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I’ve been in Leeds this weekend, and staying over Saturday night, being a solo guy, I was unable to visit either of the local clubs, so listed up a ‘Anything, anywhere’ meet with the local postcode. I didn’t receive a single reply, and this has also been the same for me when I’ve stayed in Liverpool, and Birmingham, on several occasions.
I’m interested to know; do other solo guys list similar meets, and get responses? And do single females/couples look for these meets listed by solo guys?
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Pre pandemic we put a few meets up, always ended up with time wasters though, agree to meet, we would get ready and then nothing. We stopped trying after that. Have looked at the meet section when horny but nothing has ever drawn us in.
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By *arty84Man
over a year ago
Orpington |
Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club. |
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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago
manchester |
"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club. "
"I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front"
Have you stopped to think that LOCKDOWN may have had something to do with your lack of response??  |
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I never, ever look at the “meet today” lists, because I don’t do last minute and especially not last minute with strangers. Once in a blue moon - like no more than twice a year I suppose - I might look at the “browse meets” page to see if there’s anything interesting listed for the future. There hasn’t been yet, which is why I don't often bother to look at it. I wouldn’t contact a stranger who was in the area looking for a meet. |
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"I never, ever look at the “meet today” lists, because I don’t do last minute and especially not last minute with strangers. Once in a blue moon - like no more than twice a year I suppose - I might look at the “browse meets” page to see if there’s anything interesting listed for the future. There hasn’t been yet, which is why I don't often bother to look at it. I wouldn’t contact a stranger who was in the area looking for a meet."
Exactly this for me too! |
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By *arty84Man
over a year ago
Orpington |
"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
"I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front"
Have you stopped to think that LOCKDOWN may have had something to do with your lack of response?? "
No need to be rude and condescending about it, people have been making listings for the past few months.
I'm just trying to let the op know that it's much like messaging, where there's a tonne of other single guys out there listing meets and it's pretty easy for their meet to be overlooked as it gets drowned out by others. |
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"Over what period of time have you tried?
The last two years, a few months, much longer?"
2017, 2018, 2019, and January 2020 I have been away to Birmingham and Liverpool on work conferences. Quality hotels, room to myself, list meets 7 days in advance, and relist on the actual day to get on the top of the listings page. Set my location to the local postcode, and post regular status updates to get myself (hopefully) noticed………? |
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"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
"I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front"
Have you stopped to think that LOCKDOWN may have had something to do with your lack of response??
No need to be rude and condescending about it, people have been making listings for the past few months.
I'm just trying to let the op know that it's much like messaging, where there's a tonne of other single guys out there listing meets and it's pretty easy for their meet to be overlooked as it gets drowned out by others. "
I noted your well-intended advice mate, cheers  |
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"I never, ever look at the “meet today” lists, because I don’t do last minute and especially not last minute with strangers. Once in a blue moon - like no more than twice a year I suppose - I might look at the “browse meets” page to see if there’s anything interesting listed for the future. There hasn’t been yet, which is why I don't often bother to look at it. I wouldn’t contact a stranger who was in the area looking for a meet.
Exactly this for me too! "
And me x although I do agree I don't look at the meet section either and i put up meets for future and get no replies either lol get more by posting a status about a meet in future x |
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"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club. "
The trouble with the clubs is (like last night in Leeds), no single males allowed on Saturday nights |
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By *arty84Man
over a year ago
Orpington |
"I never, ever look at the “meet today” lists, because I don’t do last minute and especially not last minute with strangers. Once in a blue moon - like no more than twice a year I suppose - I might look at the “browse meets” page to see if there’s anything interesting listed for the future. There hasn’t been yet, which is why I don't often bother to look at it. I wouldn’t contact a stranger who was in the area looking for a meet.
Exactly this for me too! "
That's actually a really solid point and never occured to me, especially a last minute meet set up a few days before.
Although my previous one was just for a social, I did mention that it didn't even have to be a sexual meet. I just wanted a chance to make some connections/friends on here, but guessing I have to list it at least a week or 2 in advance.  |
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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago
manchester |
"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
"I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front"
Have you stopped to think that LOCKDOWN may have had something to do with your lack of response??
No need to be rude and condescending about it, people have been making listings for the past few months.
