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"It's same here! Read all the profiles, been respectfull, and no messages back for the least! Maybe doing something wrong..." Discretion is a must on your profile coupled with cannot accommodate suggests your here to cheat on a partner so a huge volume of the couples and ladies will pass you by based on that. To answer the OP The main factor is on fab there are literally hundreds of single males to every 1 single female or couple. (do some local searches to see) Sadly due to covid lockdowns an even bigger influx of single males came to the site, most just looking for keyboard wanking, dreamers and fantasists with zero intention of ever meeting. All the couples and single females we know only meet via clubs or at clubs and social events. If you are serious about become a swinger and embracing the lifestyle then attend clubs, social events build up a reputation for been a decent guy who can perform in front of others (many can't). In time you'll get invited to private swinging parties and become a part of your local swinging community. If your here hoping for an easy fuck that not going to happen and you would potentially have more success on Tinder or pof etc as the male / female ratios are far more in balance. A one or 2 sentence profile doesn't give people much and they will just click the next single guys profile. KJ | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " If you message a female, the first thing she does is look at your profile to find out more about you. There have been loads of posts about making the best of your profile, so do a search and have a read. Also think about adding a variety of photos to interest people. When you message ladies, are you sending out a standard message or writing a unique one reflecting what it says in her profile? These pointers should help improve your chances. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. " We aren’t after single guys but it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to recognise you have to make an effort to stand apart from the (massive) pack. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " too many guys chasing too few women here | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " Couple or single man? Which is it. If its a couple where is the other half. That would immediately be a no from me | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. " I get what you mean and yes i could enhance profile but i also think like the amount you have it just too much. Arent we supposed to get to know one another in talking rather than write so much description about ourselves? | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. I get what you mean and yes i could enhance profile but i also think like the amount you have it just too much. Arent we supposed to get to know one another in talking rather than write so much description about ourselves? " I can't emphasise enough, search on the forums and find an organised social...and go ...if your half normal and presentable you'll meet lots of nice ladies ... | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " You've been a member 6 months and only managed to put few words together, a bio is the gateway to unlock potential as well as photos that also others find interesting. My advice browse the site other profiles for ideas hopefully this helps you to begin with yours, and make sure it fits around you as a person.this is the tools to begin and you might receive a message before you need to send one. Good luck pal | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. I get what you mean and yes i could enhance profile but i also think like the amount you have it just too much. Arent we supposed to get to know one another in talking rather than write so much description about ourselves? " If you think your approach works better then stick to your guns buddy  | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. I get what you mean and yes i could enhance profile but i also think like the amount you have it just too much. Arent we supposed to get to know one another in talking rather than write so much description about ourselves? " I get you. But mine is a response to the amount of drivel I receive. And is around a 2 minute read if that. You will understand what we have to put up with if you read it. It also gives people something to latch onto and talk about because I also instant delete the messages that go straight to sex talk. Which is generally cringe from strangers on the Internet. This isn't Instashag. Lack of effort in the profile = lack of effort in the bedroom. You fall squarely in the dull category I mention and there are hundreds of more interesting and enticing profiles. Anyway, that's all from me. Except, avoid calling us females. Proper pet peeve. I am a woman. Not an animal. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. I get what you mean and yes i could enhance profile but i also think like the amount you have it just too much. Arent we supposed to get to know one another in talking rather than write so much description about ourselves? " But if there's fuck all there to make people think "oooooo, that's interesting I'd love to hear more about that" or "oooooo, we have things in common, I might be interested in finding out more and see if there's a spark" what do you suggest? If I'm choosing a book I read the blurb to decide whether it sounds like something I'd be into, I don't just look at the cover and start at chapter 1 to learn 3 hours of reading later it's about combine harvester repair but I didn't know what all the references were so I carried on regardless | |||
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" too many guys chasing too few women here" This, in a nutshell. And pretty much the same in the clubs too  | |||
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"Anyone else shocked by the number of male profiles stating discretion a must (probably cheating) who draw attention to themselves by posting to complain about not meeting? If you can't work it out for yourselves, you're in the wrong place! "And they spell it wrong.  | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " Not sure that anyone cares what degree you have in order to find you attractive? Doesn't say anything about you either. Events / forum or both - I often talk to guys via the forum. I'd probably ignore them if they messaged. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " No it’s not just you. As someone else said, every day there are guys whining on here about not having a stream of women after them just because they signed up to Fab. It doesn’t work like that. It’s a swingers site, not an all you can get free sex with desperate women site | |||
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"It's same here! Read all the profiles, been respectfull, and no messages back for the least! Maybe doing something wrong..." Or perhaps not doing something right? | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. No it’s not just you. As someone else said, every day there are guys whining on here about not having a stream of women after them just because they signed up to Fab. It doesn’t work like that. It’s a swingers site, not an all you can get free sex with desperate women site "It’s an all you can get free sex site with desperate men tho  | |||
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"Anyone else shocked by the number of male profiles stating discretion a must (probably cheating) who draw attention to themselves by posting to complain about not meeting? If you can't work it out for yourselves, you're in the wrong place! "A lot of people expect discretion , couples and ladies … as well ., | |||
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"It’s an all you can get free sex site with desperate men tho " | |||
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"Anyone else shocked by the number of male profiles stating discretion a must (probably cheating) who draw attention to themselves by posting to complain about not meeting? If you can't work it out for yourselves, you're in the wrong place!
