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Seeking single ladies as a cuckquean couple / finding a cuckcake!
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Apologies for the terms (even we don't like them much) but no easier way to describe it.
One of "our things" is entertaining my wife's cuckquean streak. This is either as a FFM (everyone involved) or me being sent out to meet a lady on my own. Ideally the later would be a regular thing. Nothing derogatory, just fun all round.
When we where younger we had success in this area and we both loved it. It was a big part of our dynamic for the early years of our swinging lifestyle (which started 23 years ago). I had a regular FWB thing with a few ladies that lasted some time until they ultimately moved on into a serious relationship. In all those cases though it was a chance thing. Lady A was a friend of my wife who loved the idea, Lady B was an old school friend who found out we where swingers and Lady C was someone curious about an internet post we made on another site. In each case it was a long term thing with the last one ended about 7 years ago and no success ever since.
Now I know people are straight away going to suggest clubs and / or socials and we have tried that when our time allows (which isn't that often...few times a year for us) but hasn't lead anywhere (but we intend to keep trying).
Whilst we enjoy meeting other couples, finding a lady who's either into or even understands our thing seems to be a rare thing on fab. We know they exist but it seems a lot of ladies don't understand the dynamic and wont meet married men under any circumstances for obvious reasons. That of course is their right.
We've even thought about pairing up with a Hotwife couple and have reached out to a few but again, the response was "don't meet married men".
So we have to ask, is this just one of those things where its nothing but pure luck (and believe me, I know how lucky I am) or are more women open to this and we are just going about this all wrong on fab? It's just something we want to explore again as it brought a lot to our relationship and (we hope) the other party as well.
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over a year ago
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Is meeting a married woman an option?
Its strange hotwife couples wouldnt want to swap as the dynamic would be balanced you’d think.
I can only suggest searching on forums for this topic and see what other have said (sorry if you’ve done that already) |
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"Is meeting a married woman an option?
Its strange hotwife couples wouldnt want to swap as the dynamic would be balanced you’d think.
I can only suggest searching on forums for this topic and see what other have said (sorry if you’ve done that already) "
We would totally be ok with meeting a married woman as long as her spouse was ok with it which is why we thought a hot wife couple was a good way to go. Unfortunetly it seems most of them only entertain single guys and have a strict no married guys rule. |
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By *olo911Couple
over a year ago
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Am I missing something, are you are looking for a lady that occasionally wants to sleep with you both but mainly wants to sleep with you on a permanent basis? Or are you looking for a a lady that’s wants to be a sort of mistress ?
I don’t get why your not interested in couples is it because you or she doesn’t want to be having sex with another guy ?
Anyway I think what your looking for is as rare as hens teeth . ???? |
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"Am I missing something, are you are looking for a lady that occasionally wants to sleep with you both but mainly wants to sleep with you on a permanent basis? Or are you looking for a a lady that’s wants to be a sort of mistress ?
I don’t get why your not interested in couples is it because you or she doesn’t want to be having sex with another guy ?
Anyway I think what your looking for is as rare as hens teeth . ????"
This is exactly what I mean about people not getting "it". They start throwing out labels about the dynamics or assuming we should only be contented to like one thing. I mean offence with that comment but that is the exact reality of the situation.
We would simply like to meet a lady who is happy to have NSA regular meets with either both of us for 3somes or just me, the male half or some one on one time. Either or.
If what I wrote doesnt explain it I dont know what to say.
No labels of mistress, no label of permanence or exclusivity, just something regular between open minded people. Be it a lady joining us for a 3sum a lady meeting me on my own.
We are more than happy to meet couples but thata a completely different dynamic to what my wifes true kink is.
And yes...rarer than hens teeth is the word.
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"Am I missing something, are you are looking for a lady that occasionally wants to sleep with you both but mainly wants to sleep with you on a permanent basis? Or are you looking for a a lady that’s wants to be a sort of mistress ?
I don’t get why your not interested in couples is it because you or she doesn’t want to be having sex with another guy ?
Anyway I think what your looking for is as rare as hens teeth . ????
This is exactly what I mean about people not getting "it". They start throwing out labels about the dynamics or assuming we should only be contented to like one thing. I mean offence with that comment but that is the exact reality of the situation.
