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Help!!! What am I doing wrong?!

By *onsdalemofo OP Man over a year ago

london

Good morning, hope you're all well x

I'm needing a bit of help. I don't know where I'm going wrong, if you could look at my profile and help me out it would be greatly appreciated. I just don't get any replies, I know that could be just down to how I look but I'm hoping some profile advice might help, thank you and hope to hear from someone soon x

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By *reenleavesCouple over a year ago

North Wales

I can't see anything particularly off putting. Good range of pics and you're easy on the eye

You could maybe expand on what you're looking for specifically as it reads more like a general dating bio. What are your fantasies, what kind of woman turns your head etc.. All the best!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't see anything particularly off putting. Good range of pics and you're easy on the eye

You could maybe expand on what you're looking for specifically as it reads more like a general dating bio. What are your fantasies, what kind of woman turns your head etc.. All the best! "

Was just about to say similar! Expand your bio a bit more, maybe add a bit more about yourself and inject a bit of humour. And expand on the type of person you're interested in? Pics are good though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The ratio of men to women is 1000:1 so get used to being ignored 95% of the time. You just have to be patient I'm afraid.

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By *oxy lady40Woman over a year ago

bridgwater

Good morning op , pictures are good , bio needs more work , good luck

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Not a lot of detail in your profile - the specifics of what you're wanting and offering would be more helpful. Your 2 most recent pics aren't great, as 1 is very dark and the other has your face obscured.

It's also a time when many people aren't yet meeting, so you're facing competition from all the guys who have joined during the pandemic as well as existing users, who are wanting to meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What sort of detail is most important for a woman/couple.

My profile is blank currently, but before has had quite a lot. Was meaning to update but never quite got around to it!

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By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

"The ratio of men to women is 1000:1 so get used to being ignored 95% of the time. You just have to be patient I'm afraid. "

95% That's a bit low.

Did you mean 99.5%?

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP.

You've had 2 meets with women, many guys in your position haven't.

So instead of asking what your doing wrong, why not look at what you did right on those two occassions?

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By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

"Hello OP.

You've had 2 meets with women, many guys in your position haven't.

So instead of asking what your doing wrong, why not look at what you did right on those two occassions?"

What he is not doing wrong is publicising himself.

Surely everyone knows the true point of these 'Where am I going wrong?' threads!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In order to try and suggest what you might be doing wrong, we'd need you to be a little more forthcoming on what it is you're actually doing.

Sorry, but we're not mind readers.

For example, are you messaging people? Are you engaging in the chat rooms?

What?

Other than that I'd say that the only thing you're doing wrong is expecting anything.

You say on your profile that you've been on and off of fab for ages. (and not a lot else really)

So what was your experience like before?

Are you someone who joins the site, knocks up a quick profile in 30 seconds and expects to be fighting off women by lunchtime and when that doesn't happen, leaves the site only to repeat the process a few weeks later?

If you're messaging people, they'll almost always take a look at your profile before opening your message. If they don't like what they see, for any reason, they'll simply ignore or delete your message.

Your profile currently is screaming 'lack of effort' and most looking at it will assume that you will expend a similar amount of effort to any meet - and so they'll pass you by

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By *mmixtapeCouple over a year ago

middle earth

"What sort of detail is most important for a woman/couple.

My profile is blank currently, but before has had quite a lot. Was meaning to update but never quite got around to it!"

I look for details about what you're looking for and what you bring to the table.

So details like "looking for private meets, with couples and single women. Into mmf, group sex and club meets"

Hope this helps

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By *hocCock1Man over a year ago

Southampton

It's not a race...its just something that occasionally happens, profile looks all good mate

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By *onsdalemofo OP Man over a year ago

london

Thank you everyone, I'm going to take on bored everything everyone has said and thanks for just the right amount of critique.