A lot of people expect discretion , couples and ladies … as well .,"Absolutely, and they can usually accommodate! It's not a guarantee, but when we see it on a male profile..... | |||
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"Go to organised socials, save years of fruitless messaging ... " Even that is starting to get tricky. There's a few organised socials within an hour drive of here, they're all couples-only. Recently the only club in the area that was single man friendly changed their rules so that we must arrive as the guest of a couple. Yes it does suck hearing guys constantly complaining about not being able to meet, but it seems to me to be increasingly difficult to break into the scene even when you do try and do everything right. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. No it’s not just you. As someone else said, every day there are guys whining on here about not having a stream of women after them just because they signed up to Fab. It doesn’t work like that. It’s a swingers site, not an all you can get free sex with desperate women site
It’s an all you can get free sex site with desperate men tho "For which the women of fab are eternally grateful  | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. I get what you mean and yes i could enhance profile but i also think like the amount you have it just too much. Arent we supposed to get to know one another in talking rather than write so much description about ourselves? " Regarding getting to know one another through chatting... Well women don't need to do that as there are SO many men to so few women. There is more chance of me replying to someone if they have a decent profile. | |||
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"OP. I've been on here for over 12 years, and the situation you are in has always been the same. It is a "numbers game", ie, you are up against 100's, if not, more guys all seeking the same goal. Pre-Covid, it could take any guy a year to get somewhere. Now, as we emerge from a pandemic in some ways, it's more difficult! This isn't an Instant Meet site. You really have to "sell" yourself, to make you and your profile stand out against the rest. You've no facial pics, is there a reason you cannot put 1 up? The ladies like to see who you are! In your profile, say what you can contribute to as well as what you'd seek from a meet. Get into the Forums, get to Socials, even any clubs, as it is all about getting "noticed". You'll need bags of Patience and Perseverance, plus a thick skin when messages are ignored or blocked. It's tough, I know, but your input can pay dividends if you work at it! Good Luck." OP listen to this guy, see his verifications the proofs in the pudding! Effort in = Reward out. Those who embrace the swinging scene and all it has to offer, are respectful, decent guys by nature prapred to put the time in will ultimately do well. KJ | |||
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"It's same here! Read all the profiles, been respectfull, and no messages back for the least! Maybe doing something wrong... Discretion is a must on your profile coupled with cannot accommodate suggests your here to cheat on a partner so a huge volume of the couples and ladies will pass you by based on that. To answer the OP The main factor is on fab there are literally hundreds of single males to every 1 single female or couple. (do some local searches to see) Sadly due to covid lockdowns an even bigger influx of single males came to the site, most just looking for keyboard wanking, dreamers and fantasists with zero intention of ever meeting. All the couples and single females we know only meet via clubs or at clubs and social events. If you are serious about become a swinger and embracing the lifestyle then attend clubs, social events build up a reputation for been a decent guy who can perform in front of others (many can't). In time you'll get invited to private swinging parties and become a part of your local swinging community. If your here hoping for an easy fuck that not going to happen and you would potentially have more success on Tinder or pof etc as the male / female ratios are far more in balance. A one or 2 sentence profile doesn't give people much and they will just click the next single guys profile. KJ" This pretty much covers everything! | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. No it’s not just you. As someone else said, every day there are guys whining on here about not having a stream of women after them just because they signed up to Fab. It doesn’t work like that. It’s a swingers site, not an all you can get free sex with desperate women site
It’s an all you can get free sex site with desperate men tho
For which the women of fab are eternally grateful "Good to hear | |||
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"Just go to a club. You will meet so many lovely people. I see men with terrible profiles, no pics get meets on here, so alot of the time it doesn't matter what your profile is like. Get to a club and meet people. "Same position as OP, but I guess, perseverance and a thick skin is the key! Is the ratio in a club more balanced such that there is more of a chance being able to connect with women than here on Fab? | |||
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"Just go to a club. You will meet so many lovely people. I see men with terrible profiles, no pics get meets on here, so alot of the time it doesn't matter what your profile is like. Get to a club and meet people.
Same position as OP, but I guess, perseverance and a thick skin is the key! Is the ratio in a club more balanced such that there is more of a chance being able to connect with women than here on Fab? "The short answer here is no. My experience of the club scene is it’s mainly couples and single guys, with occasionally one or two single females. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. " Would it be better to just call us females something else then? | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? " How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. " No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf." Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. | |||
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"Just go to a club. You will meet so many lovely people. I see men with terrible profiles, no pics get meets on here, so alot of the time it doesn't matter what your profile is like. Get to a club and meet people.
