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Any clubs do a strict singles only night and no couples?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great idea but alas I think there would be 99% to 1% split, clubs know that they need more women to attend so that the men visit and pay the most for entry. |
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By *errysMan
over a year ago
milton keynes and kent |
There has been a few events at various clubs the first one i heard of was at jaydees a few years ago and was called swingles night.
It was a good event and by the very nature of it, before long it was full of couples lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Great idea but alas I think there would be 99% to 1% split, clubs know that they need more women to attend so that the men visit and pay the most for entry."
You see that's the other thing I don't agree with that it's guys who have to pay the most. I'd happily pay whatever the fee IF I was getting a truly singles night. I believe in life you get what you pay for and there wouldn't be any shortage of like minded single women who would be happy to pay for the singles night they wanted instead of having to deal with 2 people in a couple, where perhaps there was pressure for the female to put on a show, especially if she wasn't attracted to the other half, which has always been a problem for me. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
Near Marlborough |
"Is this an idea for people who are fab single or actually single? "
It wasn’t my idea but I think I wouldn’t care. I’d love a night where people were “solo”. And I’m very happy to pay the same as anyone else. Always have been.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chans on a Friday is predominantly singles you still get cples go but I'd say the single guys outnumber both the cples and single women in attendance I know this isn't what you were looking for but if it's single guys your looking for and have no joy in single only events it maybe worth a trip to chams |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Chans on a Friday is predominantly singles you still get cples go but I'd say the single guys outnumber both the cples and single women in attendance I know this isn't what you were looking for but if it's single guys your looking for and have no joy in single only events it maybe worth a trip to chams "
Chams is great on a friday night ...but the single guys are like 6 times the nos of single woman I'd say ...lots of nice couples.as wwll ..but would be nice to see more single ladies ..
I think the socials I've been to where it's a more balanced ratio of singles have a much better atmosphere..every one wants to be more social and say hello ... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"isnt that coupleist 
Not meant in that way, but it's hard to find a singles only night, besides couples are pretty much present at most events, so well catered for 
i know, was joking , ive just always wanted to use that word "
It's s great word and I'm jealous I didn't think of it lol |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"isnt that coupleist
Not meant in that way, but it's hard to find a singles only night, besides couples are pretty much present at most events, so well catered for
i know, was joking , ive just always wanted to use that word
It's s great word and I'm jealous I didn't think of it lol "
Most clubs are singlist (m) as opposed to singliste (f) |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
"Chans on a Friday is predominantly singles you still get cples go but I'd say the single guys outnumber both the cples and single women in attendance I know this isn't what you were looking for but if it's single guys your looking for and have no joy in single only events it maybe worth a trip to chams
Chams is great on a friday night ...but the single guys are like 6 times the nos of single woman I'd say ...lots of nice couples.as wwll ..but would be nice to see more single ladies ..
I think the socials I've been to where it's a more balanced ratio of singles have a much better atmosphere..every one wants to be more social and say hello ..."
I love Chams on a Friday night xxxxxx |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Chans on a Friday is predominantly singles you still get cples go but I'd say the single guys outnumber both the cples and single women in attendance I know this isn't what you were looking for but if it's single guys your looking for and have no joy in single only events it maybe worth a trip to chams
Chams is great on a friday night ...but the single guys are like 6 times the nos of single woman I'd say ...lots of nice couples.as wwll ..but would be nice to see more single ladies ..
I think the socials I've been to where it's a more balanced ratio of singles have a much better atmosphere..every one wants to be more social and say hello ...
I love Chams on a Friday night xxxxxx"
Chams loves you on a Friday night to ... |
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"Is this an idea for people who are fab single or actually single?
It wasn’t my idea but I think I wouldn’t care. I’d love a night where people were “solo”. And I’m very happy to pay the same as anyone else. Always have been.
Vx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was saying just last night how much I'd love this!
I think there's a big gap to fill here and awesome revenue for clubs."
Great idea and hope they do even if they did it just once a month |
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I came here to make the same point about managing ratios.
I can see someone organising an event like this, getting 99% blokes, and then nobody coming to the second edition because the first one was a sausage party. Hah.
I also suspect that a lot of women wouldn't want to go to an event that had a lot of single guys. We – quite understandably – have a very poor reputation.
I think you could make something like this work in a very small club with known membership where the crowd could be more easily managed. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"I came here to make the same point about managing ratios.
I can see someone organising an event like this, getting 99% blokes, and then nobody coming to the second edition because the first one was a sausage party. Hah.
I also suspect that a lot of women wouldn't want to go to an event that had a lot of single guys. We – quite understandably – have a very poor reputation.
I think you could make something like this work in a very small club with known membership where the crowd could be more easily managed. "
There is a world of difference between single guy profiles on here that are rude, aggressive etc and single guys in clubs and socials in the real world.
They dont have a bad reputation. If you manage the ratios, the guys that turn up will be pleasant sociable and decent blokes..