I'm just trying to let the op know that it's much like messaging, where there's a tonne of other single guys out there listing meets and it's pretty easy for their meet to be overlooked as it gets drowned out by others. "
I was being neither rude nor concedending...simply stating a fact. Lookking through your post, i feel your lack of replies is fast becoming obvious. Now thats both rude and concedending! |
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over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
The trouble with the clubs is (like last night in Leeds), no single males allowed on Saturday nights "
I feel like I can say this and you won’t take it the wrong way, as we’ve spoken before, but it’s really off putting to read ‘meet today’ as it gives the impression you will go with absolutely anyone. I know we’re all here looking for fun but, I expect a lot of women are put off these alerts too x |
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By *arty84Man
over a year ago
Orpington |
"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
The trouble with the clubs is (like last night in Leeds), no single males allowed on Saturday nights
I feel like I can say this and you won’t take it the wrong way, as we’ve spoken before, but it’s really off putting to read ‘meet today’ as it gives the impression you will go with absolutely anyone. I know we’re all here looking for fun but, I expect a lot of women are put off these alerts too x"
No offence taken, I appreciate the honesty. 
Yeah after reading your thoughts, I have to agree, it does look fairly off putting just randomly listing a meeting.
But when you haven't had sex or much of a social life over the past 4-5ish months (due to personal stuff), you start getting a bit more desperate and doing stuff like that, which yup in hindsight is very off putting. |
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"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
The trouble with the clubs is (like last night in Leeds), no single males allowed on Saturday nights
I feel like I can say this and you won’t take it the wrong way, as we’ve spoken before, but it’s really off putting to read ‘meet today’ as it gives the impression you will go with absolutely anyone. I know we’re all here looking for fun but, I expect a lot of women are put off these alerts too x"
Thanks for offering that insight, I would have been happy for a purely social meet with a friendly local, to avoid the ‘table for one’ I had in the restaurant last night, but duly noted |
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"I never, ever look at the “meet today” lists, because I don’t do last minute and especially not last minute with strangers. Once in a blue moon - like no more than twice a year I suppose - I might look at the “browse meets” page to see if there’s anything interesting listed for the future. There hasn’t been yet, which is why I don't often bother to look at it. I wouldn’t contact a stranger who was in the area looking for a meet."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
The trouble with the clubs is (like last night in Leeds), no single males allowed on Saturday nights
I feel like I can say this and you won’t take it the wrong way, as we’ve spoken before, but it’s really off putting to read ‘meet today’ as it gives the impression you will go with absolutely anyone. I know we’re all here looking for fun but, I expect a lot of women are put off these alerts too x
No offence taken, I appreciate the honesty.
Yeah after reading your thoughts, I have to agree, it does look fairly off putting just randomly listing a meeting.
But when you haven't had sex or much of a social life over the past 4-5ish months (due to personal stuff), you start getting a bit more desperate and doing stuff like that, which yup in hindsight is very off putting. "
As far as fab goes, you’ll get noticed for being genuine, clear face pics, you can spell and write in full sentences (fuck that’s so sexy! Hahaha) we all know there are too many idiots on here who, make it harder for the genuine ones. But safety comes first, and I won’t meet anyone who hasn’t been verified by meeting in person now! And I’ve met some lovely guys! If just takes one to put you right off & I personally avoid the meets section! X |
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"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
The trouble with the clubs is (like last night in Leeds), no single males allowed on Saturday nights
I feel like I can say this and you won’t take it the wrong way, as we’ve spoken before, but it’s really off putting to read ‘meet today’ as it gives the impression you will go with absolutely anyone. I know we’re all here looking for fun but, I expect a lot of women are put off these alerts too x
Thanks for offering that insight, I would have been happy for a purely social meet with a friendly local, to avoid the ‘table for one’ I had in the restaurant last night, but duly noted "
Sorry I didn’t reply haha too many weirdos on here!! |
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"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
The trouble with the clubs is (like last night in Leeds), no single males allowed on Saturday nights
I feel like I can say this and you won’t take it the wrong way, as we’ve spoken before, but it’s really off putting to read ‘meet today’ as it gives the impression you will go with absolutely anyone. I know we’re all here looking for fun but, I expect a lot of women are put off these alerts too x
Thanks for offering that insight, I would have been happy for a purely social meet with a friendly local, to avoid the ‘table for one’ I had in the restaurant last night, but duly noted
Sorry I didn’t reply haha too many weirdos on here!!"
Your list of veris from the last, how many weeks is it, would suggest otherwise, and nobody uses the word ‘weirdo’ in any of my veris….. |
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"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
The trouble with the clubs is (like last night in Leeds), no single males allowed on Saturday nights
I feel like I can say this and you won’t take it the wrong way, as we’ve spoken before, but it’s really off putting to read ‘meet today’ as it gives the impression you will go with absolutely anyone. I know we’re all here looking for fun but, I expect a lot of women are put off these alerts too x
Thanks for offering that insight, I would have been happy for a purely social meet with a friendly local, to avoid the ‘table for one’ I had in the restaurant last night, but duly noted
Sorry I didn’t reply haha too many weirdos on here!!
