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"They mean to say... "want to get to know you if you are what we are looking for and we find you attractive... And you have read our profile" There ya go... All better now " | |||
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"Do you read their profiles first? I tend to delete without reading if the opening message displays a cock pic or says something like ‘hello Mummy’ or similar as it’s clear from my profile I don’t do either. Other than that I do try to reply to a well thought out message even if it’s a polite no. Manners cost nothing. Good luck. " I always read their profiles. Even the really long ones with loads of demands and quote the desired word or phrase to prove i read what they put. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves." It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X" That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message." Too often too much comeback from doing that | |||
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"They mean to say... "want to get to know you if you are what we are looking for and we find you attractive... And you have read our profile" There ya go... All better now "I'm saying if they ask for effort they shojld be prepared to give some back, even if they are not intersted. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message." To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. Too often too much comeback from doing that " What comeback if you get abuse, then block them. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves." It is frustrating and probably difficult to understand. I don't mean this harshly but it really is a case of accepting that that's how it is on fab. We used try to respond to every message we got. It wasn't difficult we don't get many  and we do still attempt to respond to the ones who've clearly made an effort. However for some people it's just not possible or experience tells them that responding negatively results in abuse. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. " I don't feel entitled, it's just common courtesy if you ask for effort be prepared to give some back. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. Too often too much comeback from doing that What comeback if you get abuse, then block them." It's not just abuse... It opens up message filters if we reply, you get people asking why... Trying to convince you to give them a try... Nope, no thanks... I don't have to reply the same as you don't have to message but never expect anything, regardless. Plus, why should I wait for abuse be blocking someone I don't want anything to do with? | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It is frustrating and probably difficult to understand. I don't mean this harshly but it really is a case of accepting that that's how it is on fab. We used try to respond to every message we got. It wasn't difficult we don't get many and we do still attempt to respond to the ones who've clearly made an effort. However for some people it's just not possible or experience tells them that responding negatively results in abuse."There is no excuse for giving abuse, and people who do should be blocked and banned. | |||
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"Your right to delete them but please reply to the others." I do if I see them before they drop off the end of the page. | |||
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" What comeback if you get abuse, then block them." Because it happens a lot and it's not worth the risk. That's why the site rules state that a no reply should be taken as a 'polite no thanks'. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It is frustrating and probably difficult to understand. I don't mean this harshly but it really is a case of accepting that that's how it is on fab. We used try to respond to every message we got. It wasn't difficult we don't get many and we do still attempt to respond to the ones who've clearly made an effort. However for some people it's just not possible or experience tells them that responding negatively results in abuse.
There is no excuse for giving abuse, and people who do should be blocked and banned."I agree however if you get an abusive response 9/10 times when you politely decline or don't respond immediately it's easier and less stressful to just delete and block any message from someone you're not wanting to meet. This does mean that men like you get deleted too though. For all the men that complain that their messages are deleted there's a woman complaining that her polite response is met with abuse | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. Too often too much comeback from doing that What comeback if you get abuse, then block them. It's not just abuse... It opens up message filters if we reply, you get people asking why... Trying to convince you to give them a try... Nope, no thanks... I don't have to reply the same as you don't have to message but never expect anything, regardless. Plus, why should I wait for abuse be blocking someone I don't want anything to do with? " If you reply then block them they will know at least you took the time to read their message and then you don't get anymore back asking why or any abuse. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It is frustrating and probably difficult to understand. I don't mean this harshly but it really is a case of accepting that that's how it is on fab. We used try to respond to every message we got. It wasn't difficult we don't get many and we do still attempt to respond to the ones who've clearly made an effort. However for some people it's just not possible or experience tells them that responding negatively results in abuse.
There is no excuse for giving abuse, and people who do should be blocked and banned.
I agree however if you get an abusive response 9/10 times when you politely decline or don't respond immediately it's easier and less stressful to just delete and block any message from someone you're not wanting to meet. This does mean that men like you get deleted too though.