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"Townhouse had a Swingles night for singles only. Went to one and it was a good night; they had managed the balance so the mix was 50/50"
It would be amazing if they ran another one - I'd certainly be up for that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d like a singles night. It’s the couples that put me off going to a club as I feel that it would be mostly couples and I don’t meet couples. How many times will I say the word couples in a sentence haha |
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"I’d like a singles night. It’s the couples that put me off going to a club as I feel that it would be mostly couples and I don’t meet couples. How many times will I say the word couples in a sentence haha "
Thought you could've managed a couple more if I'm honest!
Back on subject. Would love a singles night! Any clubs reading the thread? |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
Its a good idea, however how would a club verify that someone is genuinely single?
Would you have to turn up alone, or else how do you know if 2 singles arriving together aren't actually a couple? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its a good idea, however how would a club verify that someone is genuinely single?
Would you have to turn up alone, or else how do you know if 2 singles arriving together aren't actually a couple?"
Couples are cheaper than single man entry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d like a singles night. It’s the couples that put me off going to a club as I feel that it would be mostly couples and I don’t meet couples. How many times will I say the word couples in a sentence haha "
Same here. I have no interest in couples, I’d love to go to a singles night where everyone is genuinely single. But only if the guys were respectful and low pressure, with no attitude of “I paid to get in here, you’re single so I expect sex”. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looking for a true singles only night. Thanks!
Outside of kink, do singles bars still exist or are they a thing of the past? "
Not that I know of. I’m in my 40s and never seen or heard of one in real life. |
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By *arty84Man
over a year ago
Orpington |
There does seem to be an abundance of clubs that mostly pander to couples. Would be nice to have a few that could do a singles only night.
Personally I would find it less intimidating if anyone was on the same footing and of course if there was a balanced ratio of men to women that would be even better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm.
What's wrong with any "normal" night club, followed by retiring behind the skips in Sainsburys car park.
Was always good enough for most singles."
Maybe we want and deserve more! Are you feeling jealous you’d be left out |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
"Its a good idea, however how would a club verify that someone is genuinely single?
Would you have to turn up alone, or else how do you know if 2 singles arriving together aren't actually a couple?"
Most clubs require membership, and it is normally single membership or couples membership.
The event could be open only to people with single membership (although a couples could take out a single a membership).
The numbers of males to be limited and chosen at random, so that the first to apply are not guaranteed a place because the desperate are happy to sit on the phone.
I am not sure a 50/50 ratio works because (and I am reliably informed) when a women puts her mind to it and is so inclined she can handle the attention of more than one man, also men have a recovery time. Therefore some parties work on the basis of 70% men to 30% women.
The only problem about making it single women only is that it may act against hot wives who may want to attend.
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"I was saying just last night how much I'd love this!
I think there's a big gap to fill here and awesome revenue for clubs."
Don't think the ones in Leeds do this.
I doubt there's demand though as not many single women go... |
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The reason why couples are encouraged with lower entrance fees, it is one way of getting more ladies in.
Ladies even as part of couples attract the guys who seem happy to pay the extra just to be in the prescence of the ladies.
It a straight forward honey trap situation. We can remember when at least a couple of local clubs would let single ladies in for free. There is one club who would even go as far as providing the single ladies with a first drink free.
That for us is too close to getting paid potentially for sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Aren’t they just called greedy girl events?
Singles nights would be just like fab, 8000 single guys per lady."
God no, a singles event and a greedy girl thing would be very different! |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"There does seem to be an abundance of clubs that mostly pander to couples. Would be nice to have a few that could do a singles only night.
Personally I would find it less intimidating if anyone was on the same footing and of course if there was a balanced ratio of men to women that would be even better. "
Swingers clubs mostly 'pander' to couples because they're the biggest customer base?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There does seem to be an abundance of clubs that mostly pander to couples. Would be nice to have a few that could do a singles only night.
Personally I would find it less intimidating if anyone was on the same footing and of course if there was a balanced ratio of men to women that would be even better.
Swingers clubs mostly 'pander' to couples because they're the biggest customer base??"
Although no chance to test the theory that a singles night may encourage more single ladies especially in the ENM community! Many will be put off by the abundance of couples! |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"There does seem to be an abundance of clubs that mostly pander to couples. Would be nice to have a few that could do a singles only night.
Personally I would find it less intimidating if anyone was on the same footing and of course if there was a balanced ratio of men to women that would be even better.
Swingers clubs mostly 'pander' to couples because they're the biggest customer base??
Although no chance to test the theory that a singles night may encourage more single ladies especially in the ENM community! Many will be put off by the abundance of couples! "
Personally if I was single I think I'd be more put off by a singles night having seen the calibre on single men on this site.
Im not saying they're a bad idea just replying to the person who commented about why clubs pander to couples.
Id like a female only night tho. But then im bi haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There does seem to be an abundance of clubs that mostly pander to couples. Would be nice to have a few that could do a singles only night.
