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First time couple thinking about getting into 3sums. Doing a lot of talking, but just to go off ata tangent...
How do couples get into 3sums anyway? Is it a fantasy of 1 half of the relationship? Do both halves of the relationship discover it is their fantasy?
Would be interesting to know |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
Go to a club, if they’re singles who are interested (especially bi fem’s) they will approach.
The ladies in clubs, by nature are in a safe environment, confident and sensually aware of their needs.
Makes me laugh when couples go hunting.
Become pray, show them your strengths, because they are hunting the best experience for themselves.
Things then might develop further.
We have met some stunning (repetitive) friends in the clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always loved the idea of having two guys (it is such a huge turn on!) and it is a scenario that really excites my husband as well. It takes a lot of work (for me) to find what I am looking for, but we've found a few and had some amazing MFMs  |
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By *arehamMan
over a year ago
handforth |
I was at work when a mate came up to me and said he had heard that I went to saunas ,
And did I want to come to his house to fuck his wife tonight,so I went round and it lasted for about two years and a good time was had by all.  |
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"I was at work when a mate came up to me and said he had heard that I went to saunas ,
And did I want to come to his house to fuck his wife tonight,so I went round and it lasted for about two years and a good time was had by all. "
Nice...did his wife have a choice !! |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
We had been talking about L’s bi curiosity for awhile.
We were playing in a club dungeon and I spied a lady watching us.
Cut a long story short, asked if she wanted to join in. Don’t think she had the time to answer before she was with us.
One of our earlier verifications. |
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By *m CuriousMan
over a year ago
herts essex border |
"First time couple thinking about getting into 3sums. Doing a lot of talking, but just to go off ata tangent...
How do couples get into 3sums anyway? Is it a fantasy of 1 half of the relationship? Do both halves of the relationship discover it is their fantasy?
Would be interesting to know"
my first threesome was with a mate we had all been out drinking and I stayed the night on there sofa he came down and asked me if I fancied fick his partner I said yes and that was 30 odd years ago |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By chance with a guy we met on a cruise. After drinking in the nightclub we walked back to our cabins together. As we got to our cabin he asked to 'use the loo'.
When he finished he came out naked with a huge erection and he spent the rest of the night with us. |
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We are in a loving BDSM relationship but are both very open minded to trying new things. Our motto is if we try it and like it, then Great! (And do it again). If we try it and don't like it then we don't repeat. Simple!
With that in mind we ventu_ed to a swingers club for the first time just to experience the scene and being watched. At first, I (A) was very protective and didn't even like other guys touching her....over time we tried more and more until we were in Amsterdam and there happened to be an English guy local in the city and we invited him to our room and full on fun ensued! Obviously we had discussed what we would be happy with and after the event said what we liked and didn't like and what we would do differently. We then had a couple of meets with people in our hotels when staying away until more recently V had a solo meet with me joining the fun the next day and a few days later her going back alone to meet the the guy for round 2. A very very horny experience and a lovely guy now refer_ed to as her Bull.
We like what we like which tends to be a little of this a little of that with BDSM at our core. V is my Sub yet we do enjoy elements of cuck fantasy with Stag / Vixen thrown into the mix also
In summary, we took baby steps to find what works for us and learn more with each day that passes and grow stronger and closer as a result
Trust and respect!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My then wife and I got turned on to mmfs at the same time by reading 'readers letters in Forum (yes, it was a while ago), realising that we both wanted to try it, then some time later she asked her boyfriend/lover to join us for an evening - never looked back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"First time couple thinking about getting into 3sums. Doing a lot of talking, but just to go off ata tangent...
How do couples get into 3sums anyway? Is it a fantasy of 1 half of the relationship? Do both halves of the relationship discover it is their fantasy?
Would be interesting to know"
Suppose everyone is different, for both of us we'd previously done them before in different flavours (mmf, mff) so it wasn't much of an issue to decide to give them a try together. These days we usually look for girls online as we're not big on clubs and the hygiene issues there. But in fairness can see why clubs and events would be easier to strike up the conversation with a third person. |
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My wife told me a guy at work kept flirting with her and she was getting turned on by it , I said that is fair enough as it turns me on knowing , I told her I get turned on by the thought of swinging and shall we try both out , we agreed and I encouraged her to take up his advances , he fucked her 4 times on their date , she come home beaming , we started swinging enjoying couple play mfm fmf , and she still fucks him every now and again ,ten years on , I will have some solo fun too . He now knows I gave her my permission and if I don’t find someone for fun when his down ,we both give her a good time , she don’t get any nerves like she does in the club and it’s all very relaxed horny fun .and he enjoys the fact I like watching and let them get on with it , we have a great friendship now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Speaking from experience, don't involve close friends.