For all the men that complain that their messages are deleted there's a woman complaining that her polite response is met with abuse "I don't understand the people who send abuse on here. It's not helpful either to side of the conversation. We should all be on here to have a good time. | |||
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"The short answer to this is in the site FAQS as follows There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages! It's not rude not to reply. Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? " I'm always polite and as for my profile. Couples and singles i message rarely even give it a look. Just a quick delete. | |||
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"Your right to delete them but please reply to the others." Why? Do you respond to every leaflet posted through your letterbox? | |||
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" What comeback if you get abuse, then block them. Because it happens a lot and it's not worth the risk. That's why the site rules state that a no reply should be taken as a 'polite no thanks'." Yes but if they ask for effort in the message, put some in yourselves and reply. Then block. | |||
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"Your right to delete them but please reply to the others. Why? Do you respond to every leaflet posted through your letterbox?" No, thats a copy and paste. If you are asked to put some effort in put some in yourselves and reply. | |||
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" What comeback if you get abuse, then block them. Because it happens a lot and it's not worth the risk. That's why the site rules state that a no reply should be taken as a 'polite no thanks'. Yes but if they ask for effort in the message, put some in yourselves and reply. Then block." so we should all do it your way, whats next? | |||
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" What comeback if you get abuse, then block them. Because it happens a lot and it's not worth the risk. That's why the site rules state that a no reply should be taken as a 'polite no thanks'. Yes but if they ask for effort in the message, put some in yourselves and reply. Then block." We're going around in circles. Maybe if you got loads of messages every day you'd think differently but we're not going to risk abuse just because we're not interested in someone. That's what the site rules are for. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. I don't feel entitled, it's just common courtesy if you ask for effort be prepared to give some back." That's a bit like saying you should message everyone who has a made the effort to set up a profile. There's a lot of people on fab, and they don't all match up. That's the point. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. I don't feel entitled, it's just common courtesy if you ask for effort be prepared to give some back. That's a bit like saying you should message everyone who has a made the effort to set up a profile. There's a lot of people on fab, and they don't all match up. That's the point." No, im just saying if you ask for effort in the first message give some back. | |||
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" What comeback if you get abuse, then block them. Because it happens a lot and it's not worth the risk. That's why the site rules state that a no reply should be taken as a 'polite no thanks'. Yes but if they ask for effort in the message, put some in yourselves and reply. Then block. We're going around in circles. Maybe if you got loads of messages every day you'd think differently but we're not going to risk abuse just because we're not interested in someone. That's what the site rules are for." Shurely one of the site rules is don't send abusive messages. People should be banned. | |||
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"Your right to delete them but please reply to the others. Why? Do you respond to every leaflet posted through your letterbox? No, thats a copy and paste. If you are asked to put some effort in put some in yourselves and reply." The point you're missing, is that the leaflet through your door is unsolicited, as is every email received. It's up to the receiver to decide what to do with what they receive. Rather than complain about the number of emails that get deleted, think about why they are? Empathy and understanding are positive traits which people will like. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. I don't feel entitled, it's just common courtesy if you ask for effort be prepared to give some back. That's a bit like saying you should message everyone who has a made the effort to set up a profile. There's a lot of people on fab, and they don't all match up. That's the point. No, im just saying if you ask for effort in the first message give some back." Can't decide if you're being deliberately obtuse? | |||
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" What comeback if you get abuse, then block them. Because it happens a lot and it's not worth the risk. That's why the site rules state that a no reply should be taken as a 'polite no thanks'. Yes but if they ask for effort in the message, put some in yourselves and reply. Then block. so we should all do it your way, whats next? " No, im just saying if you ask for effort in the first message its only polite to put some effort in yourselves. Its a bit like blanking someone on the street who walks by and says hello. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. I don't feel entitled, it's just common courtesy if you ask for effort be prepared to give some back. That's a bit like saying you should message everyone who has a made the effort to set up a profile. There's a lot of people on fab, and they don't all match up. That's the point. No, im just saying if you ask for effort in the first message give some back. Can't decide if you're being deliberately obtuse?" No, if someone says hello to you in the street. Do you say hello back or just keep walking and blank them. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. I don't feel entitled, it's just common courtesy if you ask for effort be prepared to give some back. That's a bit like saying you should message everyone who has a made the effort to set up a profile. There's a lot of people on fab, and they don't all match up. That's the point. No, im just saying if you ask for effort in the first message give some back. Can't decide if you're being deliberately obtuse? No, if someone says hello to you in the street. Do you say hello back or just keep walking and blank them." We're hardly talking about the same thing are we? And this thread alone has caused me to block your profile. This kind of blinkered 'i'm right and you owe me something attitude' is why so many couples and women delete and block messages from guys. You just don't know when to take a really clear signal that people aren't interested. Is that a clear enough no? | |||
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"Your right to delete them but please reply to the others. Why? Do you respond to every leaflet posted through your letterbox? No, thats a copy and paste. If you are asked to put some effort in put some in yourselves and reply. The point you're missing, is that the leaflet through your door is unsolicited, as is every email received. It's up to the receiver to decide what to do with what they receive. Rather than complain about the number of emails that get deleted, think about why they are? Empathy and understanding are positive traits which people will like." No problem with deleting random messages which are from people who have obviously not read your profile. If you don't want to hear from single men and you are happy to look for them yourselves why don't you block single men until you want to look for them. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. I don't feel entitled, it's just common courtesy if you ask for effort be prepared to give some back. That's a bit like saying you should message everyone who has a made the effort to set up a profile. There's a lot of people on fab, and they don't all match up. That's the point. No, im just saying if you ask for effort in the first message give some back. Can't decide if you're being deliberately obtuse? No, if someone says hello to you in the street. Do you say hello back or just keep walking and blank them. We're hardly talking about the same thing are we? And this thread alone has caused me to block your profile. This kind of blinkered 'i'm right and you owe me something attitude' is why so many couples and women delete and block messages from guys. You just don't know when to take a really clear signal that people aren't interested. Is that a clear enough no?" If they aren't interested, thats fine . Just don't ask for effort and give non back. It's rude and entitled. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. I don't feel entitled, it's just common courtesy if you ask for effort be prepared to give some back. That's a bit like saying you should message everyone who has a made the effort to set up a profile. There's a lot of people on fab, and they don't all match up. That's the point. No, im just saying if you ask for effort in the first message give some back. Can't decide if you're being deliberately obtuse? No, if someone says hello to you in the street. Do you say hello back or just keep walking and blank them. We're hardly talking about the same thing are we? And this thread alone has caused me to block your profile. This kind of blinkered 'i'm right and you owe me something attitude' is why so many couples and women delete and block messages from guys. You just don't know when to take a really clear signal that people aren't interested. Is that a clear enough no? If they aren't interested, thats fine . Just don't ask for effort and give non back. It's rude and entitled." Ok, last attempt. If they messaged you, and didn't make an effort, that would make your point. Unless their profile states they replay to all messages, you really don't have a point to make. | |||
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"You keep claiming that it's rude for people not to reply to your unsolicited message. You give the impression that you wouldn't accept a no from someone, seeing as you haven't accepted the responses of anyone on this thread. Ironically this is the exact reason why people don't reply." If you don't want to get unsoliceted messages from men, block messages from men. | |||
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"You keep claiming that it's rude for people not to reply to your unsolicited message. You give the impression that you wouldn't accept a no from someone, seeing as you haven't accepted the responses of anyone on this thread. Ironically this is the exact reason why people don't reply. If you don't want to get unsoliceted messages from men, block messages from men." Or ignore them when received?  | |||
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"You keep claiming that it's rude for people not to reply to your unsolicited message. You give the impression that you wouldn't accept a no from someone, seeing as you haven't accepted the responses of anyone on this thread. Ironically this is the exact reason why people don't reply. If you don't want to get unsoliceted messages from men, block messages from men." Why should we ? We want messages from men because one may message that we want to meet. | |||
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"So what next? I think you have a point that people should not ask for effort if they aren't prepared to give any back. However it's unlikely, all the time that single women and couples are in the minority, that anything will change. " Yes, your right. Just trying to get some manners back to this site after hearing about all the abuse flying around here. | |||
