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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all,
After going many many weeks without sex im now at point that i just need a good pounding ha ha. Yes i know my profile says that im looking for women but my god i really need some man attention in certain places
Been chating to what seems a very nice non pushy guy for almost 2 weeks now, he's great fun in his messages, and id really like to meet him but he has no verifications nor is he a site supporter. He does have some face pics in his gallery, but that could be anyone as we all know, obviously my safety is paramount, being a single girl is not always easy.
So my question is how do i go about this, do i chat on phone first, or do a social meet?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for advice, yeah thought phone chat would be best option first. Would any of you go back to a guys place though even after you've done the phone, had social etc?
And if you are single girl do you ever give a good trusted friend knowledge of address where you are going to just for the safety side of things?, as ive considered this too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yip phone call first , then a very public met somewhere safe with a lot of people and yeah i would give the address if going back somewhere with him . Have a friend who has done this before and always texted me where she was going just to be safe . good luck .  |
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Hiya,
We have noticed you said you have seen face pics of him but then said 'this could be anyone'.
Ask him if he has a cam and if not.. why not? In this day and age you can pick one up for £10 and then he can add you to MSN where you can see him privately. If you like what you see then chat to him on the phone and go from there.
D&K xx |
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As others have said, chat on the phone first, meet in a public place and tell a friend where you are going and who with. Also, trust your instincts, if something feels wrong, get out of there.
Hope you have lots of fun! |
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I think Wouldliketo, it's a case of just using your common sence in the same way that you would do if you met any other guy on a date/meet for the first time.
Chatting on the phone for sure, and using a webcam definately helps so you can see that whom you meeting looks vaguely like the pictures.
Meeting in a public place like a pub or coffee bar definately makes sence, and stay a while so you can decide how comfortable you feel. Travel in seperate vehicle if using cars, so you can leave when you want to leave and pass the info onto a trusted friend.
If your not comfortable going to the guys house, and you don't want him at yours then use a hotel.
For what it's worth I'd use the same precautions if you were meeting a woman or a couple too because while 99% of all people irrelevant of sex are good people, there are some very bad ones of both sexes around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also get his phone number and car reg and check both when we meet.
I give all the relevant details to a friend and say I will contact them at a certain time and if I dont they know to contact the police on my behalf.
The best guide is your instincts, if it doesnt feel right IT ISNT!!! |
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I'd explain to him that understandably you're nervous. Advise him you'll be informing a friend of what's going on, where you're going for a coffee etc. If he gets even a bit edgy about it, avoid!!!
I had a friend who used me as her safety net. I went with her to the bar, and as soon as he walked in, I made my excuses and walked out, so I had a good look at him etc.
He asked her why I had been there and got really shirty saying she should trust him. As my friend explained that she had never met anyone from the internet before and was nervous etc he just got more moody.
My friend left.
Any real gentleman would understand a ladies concerns. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No wonder us single guys can't get a meet, no trust left in the world, is a shame how others in the media have made the world a scary place.
A phonecall, webcam, telling someone where you are going and then meeting in public place should do the trick. Skype usually has the best technology for webcam (msn doesnt always work for me for webcams) and once met in public place you should be safe enough.
Hope you get the pounding you are after |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd explain to him that understandably you're nervous. Advise him you'll be informing a friend of what's going on, where you're going for a coffee etc. If he gets even a bit edgy about it, avoid!!!
I had a friend who used me as her safety net. I went with her to the bar, and as soon as he walked in, I made my excuses and walked out, so I had a good look at him etc.
He asked her why I had been there and got really shirty saying she should trust him. As my friend explained that she had never met anyone from the internet before and was nervous etc he just got more moody.
My friend left.
Any real gentleman would understand a ladies concerns. "
Yes those concerns are understandable and anyone genuine would be good at putting you at ease with these concerns. Rather than getting defensive about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some good points but....some of the most dangerous people in history have been the most charming and beguiling. You take pretty much the same risk meeting someone in the conventional way, the guy/girl you meet in the club seems soooo nice until....but what do you know about him/her? Go with the phone chat/public meet and your instincts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How one arranges a meet is dependent upon a number of factors, such as how well does she know the other person; how certain is she that he has been telling the truth; how certain is she that the pics are genuine and not of another person, and are recent; etc. etc...
If in doubt, approach with caution and arrange a social meet in a public place first.
However, if he ticks all the right boxes, and the lady in question likes an element of risk of the unknown, then by all means dive straight into meeting for fun.
I personally would refrain from inviting someone I have not met before into my house nowadays.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meet somewhere like a pub or coffee place, where there are lots of people, even if I chat to someone on the phone, I would never invite them to mine nor go to theirs until I have met them socially first  |
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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago
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Meet in public like everyone said
Then plan a second meet when you both free...in a hotel room
Make it clear that this is how you want it.
After that you can go to his place if you want.
Good luck
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By *igTeeMan
over a year ago
Bradford |
"Hi all,
After going many many weeks without sex im now at point that i just need a good pounding ha ha. Yes i know my profile says that im looking for women but my god i really need some man attention in certain places
Been chating to what seems a very nice non pushy guy for almost 2 weeks now, he's great fun in his messages, and id really like to meet him but he has no verifications nor is he a site supporter. He does have some face pics in his gallery, but that could be anyone as we all know, obviously my safety is paramount, being a single girl is not always easy.
So my question is how do i go about this, do i chat on phone first, or do a social meet?? "
Chat on the phone or if you've both got iPhone video call that way you will b able to tell if it's really him or not x stay safe x  |
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forget the phone call!!
that don't mean shit!
you could be talking to anybody listen his sent a picture so get him on web cam, skype or msn if his real it won't be a problem at all in fact he'll be eager to prove himself as he wants the meet, as for going back to his place personlly i'd say no for first time meet
travelodge £12.50 each! small price to pay for peace of mind and safety |
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