Happy fabbing and I wish everyone a better second half of the year where you can enjoy parties again, you naughty people

xxx

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

I actually received a message from you yesterday, it was well written compared to most of the 'Hi, How are you' messsges on here

What stopped me replying is it made comment along the lines of 'our bios look like a good match' which as soon as I looked at your profile it became obvious you hadn't read mine at all & that the message was likely just a copy & paste job that gets sent out to everyone, as I have 4 things clearly mentioned in my bio that I look for & won't budge on & your bio clearly showed you as being the opposite of what I look for on 3 of them

On a positive note thou like I said, good opening message especially if it is generic, it got me to open it & im sure plenty of others will too, I actually think you'll get lots of success from it (your just not for me)

I would just reiterate take the time to read the other persons profile before sending messages in future, are you honestly a really good match, otherwise your just wasting your time & theirs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What sort of detail is most important for a woman/couple.

My profile is blank currently, but before has had quite a lot. Was meaning to update but never quite got around to it!"

It is considered poor forum ettiquette to hijack someone elses post.

If you'd like some advice on your own profile, you would be far better off starting your own thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I actually received a message from you yesterday, it was well written compared to most of the 'Hi, How are you' messsges on here

I would just reiterate take the time to read the other persons profile before sending messages in future, are you honestly a really good match, otherwise your just wasting your time & theirs "

Spot on.

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By *panddaCouple over a year ago

West Mids

"What sort of detail is most important for a woman/couple.

My profile is blank currently, but before has had quite a lot. Was meaning to update but never quite got around to it!"

Your profile is awful.

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By *iss LovelyWoman over a year ago

Here and There

I’d say your bio is too brief. For me to know anything about whether we’re compatible I’ll have to message you, which I’m unlikely to do if there’s nothing to draw me in.

Also, your pics are very similar, so you can definitely lose the ones with mess in the background (there are lots of threads about them being unattractive and lacking effort).

What are you saying when you approach people? I’m guessing you don’t put much weight on profile bios, given that yours is so brief. Are you reading to see if you’re compatible?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good morning, hope you're all well x

Can you tell us what type of messages you send people?

Could be that.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good morning, hope you're all well x

Looks good to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d say your bio is too brief. For me to know anything about whether we’re compatible I’ll have to message you, which I’m unlikely to do if there’s nothing to draw me in.

Also, your pics are very similar, so you can definitely lose the ones with mess in the background (there are lots of threads about them being unattractive and lacking effort).

What are you saying when you approach people? I’m guessing you don’t put much weight on profile bios, given that yours is so brief. Are you reading to see if you’re compatible? "

Exactly. To be fair, his original post in this thread is longer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can you tell us what type of messages you send people?

Could be that.....

Oooh, be careful. Posting the content of Private messages is against forum rules and you could land the OP in hot water

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

Expand your bio

Blur the messy background out in your pics (that's what I do

)

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

When taking pics it’s important to look at the background too. A good pic can turn into an average pic if there’s a lot of mess/clutter in the background. You can blur your pics so the whole focus is on you, not how messy your room is. I’d say that would put some people off.

You haven’t put much in your profile text…what you want, what you can offer, your personality. There’s no effort taken at all.

If you want to stand out on here, you’ve got to make an effort. Some nice pics without you holding your phone and without anything to distract from you would really help you…

Good luck

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

"Good morning, hope you're all well x

Firstly what makes you think it could be how you look it might be your approach in the message that you have sent plus just like most who have a preference and not just fuck anything on two legs just be yourself and patient

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By *ool-Guy4Man over a year ago

Wakefield

I've no idea whether my profile is a good one or a bad one. But I have chatted with a few people on here and had a couple of fun meets.

So I'd say add a bit more detail as to what you like and what you are looking for.

Its hard for us single guys, but when women are possibly glancing at dozens of profiles, if they see you have similar interests or likes it has to help.

Good luck and keep plugging away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think you look fine !

Talking to men over the years on here you find out how hard it is.

No joke not getting replies.

I'm not a fan of the first pic tbh. I'd try more body ones but different lighting.

Good luck! Perseverance. But it is hard to keep picking yourself up again while having to have the patience of a saint.

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By *he James gangCouple over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"What sort of detail is most important for a woman/couple.