Same position as OP, but I guess, perseverance and a thick skin is the key! Is the ratio in a club more balanced such that there is more of a chance being able to connect with women than here on Fab?
The short answer here is no. My experience of the club scene is it’s mainly couples and single guys, with occasionally one or two single females. "I used to suggest going to a club but not anymore. As OP said above single females or let’s say unicorns are a rare occurrence in a club. Additionally if you don’t understand the club scene, is shy, not confident and most of all incapable of initiating a conversation going to a club could be an unpleasant experience. Finally when comes to fun in a club if you cannot engage in group fun or at least a MFM situation where the woman is always the centre of attention a club may not be the right choice. | |||
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"Just go to a club. You will meet so many lovely people. I see men with terrible profiles, no pics get meets on here, so alot of the time it doesn't matter what your profile is like. Get to a club and meet people.
Same position as OP, but I guess, perseverance and a thick skin is the key! Is the ratio in a club more balanced such that there is more of a chance being able to connect with women than here on Fab? "Evenings, yes. Friday night at club F, or curvy girls, are often close to a 1:1 ratio. In my experience daytime events are a bit of a hotel breakfast. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. " What does ff mean you’re looking for on your profile then ? | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. What does ff mean you’re looking for on your profile then ? " I'm sorry, I don't understand your question. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. " Good for you but I was born a female as you were born a male, my birth certificate doesn't say sex- woman it says sex-female. Is my birth certificate incorrect or are you? Waste less time online and more time learning biogolgy. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. Good for you but I was born a female as you were born a male, my birth certificate doesn't say sex- woman it says sex-female. Is my birth certificate incorrect or are you? Waste less time online and more time learning biogolgy. " If you can't tell the difference between an official document and the way people say more than they mean to in how they choose their words, I don't know how to help you. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. Good for you but I was born a female as you were born a male, my birth certificate doesn't say sex- woman it says sex-female. Is my birth certificate incorrect or are you? Waste less time online and more time learning biogolgy. If you can't tell the difference between an official document and the way people say more than they mean to in how they choose their words, I don't know how to help you." Oh ffs telling a woman what she can call herself | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. Good for you but I was born a female as you were born a male, my birth certificate doesn't say sex- woman it says sex-female. Is my birth certificate incorrect or are you? Waste less time online and more time learning biogolgy. If you can't tell the difference between an official document and the way people say more than they mean to in how they choose their words, I don't know how to help you." I don't need your help, I say what I think and you say what you think but as it has to do with my gender and not yours perhaps you should just leave it. I will stick to my official document sex classification thanks | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " its a bull shit site mate.Far easier On Pof.And fitter females. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. its a bull shit site mate.Far easier On Pof.And fitter females." Yet you are still here..... | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. What does ff mean you’re looking for on your profile then ? I'm sorry, I don't understand your question. " On your “looking for” on your profile it says you’re looking for MF couples and FF couples . What’s for the f stand for in both instances ? | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. I get what you mean and yes i could enhance profile but i also think like the amount you have it just too much. Arent we supposed to get to know one another in talking rather than write so much description about ourselves? I get you. But mine is a response to the amount of drivel I receive. And is around a 2 minute read if that. You will understand what we have to put up with if you read it. It also gives people something to latch onto and talk about because I also instant delete the messages that go straight to sex talk. Which is generally cringe from strangers on the Internet. This isn't Instashag. Lack of effort in the profile = lack of effort in the bedroom. You fall squarely in the dull category I mention and there are hundreds of more interesting and enticing profiles. Anyway, that's all from me. Except, avoid calling us females. Proper pet peeve. I am a woman. Not an animal. " Thanks for your advice and i have put a little more in my bio changed stuff as per other's advice. Will add more when i know what to add haha. No i get that you get many messages that will not be appropriate but i do start convos in a friendly manner but i guess theres not enough excitement in just an everyday small talk. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Empty profiles just do so very little for me. Instant delete. I get what you mean and yes i could enhance profile but i also think like the amount you have it just too much. Arent we supposed to get to know one another in talking rather than write so much description about ourselves? But if there's fuck all there to make people think "oooooo, that's interesting I'd love to hear more about that" or "oooooo, we have things in common, I might be interested in finding out more and see if there's a spark" what do you suggest? If I'm choosing a book I read the blurb to decide whether it sounds like something I'd be into, I don't just look at the cover and start at chapter 1 to learn 3 hours of reading later it's about combine harvester repair but I didn't know what all the references were so I carried on regardless " I get what you mean and you have put that quite well. Thank you for the advice, i hope it starts to work haha. I am also going to think about going to socials, its just that i dont think theres anything in sheffield. