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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How hard is it on here to get a meet ! I've only been in the country over a year & have not many friends, My taxi friend recommend this for me but nothing happening  |
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Hard compared to what? It's easier than picking someone up in Asda, but takes more effort than going to a swingers club.
Simple fact is, effort = results.
If you joined expecting instashag, you were sadly misinformed. |
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"How hard is it on here to get a meet ! I've only been in the country over a year & have not many friends, My taxi friend recommend this for me but nothing happening "
Your profile is virtually empty and shows very litte effort. What do you expect? It doesn't separate you from 1000's of other guys here chasing the relatively few women and couples. If you want to be successful here you need to put some time and effort in. Attending socials also helps but don't expect to turn up and get laid. It takes time even without the adverse effects of Covid to contend with.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month |
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month "
Making excuses won't improve your chances, making more effort will. |
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By *aseMan
over a year ago
Gourock |
"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month
Making excuses won't improve your chances, making more effort will."
Think saving life's is more important than a shag.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month "
I’m sure you have days off |
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By *aseMan
over a year ago
Gourock |
"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month
Making excuses won't improve your chances, making more effort will."
He's a surgeon ! Hope you never need one... |
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Seriously? Look at your profile! Nobody on here is will be interested in a blank profile like yours, you shouldn't need anyone to point that out to you.
It's tough for single guys on here so you've really got to make more of an effort with your profile to even stand an ounce of a chance.
There are quite literally thousands of guys on here, they probably outnumber women by 20-1, you have to stand out more than you are!
also.....Wesn't there a pandemic thing over the last year or so? |
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month "
You don't do 7 shifts a week, do you?
If you messaged me, my reply would be straight away "no, thank you", regardless of the distance. There are no photos on your profile, barely any text, and your status update is showing it would be a flying visit (as you can't accommodate).
Have a think whether you actually do have time to meet anyone- even NSA requires some time and effort. |
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month
Making excuses won't improve your chances, making more effort will. He's a surgeon ! Hope you never need one..."
How do you know? And even surgeons need breaks/days off to recover. I wouldn't want an overworked and overtired surgeon working on me, if I had a choice. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
If you have very limited time, all the more reason to make your profile amazing, so it grabs people's attention.
But with your judgemental unpleasant attitude above, I wouldn't meet you if you were half a mile away |
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We've had lockdown for much of the last 18 months and people have waited for this time to meet old friends and newer contacts.
Plus men are ten a penny, so have to have realistic expectations and work hard at it. Their profiles have to sell them and any without pics or saying nothing will be skipped over in the blink of an eye.
Men who make minimal effort to try to understand what others here might need, in order to be comfortable and choose someone to open their bodies to, are perceived lower in their abilities to likely have a chance to please sexually and gauge what partners need.
Visit clubs and fab social events to get to know people. Look at the forum for tips helping single men |
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month "
That being the case, you definitely need to make much more effort with your profile but it's not easy for guys simply because of the huge numbers here. Posting regularly in the forums and putting your name down for socials you can attend is another way to make contacts/friends but it'll almost certainly take a lot longer than a month to yield results.
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Since as you say it's your Friends who suggested this can't they give you some pointers if they are good friends hopefully they will advise you not saying you're not able to ask here just the way you put your friends
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"Since as you say it's your Friends who suggested this can't they give you some pointers if they are good friends hopefully they will advise you not saying you're not able to ask here just the way you put your friends
Good luck "
It was a taxi driver apparently, obviously picking him up from kindergarten. |
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month
Making excuses won't improve your chances, making more effort will. He's a surgeon ! Hope you never need one..."
Doesn't matter what he is he's the one making excuses. Fact is, if he can't make time to make a decent profile or connect with people he can't have time for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm new on here and I can see that there's way more men than women. But hey good for you girls. Anyway I've just got verified by photo so I'm hoping that livens things up a bit. Also I think maybe taking part In these forums definitely helps. Some teasing photos too doesn't go astray. Updating your status regularly can help
Is there anything else that you lovely people can recommend, like I'm not looking to be inundated with pussy shots, just open naughty chat with possibility of going further, to start off with anyway would be great
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Since as you say it's your Friends who suggested this can't they give you some pointers if they are good friends hopefully they will advise you not saying you're not able to ask here just the way you put your friends
Good luck
It was a taxi driver apparently, obviously picking him up from kindergarten."
But still a friend as he quoted I prefer acquaintances  friends become complicated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site is a waste of time for meets, you will have more luck at a club.