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"So what next? I think you have a point that people should not ask for effort if they aren't prepared to give any back. However it's unlikely, all the time that single women and couples are in the minority, that anything will change. Yes, your right. Just trying to get some manners back to this site after hearing about all the abuse flying around here." Have you personally received abuse? | |||
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"You keep claiming that it's rude for people not to reply to your unsolicited message. You give the impression that you wouldn't accept a no from someone, seeing as you haven't accepted the responses of anyone on this thread. Ironically this is the exact reason why people don't reply. If you don't want to get unsoliceted messages from men, block messages from men. Why should we ? We want messages from men because one may message that we want to meet." | |||
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"So what next? I think you have a point that people should not ask for effort if they aren't prepared to give any back. However it's unlikely, all the time that single women and couples are in the minority, that anything will change. Yes, your right. Just trying to get some manners back to this site after hearing about all the abuse flying around here." Manners would include listening to and respecting other people's preferences. | |||
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"You keep claiming that it's rude for people not to reply to your unsolicited message. You give the impression that you wouldn't accept a no from someone, seeing as you haven't accepted the responses of anyone on this thread. Ironically this is the exact reason why people don't reply. If you don't want to get unsoliceted messages from men, block messages from men. Why should we ? We want messages from men because one may message that we want to meet." If you want messages and ask for effort, please reply to messages. If you don't ask for effort, then i would say it's ok to delete without relpy. That's what i'm getting at. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. Too often too much comeback from doing that What comeback if you get abuse, then block them. It's not just abuse... It opens up message filters if we reply, you get people asking why... Trying to convince you to give them a try... Nope, no thanks... I don't have to reply the same as you don't have to message but never expect anything, regardless. Plus, why should I wait for abuse be blocking someone I don't want anything to do with? If you reply then block them they will know at least you took the time to read their message and then you don't get anymore back asking why or any abuse." Tbh, if I get a well thought out message aimed at getting in my knickers, it's deleted as it shows they didn't read my profile. If people can't read my profile then I can't read their messages... If I was looking to meet, I will only reply to faces that I am attracted and my profile would say this. If you don't read that, that's on you, so to speak. If you are arsey about that, it proves I was right to delete. I shouldn't have to block because some people don't know how to behave | |||
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"So what next? I think you have a point that people should not ask for effort if they aren't prepared to give any back. However it's unlikely, all the time that single women and couples are in the minority, that anything will change. Yes, your right. Just trying to get some manners back to this site after hearing about all the abuse flying around here. Manners would include listening to and respecting other people's preferences." Yes, read profiles and if you don't match with what they want or are looking for something you're not into. Don't message them in the first place. | |||
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"You keep claiming that it's rude for people not to reply to your unsolicited message. You give the impression that you wouldn't accept a no from someone, seeing as you haven't accepted the responses of anyone on this thread. Ironically this is the exact reason why people don't reply. If you don't want to get unsoliceted messages from men, block messages from men. Why should we ? We want messages from men because one may message that we want to meet. If you want messages and ask for effort, please reply to messages. If you don't ask for effort, then i would say it's ok to delete without relpy. That's what i'm getting at." Please, take a step back and read through this thread. Do you think you've made a good case which would encourage people to reply to messages they'd normally ignore? Or do you think you've reinforced the opinion that some people just don't take no for an answer and are best ignored to avoid the drama? | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. Too often too much comeback from doing that What comeback if you get abuse, then block them. It's not just abuse... It opens up message filters if we reply, you get people asking why... Trying to convince you to give them a try... Nope, no thanks... I don't have to reply the same as you don't have to message but never expect anything, regardless. Plus, why should I wait for abuse be blocking someone I don't want anything to do with? If you reply then block them they will know at least you took the time to read their message and then you don't get anymore back asking why or any abuse. Tbh, if I get a well thought out message aimed at getting in my knickers, it's deleted as it shows they didn't read my profile. If people can't read my profile then I can't read their messages... If I was looking to meet, I will only reply to faces that I am attracted and my profile would say this. If you don't read that, that's on you, so to speak. If you are arsey about that, it proves I was right to delete. I shouldn't have to block because some people don't know how to behave" Yes, that just shows they didn't read your profile and should be deleted. | |||