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. Good for you but I was born a female as you were born a male, my birth certificate doesn't say sex- woman it says sex-female. Is my birth certificate incorrect or are you? Waste less time online and more time learning biogolgy. If you can't tell the difference between an official document and the way people say more than they mean to in how they choose their words, I don't know how to help you." There's a lot of presuming there over the 'female' word and how people are using it within conversation. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. Good for you but I was born a female as you were born a male, my birth certificate doesn't say sex- woman it says sex-female. Is my birth certificate incorrect or are you? Waste less time online and more time learning biogolgy. If you can't tell the difference between an official document and the way people say more than they mean to in how they choose their words, I don't know how to help you. Oh ffs telling a woman what she can call herself "Absolutely not. I was pointing out that you can tell a lot about what words – in this case the original poster, who is a man – chooses to use. Often more than they intend to give away. I genuinely don't know how I can make this any simpler for you. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. " First of all English is my second language and i didnt even realise that was any less respectful than women; second, I actually thought the opposite. Either way thank you for highlighting : ) | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. What does ff mean you’re looking for on your profile then ? I'm sorry, I don't understand your question. On your “looking for” on your profile it says you’re looking for MF couples and FF couples . What’s for the f stand for in both instances ? " Copying and pasting myself: If you can't tell the difference between an official document and the way people say more than they mean to in how they choose their words, I don't know how to help you. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. Good for you but I was born a female as you were born a male, my birth certificate doesn't say sex- woman it says sex-female. Is my birth certificate incorrect or are you? Waste less time online and more time learning biogolgy. If you can't tell the difference between an official document and the way people say more than they mean to in how they choose their words, I don't know how to help you. Oh ffs telling a woman what she can call herself
Absolutely not. I was pointing out that you can tell a lot about what words – in this case the original poster, who is a man – chooses to use. Often more than they intend to give away.
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. First of all English is my second language and i didnt even realise that was any less respectful than women; second, I actually thought the opposite. Either way thank you for highlighting : ) " You're welcome, and it's okay. You're doing better with written English than some native speakers are! I flagged it up because there are some very unpleasant people on the internet who unintentionally out themselves in the way they talk about women. Various incels, MRAs and other people who've been radicalised by the manosphere will often refuse to use the word "woman". They start using only "female", then "femoid", and then "foid". By the time they're that far gone, they're well on their way to violence and terrorism. It's the same with transphobes. You'll see them avoiding "woman" and coming up with constructions like "adult human female" in their ongoing attempts to denigrate and erase trans people. Now, obviously that's not to say that the word "female" is problematic in every context; far from it. It's just worth noting that coming from a certain kind of man on certain parts of the internet, any moaning about "females" rather than "women" is to many people – myself included – a red flag. Same as when some guy starts banging on about "sexual market value" or "hypergamy" or whatever shit – it's a tell that they probably hold some pretty awful views and are best avoided. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. Good for you but I was born a female as you were born a male, my birth certificate doesn't say sex- woman it says sex-female. Is my birth certificate incorrect or are you? Waste less time online and more time learning biogolgy. If you can't tell the difference between an official document and the way people say more than they mean to in how they choose their words, I don't know how to help you. Oh ffs telling a woman what she can call herself
Absolutely not. I was pointing out that you can tell a lot about what words – in this case the original poster, who is a man – chooses to use. Often more than they intend to give away.
I genuinely don't know how I can make this any simpler for you.
...again you are presuming he had other intentions when writing the female word in his context?
I'm trying to figure your mindset too, if that's ok.....
(Not ganging up, just incase others think so)"Thank you for the disclaimer – I do feel pretty ganged-up-on, but that's the nature of internet forums. Please see my previous response to the OP about why I consider someone, especially a man, choosing "female" over "woman" to be a potential red flag. | |||
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Most are restricted on single men but if you book on their websites/ forums in good time and make contacts with hosts it’s doable… then get added to kik groups to meet others
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. First of all English is my second language and i didnt even realise that was any less respectful than women; second, I actually thought the opposite. Either way thank you for highlighting : ) " | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. Good for you but I was born a female as you were born a male, my birth certificate doesn't say sex- woman it says sex-female. Is my birth certificate incorrect or are you? Waste less time online and more time learning biogolgy. If you can't tell the difference between an official document and the way people say more than they mean to in how they choose their words, I don't know how to help you. Oh ffs telling a woman what she can call herself
Absolutely not. I was pointing out that you can tell a lot about what words – in this case the original poster, who is a man – chooses to use. Often more than they intend to give away.
I genuinely don't know how I can make this any simpler for you.
...again you are presuming he had other intentions when writing the female word in his context?
I'm trying to figure your mindset too, if that's ok.....
(Not ganging up, just incase others think so)
Thank you for the disclaimer – I do feel pretty ganged-up-on, but that's the nature of internet forums.
