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Paranoia and MSN = timewaster
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone find that some people come on with the attitude that you are a timewaster from day one? Then if you ask if they are on MSN they are even worse.
They almost shoot themselves in the foot with genuine people and we find it worse with guys. Their attitude perhaps set them up to rub people the wrong way and when that ends in a 'no thanks' it reinforces their perception that you must have been a timewaster.
We would never have face pics on a swingers site as we were on another were it was hacked. MSN therefore serves the purpose of chatting and exchanging pics in a more private place. But we find many guys don't want to have even a half hour chat on MSN but expect to exchange two emails then jump into bed.
Are we being harsh ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am 100% genuine, but I would not use MSN or any other web media in my use of this site.
In some cases, you could be correct in your manner of thinking, but also you should allow for people using the site and associated media how they see fit.
If there methods, don't match yours then move on otherwise somewhere along the line one or both parties will have to make compromises.
And in my opinion, you don't put principles in place only to compromise them for someone elses benefit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you email a pic to some1 what is to stop them uploading that on to this or other sites once saved to their harddrive?"
We like MSN because you don't have to email photos. You just show in the profile photo on the MSN chat app. That can be copied but people need to have a bit more knowledge to do that.
If a site is hacked and there are face pics on there or on Fab email then there also may be telephone and credit card details on the same profile. If so then a hacker could in theory find out who you are using these personal details. If someone takes our personal face pic and uploads somewhere else then it is just a random pic with no way to identify our identity.
That's why we like taking face pics swapping off site but perhaps we are just extra discreet and careful. However we did almost swap pics with someone we know in real life! That would have been embarrassing for all parties. |
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"I am 100% genuine, but I would not use MSN or any other web media in my use of this site.
In some cases, you could be correct in your manner of thinking, but also you should allow for people using the site and associated media how they see fit.
If there methods, don't match yours then move on otherwise somewhere along the line one or both parties will have to make compromises.
And in my opinion, you don't put principles in place only to compromise them for someone elses benefit."
Couldn't agree more!
I do find it annoying that people with their own preferences seem put out that others dare have their own. Or are the single men supposed to be grateful for any contact and jump through hoops to please?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am 100% genuine, but I would not use MSN or any other web media in my use of this site.
In some cases, you could be correct in your manner of thinking, but also you should allow for people using the site and associated media how they see fit.
If there methods, don't match yours then move on otherwise somewhere along the line one or both parties will have to make compromises.
And in my opinion, you don't put principles in place only to compromise them for someone elses benefit.
Couldn't agree more!
I do find it annoying that people with their own preferences seem put out that others dare have their own. Or are the single men supposed to be grateful for any contact and jump through hoops to please?!! "
Not saying they need to go on MSN for us to take it further but some option which doesn't involve days of pinging emails back and forward on Fab would be good. Also a method that doesn't involve emailing face pics in Fab.
Our point is that when we ask if someone wants to go on MSN (we ask not demand) they seem to assume we are timewasters. People can have their own preferences and we respect that. We just see that couples will chat on MSN but single guys less so and assume timewasting. Perhaps they just get messed about more.
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"I am 100% genuine, but I would not use MSN or any other web media in my use of this site.
In some cases, you could be correct in your manner of thinking, but also you should allow for people using the site and associated media how they see fit.
If there methods, don't match yours then move on otherwise somewhere along the line one or both parties will have to make compromises.
And in my opinion, you don't put principles in place only to compromise them for someone elses benefit.
Couldn't agree more!
I do find it annoying that people with their own preferences seem put out that others dare have their own. Or are the single men supposed to be grateful for any contact and jump through hoops to please?!!
Not saying they need to go on MSN for us to take it further but some option which doesn't involve days of pinging emails back and forward on Fab would be good. Also a method that doesn't involve emailing face pics in Fab.
Our point is that when we ask if someone wants to go on MSN (we ask not demand) they seem to assume we are timewasters. People can have their own preferences and we respect that. We just see that couples will chat on MSN but single guys less so and assume timewasting. Perhaps they just get messed about more.
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Single female here. Wont use msn and wont chat to people who ask me to talk to them or show them pics on msn. Works for me.
If msn works for you then great.
Someone calling you/me/anyone else a timewaster isnt really the end of the world and certainly isnt enough to stop me using the site in exactly the way that I choose to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am 100% genuine, but I would not use MSN or any other web media in my use of this site.
In some cases, you could be correct in your manner of thinking, but also you should allow for people using the site and associated media how they see fit.
If there methods, don't match yours then move on otherwise somewhere along the line one or both parties will have to make compromises.
And in my opinion, you don't put principles in place only to compromise them for someone elses benefit.
Couldn't agree more!
I do find it annoying that people with their own preferences seem put out that others dare have their own. Or are the single men supposed to be grateful for any contact and jump through hoops to please?!!
