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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of my first messages get read and deleted after I put so much effort into writing them.
What’s the secret? "
There is no 'secret'. When we, get a message, it prompts a read of the sender's profile, and possibly a scan of their posts. The message might be fine, but if there's nothing of interest in the profile, or something we don't like, we'd just delete and forget. |
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I check profiles out before I read messages & your profile doesn't tell me anything & there's only one photo that again doesn't really give much away
There's nothing there that makes me think, this guy sounds interesting I wonder what he has to say
If your sending personalised messages I'm sure you'll have no problems brightening up your profile a bit, adding a few more photos, showing / telling us what you have to offer in a meet etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most of my first messages get read and deleted after I put so much effort into writing them.
What’s the secret? "
There’s no such thing as perfect, all you are doing is encouraging someone to take an interest in you, put as much effort into your profile and pictures as you do into your messages and you’ll be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I check profiles out before I read messages & your profile doesn't tell me anything & there's only one photo that again doesn't really give much away
There's nothing there that makes me think, this guy sounds interesting I wonder what he has to say
If your sending personalised messages I'm sure you'll have no problems brightening up your profile a bit, adding a few more photos, showing / telling us what you have to offer in a meet etc "
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
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"Most of my first messages get read and deleted after I put so much effort into writing them.
What’s the secret?
Repeat the process that got you lots of verifications previously "
Exactly and given that they are mainly from 2018 don't think saying back for round 2 is really appropriate as makes it sound like you've not long rejoined, keeping your profile upto date is important Most if not all women will look at your profile before your message so if the profile doesn't grab attention it's not going to help |
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"Most of my first messages get read and deleted after I put so much effort into writing them.
What’s the secret? "
No idea what your messages are like but if they're good, maybe put as much effort into your profile. Most of the messages we get come from guys who haven't bothered to read our profile first. On viewing their profiles we find that out and just delete their messages and block them to avoid wasing any further time. Your opening message is only part of the equation here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Read the profile
If you can't relate to anything they're interested in then don't bother
Make message interesting
Brief but nice
No reply then take it on the chin n move on
For a woman it can be a touch stressful 100/200 messages when u sign on
And leave your clothes |
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