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By *oson-Blue OP Couple
over a year ago
North Kent |
We opened up our messages to single men yesterday. It clearly says we're only looking for men who are bi.
We had two straight guys making for a meet to which said no and why.
Both gave a reply along the lines "but I can play bi".
Why would we want someone who is only playing at being bi when we can easily get the real thing? 
Harrumph.
Well, that's got that off our chests anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We opened up our messages to single men yesterday. It clearly says we're only looking for men who are bi.
We had two straight guys making for a meet to which said no and why.
Both gave a reply along the lines "but I can play bi".
Why would we want someone who is only playing at being bi when we can easily get the real thing?
Harrumph.
Well, that's got that off our chests anyway "
They don't mean "play" as in pretend.
Play sexually doesn't mean to pretend, it means to play with one another.
They are probably not straight at all but pretend to be. |
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By *oson-Blue OP Couple
over a year ago
North Kent |
I was only paraphrasing what was actually said, the context was clearly that of pretending to be bi in order to get at the lady.
If they are genuinely bi but still say straight on their profile then we're not interested and we clearly state that.
Hey ho, it's not a big deal, we just thought it was interesting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was only paraphrasing what was actually said, the context was clearly that of pretending to be bi in order to get at the lady.
If they are genuinely bi but still say straight on their profile then we're not interested and we clearly state that.
Hey ho, it's not a big deal, we just thought it was interesting "
I see what you mean, they are just saying it to get a meet ....I guess it's the equivalent of a couple with a bi curious couple trying to get a bi female. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was only paraphrasing what was actually said, the context was clearly that of pretending to be bi in order to get at the lady.
If they are genuinely bi but still say straight on their profile then we're not interested and we clearly state that.
Hey ho, it's not a big deal, we just thought it was interesting "
Totally agree with you two. They should at least have bi curious in preferences. And clearly state it on the profile x |
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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago
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"We opened up our messages to single men yesterday. It clearly says we're only looking for men who are bi.
We had two straight guys making for a meet to which said no and why.
Both gave a reply along the lines "but I can play bi".
Why would we want someone who is only playing at being bi when we can easily get the real thing?
Harrumph.
Well, that's got that off our chests anyway "
Yes we have that grump a fair bit too! To some guys it seems that “bi” translates to “I don’t really care whose mouth I put my cock into”  |
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When I was looking for men (bisexual only), I had loads of messages from men with "straight" on their profile yet telling me they'd "happily play bi" or that they are bi but can't put it on their profile. When I was actually making it clear that I was looking for bi men only as I have a bi male friend who wants to have group fun with me, and that they would be required to at least suck cock/be sucked by a man, a lot of them did not message back. I wonder why? Lol.
It could easily be men not reading profiles, too. |
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If they will "play bi" but aren't actually bi then they will probably get uncomfortable when the the true bi guy is coming on to them and just makes everyone uncomfortable. What's the point! There is no point in lying about it. |
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By *oson-Blue OP Couple
over a year ago
North Kent |
"If they will "play bi" but aren't actually bi then they will probably get uncomfortable when the the true bi guy is coming on to them and just makes everyone uncomfortable. What's the point! There is no point in lying about it. "
Yes, that's it in a nutshell, nicely put  |
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I think it's a mixture of reasons.
Part of it is disingenuous bi guys who hide their sexuality from couples and ladies put off by bi men.
Some will be disingenuous str8 guys trying to bluff their way into the ladies pants. And they can both just fuck off!
Many though, will be due to the confusion and / or shame of someone who is struggling to accept and / or admit their bisexuality publicly.
Some will be genuinely confused by the fact that they enjoy performing some sexual acts with men even if they aren't attracted to men in the way they're attracted to women, they may not know how to define their situational sexuality.....
Maybe instead of judging them and tarring them all with the same brush, we could encourage them to explore their curiosity and their sexuality. Hopefully if our little society is more tolerant they'll be more open and honest with themselves and others about where they currently are on the spectrum. 
I am Bi (But I can Play str8 if you want  ) |
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"I think it's a mixture of reasons.
Part of it is disingenuous bi guys who hide their sexuality from couples and ladies put off by bi men.
