wrong |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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First of all welcome to the forum.
Secondly...if you can see past the accusations that you can't be bothered to put yourself forward on the site/ that you expect women to open their legs as fast as you ask / that because you think it is expensive in clubs that you are expecting a free shag and the snearing because you dared to ask for some advice....then you will find some good advice on this thread.
If you don't fancy a club ( not all of us do whatever the cost ) then maybe try a social in your area? You will find them in the Meet and party section.
Join in on the forum/ chat and make sure your profile is as good as you think it should be with maybe a couple of pics (I have not read your profile)
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Put your verification on display - it's almost useless otherwise and may even be counter productive hiding it!
Remember there is a lot more to a sex life than just this site and every weekend there are lots of hot, sexy non-'swinging' people out on the town etc. who are also looking for the same thing!
Get out there and best of luck!  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Put your verification on display - it's almost useless otherwise and may even be counter productive hiding it!
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Maybe the person left the site? or he just doesn't want to show it?
If anyone he speaks to wants to see it or check he has a meet veri then they can do an advanced search for his profile and it will show up if it is a meet veri. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This kind of post makes me laugh. This site is all about what you make it. I'm sure some guys just think "ooh I'll join a swingers site and get loads of shags" yeah I've had a few but usually with people I already know. I see this place as more of a social thing with the odd added bonus, certainly not as a meat market...
If the OP is still around, get yourself out there, try a club when they have a special event on, write a decent profile and post some decent pics. One last tip, don't join and expect women/couples tocme flocking. It doesn't happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the OP is still around, get yourself out there, try a club when they have a special event on, write a decent profile and post some decent pics. One last tip, don't join and expect women/couples tocme flocking. It doesn't happen."
very well said x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi Cheekiechappie1,
As a fellow single guy I fully sympathise with you. It can be frustrating at times.
I've been swinging for about 18 months now and I've had a few barren spells.
But before you give up though, just accept that when you're a single guy the odds are very much against you in this lifestyle. The majority of couples and women are only looking for other couples or women. You only have to read their profiles to see that. It's frustrating, but there's nothing you can do about it.
I have been to a few swingers clubs - with mixed results. Your enjoyment of the evening very much depends on how much you put yourself forward and also who else is there on the night. I have played with a few lovely couples but I suspect I benefited from being in the right place at the right time.
Are you able to host parties? Could you arrange a hotel room for your guests? As a single guy you have to be prepared to go the extra mile because there are hundreds of us competing for the same sexy couples and females.
I've just browsed your profile and it's ok, you come across as a decent guy. Perhaps you could say more about yourself. What has drawn you into Swinging? What are your fantasies and desires? What experience do you have in the swinging lifestyle? Also, maybe post a few more photos of yourself. But NOT cock shots. Once they've seen one they've seen them all!
Good luck. Stick with it "
OP - take a look at Savernake's profile. it ticks all the boxes in the old rule about advertising - A.I.D.A. (Attention, Interest, Desire, Action) and does him credit. Take a look at yours and see how it compares. You need to work on yours a lot more, but it doesn't need to be War & Peace. Savernake's one is just about perfect for length (his profile that is...) It gets you attention, creates Interest, stimulates Desire and tell the reader what to do to make it happen.
That's what you need to be aiming for.
Then you just need loads and loads of patience.
But, full marks for putting yourself in the frame for all us lot to pick faults!
One other thing, as you mention your 'strike rate' in clubs and pubs - don't EVER treat this site (or any other) as the 'be all and end all' when it comes to getting sex. At your age (Jeeez I sound old!) it should be just ONE of a number of routes to getting the sex life you are after.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any tips??? 8 months and one meet beginning to wonder if there is any local ladies/ couples anywhere near!"
Look at your profile and how it starts....
"Well what else can i say??"
That's the first line in your profile... you ain't said anything before this bit and you're already lost for words... big turn off for a lot of women I'd guess as they like a guy who can actually hold a conversation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any tips??? 8 months and one meet beginning to wonder if there is any local ladies/ couples anywhere near!
Look at your profile and how it starts....
Well what else can i say??
That's the first line in your profile... you ain't said anything before this bit and you're already lost for words... big turn off for a lot of women I'd guess as they like a guy who can actually hold a conversation "
Yeap |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the risk of sounding stupid can anyone tell me what the term the op means.
Original Post (or Poster). And no it does not make you sound stupid.
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thanks, I was wondering what it meant too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi Cheekiechappie1,
As a fellow single guy I fully sympathise with you. It can be frustrating at times.
I've been swinging for about 18 months now and I've had a few barren spells.
But before you give up though, just accept that when you're a single guy the odds are very much against you in this lifestyle. The majority of couples and women are only looking for other couples or women. You only have to read their profiles to see that. It's frustrating, but there's nothing you can do about it.
I have been to a few swingers clubs - with mixed results. Your enjoyment of the evening very much depends on how much you put yourself forward and also who else is there on the night. I have played with a few lovely couples but I suspect I benefited from being in the right place at the right time.
Are you able to host parties? Could you arrange a hotel room for your guests? As a single guy you have to be prepared to go the extra mile because there are hundreds of us competing for the same sexy couples and females.