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Maybe it’s because you’re referring to women as “females”. Red flag choice of words right there. Would it be better to just call us females something else then? How about using the word "women"? Refusing to say "women" and preferring "females" is usually an indicator that the speaker holds some pretty unpleasant views. It's usually only one more step from there to "adult human female" or "foid", depending which flavour of horribleness the speaker is descending into. If you don't know what I'm talking about, great, you spend less time online than I do. Hah. No I'm a female, please don't take offence on my behalf. Sorry. Can't help it. I despise misogynists and transphobes. First of all English is my second language and i didnt even realise that was any less respectful than women; second, I actually thought the opposite. Either way thank you for highlighting : ) You're welcome, and it's okay. You're doing better with written English than some native speakers are! I flagged it up because there are some very unpleasant people on the internet who unintentionally out themselves in the way they talk about women. Various incels, MRAs and other people who've been radicalised by the manosphere will often refuse to use the word "woman". They start using only "female", then "femoid", and then "foid". By the time they're that far gone, they're well on their way to violence and terrorism. It's the same with transphobes. You'll see them avoiding "woman" and coming up with constructions like "adult human female" in their ongoing attempts to denigrate and erase trans people. Now, obviously that's not to say that the word "female" is problematic in every context; far from it. It's just worth noting that coming from a certain kind of man on certain parts of the internet, any moaning about "females" rather than "women" is to many people – myself included – a red flag. Same as when some guy starts banging on about "sexual market value" or "hypergamy" or whatever shit – it's a tell that they probably hold some pretty awful views and are best avoided. " Still mystified why you've told a woman she can't call herself a female. And "adult human female" isn't a construction it's a dictionary definition of woman.  I do get your red flag about incels etc using "female" but you seem to be trying to police language rather than merely warn? | |||
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"Many of us single women including myself that have been subjected to abuse and aggression from single men,because we wouldn't meet through lockdowns or we won't meet at a place they have picked, most single women including myself prefer to meet in a swingers club where its safer and also we read the profiles to see if you are what we are wanting, we get surges of messages of men telling us what they want to do to us, trying to add us, even men asking what size our boobs are and how big of a cock we can take. Its very hard atm to find a guy that is respectful, that actually wants to get to know the women first find instead of just jumping into sex. I've had guys call me a prostitute and a whore and other names because I wouldnt ditch my daughter for them. So yeah us single women are being picky not to make it hard for you single guys but because of all the nastiness we have previously faced" Sorry to hear, particularly about your child - that is grim. It makes you wary doesn't it? | |||
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"In 3 years i think I've had 4 women offer to meet and ive only fancied 1 (who i got a reply from yesterday). I agree it is much easier to go out to a bar and chat to a few women as that way you can make a connection whereas here everyone is very blunt about criteria and there is no chance to show your personality properly." I think the forum is the way. The guys who are making an effort on here are not having any issue meeting women! | |||
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"Many of us single women including myself that have been subjected to abuse and aggression from single men,because we wouldn't meet through lockdowns or we won't meet at a place they have picked, most single women including myself prefer to meet in a swingers club where its safer and also we read the profiles to see if you are what we are wanting, we get surges of messages of men telling us what they want to do to us, trying to add us, even men asking what size our boobs are and how big of a cock we can take. Its very hard atm to find a guy that is respectful, that actually wants to get to know the women first find instead of just jumping into sex. I've had guys call me a prostitute and a whore and other names because I wouldnt ditch my daughter for them. So yeah us single women are being picky not to make it hard for you single guys but because of all the nastiness we have previously faced Sorry to hear, particularly about your child - that is grim. It makes you wary doesn't it? " It's not just single women who get it, couples do too. It's espcially vile in situations such as yours though when you have a young child to think of. | |||
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"the amount of emails we get is unreal , we put a lets meet add up for say the club we get a cany few thinking its private house meet which shows the persons seen the meet today icon , and aint bothered to read the add itself . or sent a 1 liner which again shows aint bothered to read the profile , so advice , read the persons profile fully , then think how best to word your email so that it fits what they are looking for ,as above clubs socials are best to get know within the scene , " Your in our region where we are rather sausage heavy. As a couple that ran a social event last month (with a lot of attendees), I can tell.you this for nothing. Most dont even attend the socials. We had about 20 put their names down, we had a couple drop out due to being pinged who acctually took the time to let us know they couldnt attended, 7 who never even bothered to open the message with the details of the meet and out of the last 10, I think maybe 1 showed up, who came with a single fem. Most couples came and most single women came though. On the flip side, we ran a small "couples only" social this last weekend (and was clear about it being couples only) but quite a few guys didnt bother to read and wanted to attend. Even worse was the 3 or 4 "fwb couples" who all wanted to come but at the last moment all the female halves where not available. I really dont want to sound like I'm ranting about guys because I'm not. I just want the single guys in this site to understand why it's hard for them. It's because once your on fab long enough, you realise all the piss taking comes from the majority of guys (not all I accept) who just dont give a shit or respect anyone else. They just want a shag and that's it no matter how they get it. | |||
