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By *onnic OP Couple
over a year ago
Rotherham |
So me and the hubby have agreed to have a threesome with a man. We both looking forward to it!
We have had couples and single females before but how do other couples tend to play it with another male. Social still and make a night or it or more of come and play only?
Would love you hear people’s thoughts and experiences xx |
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over a year ago
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You and hubby should discuss what YOU want from it and then chat with the guy about do's and don'ts. Do you want to have threesome fun, sleep and maybe round 2 or do the 3thing and then have your own time together (reclaim sex of sorts)? Just remember he is there for you.
Not sure if this helps.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do you want to happen?
I prefer a quick drink, in the hotel bar, we only meet single men in hotels, make sure they are the person from the profile, then up to our room. We always make it clear they won't be spending the night with us, so they leave soon afterwards, it's just personally what I prefer, but everyone is different xx
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over a year ago
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"So me and the hubby have agreed to have a threesome with a man. We both looking forward to it!
We have had couples and single females before but how do other couples tend to play it with another male. Social still and make a night or it or more of come and play only?
Would love you hear people’s thoughts and experiences xx"
Babe trusted my judgement enough to allow me to invite a single guy over as she was restrained and blindfolded. To this day, she has no idea who he is. Was a very erotic experience |
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"So me and the hubby have agreed to have a threesome with a man. We both looking forward to it!
We have had couples and single females before but how do other couples tend to play it with another male. Social still and make a night or it or more of come and play only?
Would love you hear people’s thoughts and experiences xx
Babe trusted my judgement enough to allow me to invite a single guy over as she was restrained and blindfolded. To this day, she has no idea who he is. Was a very erotic experience "
I use to swing with a FWB and she trusted me to find the guys too.. She would only know we were meeting someone in our hotel room at a certain time. Then knock came on the door and see finally met him as he walked in.. WE did that twice and both were very successful.. Every couple is different though.. |
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over a year ago
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Our preffered place would be meet at a club, as they are currently closed we meet at their place, never promise anything just meet for drinks and see how it goes. Had some amazing meets this way. If there's no attraction or spark then nothing lost but an evening out..we find hotels emphasise a little too much on play, sometimes too crowded in bars to chat and the main feature of the room is the bed....thus the emphasis on being on it and play. |
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"Our preffered place would be meet at a club, as they are currently closed we meet at their place, never promise anything just meet for drinks and see how it goes. Had some amazing meets this way. If there's no attraction or spark then nothing lost but an evening out..we find hotels emphasise a little too much on play, sometimes too crowded in bars to chat and the main feature of the room is the bed....thus the emphasis on being on it and play."
Chameleons is my favorite club as well.. |
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"So me and the hubby have agreed to have a threesome with a man. We both looking forward to it!
We have had couples and single females before but how do other couples tend to play it with another male. Social still and make a night or it or more of come and play only?
Would love you hear people’s thoughts and experiences xx"
We've never had a MFM ourselves as a couple (just FFM). Wife's bi and on the few occasions when the fancy actually took her to try a MFM, we where just met with time waster no shows. Gonna try again soon but...whatever. But (as we play solo) I was invited to join in with another couple (that we had met as a couple) a few times for their MFM. It wasn't so much a planned thing but they had a free night, asked us over but my wife just so happened to be working that evening so couldn't go. As a (what I assume was a spur of the moment decision) they decided to invite me over and give it a try. Didn't expect and invite but I was down to try it.
We'd already done the social part, they where well aware my wife was cool with it and it we had already played as a group more than once so I was kind of a safe bet "experiment" for them.
In that case, I just played it cool and let them take the lead. First time was sitting and chatting (usual social stuff we hade done as 2 couples) for a while then she left the room and came back in rather undressed and it went from there. Second time much to my surprise, she was naked and waiting for me when I got there.