I've just browsed your profile and it's ok, you come across as a decent guy. Perhaps you could say more about yourself. What has drawn you into Swinging? What are your fantasies and desires? What experience do you have in the swinging lifestyle? Also, maybe post a few more photos of yourself. But NOT cock shots. Once they've seen one they've seen them all!
Good luck. Stick with it "
Now theres your problem....why is it called swinging or as the 70sgeneration called it(wife swap)........never understood why single men or women call themselfs swingers!......in my book thats called just fucking!
I now there are a few couples out there after single but by your own admission most couples are after other couples hence the word swing!
Now this should wind a few singles up(lol) |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Now this should wind a few singles up(lol) "
Not at all. I'll call meself what I want and you call yourselves what you want. All I know is single females are inexplicably popular on this site so I suspect Fabswingers are happy for me to be here, whatever I am called. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jeeez! If any single swingers let themselves get wound up by that post, then I'll be shocked.
Single men, single women and couples are all 'swingers' if they looking for NSA sex.
'wife swapping' is what it says on the tin... end of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jeeez! If any single swingers let themselves get wound up by that post, then I'll be shocked.
Single men, single women and couples are all 'swingers' if they looking for NSA sex.
'wife swapping' is what it says on the tin... end of."
well then there isnt a bloke in the land that isnt after nsa sex...does that mean every bloke in the world is a swinger? "NO"
and im afraid to say that the term swinging is taken fron the term wife swap(google it)...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is guys come on here a swinging site looking for easy nsa sex and when they dont get it then they throw their toys out of their prams.
You get out what you put in if you put the effort in join in forums, chat a few socials and try to stand out from the crowd then you will have success if not you will go the way of many others and not have any meets and not get anywhere on sites like this x |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Jeeez! If any single swingers let themselves get wound up by that post, then I'll be shocked.
Single men, single women and couples are all 'swingers' if they looking for NSA sex.
'wife swapping' is what it says on the tin... end of.
well then there isnt a bloke in the land that isnt after nsa sex...does that mean every bloke in the world is a swinger? "NO"
and im afraid to say that the term swinging is taken fron the term wife swap(google it)...
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"Jeeez! If any single swingers let themselves get wound up by that post, then I'll be shocked.
Single men, single women and couples are all 'swingers' if they looking for NSA sex.
'wife swapping' is what it says on the tin... end of.
well then there isnt a bloke in the land that isnt after nsa sex...does that mean every bloke in the world is a swinger? "NO"
and im afraid to say that the term swinging is taken fron the term wife swap(google it)...
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Oh right so google only ever gives you information that is 100% correct. I did have a google but looked no further than the wikipedia link.
This is what wiki had to say about swinging
"Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with like-minded people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.
The phenomenon of swinging, or at least its wider discussion and practice, is regarded by some as arising from the upsurge in sexual activity during the sexual revolution of the 1960s, made possible by the invention of the contraceptive pill and the emergence of treatments for many of the STI's that were known at that time.
The older term wife swapping, once considered to be equivalent to "swinging", is now criticized as being androcentric where it is presumed that the partners are a married heterosexual couple and that it is the male who is in control of the sexual activities and also that it does not accurately describe the full range of sexual activities in which both singles or couples may take part."
In short the term swinging is a convenient label that covers a broad range of activities.
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"Doesnt cost that much the club we go to cost 20 pound for a years membership then 15 or 20 pound admission depending what night we go its less than a night out and if you treat it right you will get the most out of your night instead of wingeing about giving up on the site dont expect the site to do the work for you get out there and do the work yourself."
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"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though"
Yea with the "admission fee" for single guys but everyone else gets in free.
To me that's not swinging thats Prostitution and sex is something I would never pay for. So clubs are a no no. |
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"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though
Yea with the "admission fee" for single guys but everyone else gets in free.
To me that's not swinging thats Prostitution and sex is something I would never pay for. So clubs are a no no."
Even if you was to go to a vanilla club would still need to pay to get in and club prices at the bar.
Most swinging clubs yes you have the entrance fee but you can take your own booze and you have the use of the clubs facilities the atmosphere weather its the jacuzzi, sauna or adult cinema talking chams here but each club has their own facilities which are well worth the entrance fee so what are you complaining about. You get to be a voyer get to see people in action and you never know your luck be asked to join in £25 or £30 is not a lot to ask for. |
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"well thats me told lol, clubs cost a bleeding fortune though
Yea with the "admission fee" for single guys but everyone else gets in free.
To me that's not swinging thats Prostitution and sex is something I would never pay for. So clubs are a no no.
Even if you was to go to a vanilla club would still need to pay to get in and club prices at the bar.
Most swinging clubs yes you have the entrance fee but you can take your own booze and you have the use of the clubs facilities the atmosphere weather its the jacuzzi, sauna or adult cinevma talking chams here but each club has their own facilities which are well worth the entrance fee so what are you complaining about. You get to be a voyer get to see people in action and you never know your luck be asked to join in £25 or £30 is not a lot to ask for. "
I don't pay to get into normal clubs what's the point when there are free places to drink and have a good time that normally have a better atmosphere, I'm not a voyer either that bores the shit out of me, I'm active, I get involved not stand back with a drink in one hand and my cock in the other, also the two clubs I have been invited to only the guys had to pay and they were only looking for guys isn't that more or less the same way a brothel works LOL.
I know not all clubs are the same and some are very exclusive but from what I've seen and heard there not for me at all.
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