Personally I would find it less intimidating if anyone was on the same footing and of course if there was a balanced ratio of men to women that would be even better.
Swingers clubs mostly 'pander' to couples because they're the biggest customer base??
Although no chance to test the theory that a singles night may encourage more single ladies especially in the ENM community! Many will be put off by the abundance of couples!
Personally if I was single I think I'd be more put off by a singles night having seen the calibre on single men on this site.
Im not saying they're a bad idea just replying to the person who commented about why clubs pander to couples.
Id like a female only night tho. But then im bi haha "
It just feels like there should be a way to cater to everyone even if things like a bi night or a singles night are monthly rather than weekly! If I wasn’t such an introvert I’d look into hosting one myself! Lol |
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"There does seem to be an abundance of clubs that mostly pander to couples. Would be nice to have a few that could do a singles only night.
Personally I would find it less intimidating if anyone was on the same footing and of course if there was a balanced ratio of men to women that would be even better.
Swingers clubs mostly 'pander' to couples because they're the biggest customer base??
Although no chance to test the theory that a singles night may encourage more single ladies especially in the ENM community! Many will be put off by the abundance of couples!
Personally if I was single I think I'd be more put off by a singles night having seen the calibre on single men on this site.
Im not saying they're a bad idea just replying to the person who commented about why clubs pander to couples.
Id like a female only night tho. But then im bi haha
It just feels like there should be a way to cater to everyone even if things like a bi night or a singles night are monthly rather than weekly! If I wasn’t such an introvert I’d look into hosting one myself! Lol"
Let's organise something! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Killing kittens do singles nights. The ratio to men and women are very much equal but their events do come with a price.. "
Ooooo I’m a member! Will have to check this out! |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"There does seem to be an abundance of clubs that mostly pander to couples. Would be nice to have a few that could do a singles only night.
Personally I would find it less intimidating if anyone was on the same footing and of course if there was a balanced ratio of men to women that would be even better.
Swingers clubs mostly 'pander' to couples because they're the biggest customer base??
Although no chance to test the theory that a singles night may encourage more single ladies especially in the ENM community! Many will be put off by the abundance of couples!
Personally if I was single I think I'd be more put off by a singles night having seen the calibre on single men on this site.
Im not saying they're a bad idea just replying to the person who commented about why clubs pander to couples.
Id like a female only night tho. But then im bi haha
It just feels like there should be a way to cater to everyone even if things like a bi night or a singles night are monthly rather than weekly! If I wasn’t such an introvert I’d look into hosting one myself! Lol"
I have a couples profile (with a friend) and organised some very popular socials in birmingham...a great mix of single guys and girls and couples...its a heck of a lot of effort to organise ...but very rewarding... I've moved away from brum but still know a few classy venues if anyone wanted to organise something ...they are so much more fun than the virtual world. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There does seem to be an abundance of clubs that mostly pander to couples. Would be nice to have a few that could do a singles only night.
Personally I would find it less intimidating if anyone was on the same footing and of course if there was a balanced ratio of men to women that would be even better.
Swingers clubs mostly 'pander' to couples because they're the biggest customer base??
Although no chance to test the theory that a singles night may encourage more single ladies especially in the ENM community! Many will be put off by the abundance of couples!
Personally if I was single I think I'd be more put off by a singles night having seen the calibre on single men on this site.
Im not saying they're a bad idea just replying to the person who commented about why clubs pander to couples.
Id like a female only night tho. But then im bi haha
It just feels like there should be a way to cater to everyone even if things like a bi night or a singles night are monthly rather than weekly! If I wasn’t such an introvert I’d look into hosting one myself! Lol
I have a couples profile (with a friend) and organised some very popular socials in birmingham...a great mix of single guys and girls and couples...its a heck of a lot of effort to organise ...but very rewarding... I've moved away from brum but still know a few classy venues if anyone wanted to organise something ...they are so much more fun than the virtual world."
Why it really needs to be the club's in everyone's locality to start doing these as they're already gested up for it. I'll happily pay to get what I would like to have |
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"Killing kittens do singles nights. The ratio to men and women are very much equal but their events do come with a price.. "
Solo guys are used to paying a price to visit clubs, I doubt they would mind paying a little more if they knew they were attending an event 50/50 with single females. I’ve rarely seen more than 1 or 2 single females in clubs, and if there’s no match with those, all you are left with are the couples, who rarely are interested in single males……. |
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"Hmmm.
What's wrong with any "normal" night club, followed by retiring behind the skips in Sainsburys car park.
Was always good enough for most singles."
I think women are more scared about ending up in the skip afterwards these days, after meeting a random geezer in a nightclub, whereas everyone in a swinger club has their details logged in reception, so it’s far safer for the female  |
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"It is a great idea but unless single females are persudaded to attend it will be inundated by single men!"
You seem to meet plenty of single women in clubs, I’ve definitely been going to the wrong ones lol |
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