We would simply like to meet a lady who is happy to have NSA regular meets with either both of us for 3somes or just me, the male half or some one on one time. Either or.
If what I wrote doesnt explain it I dont know what to say.
No labels of mistress, no label of permanence or exclusivity, just something regular between open minded people. Be it a lady joining us for a 3sum a lady meeting me on my own.
We are more than happy to meet couples but thata a completely different dynamic to what my wifes true kink is.
And yes...rarer than hens teeth is the word.
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I think what you're looking for is a bisexual lady who is attracted to you both but is very adventurous and happy to indulge in your specific cuckcake/cuckquean roles (yes I know you're probably not a fan of the labels but what you've described is probably the nearest to it).
I mean ultimately there's only nth people on fabs, and within that who would be logistically local to you, and bisexual, and interested in you both and playing 1to1 as well as mff.
Don't forget as well, single girls on here get an incredible amount of messages and offers to though. So even if they're likely to be interested in or your share that fantasy, chances of you getting to that situation is going to take a lot of time a patience.
Honestly I'd recommend just looking for a single lady who likes you both, forming a solid relationship of sorts with them. And if you get that far then asking to introduce it into the cuckquean/cuckcake kink. |
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"Am I missing something, are you are looking for a lady that occasionally wants to sleep with you both but mainly wants to sleep with you on a permanent basis? Or are you looking for a a lady that’s wants to be a sort of mistress ?
I don’t get why your not interested in couples is it because you or she doesn’t want to be having sex with another guy ?
Anyway I think what your looking for is as rare as hens teeth . ????"
Cuckold/Cuckquean couples wouldn't necessarily want to swap with another couple as only one partner may want to play, the other often is only be interested in being a voyeur or hearing about what their partner has done after the event
With cuckold couples the guy enjoys knowing his wife is meeting with and being satisfied by another guy, a cuckquean relationship is the same in reverse ie the lady enjoys knowing her partner is meeting with and enjoying time with another woman
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Ive done the cuckcake thing, so very much understand what the OP means and it does boil down to waiting for the correct person as someone else mentioned. |
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"Am I missing something, are you are looking for a lady that occasionally wants to sleep with you both but mainly wants to sleep with you on a permanent basis? Or are you looking for a a lady that’s wants to be a sort of mistress ?
I don’t get why your not interested in couples is it because you or she doesn’t want to be having sex with another guy ?
Anyway I think what your looking for is as rare as hens teeth . ????
Cuckold/Cuckquean couples wouldn't necessarily want to swap with another couple as only one partner may want to play, the other often is only be interested in being a voyeur or hearing about what their partner has done after the event
With cuckold couples the guy enjoys knowing his wife is meeting with and being satisfied by another guy, a cuckquean relationship is the same in reverse ie the lady enjoys knowing her partner is meeting with and enjoying time with another woman
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This is exactly it. My wifes bi and love the ladies and we play with couple but she really really likes sending me out on my own. It's an extra thrill for her OR having a 3sum with another lady and me.
It's just icing on top.of the cake for her and how we started swing to begin with. She can give or take meeting the other lady. It's just that thrill for her.
But it's a problem.on fab
Married guys are just a no go for so many women on here. It's not the end of the world if it dosent happen and we have plenty of couple freinds to play with but we would like that buzz again with a willing participant is all.
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But it's a problem.on fab
Married guys are just a no go for so many women on here. It's not the end of the world if it dosent happen and we have plenty of couple freinds to play with but we would like that buzz again with a willing participant is all.
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It's just one of the slight double standards you get within the swingers/kink scenes. Like the whole bi girls good, bi guys bad that you see sometimes. You just gotta play the game and accept it's rules can be a little wonky at times. |
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But it's a problem.on fab
Married guys are just a no go for so many women on here. It's not the end of the world if it dosent happen and we have plenty of couple freinds to play with but we would like that buzz again with a willing participant is all.
It's just one of the slight double standards you get within the swingers/kink scenes. Like the whole bi girls good, bi guys bad that you see sometimes. You just gotta play the game and accept it's rules can be a little wonky at times."