Some will be disingenuous str8 guys trying to bluff their way into the ladies pants. And they can both just fuck off!
Many though, will be due to the confusion and / or shame of someone who is struggling to accept and / or admit their bisexuality publicly.
Some will be genuinely confused by the fact that they enjoy performing some sexual acts with men even if they aren't attracted to men in the way they're attracted to women, they may not know how to define their situational sexuality.....
Maybe instead of judging them and tarring them all with the same brush, we could encourage them to explore their curiosity and their sexuality. Hopefully if our little society is more tolerant they'll be more open and honest with themselves and others about where they currently are on the spectrum.
I am Bi (But I can Play str8 if you want )"
Who is being tarred with the same brush? |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"I think it's a mixture of reasons.
Part of it is disingenuous bi guys who hide their sexuality from couples and ladies put off by bi men.
Some will be disingenuous str8 guys trying to bluff their way into the ladies pants. And they can both just fuck off!
Many though, will be due to the confusion and / or shame of someone who is struggling to accept and / or admit their bisexuality publicly.
Some will be genuinely confused by the fact that they enjoy performing some sexual acts with men even if they aren't attracted to men in the way they're attracted to women, they may not know how to define their situational sexuality.....
Maybe instead of judging them and tarring them all with the same brush, we could encourage them to explore their curiosity and their sexuality. Hopefully if our little society is more tolerant they'll be more open and honest with themselves and others about where they currently are on the spectrum.
I am Bi (But I can Play str8 if you want )"
You shouldn’t have to ‘play’ either way... simple  |
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I think my profile sums me up perfectly well. If people like me and want to engage in conversation with a view to possibly meeting then great. If not, then so be it.
I was taught a very simple lesson when I was young; some people will like you, others won’t - you can’t make people like you if they don’t want to. Be true to yourself and treat others with respect, and above all be happy with who you are. |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"I think my profile sums me up perfectly well. If people like me and want to engage in conversation with a view to possibly meeting then great. If not, then so be it.
I was taught a very simple lesson when I was young; some people will like you, others won’t - you can’t make people like you if they don’t want to. Be true to yourself and treat others with respect, and above all be happy with who you are."
Best advice you can ever get for life... have the confidence to stand on your own two feet and go from there... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We get it all the time. Think it’s because single women aren’t keen on bi men, it’s called fab straight lol"
weve never had a woman say no because we are both bi, just for lots of other reasons lol |
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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago
Bournemouh |
"I think it's a mixture of reasons.
Part of it is disingenuous bi guys who hide their sexuality from couples and ladies put off by bi men.
Some will be disingenuous str8 guys trying to bluff their way into the ladies pants. And they can both just fuck off!
Many though, will be due to the confusion and / or shame of someone who is struggling to accept and / or admit their bisexuality publicly.
Some will be genuinely confused by the fact that they enjoy performing some sexual acts with men even if they aren't attracted to men in the way they're attracted to women, they may not know how to define their situational sexuality.....
Maybe instead of judging them and tarring them all with the same brush, we could encourage them to explore their curiosity and their sexuality. Hopefully if our little society is more tolerant they'll be more open and honest with themselves and others about where they currently are on the spectrum.
I am Bi (But I can Play str8 if you want )
Who is being tarred with the same brush?"
Exactly I’m pretty sure the post was specifically about the second category on this list
Plus I don’t mean to sound like a bitch bit I didn’t join fab to be someone’s sexuality therapist. I joined to meet people who know their sexuality and want to explore it with me/my OH rather than be lied to so that some ‘disingenuous straight guy’ can come along and give us mediocre sex. And yes I know so many of these guys think if they get the meet out of you under these pretences that when it all gets going you’ll enjoy it or carry on anyway or whatever. But that’s totally disregarding what we’re looking for!
Which means it ends up mediocre no matter how “good” the guy is.
