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By *iz78 OP Woman
over a year ago
wirral |
evening all
i am just looking for some advice about going to a swingers club as a single female. i have never been to one before so i dont know what to expect.
the townhouse wirral is local to me so is anyone who could help me it would be much appreciated
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It all depends what you are after.
I like the single guys so go to my.local club on nights when they are in.
If you're looking for bi women and or couples then couples night's.
Remember that you will always be welcome as a single female so don't feel that you have to go with a male or accept any offer. You don't have to play on your first visit.
Mail your local club for advice and enjoy!
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Email the establishment and they will provide all the help and guidance you'll need. Every experienced swinger are a club was nervous with the same concerns. If they are any good they will get someone they trust to help or they'll do it themselves. It is not in their interest to ruin your confidence or enjoyment.
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over a year ago
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"It all depends what you are after.
I like the single guys so go to my.local club on nights when they are in.
If you're looking for bi women and or couples then couples night's.
Remember that you will always be welcome as a single female so don't feel that you have to go with a male or accept any offer. You don't have to play on your first visit.
Mail your local club for advice and enjoy!
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Completely agree with this.I was in the same position a while back,bit the bullet and went on my own and I really haven't looked back since.Took a few drinks to steady the nerves (and I know some people don't agree with this!) Remember everyone was in the same boat as you once and enjoy  |
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Then try a night open to all.
Just be prepared to be straightforward and definite if you're not interested - anyone who truly understands the lifestyle won't take offence.
And remember noone should be touching without an invite - feel free to reprimand loudly if they do!
I also have no problem playing in open rooms but I do make sure that I get well onto the bed away from any silent fumblers who want to accidentally wap their cock across my face! 
I'm also happy for the silent fumblers to watch and enjoy, I just don't want any (ahem) fall out falling on me and I personally don't like a running commentary. So if there is any risk I tell them. And if anyone dies misbehave the audience are often happy to deal with him for me - if I stop playing they won't have anything to watch and peer pressure can be very effective.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went the first time on my own too. Just smile and talk to peeps. You will not be on your own for long. You do not even have to play the first time if you do not want to, just treat it as a chance to socialise and see what happens. You will be fine hun x |
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"Then try a night open to all.
Just be prepared to be straightforward and definite if you're not interested - anyone who truly understands the lifestyle won't take offence.
And remember noone should be touching without an invite - feel free to reprimand loudly if they do!
I also have no problem playing in open rooms but I do make sure that I get well onto the bed away from any silent fumblers who want to accidentally wap their cock across my face!
I'm also happy for the silent fumblers to watch and enjoy, I just don't want any (ahem) fall out falling on me and I personally don't like a running commentary. So if there is any risk I tell them. And if anyone dies misbehave the audience are often happy to deal with him for me - if I stop playing they won't have anything to watch and peer pressure can be very effective. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Relax and take your time and chat to the staff...they can give you some hints and tips and also keep an eye on you if your not so sure...most of all....have a fab time... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Then try a night open to all.
Just be prepared to be straightforward and definite if you're not interested - anyone who truly understands the lifestyle won't take offence.
And remember noone should be touching without an invite - feel free to reprimand loudly if they do!
I also have no problem playing in open rooms but I do make sure that I get well onto the bed away from any silent fumblers who want to accidentally wap their cock across my face!
I'm also happy for the silent fumblers to watch and enjoy, I just don't want any (ahem) fall out falling on me and I personally don't like a running commentary. So if there is any risk I tell them. And if anyone dies misbehave the audience are often happy to deal with him for me - if I stop playing they won't have anything to watch and peer pressure can be very effective. "
Thank you for this. As a single lady contemplating my first visit to a club, this was helpful. I was going to find an experienced escort but now I may just wait until I feel like it and rock up on my own. That way I go when I feel like it rather than having to feel like it just because I've arranged to go.
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The thing about going with someone is that you may feel obliged to them and as a couple you have two people to please.
A well run club will support and befriend single females.
Remember that you are in a position of great power so let that give you confidence and only do anything that you really want to.
And try not to drink to give you confidence or relax you - sober choices are always the best. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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The advice given is great. I also suggest when speaking to the club and arriving is ask for someone to take you and show you all the roms and any rules for the rooms. That for me made me feel secure as I knew where the rooms were and had a peek inside. I also find it easier to arrive early and let the room fill up around me rather than walking into a filled room.
See if anyone id attending the club you decide to go to by checking out the meets and events and then if you see a couple also put down that they are going then mail them and explain and just see if you could meet the lady at the bar (describe what your wearing) just for a chat and a face to chat with. they will normally understand your nerves. That helped me immensly when attending a different club for the first time.
Be ready for those that will follow you (if a single male night) and be clear about what you will and will not accept for the evening. Relax at the bar and smile and chat with people. I will often see a lady looking amazing at the bar and comment on how lovely her boots are or her dress or whatever....it is often an ice breaker and you can say its your first time alone in a club.
Good luck and let us know how it all goes x |
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