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"Many of us single women including myself that have been subjected to abuse and aggression from single men,because we wouldn't meet through lockdowns or we won't meet at a place they have picked, most single women including myself prefer to meet in a swingers club where its safer and also we read the profiles to see if you are what we are wanting, we get surges of messages of men telling us what they want to do to us, trying to add us, even men asking what size our boobs are and how big of a cock we can take. Its very hard atm to find a guy that is respectful, that actually wants to get to know the women first find instead of just jumping into sex. I've had guys call me a prostitute and a whore and other names because I wouldnt ditch my daughter for them. So yeah us single women are being picky not to make it hard for you single guys but because of all the nastiness we have previously faced Sorry to hear, particularly about your child - that is grim. It makes you wary doesn't it? It's not just single women who get it, couples do too. It's espcially vile in situations such as yours though when you have a young child to think of." Thats awful that couples get abuse too ,it's not right , some men are spoiling this site and I can understand why more couples only want single females | |||
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"Many of us single women including myself that have been subjected to abuse and aggression from single men,because we wouldn't meet through lockdowns or we won't meet at a place they have picked, most single women including myself prefer to meet in a swingers club where its safer and also we read the profiles to see if you are what we are wanting, we get surges of messages of men telling us what they want to do to us, trying to add us, even men asking what size our boobs are and how big of a cock we can take. Its very hard atm to find a guy that is respectful, that actually wants to get to know the women first find instead of just jumping into sex. I've had guys call me a prostitute and a whore and other names because I wouldnt ditch my daughter for them. So yeah us single women are being picky not to make it hard for you single guys but because of all the nastiness we have previously faced Sorry to hear, particularly about your child - that is grim. It makes you wary doesn't it? " Definitely does just shows how much respect they have for other people | |||
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"Same here waiting to find a girl ??" Christ we’re all boloxed if you can’t find one with that thing lol | |||
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"I think a lot of guys join a site like this and think the women will be desperate to just sleep with anyone. " I think they do. So many messages asking to meet now on their way home from work. They don’t even send a picture. | |||
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"In 3 years i think I've had 4 women offer to meet and ive only fancied 1 (who i got a reply from yesterday). I agree it is much easier to go out to a bar and chat to a few women as that way you can make a connection whereas here everyone is very blunt about criteria and there is no chance to show your personality properly. I think the forum is the way. The guys who are making an effort on here are not having any issue meeting women! " I’ve met two women as a direct result of using the forum, so to a point I can agree it CAN work, but as I’ve been using Fab for 9 years now, I wouldn’t rely on it | |||
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"Not only you... been here over 2 yes on two accounts bearly anyone msg back... thousands msgs sent and read..." Might that not have something to do with the inscrutable profile? No information….just some bizarre and fairly meaningless percentage scores Just sayin | |||
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"Not only you... been here over 2 yes on two accounts bearly anyone msg back... thousands msgs sent and read..." Why would you keep sending messages when women don't reply to them? If it's not working.  I suspect your profile is the reason tho
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"Go on POF 100% easier" Absolutely!! All of the single men (and the not so single ones) that are struggling to meet women should all leave and join POF!! | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " I have loads of messages every day. If I read it and was interested I’d look at your profile. Your first photo is of a woman sucking your cock. I wouldn’t even look any further. | |||
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"Best going to the clubs " Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab? | |||
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"Best going to the clubs Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab? "I dunno. I never have a hard time finding ladies to play with. | |||
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"Best going to the clubs Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab?
I dunno. I never have a hard time finding ladies to play with. "I did, whenever I went to Club f! It was mainly couples or other single guys in whenever I went, rarely any single ladies | |||
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"Best going to the clubs Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab?
I dunno. I never have a hard time finding ladies to play with.
I did, whenever I went to Club f! It was mainly couples or other single guys in whenever I went, rarely any single ladies "Like I said, that’s not been my experience, but hey. That was years ago, come back, talk to the regulars, see if owt’s changed. | |||
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"Best going to the clubs Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab?
I dunno. I never have a hard time finding ladies to play with.
I did, whenever I went to Club f! It was mainly couples or other single guys in whenever I went, rarely any single ladies
Like I said, that’s not been my experience, but hey. That was years ago, come back, talk to the regulars, see if owt’s changed. "Well, Sue did message me a little while back, asking me if I could get over as they had more women booked in than guys one night lol Unfortunately I was in Leeds that weekend, but I’m sure it would have been an epic night! | |||
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"Best going to the clubs Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab? "This is false. You ask me why I say this? Because I attend a lot of club events where there are single women in abundance, these same women who wish more single guys would attend. All boils down to the venue you go, and the night you go on. But trust me, there certainly ARE single women who attend clubs. | |||
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"Best going to the clubs Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab?
This is false. You ask me why I say this? Because I attend a lot of club events where there are single women in abundance, these same women who wish more single guys would attend. All boils down to the venue you go, and the night you go on. But trust me, there certainly ARE single women who attend clubs. "What he said! Talking to people in person is so much more effective than on here, but if your just looking for an easy shag then a club isn't the best place for you. | |||
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"Best going to the clubs Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab?