The fun for me is seeing these two guys really enjoying each other, thats what makes me want to enjoy sex with the other guy as well as my partner. In the ‘play bi but not really’ scenario we don’t get that so it ends up being crap! |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"We get it all the time. Think it’s because single women aren’t keen on bi men, it’s called fab straight lol
weve never had a woman say no because we are both bi, just for lots of other reasons lol"
I get more messages from ‘straight’ guys than any other demographic on here ... tells a sad story of wannabe timewasters who not only waste my time but others as well... good at ing them all out these days lol ?? |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"We get it all the time. Think it’s because single women aren’t keen on bi men, it’s called fab straight lol
weve never had a woman say no because we are both bi, just for lots of other reasons lol
I get more messages from ‘straight’ guys than any other demographic on here ... tells a sad story of wannabe timewasters who not only waste my time but others as well... good at ing them all out these days lol ?? "
ing = ing |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"We get it all the time. Think it’s because single women aren’t keen on bi men, it’s called fab straight lol
weve never had a woman say no because we are both bi, just for lots of other reasons lol
I get more messages from ‘straight’ guys than any other demographic on here ... tells a sad story of wannabe timewasters who not only waste my time but others as well... good at ing them all out these days lol ??
ing = ing"
Fab obviously deleting certain 42 0 words out like wee ding |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand why there are so many threads slating single guys when we all have the ability to filter who we want to meet, maybe try blocking all mail and putting the effort into finding what you're looking for and you may have more success. I used to get lots of messages from couples even tho I've no interest... I blocked them, it stopped |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it matter what people call themselves if they are giving us what we want?"
If someone is deceitful you don't get what you want though, they get what they want and have told lies to get it. |
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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago
Bournemouh |
"I don't understand why there are so many threads slating single guys when we all have the ability to filter who we want to meet, maybe try blocking all mail and putting the effort into finding what you're looking for and you may have more success. I used to get lots of messages from couples even tho I've no interest... I blocked them, it stopped "
It’s not about slating single guys, it’s about the guys (single or otherwise) purposely trying to deceive you to get what they want out of you with a complete disregard for what you want.
Unfortunately there isn’t yet a filter for liars  |
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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago
Bournemouh |
"Does it matter what people call themselves if they are giving us what we want?
If someone is deceitful you don't get what you want though, they get what they want and have told lies to get it. "
Exactly this! |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"Does it matter what people call themselves if they are giving us what we want?
If someone is deceitful you don't get what you want though, they get what they want and have told lies to get it.
Exactly this! "
Correct |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't understand why there are so many threads slating single guys when we all have the ability to filter who we want to meet, maybe try blocking all mail and putting the effort into finding what you're looking for and you may have more success. I used to get lots of messages from couples even tho I've no interest... I blocked them, it stopped
It’s not about slating single guys, it’s about the guys (single or otherwise) purposely trying to deceive you to get what they want out of you with a complete disregard for what you want.
Unfortunately there isn’t yet a filter for liars "
I'm not having a dig honest but forums are full of these kinda threads. As I say, do the searching to find what suits. |
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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't understand why there are so many threads slating single guys when we all have the ability to filter who we want to meet, maybe try blocking all mail and putting the effort into finding what you're looking for and you may have more success. I used to get lots of messages from couples even tho I've no interest... I blocked them, it stopped
It’s not about slating single guys, it’s about the guys (single or otherwise) purposely trying to deceive you to get what they want out of you with a complete disregard for what you want.
Unfortunately there isn’t yet a filter for liars
I'm not having a dig honest but forums are full of these kinda threads. As I say, do the searching to find what suits. "
Oh I know. I’ve seen a few myself. I was just saying that I don’t think this is stereotyping single guys. There are plenty who are part of a couple that do similar… |
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"I think it's a mixture of reasons.
Part of it is disingenuous bi guys who hide their sexuality from couples and ladies put off by bi men.
Some will be disingenuous str8 guys trying to bluff their way into the ladies pants. And they can both just fuck off!
Many though, will be due to the confusion and / or shame of someone who is struggling to accept and / or admit their bisexuality publicly.
Some will be genuinely confused by the fact that they enjoy performing some sexual acts with men even if they aren't attracted to men in the way they're attracted to women, they may not know how to define their situational sexuality.....
Maybe instead of judging them and tarring them all with the same brush, we could encourage them to explore their curiosity and their sexuality. Hopefully if our little society is more tolerant they'll be more open and honest with themselves and others about where they currently are on the spectrum.
