Hey fabbers I need some advice, my ex fiancee and I broke up nearly 4 years ago and we have a child together who's 14 years old next month. We were together for 16 years but the relationship broke down. (Both to blame, trust issues and communication issues and maybe we settled down too young.)
I joined Fabswingers after our breakup 4 years ago and I have met up with plenty of genuine swingers and had so much fun on this site.
Over the past couple of years me and the ex fiancee have been causally dating and have tried to rekindle our relationship and reconcile but something is missing.
We both have a high sex drive and enjoy each others company but my question to this forum is... How can I ask my ex fiancee aka lifetime partner to swing with me?
We both live separately but get on really well with each other but need some help/advice from you guys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s not an easy subject to break to your partner. I’m currently going though a divorce because I was brave enough to discuss my sexual fantasies and the possibility of swinging together.. turns out I’m a perv and should be ashamed of myself!! So all I can advise is you Jane nothing to loose always be true to yourself and be the person you are and want to be.. ask her if she would be interested and that you can try to take it slow and see if you like it etc and take it from there x |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Hey fabbers I need some advice, my ex fiancee and I broke up nearly 4 years ago and we have a child together who's 14 years old next month. We were together for 16 years but the relationship broke down. (Both to blame, trust issues and communication issues and maybe we settled down too young.)
I joined Fabswingers after our breakup 4 years ago and I have met up with plenty of genuine swingers and had so much fun on this site.
Over the past couple of years me and the ex fiancee have been causally dating and have tried to rekindle our relationship and reconcile but something is missing.
We both have a high sex drive and enjoy each others company but my question to this forum is... How can I ask my ex fiancee aka lifetime partner to swing with me?
We both live separately but get on really well with each other but need some help/advice from you guys "
Only way I'd say is mention swinging to her randomly and what she thinks about it, now remember you are rekindling this relationship and like you say about trust issues each may have so are you going to tell her after her reply that you have been indulging in swinging |
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Instead of thinking it from your point of view and how you would say it, imagine you were in her shoes, how would she want to hear what you sa and what would her reaction be.
Just my 2 pennies worth from very limited knowledge, but if you had trust issues before, not telling her about your Fab past even though “we were on a break!” is not the strongest of starts.
Hope it all works out though |
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"Hey fabbers I need some advice, my ex fiancee and I broke up nearly 4 years ago and we have a child together who's 14 years old next month. We were together for 16 years but the relationship broke down. (Both to blame, trust issues and communication issues and maybe we settled down too young.)
I joined Fabswingers after our breakup 4 years ago and I have met up with plenty of genuine swingers and had so much fun on this site.
Over the past couple of years me and the ex fiancee have been causally dating and have tried to rekindle our relationship and reconcile but something is missing.
We both have a high sex drive and enjoy each others company but my question to this forum is... How can I ask my ex fiancee aka lifetime partner to swing with me?
We both live separately but get on really well with each other but need some help/advice from you guys "
Your relationship broke down and one of the reasons was communication issues.
Talk, communicate. Get your relationship to a place where you can talk about this before you even consider swinging. Maybe start by having a talk about fantasies where you *both* listen to what the other wants |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Plus if their is already trust issues she's not going to be trusting you moment you mention thinking that you have been playing away and additional questions that you'll need to answer truthfully |
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Can always ask if she fancies spicing up the "fun" between you.
Take her to a swing club, say your there to play together..
Perhaps watch others.. just talk..
She may be open into doing something.. or maybe nothing, but maybe open to going again another time. |
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What are the boundaries of your relationship currently? Are you monogamous as far as she’s concerned? Or does she know you see other people?
If she knows you see other people you could intro it that way. If she doesn’t then it’s more difficult. |
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. I will give it a try and let you know the outcome 