Not saying they need to go on MSN for us to take it further but some option which doesn't involve days of pinging emails back and forward on Fab would be good. Also a method that doesn't involve emailing face pics in Fab.
Our point is that when we ask if someone wants to go on MSN (we ask not demand) they seem to assume we are timewasters. People can have their own preferences and we respect that. We just see that couples will chat on MSN but single guys less so and assume timewasting. Perhaps they just get messed about more.
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we don't use msn since the early days when it always seemed to be a bloke trying to flash me his knob... |
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Not many guys have refused to chat on msn, we make it clear in our profile what our routine is too. If a guy can't send a pic on here, we thank them and move on, if they won't chat on msn we thank them and move on. Neither requests will be a surprise to them if they have read our profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you email a pic to some1 what is to stop them uploading that on to this or other sites once saved to their harddrive?
We like MSN because you don't have to email photos. You just show in the profile photo on the MSN chat app. That can be copied but people need to have a bit more knowledge to do that.
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Like pressing the 'Prt Scr' button? lol
And to answer the first question....nothing! Once you upload a pic onto the internet...you lose control of it and can never get it back. |
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"Does anyone find that some people come on with the attitude that you are a timewaster from day one? Then if you ask if they are on MSN they are even worse.
They almost shoot themselves in the foot with genuine people and we find it worse with guys. Their attitude perhaps set them up to rub people the wrong way and when that ends in a 'no thanks' it reinforces their perception that you must have been a timewaster.
We would never have face pics on a swingers site as we were on another were it was hacked. MSN therefore serves the purpose of chatting and exchanging pics in a more private place. But we find many guys don't want to have even a half hour chat on MSN but expect to exchange two emails then jump into bed.
Are we being harsh ?
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That's cos us men want to get to a shag the quickest way possible without much effort, especially when we are single |
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"Does anyone find that some people come on with the attitude that you are a timewaster from day one? Then if you ask if they are on MSN they are even worse.
They almost shoot themselves in the foot with genuine people and we find it worse with guys. Their attitude perhaps set them up to rub people the wrong way and when that ends in a 'no thanks' it reinforces their perception that you must have been a timewaster.
We would never have face pics on a swingers site as we were on another were it was hacked. MSN therefore serves the purpose of chatting and exchanging pics in a more private place. But we find many guys don't want to have even a half hour chat on MSN but expect to exchange two emails then jump into bed.
Are we being harsh ?
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That's cos us men want to get to a shag the quickest way possible without much effort, especially when we are single |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If the person you're asking to go on MSN has an account then I wouldn't see the problem in them going on it. Particularly as theres mobile versions etc.
However, if you're expecting people to create MSN accounts just for your own peace of mind then i can see why they'd get annoyed. Guys in particular are expected to jump through enough hoops as it is to meet people. Fab is just as secure as any other site and I think your concerns are overly paranoid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't use msn as my windows live account was hacked into but also because whilst I am able to type, trying to use msn and reply to messages on here was incredibly difficult and plus, if you are chatting with someone on msn, they get snotty if you don't reply fast enough and don't like it that you dare chat to anyone else  |
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It’s because of timewasters that I now have what I think is in some ways a rather cold or stern profile.
I have a relaxed approach and don’t mind people taking their time to meet. My rule is not to fully open up to people until they can prove they are who they say they are.
My pet hate is guys wasting my time with their fantasy about me meeting their wife who is always out, too shy to cam, too shy to talk on the phone, can’t send a verifiable picture. Yet can’t understand why I won’t go into detail about what treats I might have in store for their wife
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By (user no longer on site)
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We never use MSN as same as another user we have had non stop spam emails.
Had to laugh, my daughter used to use it all the time to speak to her mates via cam.
One day when she was 16 she shouted to come and look. There sat on cam was a 40 yrd bloke wanking away......
Never seen a bloke go white so fast and turn his cam off...
The reason? My husband grabbed the biggest carving knife we had and grinned at him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your on msn or FS nothing is ever safe... people can record web cam images of any site or program on the world.
Msn is a good way of keeping into contact with close friends and people you trust and FS is a great way of staying private
they both have their pros and cons what works for you may not work for others
i personally enjoy the likes of msn but others will disagree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I tend to find that FS has all the necessary tools required to set up a desirable meeting therefore I would be a little sceptical about being asked to go elsewhere to make arrangements.
While not everyone that uses MSN is a time-waster it is no myth that it does tend to have a strong association with those types so it is perhaps understandable that in some people's minds MSN = timewaster! |
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I dont do msn or cam..just stick to this site..had a chap contact me yesterday(wed) trying to get me to go 30 odd miles to him,i have no transport,then "he"turned into a couple,saying his wife loved my cock pics...when he asked me to go on MSN and i said i cant,because im only on a basic mobile,i was blanked and ignored from then on...just because i cant"MSN"...TIMEWASTERS!. |
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