I am Bi (But I can Play str8 if you want )
Who is being tarred with the same brush?
Exactly I’m pretty sure the post was specifically about the second category on this list
Plus I don’t mean to sound like a bitch bit I didn’t join fab to be someone’s sexuality therapist. I joined to meet people who know their sexuality and want to explore it with me/my OH rather than be lied to so that some ‘disingenuous straight guy’ can come along and give us mediocre sex. And yes I know so many of these guys think if they get the meet out of you under these pretences that when it all gets going you’ll enjoy it or carry on anyway or whatever. But that’s totally disregarding what we’re looking for!
Which means it ends up mediocre no matter how “good” the guy is.
The fun for me is seeing these two guys really enjoying each other, thats what makes me want to enjoy sex with the other guy as well as my partner. In the ‘play bi but not really’ scenario we don’t get that so it ends up being crap! "
Exactly! To be blunt, Im not here to hold someones hand while they "try the bi". After all that's not fair on the other guy either. If you wanna try a guy you don't need a girl.
Big part of it is I wanna see the guys into each other just as much. |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"I think it's a mixture of reasons.
Part of it is disingenuous bi guys who hide their sexuality from couples and ladies put off by bi men.
Some will be disingenuous str8 guys trying to bluff their way into the ladies pants. And they can both just fuck off!
Many though, will be due to the confusion and / or shame of someone who is struggling to accept and / or admit their bisexuality publicly.
Some will be genuinely confused by the fact that they enjoy performing some sexual acts with men even if they aren't attracted to men in the way they're attracted to women, they may not know how to define their situational sexuality.....
Maybe instead of judging them and tarring them all with the same brush, we could encourage them to explore their curiosity and their sexuality. Hopefully if our little society is more tolerant they'll be more open and honest with themselves and others about where they currently are on the spectrum.
I am Bi (But I can Play str8 if you want )
Who is being tarred with the same brush?
Exactly I’m pretty sure the post was specifically about the second category on this list
Plus I don’t mean to sound like a bitch bit I didn’t join fab to be someone’s sexuality therapist. I joined to meet people who know their sexuality and want to explore it with me/my OH rather than be lied to so that some ‘disingenuous straight guy’ can come along and give us mediocre sex. And yes I know so many of these guys think if they get the meet out of you under these pretences that when it all gets going you’ll enjoy it or carry on anyway or whatever. But that’s totally disregarding what we’re looking for!
Which means it ends up mediocre no matter how “good” the guy is.
The fun for me is seeing these two guys really enjoying each other, thats what makes me want to enjoy sex with the other guy as well as my partner. In the ‘play bi but not really’ scenario we don’t get that so it ends up being crap!
Exactly! To be blunt, Im not here to hold someones hand while they "try the bi". After all that's not fair on the other guy either. If you wanna try a guy you don't need a girl.
Big part of it is I wanna see the guys into each other just as much. "
Simple answer: find the right guy / guys |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
Ok here is my thoughts they will play bi because the either they are bi and don’t want to admit as there is still a stigma against bi makes (and it may impact further play), or they are any hole is a goal
As someone who is straight , and no not fab straight I understand the reasons why. Do I play with couples yes, have I played with bi couples, yes, but conversations before play have occurred in terms I am straight and only am straight and this is usually fine |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"Ok here is my thoughts they will play bi because the either they are bi and don’t want to admit as there is still a stigma against bi makes (and it may impact further play), or they are any hole is a goal
As someone who is straight , and no not fab straight I understand the reasons why. Do I play with couples yes, have I played with bi couples, yes, but conversations before play have occurred in terms I am straight and only am straight and this is usually fine "
Correct well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok here is my thoughts they will play bi because the either they are bi and don’t want to admit as there is still a stigma against bi makes (and it may impact further play), or they are any hole is a goal
As someone who is straight , and no not fab straight I understand the reasons why. Do I play with couples yes, have I played with bi couples, yes, but conversations before play have occurred in terms I am straight and only am straight and this is usually fine
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Yeah I agree, good conversation before hand is key and feeling in a safe enough space as a person to be open with themselves and others is important.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a debate as old as the hills.