This is false. You ask me why I say this? Because I attend a lot of club events where there are single women in abundance, these same women who wish more single guys would attend. All boils down to the venue you go, and the night you go on. But trust me, there certainly ARE single women who attend clubs. "I can't speak to you directly, as you have single guys blocked, but feel free to message me if you like. Your veris are all from attending BBW/Curvy Girl events, which wouldn't be my first choice, but you say they are under-subscribed by single guys.....? | |||
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"Best going to the clubs Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab?
This is false. You ask me why I say this? Because I attend a lot of club events where there are single women in abundance, these same women who wish more single guys would attend. All boils down to the venue you go, and the night you go on. But trust me, there certainly ARE single women who attend clubs.
I can't speak to you directly, as you have single guys blocked, but feel free to message me if you like. Your veris are all from attending BBW/Curvy Girl events, which wouldn't be my first choice, but you say they are under-subscribed by single guys.....?"It’s alright, we can keep the conversation right here. Yes, I do attend those events aimed at BBW/Curvy girl nights because they are the events I enjoy however I have attended events that aren’t of that nature too. Not really sure what you were getting at by your comment but to me it sounded like you were saying that the events I attend are lacking in men because of the type of women who attend… although please do correct me if I’m wrong. At the end of the day, you need to find the events that cater to your preference/what you like as there’s something out there for everyone. Variety is the spice of life and all that | |||
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Classic example of a profile with more warning lights than the tardis.
In our view these days OP should keep it exactly as it is as he obviously feels it best represents him.
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"It's same here! Read all the profiles, been respectfull, and no messages back for the least! Maybe doing something wrong..." Over one year to write a 33 word profile. | |||
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"Best going to the clubs Why go to clubs, which have even less single women in than Fab?
This is false. You ask me why I say this? Because I attend a lot of club events where there are single women in abundance, these same women who wish more single guys would attend. All boils down to the venue you go, and the night you go on. But trust me, there certainly ARE single women who attend clubs.
I can't speak to you directly, as you have single guys blocked, but feel free to message me if you like. Your veris are all from attending BBW/Curvy Girl events, which wouldn't be my first choice, but you say they are under-subscribed by single guys.....?
It’s alright, we can keep the conversation right here. Yes, I do attend those events aimed at BBW/Curvy girl nights because they are the events I enjoy however I have attended events that aren’t of that nature too. Not really sure what you were getting at by your comment but to me it sounded like you were saying that the events I attend are lacking in men because of the type of women who attend… although please do correct me if I’m wrong. At the end of the day, you need to find the events that cater to your preference/what you like as there’s something out there for everyone. Variety is the spice of life and all that "Thanks for your response
If you were looking for an undertone to my question, it was simply to clarify which events you say single ladies wish more single guys attended, that's all, you know, for future reference.... | |||
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"Women can be choosy as there are far more men than women so they usually only go for looks . From what I can see " What do you think they should go for? | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " Hard for couples too… | |||
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"It's same here! Read all the profiles, been respectfull, and no messages back for the least! Maybe doing something wrong..." You can't accommodate Can't travel ?? | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " This is social media not dating | |||
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"Women can be choosy as there are far more men than women so they usually only go for looks . From what I can see " Everyone should be choosy, not just women. As for only going for looks are you saying that men don’t? That would infer any holes a goal and I’m sure that’s not what you mean. | |||
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"Single guys have got to get to the clubs, most have events that cater for guys as well. Get on the forum and look for socials, be patient and it'll happen, plus it’s a given that you should be respectful. I enjoy it and I'm reasonably successful and I'm just an average Joe." ^^In a nutshell | |||
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"I think everyone struggles. It's why I don't bother trying to meet from messages on the site and just meet people who turn up at clubs" It’s just a pity there aren’t more single women in the clubs though | |||
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"I think everyone struggles. It's why I don't bother trying to meet from messages on the site and just meet people who turn up at clubs It’s just a pity there aren’t more single women in the clubs though "Not all single women in clubs are looking for sex | |||
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"I think everyone struggles. It's why I don't bother trying to meet from messages on the site and just meet people who turn up at clubs It’s just a pity there aren’t more single women in the clubs though "Pity there's not more (quality) single men at clubs | |||
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"I think everyone struggles. It's why I don't bother trying to meet from messages on the site and just meet people who turn up at clubs It’s just a pity there aren’t more single women in the clubs though
Pity there's not more (quality) single men at clubs"Perhaps some singles-only events could be run? We might each find what we're looking for.... | |||
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"There are all lesbian's " No they're not.... | |||
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"I think everyone struggles. It's why I don't bother trying to meet from messages on the site and just meet people who turn up at clubs It’s just a pity there aren’t more single women in the clubs though
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"It's same here! Read all the profiles, been respectfull, and no messages back for the least! Maybe doing something wrong... Discretion is a must on your profile coupled with cannot accommodate suggests your here to cheat on a partner so a huge volume of the couples and ladies will pass you by based on that. To answer the OP The main factor is on fab there are literally hundreds of single males to every 1 single female or couple. (do some local searches to see) Sadly due to covid lockdowns an even bigger influx of single males came to the site, most just looking for keyboard wanking, dreamers and fantasists with zero intention of ever meeting. All the couples and single females we know only meet via clubs or at clubs and social events. If you are serious about become a swinger and embracing the lifestyle then attend clubs, social events build up a reputation for been a decent guy who can perform in front of others (many can't). In time you'll get invited to private swinging parties and become a part of your local swinging community. If your here hoping for an easy fuck that not going to happen and you would potentially have more success on Tinder or pof etc as the male / female ratios are far more in balance. A one or 2 sentence profile doesn't give people much and they will just click the next single guys profile. KJ" That answer is absolutely spot on.