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dissagree there, weve had plenty of meets from here, and met some great people, not all were meets, however its not instashag, expect nothing and its nice to be suprised, expect everything and be prepaired to be dissapointed |
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month "
That makes no sense at all.
So how can you find the time to meet then? The situation you're unhappy about is a non-starter by your own roundabout admission due to circumstances.
I work shift work, often unsociable hours.
I ain't meeting now because I don't want to, but what I used to do was make an effort once every couple of months and book a days holiday so I could go to a club or organised social.
I couldn't see another way round it unless I expected to make zero effort and have someone turn up at my house for a fuck n go or stop off somewhere for a quick shag on the way to work.
Now, I'm sure some men would be fine with that, however, I wasn't. Part and parcel of the enjoyment was making the effort to pamper myself and make an event of it. Much like going to a concert or whatever. |
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month
That makes no sense at all.
So how can you find the time to meet then? The situation you're unhappy about is a non-starter by your own roundabout admission due to circumstances.
I work shift work, often unsociable hours.
I ain't meeting now because I don't want to, but what I used to do was make an effort once every couple of months and book a days holiday so I could go to a club or organised social.
I couldn't see another way round it unless I expected to make zero effort and have someone turn up at my house for a fuck n go or stop off somewhere for a quick shag on the way to work.
Now, I'm sure some men would be fine with that, however, I wasn't. Part and parcel of the enjoyment was making the effort to pamper myself and make an event of it. Much like going to a concert or whatever."
Quite - where there's a will there's a way. 
I think too many guys join sites lke this expecting to click on some pics, send a few winks and then shag away.
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month
That makes no sense at all.
So how can you find the time to meet then? The situation you're unhappy about is a non-starter by your own roundabout admission due to circumstances.
I work shift work, often unsociable hours.
I ain't meeting now because I don't want to, but what I used to do was make an effort once every couple of months and book a days holiday so I could go to a club or organised social.
I couldn't see another way round it unless I expected to make zero effort and have someone turn up at my house for a fuck n go or stop off somewhere for a quick shag on the way to work.
Now, I'm sure some men would be fine with that, however, I wasn't. Part and parcel of the enjoyment was making the effort to pamper myself and make an event of it. Much like going to a concert or whatever.
Quite - where there's a will there's a way.
I think too many guys join sites lke this expecting to click on some pics, send a few winks and then shag away.
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Totally. I would also be incredibly pissed off if I HAD made an effort and the person I was meeting didn't.... because they just wanted a fuck n go whilst passing on their way to/from work. I'd feel like no more than a penis receptacle who wasn't seen to be worth any effort whatsoever. Fuck that shit, proper damaging to your confidence and self esteem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Half of this thread has disappeared......
That's true! Someone must have reported the posts where OP showed what a nice and non-judgemental person he is... 
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Why delete something that in a time when female safety is in sharp focus (rightly so) showed the OPs true colours and essentially acted as a warning to others?
KJ |
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"Half of this thread has disappeared......
That's true! Someone must have reported the posts where OP showed what a nice and non-judgemental person he is...
Why delete something that in a time when female safety is in sharp focus (rightly so) showed the OPs true colours and essentially acted as a warning to others?
KJ "
Exactly our thoughts. |
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month
Making excuses won't improve your chances, making more effort will. He's a surgeon ! Hope you never need one..."
If he was he'd be knee deep in nurses! |
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"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month
Making excuses won't improve your chances, making more effort will. He's a surgeon ! Hope you never need one...
If he was he'd be knee deep in nurses!"
Modern nurses are more interested in men with more complete personalities! |
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"Half of this thread has disappeared......
That's true! Someone must have reported the posts where OP showed what a nice and non-judgemental person he is...
Why delete something that in a time when female safety is in sharp focus (rightly so) showed the OPs true colours and essentially acted as a warning to others?
KJ "
Trouble is there's nothing to stop anyone who's been 'outed' (whether for being insulting or posting fake pics) from just leaving then rejoining the site under a new name. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How hard is it on here to get a meet ! I've only been in the country over a year & have not many friends, My taxi friend recommend this for me but nothing happening "
Where has your rude, misogynistic comment about a woman’s vagina gone!?
We all need to see that alarm bell!!! |
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By *JBezantMan
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Due to my profession with the NHS, I work 12-15 hours a day or nights, can't make clubs or chance to make friends ?? Will give it till the end of the month
Making excuses won't improve your chances, making more effort will. He's a surgeon ! Hope you never need one...