It really does come down to guys lying because of the stigma attached to bi guys.
Why there's that stigma, I cannot answer.
Lots of straight guys message me and go straight to the sin bin via the block button.
For me lying about your sexuality for what ever reason on a swingers site is just bad form... |
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There’s a lot of hate on here against bi guys
Many couples seem to think that a bi guy has no control and will literally jump the male half of the couple with no warning.
So many guys choose to put straight on there to avoid this problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had a number of couples say no thanks because I’m bi, their choice; better to be honest. What has increased is couples seeking me out…… there’s a lot of bi husbands out there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Male here is proper bi , ask them if they will kiss and do oral as you want to watch male on male fun as you find it a real turn on , that will really thin out those that send messages to you "
We used to do similar with my previous play partner, made clear they were going to get fucked by the make half in front of the female half as the warm up. Thinned the crowd, we still had a couple of instances where guys turned up and tried to renegotiate and one where I think he forced himself to suck cock in order to get his hands on the female. Some strange ones out there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeh we've been getting this a bit since we set up a double bubble. We found being very specific about what's going to happen is helping to seperate the wheat from the chaff. In fact the number of messages has trailed right off! |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"There’s a lot of hate on here against bi guys
Many couples seem to think that a bi guy has no control and will literally jump the male half of the couple with no warning.
So many guys choose to put straight on there to avoid this problem "
Complete BS ?? |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"Male here is proper bi , ask them if they will kiss and do oral as you want to watch male on male fun as you find it a real turn on , that will really thin out those that send messages to you
We used to do similar with my previous play partner, made clear they were going to get fucked by the make half in front of the female half as the warm up. Thinned the crowd, we still had a couple of instances where guys turned up and tried to renegotiate and one where I think he forced himself to suck cock in order to get his hands on the female. Some strange ones out there. "
If bi you are quite simply 50/50... easy lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeh we've been getting this a bit since we set up a double bubble. We found being very specific about what's going to happen is helping to seperate the wheat from the chaff. In fact the number of messages has trailed right off! "
Yeah definitely agree, it important to discuss before hand what’s everyone specific expectations or limits are before a meet. Then if everyone still game then I think it would improve the chances of a better meet and avoid any awkward situations. Certainly should deter any one lying to get with just the one partner. That’s really bad in so many ways and not on at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How very odd, just had a complete random stranger I’ve never spoken to before just message me out of blue from this forum saying “still blocked lol.” Who ever your are, thanks you for letting me know. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they will "play bi" but aren't actually bi then they will probably get uncomfortable when the the true bi guy is coming on to them and just makes everyone uncomfortable. What's the point! There is no point in lying about it. "
100% this |
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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago
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"How very odd, just had a complete random stranger I’ve never spoken to before just message me out of blue from this forum saying “still blocked lol.” Who ever your are, thanks you for letting me know. Lol "
Wow how kind of them to announce themselves, I guess you were stressing over it  |
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I used to have a Bi Profile and a Straight Profile on here, yes it was wrong but necessary due to couples saying their bloke is 100% Straight (no guy is by the way!) and wouldnt meet bi guys.
I used to get many "Straight" guys in couples contact me on my straight profile asking about trying bi or that they were bi etc when the conversations opened up anyway so closed my straight profile down years ago.
I can say that every bi couple i've met have a story about straight guys pretending to be bi and then ignoring the guy at a meet and just jumping on the woman in a Bi MMF!
Also that fear of bi guys being less cautious of STI's is bull, seen more straight couples in clubs not bothering about protection than any bi or gay guys over the years!
I for one have never dated a guy just dont see the problem with bi sex, we are all flesh and bones and have pleasurable parts to stimulate. Who cares if its a guy or girl or both are doing it too you at the same time!
Have seen a few people say to be truly bi you have to kiss and take anal or give oral as a guy, really do you? I'd debate that point, some guys do, some dont at meets its what they are into and enjoy that matters with another guy and are comfortable doing so! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to have a Bi Profile and a Straight Profile on here, yes it was wrong but necessary due to couples saying their bloke is 100% Straight (no guy is by the way!) and wouldnt meet bi guys.