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"The short answer to this is in the site FAQS as follows There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages! It's not rude not to reply. Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? I'm always polite and as for my profile. Couples and singles i message rarely even give it a look. Just a quick delete." They all look, just in stealth mode... That opens up a whole new can of worms! | |||
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"You keep claiming that it's rude for people not to reply to your unsolicited message. You give the impression that you wouldn't accept a no from someone, seeing as you haven't accepted the responses of anyone on this thread. Ironically this is the exact reason why people don't reply. If you don't want to get unsoliceted messages from men, block messages from men. Why should we ? We want messages from men because one may message that we want to meet. If you want messages and ask for effort, please reply to messages. If you don't ask for effort, then i would say it's ok to delete without relpy. That's what i'm getting at. Please, take a step back and read through this thread. Do you think you've made a good case which would encourage people to reply to messages they'd normally ignore? Or do you think you've reinforced the opinion that some people just don't take no for an answer and are best ignored to avoid the drama?" I'm only asking for manners and mutual respect. | |||
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"The short answer to this is in the site FAQS as follows There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages! It's not rude not to reply. Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? I'm always polite and as for my profile. Couples and singles i message rarely even give it a look. Just a quick delete. They all look, just in stealth mode... That opens up a whole new can of worms! " Thats a bad thing, why look in stealth mode? That is also rude. | |||
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"The short answer to this is in the site FAQS as follows There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages! It's not rude not to reply. Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? I'm always polite and as for my profile. Couples and singles i message rarely even give it a look. Just a quick delete. They all look, just in stealth mode... That opens up a whole new can of worms! Thats a bad thing, why look in stealth mode? That is also rude." It is not rude to use one of the tools the site provides. | |||
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"I rarely respond if I'm not interested. I used to, but just got sick of the abuse I received for saying "No thanks". I don't care if people think it's rude. Blame the dickheads who can't handle polite rejection. " There should be zoro tolerance for abuse on here. | |||
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"I find it frustrating when couples and single women write on their profiles they want to get to know you. So you take the time to write a nice message, put some thought into it and it's just deleted without reply. They all complain about messages like "want to meet" or "want to fuck" without any other content or thought. Then they do exactly the same by deleting the message and maybe blocking with no reply. I understand couples and singles women will get alot of messages but if you ask for effort please be prepared to put some in yourselves. It could be because they are not up for meeting you. so rather than wasting both your times, they delete and block. It doesn't matter how well written your message is, if you aren't for them. X That's fine if they don't want ti meet me, just put the effort in to reply if they are asking for effort in the message. To risk getting follow up messages like "why not" "you're wrong" and a lot more abusive type on top. No thanks. No matter how demanding a profile is - you're not obliged to send a message in a first place, so being upset about getting no reply just screams entitlement to me. I don't feel entitled, it's just common courtesy if you ask for effort be prepared to give some back. That's a bit like saying you should message everyone who has a made the effort to set up a profile. There's a lot of people on fab, and they don't all match up. That's the point. No, im just saying if you ask for effort in the first message give some back. Can't decide if you're being deliberately obtuse? No, if someone says hello to you in the street. Do you say hello back or just keep walking and blank them. We're hardly talking about the same thing are we? And this thread alone has caused me to block your profile. This kind of blinkered 'i'm right and you owe me something attitude' is why so many couples and women delete and block messages from guys. You just don't know when to take a really clear signal that people aren't interested. Is that a clear enough no? If they aren't interested, thats fine . Just don't ask for effort and give non back. It's rude and entitled." They ask for effort... It's up to you whether you give it... And the same the other way around | |||
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"I rarely respond if I'm not interested. I used to, but just got sick of the abuse I received for saying "No thanks". I don't care if people think it's rude. Blame the dickheads who can't handle polite rejection. There should be zoro tolerance for abuse on here." There is a system in place for reports of abuse which I will copy into my next post. | |||
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