How do you know? And even surgeons need breaks/days off to recover. I wouldn't want an overworked and overtired surgeon working on me, if I had a choice. "
Unfortunately In this country you don’t have a choice! Cut the guy some slack, healthcare professionals have a ridiculous work load. |
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By *JBezantMan
over a year ago
Manchester |
"How hard is it on here to get a meet ! I've only been in the country over a year & have not many friends, My taxi friend recommend this for me but nothing happening
Where has your rude, misogynistic comment about a woman’s vagina gone!?
We all need to see that alarm bell!!! "
Ahh, didn’t see this  |
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"How hard is it on here to get a meet ! I've only been in the country over a year & have not many friends, My taxi friend recommend this for me but nothing happening "
Did you put this much effort into coming to the UK?
“Looking for nsa fun” and no photos. Look at it from a woman’s perspective, would you be interested in you if you saw that profile?
I then looked at all your posts on here and they are 3 or 4 word messages. A woman would look at that and wonder if you put that much effort into pleasing them.
Put the effort in. I meet at least once a week (often repeat/regular meets) and I’m no looker. |
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Your profile is your shop windiw & yours says zilch
No profile pic, no profile photos & a one line bio, it looks lazy & like you've put no effort on so that's what I'd presume a meet woukd be like
There's over a 1000 guys to every female on this site or some crazy similar statistic so you really need to put the effort in if you want success some simple changes coild make your time here so much more fun |
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We stick to bumping into people in clubs rather than here for meets. Get to meet people face to face and get know pretty early on if it's going to work. If not there's plenty more fish in the venue so you can move on. Plus not weeks of exchanging messages with the possibility of being stood up or ghosted. Clubs are great. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Look at your profile and ask yourself would you meet you _ased on that profile.
5 words for a profile write up.
No photos and a shadow for an avatar.
No effort in your profile suggest that you will not put in any effort during a meet.
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"How hard is it on here to get a meet ! I've only been in the country over a year & have not many friends, My taxi friend recommend this for me but nothing happening "
You literally have a blank profile what do you expect..
Sorry but feel you need a reality check. |
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"How hard is it on here to get a meet ! I've only been in the country over a year & have not many friends, My taxi friend recommend this for me but nothing happening
Did you put this much effort into coming to the UK?
“Looking for nsa fun” and no photos. Look at it from a woman’s perspective, would you be interested in you if you saw that profile?
I then looked at all your posts on here and they are 3 or 4 word messages. A woman would look at that and wonder if you put that much effort into pleasing them.
Put the effort in. I meet at least once a week (often repeat/regular meets) and I’m no looker. "
And you’re not even replying to this thread! People are putting effort in to reply to you and try and help you and you’ve done nothing about changing your account despite being online in the last 24 hours.
In fact, I’ve put more effort in this reply that you’ve put in your entire time on fab |
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"How hard is it on here to get a meet ! I've only been in the country over a year & have not many friends, My taxi friend recommend this for me but nothing happening
Did you put this much effort into coming to the UK?
“Looking for nsa fun” and no photos. Look at it from a woman’s perspective, would you be interested in you if you saw that profile?
I then looked at all your posts on here and they are 3 or 4 word messages. A woman would look at that and wonder if you put that much effort into pleasing them.
Put the effort in. I meet at least once a week (often repeat/regular meets) and I’m no looker.
And you’re not even replying to this thread! People are putting effort in to reply to you and try and help you and you’ve done nothing about changing your account despite being online in the last 24 hours.
In fact, I’ve put more effort in this reply that you’ve put in your entire time on fab "
He replied to some previous posts (some of them got removed), and those replies did not put him in the best of lights. He may have earned himself a time-out, that's why we haven't heard from him. And believe me, it's for the best |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"How hard is it on here to get a meet ! I've only been in the country over a year & have not many friends, My taxi friend recommend this for me but nothing happening
Did you put this much effort into coming to the UK?
“Looking for nsa fun” and no photos. Look at it from a woman’s perspective, would you be interested in you if you saw that profile?
I then looked at all your posts on here and they are 3 or 4 word messages. A woman would look at that and wonder if you put that much effort into pleasing them.
Put the effort in. I meet at least once a week (often repeat/regular meets) and I’m no looker.
And you’re not even replying to this thread! People are putting effort in to reply to you and try and help you and you’ve done nothing about changing your account despite being online in the last 24 hours.
In fact, I’ve put more effort in this reply that you’ve put in your entire time on fab
He replied to some previous posts (some of them got removed), and those replies did not put him in the best of lights. He may have earned himself a time-out, that's why we haven't heard from him. And believe me, it's for the best "
Agree I read the comments. They were not nice |
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