It's not a double standard at all.
It's all completely arbitrary and subjective. People have their reasons and we respect that.
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"Ive done the cuckcake thing, so very much understand what the OP means and it does boil down to waiting for the correct person as someone else mentioned. "
My set up is very similar to the Op's (although my lovely lady doesn't play much these days) and I would echo this view.
It's a very specific kink/interest that is only going to appeal to a limited number of potential playmates.
Have you tried any of the fetish orientated places that we dare not mention? |
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I’m a cuckquean  I absolutely LOVE my man telling me or watching him enjoy other women, I got my best friend to fuck him just before covid came along. I know he’s had a thing about her since we met. She’s got long dark hair, huge tits, a little chubby but he likes a bit of meat, she’s pretty too so I thought why not. It was amazing watching her jump on his cock and I loved watching him enjoy the taste of her pussy……just need to find another permanent cuckcake |
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"I’ve made a post called “cuckqueans and cuckcakes where are you”"
A much needed group as there are a few of us out here and probably chatted one or two of you in a similar position to see how you are getting on.
We have had limited luck in this regard. We did end up meeting a cuckcold couple and playing as a 3 so she could report back to her man but this has only happened once despite searching quite a bit. He was more interested in Mr with her but as she was bi, Mrs got to play too which was fun.
Op, what you say isn't uncommon but we think that finding someone or a couple that are into it as the other part of it seems harder to find. |
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"I’ve made a post called “cuckqueans and cuckcakes where are you”
A much needed group as there are a few of us out here and probably chatted one or two of you in a similar position to see how you are getting on.
We have had limited luck in this regard. We did end up meeting a cuckcold couple and playing as a 3 so she could report back to her man but this has only happened once despite searching quite a bit. He was more interested in Mr with her but as she was bi, Mrs got to play too which was fun.
Op, what you say isn't uncommon but we think that finding someone or a couple that are into it as the other part of it seems harder to find. "
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"I'm single and bi on here but don't meet couples."
You're actually close to us and we had perused your profile. 
I had very nearly messaged you on on my single account but i opted to respect your preference's.
If you're happy with the cuckquean thing and happy just meeting the male half of a couple though, you'll leave two lucky people with big smiles on their face.
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When I was single and first joined fab I did something similar. Met with a couple (although she wasn't bi) and met separately with the husband too.
I think you just have to keep looking. Good luck.
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Hey there, xx this is also our dynamic too, I’m a cuckqeen. We have had a wonderful experience with a few amazing women and hope to have more, but yes it can be difficult to find a women that’s interested in that side of the kink. We found that meetings at clubs and socials worked better as they could see we are a happy couple very much in love and that I was very much into it. Xxx |
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"Have you considered not using terms like cuckquean and cuckcake in case this is confusing people (like me!) who aren't really sure what they mean ?"
A cuckquean is a woman who gets pleasure from watching her partner with another woman or knowing her partner is with other women.
A cuckcake is the other woman who enjoys this dynamic.
Believe me, we would love to not have to use those terms as we dont like them. If there was an easier or better way to describe it, we would be using it. |
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I have noticed it's become rarer to find in here than it was a few years ago. Cuckquean here although I always still have the option to play myself. We have a D/s side to our relationship so actually the cucking ties in well to our lifestyle overall but I think people just don't quite "get it". Honestly I think too many who have used it as an excuse to cheat or pretend to be a couple have ruined it for the rest of us as people are immediately suspicious and put the walls up. |
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personly i think you are askig to muc a woman may want to play with you both, however just playing with the male alone might be a step to same if you are looking for her to play with the fem, alot of womwn wouldnt like to play with half the couple, as it may cause problems, anyway good luck |
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Repost because I replied from my joint originally.... Apologies.
I have noticed it's become rarer to find in here than it was a few years ago. Cuckquean here although I always still have the option to play myself. We have a D/s side to our relationship so actually the cucking ties in well to our lifestyle overall but I think people just don't quite "get it". Honestly I think too many who have used it as an excuse to cheat or pretend to be a couple have ruined it for the rest of us as people are immediately suspicious and put the walls up. |
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