Your list of veris from the last, how many weeks is it, would suggest otherwise, and nobody uses the word ‘weirdo’ in any of my veris….. "
I have strict hoops to jump through! You didn’t send a ketchup bottle selfie hahaha |
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"Is it possible for your to give a bit more notice of where/ when you are staying? From our point of view, we have had some memrorable hotel meets with travelling business men. "
I start listing a meet up 7 days in advance, alter my postcode and location to the place I’m staying, post up regular status updates to get seen in local updates, and relist the meet on the actual day, to get on the top of the list……? |
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"Sorry to hear about that buddy, sadly yeah, it feels like it's just as common to not get any interest or messages from listing a meet as it is for a single guy to message women.
I've been trying for the past few months and have had just as bad luck on that front. :/
It doesn't hurt to keep listing events or meets as you may get a bite, but I wouldn't rely on it and try the other methods of meeting people on here, like a social or club.
The trouble with the clubs is (like last night in Leeds), no single males allowed on Saturday nights
I feel like I can say this and you won’t take it the wrong way, as we’ve spoken before, but it’s really off putting to read ‘meet today’ as it gives the impression you will go with absolutely anyone. I know we’re all here looking for fun but, I expect a lot of women are put off these alerts too x
Thanks for offering that insight, I would have been happy for a purely social meet with a friendly local, to avoid the ‘table for one’ I had in the restaurant last night, but duly noted
Sorry I didn’t reply haha too many weirdos on here!!
Your list of veris from the last, how many weeks is it, would suggest otherwise, and nobody uses the word ‘weirdo’ in any of my veris…..
I have strict hoops to jump through! You didn’t send a ketchup bottle selfie hahaha"
Like you said; you didn’t reply |
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"Over what period of time have you tried?
The last two years, a few months, much longer?
2017, 2018, 2019, and January 2020 I have been away to Birmingham and Liverpool on work conferences. Quality hotels, room to myself, list meets 7 days in advance, and relist on the actual day to get on the top of the listings page. Set my location to the local postcode, and post regular status updates to get myself (hopefully) noticed………?"
I know what I say next isn't going to help your plight - but over an 8 year period. I've been unsuccessful with hotel meets, I booked when traveling around. It's only ever happened once for me, that method. |
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"Over what period of time have you tried?
The last two years, a few months, much longer?
2017, 2018, 2019, and January 2020 I have been away to Birmingham and Liverpool on work conferences. Quality hotels, room to myself, list meets 7 days in advance, and relist on the actual day to get on the top of the listings page. Set my location to the local postcode, and post regular status updates to get myself (hopefully) noticed………?
I know what I say next isn't going to help your plight - but over an 8 year period. I've been unsuccessful with hotel meets, I booked when traveling around. It's only ever happened once for me, that method."
Don’t take this the wrong way, but that actually makes me feel better, as solo women have far more to choose from than guys! |
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I feel like I can say this and you won’t take it the wrong way, as we’ve spoken before, but it’s really off putting to read ‘meet today’ as it gives the impression you will go with absolutely anyone. I know we’re all here looking for fun but, I expect a lot of women are put off these alerts too x
No offence taken, I appreciate the honesty.
Yeah after reading your thoughts, I have to agree, it does look fairly off putting just randomly listing a meeting.
But when you haven't had sex or much of a social life over the past 4-5ish months (due to personal stuff), you start getting a bit more desperate and doing stuff like that, which yup in hindsight is very off putting. "
I hadn’t had sex for 12 years when I joined Fab. I still wouldn’t have put up a “meet today” and banged whoever offered (which is what that always comes across like to me). |
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"Over what period of time have you tried?
The last two years, a few months, much longer?
2017, 2018, 2019, and January 2020 I have been away to Birmingham and Liverpool on work conferences. Quality hotels, room to myself, list meets 7 days in advance, and relist on the actual day to get on the top of the listings page. Set my location to the local postcode, and post regular status updates to get myself (hopefully) noticed………?
I know what I say next isn't going to help your plight - but over an 8 year period. I've been unsuccessful with hotel meets, I booked when traveling around. It's only ever happened once for me, that method.
Don’t take this the wrong way, but that actually makes me feel better, as solo women have far more to choose from than guys! "
Yeah I just wanted you to know from that POV. Oh and I wasn't looking for a sub guy - just sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've advertised for a 'meet today'...
You can use your update to ask what you want from it. I've seen other ladies do the same....
Like everything on here, it's all about discussion and making things clear.... |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
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Generally I use it to indicate when going to a club and to alert potentially interested people to this. We can then chat on here and see if we are going to try and catch up on the given evening.
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"Generally I use it to indicate when going to a club and to alert potentially interested people to this. We can then chat on here and see if we are going to try and catch up on the given evening.
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This makes more sense... |
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