As mentioned above, perhaps start at a club, no pressure on yourselves, just go as a couple and enjoy the time together there.
Go with the intention of not playing, just chatting and get to know the people and surroundings and see if its what you both feel comfortble with.
There is always the other option of a social meet on neutral ground with someone from Fab. Meet at a pub, coffee shop etc etc. Chat with the selected person and gain some common ground. If they don't meet your expectations, it was just a drink and a chat, no addresses given, no need to stay in contact.
Another option is to go to a club, select a random person, tell them what you want, see if they are willing, do what you want to do and see if it works for you both.
Communication between you and your other half is paramount.
Chemistry between your selected partner and yourselves is important.
Being comfortable after is the most important part. No jealousy, envy or regrets. Just fun on neutral ground, with a neutral person works for me. |
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We took the approach that we would meet people in this lifestyle who we get on with, without hunting for anything in particular. We would make decisions about whether we wanted things to go progress based on the friendships we formed. We got chatting to a particular lady and we got on very well. We both fancied her a lot and we talked about how if the opportunity ever arose for us to get it on together then we would go with the flow. On one occasion when we met up, it all kicked off and it was a wonderful experience. We think this could be a long-term thing. |
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My (male) first 3sum was when a couple invited us both over (having met us both before on a few occasions). Wife was to ti_ed from work that weekend so I got invited on my own.
Our first 3 some wa with a lady we met at a social.
That's about it so far. Like them, just not had many oppertunitys. |
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You guys are so lucky! My wife used to get really turned on during sex when I used to make up stories about us having threesomes and foursomes, she'd make enough noise to wake the road up. However in the cold light of day whenever I'd suggest it she'd act all shocked and say it was just a fantasy. She was adamant and that was as far as it got apart from admitting to me once that she probably would enjoy it. Sadly she's not even interested in a twosome any more. Good luck to you all! |
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By *oneybeesCouple
over a year ago
Worcs, West Midlands |
"First time couple thinking about getting into 3sums. Doing a lot of talking, but just to go off ata tangent...
How do couples get into 3sums anyway? Is it a fantasy of 1 half of the relationship? Do both halves of the relationship discover it is their fantasy?
Would be interesting to know
Suppose everyone is different, for both of us we'd previously done them before in different flavours (mmf, mff) so it wasn't much of an issue to decide to give them a try together. These days we usually look for girls online as we're not big on clubs and the hygiene issues there. But in fairness can see why clubs and events would be easier to strike up the conversation with a third person."
obviously been going to the wrong clubs. No hygiene issues at any of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partner is bi and we got into the lifestyle so she could meet women and it sort of developed from there she soon realised she was a cuckqueen so and loves watching before joining in but she still enjoys her single meets with other women as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Watching Sexcetera with my first girlfriend and there was a feature about swinging. From that, I liked the idea of watching her getting fucked and she liked the idea too. After that, I used to get her to go out and pull and bring a guy back. Initially I just used to watch and then fuck her after the guy had left but one guy she brought back asked me to join in so it went from there. |
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My first "swinging meeting" was a 3 some, I'd come across a swinging site by accident really back in the day (on a porn esque trawl of the Internet) and met up with a local couple who had placed an ad. And never looked back! I'd seen "contact mags" back when I was a snot nosed 16 year old engineering apprentice, but wouldn't have had the courage to call anyone, never mind meet up back then! Oh the fun I may have missed  |
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My only 3some meeting was meant to be a first meet over a morning coffee.
It was at thier invite, via another swingers site, after a good week or so of messaging.
We clearly got on well as I was invited to their place there and then. A lovely time was had for the rest of the day. |
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My first was when at uni, I had snogged and groped a female friend whilst d*unk, we went back to her house after the club and we carried on making out.
After a while her boyfriend came back and found us getting friendly, he asked if we wanted him to join us, suddenly it it was hands and mouths everywhere and in a very short time she was getting fucked whilst I was snogging her and playing with her tits.