I used to get many "Straight" guys in couples contact me on my straight profile asking about trying bi or that they were bi etc when the conversations opened up anyway so closed my straight profile down years ago.
I can say that every bi couple i've met have a story about straight guys pretending to be bi and then ignoring the guy at a meet and just jumping on the woman in a Bi MMF!
Also that fear of bi guys being less cautious of STI's is bull, seen more straight couples in clubs not bothering about protection than any bi or gay guys over the years!
I for one have never dated a guy just dont see the problem with bi sex, we are all flesh and bones and have pleasurable parts to stimulate. Who cares if its a guy or girl or both are doing it too you at the same time!
Have seen a few people say to be truly bi you have to kiss and take anal or give oral as a guy, really do you? I'd debate that point, some guys do, some dont at meets its what they are into and enjoy that matters with another guy and are comfortable doing so! "
You've got so much of it spot on here. I especially agree with the last bit; if you're bi you must do x y z. I'm bi, have had bi mmf meets, but I'm not into kissing guys. Giving and receiving hand jobs, oral, anal, facials etc hell yes. It totally ignores if guys are top bottom or versatile too.
Though I do understand the thread's initial gripe, guys on here definitely lie/exaggerate whatever, to get to the woman. But it's easily sorted, have a chat about what sort of things you'd like from a meet (like you would with anyone), if they're genuinely into the same as you great, of not it'll become apparent very quickly. |
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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago
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Our choice is for straight males, but you almost get called predujice for having a choice, we just choose to not respond to messages from those who don't fit what we choose to want to be involved with, doesn't make anyone a bad person for having a preference.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How very odd, just had a complete random stranger I’ve never spoken to before just message me out of blue from this forum saying “still blocked lol.” Who ever your are, thanks you for letting me know. Lol
Wow how kind of them to announce themselves, I guess you were stressing over it "
Lol to be honest it confused me. Went from being completely oblivious to them to half way through a conversation in their initial message. Was very polite of them to let me know but a bit of a waste of time. Me personally I’ve never really worried much about what random strangers do, think or anything else. Must admit though it did make me chuckle lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to have a Bi Profile and a Straight Profile on here, yes it was wrong but necessary due to couples saying their bloke is 100% Straight (no guy is by the way!) and wouldnt meet bi guys.
I used to get many "Straight" guys in couples contact me on my straight profile asking about trying bi or that they were bi etc when the conversations opened up anyway so closed my straight profile down years ago.
I can say that every bi couple i've met have a story about straight guys pretending to be bi and then ignoring the guy at a meet and just jumping on the woman in a Bi MMF!
Also that fear of bi guys being less cautious of STI's is bull, seen more straight couples in clubs not bothering about protection than any bi or gay guys over the years!
I for one have never dated a guy just dont see the problem with bi sex, we are all flesh and bones and have pleasurable parts to stimulate. Who cares if its a guy or girl or both are doing it too you at the same time!
Have seen a few people say to be truly bi you have to kiss and take anal or give oral as a guy, really do you? I'd debate that point, some guys do, some dont at meets its what they are into and enjoy that matters with another guy and are comfortable doing so!
You've got so much of it spot on here. I especially agree with the last bit; if you're bi you must do x y z. I'm bi, have had bi mmf meets, but I'm not into kissing guys. Giving and receiving hand jobs, oral, anal, facials etc hell yes. It totally ignores if guys are top bottom or versatile too.
Though I do understand the thread's initial gripe, guys on here definitely lie/exaggerate whatever, to get to the woman. But it's easily sorted, have a chat about what sort of things you'd like from a meet (like you would with anyone), if they're genuinely into the same as you great, of not it'll become apparent very quickly. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just for fun, anyone else having problems like this you're welcome to have a read of our profile. It's all in good humour but very specific as to what will happen during the scene. It seems to be working well!   |
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"Just for fun, anyone else having problems like this you're welcome to have a read of our profile. It's all in good humour but very specific as to what will happen during the scene. It seems to be working well! "
Ha nice work! I mean it sounds like a fun Friday evening to me!
I am always a big believer in being true to your self, and if you find that you having to pretend to be able to play with people, then those arent the people for you!