Contrary to what it says in our profile we do occasionally meet guys privately.
But never EVER from just a message on here. And we are actually looking for single guys.
We are always happy to meet in a club or at a social and if Mrs likes someone we can go from there.
It doesn't matter how well written the message is or how good he looks on his pics, he will only get an invite to meet us at one of the above.
The guys on here who don't (or can't) put more effort in than just sending a message are just wasting their time.
One or two might occasionally get lucky, the rest, forget it.
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"I think everyone struggles. It's why I don't bother trying to meet from messages on the site and just meet people who turn up at clubs It’s just a pity there aren’t more single women in the clubs though
Pity there's not more (quality) single men at clubs"Definitely to many wanking dead at clubs these days. | |||
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"There are all lesbian's " I hope so!!! | |||
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"Stop calling women females!!!!! You sound like Quark. " I believe English is his second language x | |||
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"Honestly, this site is a pure waste of time. I’m beginning to think most of the single female ‘profiles’ are fake!!" If you have evidence that most are then please report the profiles to admin | |||
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"Honestly, this site is a pure waste of time. I’m beginning to think most of the single female ‘profiles’ are fake!!" Because they don't want to meet you? | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " Refering to them as females won't be doing you any favours. What's the reason for this? Like 'women' is 2 letters shorter?? | |||
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"Honestly, this site is a pure waste of time. I’m beginning to think most of the single female ‘profiles’ are fake!!" What are you basing this on out of interest? | |||
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"It's same here! Read all the profiles, been respectfull, and no messages back for the least! Maybe doing something wrong... Discretion is a must on your profile coupled with cannot accommodate suggests your here to cheat on a partner so a huge volume of the couples and ladies will pass you by based on that. To answer the OP The main factor is on fab there are literally hundreds of single males to every 1 single female or couple. (do some local searches to see) Sadly due to covid lockdowns an even bigger influx of single males came to the site, most just looking for keyboard wanking, dreamers and fantasists with zero intention of ever meeting. All the couples and single females we know only meet via clubs or at clubs and social events. If you are serious about become a swinger and embracing the lifestyle then attend clubs, social events build up a reputation for been a decent guy who can perform in front of others (many can't). In time you'll get invited to private swinging parties and become a part of your local swinging community. If your here hoping for an easy fuck that not going to happen and you would potentially have more success on Tinder or pof etc as the male / female ratios are far more in balance. A one or 2 sentence profile doesn't give people much and they will just click the next single guys profile. KJ" I want to thank you for your post! As a single lady I've come across so many profiles like this and I just got tired giving tips to guys how to write their profiles to attract attention etc. I find it hurtful that such guys just use this site to get a quick lay. Swinging is a lifestyle we choose, it cannot be taught. It just happens organically. With this in mind, I'm so glad that there are nice people here who know how to be friends and how to have fun X
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"Honestly, this site is a pure waste of time. I’m beginning to think most of the single female ‘profiles’ are fake!!" Can you honestly say, after looking at your own profile, that you can’t believe women and couples aren’t interested in you? You’re not even verified as genuine by the site lol!
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" Can you honestly say, after looking at your own profile, that you can’t believe women and couples aren’t interested in you? You’re not even verified as genuine by the site lol!
You have one and a half lines of profile text, which only tells people what you’ve already ticked in your preferences anyway…… "Absolutely this. I’m sick of guys moaning about Women ignoring them when they have made zero effort with their profile. This is not a sex site. Nor should people expect to have women throwing themselves at them. Make an effort to become part of the swinging community, be respectful, “Wanna fuck now” messages deserve to be deleted. This site will never be successful for those that can’t be bothered to try. | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. " Your profile is pretty diabolical in all honesty,and really quite ignorant in how you perceive the more than curvy female,I wish you luck in your search,because quite frankly,you’re going to need it | |||
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"Is it just me or are other single guys also struggling to find females on here to meet or get to know. Im not sure why its not working for me. Your profile is pretty diabolical in all honesty,and really quite ignorant in how you perceive the more than curvy female,I wish you luck in your search,because quite frankly,you’re going to need it " ouch ...but well said | |||
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