I then ended up going down on her and he then ente_ed me from behind which took me by surprise but at that point I was way too horny to say no and that was the tip of the slippery slope of debauchery.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"obviously been going to the wrong clubs. No hygiene issues at any of them "
Well not to judge anyone that's a personal preference. But it's not like every person is washing their hands between each encounter in clubs. We're not anti clubs but for us it's a much better tool for socialising rather than for jumping onto an orgy bed with who knows. |
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Sue started having massages at home and Ben watched ...things went further each time ...making it v erotic...and Sue asked for a 4hand massage which finished with us all on the bed naked pleasuring Sue (our first 3some)...not planned but opened the door for lots more horny adventures ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me and my gf want to do this. I’ve done it before in clubs and it was something that just happened naturally. Current gf will try fmf for now as she says MMF is too intimidating. My plan is to take her to a club when they reopen and let her set the pace until she is comfortable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It has taken nearly 18 months of ‘fantasy ‘ talk during sex , but my wife has happily said she would love to fuck a younger guys cock. This really turns both of us on so much. We are both really excited and comfortable with this .Still to arrange our first meeting , but hoping really soon to make fantasy a reality. |
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Very much a fantasy of mine (mrs).
And we just got talking about it one day and the more we talked about it the more we realised how much of a turn on it was and how horny it got us.
Its developed a little now from just my bi curiosity.
Ive also discove_ed im somewhat of a cuckqueen and watching the hubby with a woman is as hot as us all joining in together. |
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"First time couple thinking about getting into 3sums. Doing a lot of talking, but just to go off ata tangent...
How do couples get into 3sums anyway? Is it a fantasy of 1 half of the relationship? Do both halves of the relationship discover it is their fantasy?
Would be interesting to know"
it kinda just happened one evening with a friend. There was never any going back from there.. that was almost 30 years ago |
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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago
outside your bedroom window ;-) |
Having been involved in a few mfm scenarios where the woman is the absolute centre of attention. My advice would be to get to know your prospective person, male or female.
A social and plenty of "normal" conversation pre-meet only add to the attention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hubby suggested it to wife and after trying to setup a meet on here we just went to a swingers club and full swapped. We have noticed it is difficult finding folk who are that pragmatic as people seem to want connections and social foreplay before sex. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
I was always interested in the lifestyle and used to answer ads in old style contact mags.
I put an ad one day and got a reply from a couple not too fat away and they were willing. First the guy took pics and watched.was invited back a week later where he joined in. I have loved them ever since. Sadly as a single bloke they are few and far between specially as I get older |
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By *evlishduncMan
over a year ago
north suffolk south norfolk |
First three sum was unexpected. Living in Aix en Provence as a student, staying with another student on a sofabed in her living area. She and I had an on off sexual relationship but she always said that I was welcome in her bed whenever I wanted!
I came back from rugby training one evening (about 10pm) and feeling horny went up to her room. Didn't turn on the lights, stripped off and climbed into bed. A male voice, Dutch accent, said: "oh, threesum, I like that" and as the _ed tops say one thing led to another. |
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"First time couple thinking about getting into 3sums. Doing a lot of talking, but just to go off ata tangent...
How do couples get into 3sums anyway? Is it a fantasy of 1 half of the relationship? Do both halves of the relationship discover it is their fantasy?
Would be interesting to know"
Myself and my parter had been together 3 years when we asked each other if its something we had ever done to which we both said no...we then talked about it for days and days, if we decided to do it there would be boundaries, rules that sort of thing, we cove_ed just about everything you could think of, we decided to go for it, we had a friend who was on fab so she introduced us to it and it just went from there, we were both so nervous and sca_ed because we are crazy about each other..it hasn't had any affect on our relationship but it does have to be a mutual agreement, commu ication is key, even during play, make sure you have a safe word...if that safe word is used in any play for us then play stops straight away...and we make that very clear when we meet someone. |
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My wife had numerous threesomes (MFM and MFF) as a single lady swinger prior to me meeting her, but I've not been fortunate enough to experience a proper one yet. It's on my wish list, but it's proving elusive so far  |
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A good mate of mine suggested it to me and said his misses might be up for it but I would have to make the first move. Because I knew them it took me nearly a year to pluck the courage lol. And I'm glad I did because we had some really good fun |
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By *opman121Man
over a year ago
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Started a new job did not know any one ,made a work friend after a few weeks asked me over for a meal with is wife , after the meal they asked if I would join them in the bed room , now hooked on mmf just love the excitement and experience every time |
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