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I have had to add to my profile ‘Bi Guys who actively have a profile that state they want to meet TV/TS.’ As I was getting fed up of the amount of straight guys contacting me.
It’s nice to get the attention a message is a blessing, but it’s not going to happen. I have played with inexperienced guys in the past or those experimenting, it wasn’t pleasant.
So I prefer to keep to those guys who know what they’re doing and aren’t shy about it. Unfortunately not as many as you’d think.
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By *hill44Man
over a year ago
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"We opened up our messages to single men yesterday. It clearly says we're only looking for men who are bi.
We had two straight guys making for a meet to which said no and why
Both gave a reply along the lines "but I can play bi".
Why would we want someone who is only playing at being bi when we can easily get the real thing?
Harrumph.
Well, that's got that off our chests anyway "
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"I have had to add to my profile ‘Bi Guys who actively have a profile that state they want to meet TV/TS.’ As I was getting fed up of the amount of straight guys contacting me.
It’s nice to get the attention a message is a blessing, but it’s not going to happen. I have played with inexperienced guys in the past or those experimenting, it wasn’t pleasant.
So I prefer to keep to those guys who know what they’re doing and aren’t shy about it. Unfortunately not as many as you’d think.
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This... is so true.
You're either bi or your not. Please don't waste people's time pretending you might be.
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"I have had to add to my profile ‘Bi Guys who actively have a profile that state they want to meet TV/TS.’ As I was getting fed up of the amount of straight guys contacting me.
It’s nice to get the attention a message is a blessing, but it’s not going to happen. I have played with inexperienced guys in the past or those experimenting, it wasn’t pleasant.
So I prefer to keep to those guys who know what they’re doing and aren’t shy about it. Unfortunately not as many as you’d think.
This... is so true.
You're either bi or your not. Please don't waste people's time pretending you might be.
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"I think it's a mixture of reasons.
Part of it is disingenuous bi guys who hide their sexuality from couples and ladies put off by bi men.
Some will be disingenuous str8 guys trying to bluff their way into the ladies pants. And they can both just fuck off!
Many though, will be due to the confusion and / or shame of someone who is struggling to accept and / or admit their bisexuality publicly.
Some will be genuinely confused by the fact that they enjoy performing some sexual acts with men even if they aren't attracted to men in the way they're attracted to women, they may not know how to define their situational sexuality.....
Maybe instead of judging them and tarring them all with the same brush, we could encourage them to explore their curiosity and their sexuality. Hopefully if our little society is more tolerant they'll be more open and honest with themselves and others about where they currently are on the spectrum.
I am Bi (But I can Play str8 if you want )
Who is being tarred with the same brush?
Exactly I’m pretty sure the post was specifically about the second category on this list
Plus I don’t mean to sound like a bitch bit I didn’t join fab to be someone’s sexuality therapist. I joined to meet people who know their sexuality and want to explore it with me/my OH rather than be lied to so that some ‘disingenuous straight guy’ can come along and give us mediocre sex. And yes I know so many of these guys think if they get the meet out of you under these pretences that when it all gets going you’ll enjoy it or carry on anyway or whatever. But that’s totally disregarding what we’re looking for!
Which means it ends up mediocre no matter how “good” the guy is.
The fun for me is seeing these two guys really enjoying each other, thats what makes me want to enjoy sex with the other guy as well as my partner. In the ‘play bi but not really’ scenario we don’t get that so it ends up being crap!
Exactly! To be blunt, Im not here to hold someones hand while they "try the bi". After all that's not fair on the other guy either. If you wanna try a guy you don't need a girl.
Big part of it is I wanna see the guys into each other just as much.
Simple answer: find the right guy / guys "
The answer might be simple, but the execution isn't. I've given up (at least for now) in my search for genuinely bisexual men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be blunt, Im not here to hold someones hand while they "try the bi". "
Couldn't agree with you more. But as other posters have suggested, I think a lot of guys on here say what they think they need to say to get sex. In the bedroom with a couple, they'll think of any excuse to dodge the bi bit. I avoid people whose professed sexuality is different from what's on their profile. In fact I've given up meeting people on here, preferring to meet guys at the local spa - it's a lot easier, especially if I'm with a woman. |
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