This was maybe 10 years ago or so? All I know was that part their first MFM and after that (from what I understand) it became a regular thing for them. Like really regular and they moved onto gangbangs, doing the hot wife thing from what I understand. Got an invite to join in on a gangbang but was working that night :/ Apparently they got a huge kick from it and it became a big empowerment thing for her.
We met them very early on in their journey into swinging (we where like their 2nd or 3rd ever meet) and they had no idea what to expect other than partner swapping.
Well, clearly the whole MFM unlocked something as she went from being rather shy and unsure of herself on the first few meets to a whole "come and fuck me silly, the more the better" attitude. Was quite sexy to see that sort of change in someone actually.
Lost touch with them eventually as they moved back down south but it was fun.
Not saying that's what's going to happen to you guys or anyone else of course. We are all shy newbies at some point eventually get the confidence to try stuff we may not have done before but clearly in her case, it unlocked something she didnt know was there.
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"So me and the hubby have agreed to have a threesome with a man. We both looking forward to it!
We have had couples and single females before but how do other couples tend to play it with another male. Social still and make a night or it or more of come and play only?
Are you going to invite someone you already know or a complete stranger? We went with a stranger for our only 3sum to ensure we didn't have any awkward accidental meets in future
Would love you hear people’s thoughts and experiences xx"
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"You and hubby should discuss what YOU want from it and then chat with the guy about do's and don'ts. Do you want to have threesome fun, sleep and maybe round 2 or do the 3thing and then have your own time together (reclaim sex of sorts)? Just remember he is there for you.
Not sure if this helps.
Enjoy "
He is not a sex toy, for it to work everyone needs to feel comfortable and have fun without en pressure |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
As a single male who has experienced this with many couples over the years, some for their first time, I would suggest not rushing into meeting. Message through here and choose carefully. If the guy is in a hurry I would suggest he is best avoided as he will only be looking for his own pleasure. He should be well aware he is joining you at your invitation. Meet for a social first, go away and chat between the two of you if he works for both of you. Even in a straight mfm, he would need to be someone you are both comfortable with. If you are arrange to meet for a play, having already discussed previously how you would like play to go. There needs to be something in it for all three of you. You should be able to say no, at any point too. All stuff you are probably aware of and mainly common sense. |
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"You and hubby should discuss what YOU want from it and then chat with the guy about do's and don'ts. Do you want to have threesome fun, sleep and maybe round 2 or do the 3thing and then have your own time together (reclaim sex of sorts)? Just remember he is there for you.
Not sure if this helps.
Enjoy "
Sorry but when Inviting a man or a women to join you they are NOT there just for you. There are there form themselves to. They are not coming to join as a spare part to your fun. It's their fun too. Tbsts probably the worst advice I've seen on here. |
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"You and hubby should discuss what YOU want from it and then chat with the guy about do's and don'ts. Do you want to have threesome fun, sleep and maybe round 2 or do the 3thing and then have your own time together (reclaim sex of sorts)? Just remember he is there for you.
Not sure if this helps.
Enjoy
Sorry but when Inviting a man or a women to join you they are NOT there just for you. There are there form themselves to. They are not coming to join as a spare part to your fun. It's their fun too. Tbsts probably the worst advice I've seen on here. "
Couldn't agree more, everyone needs to be treat the same, we find a social to talk about what everyone want and don't want works best for us  |
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Mr my point of view and I've been on both sides, as a single male, I expect to do a social meet first and nothing else. However in about 50% of the time it has led to fun that meet.
While in a couple we did exactly the same, social meet first mainly no fun and those who got invited back on another day got to have fun. But there was always one or two who my ex just grabbed and dragged home for fun on the first meet.
the important thing is have a plan but be flexible. and go with your gut. if you're polite nobody is going to get upset if you turn them down after the first meet and after everybody has gone home.
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"You and hubby should discuss what YOU want from it and then chat with the guy about do's and don'ts. Do you want to have threesome fun, sleep and maybe round 2 or do the 3thing and then have your own time together (reclaim sex of sorts)? Just remember he is there for you.
Not sure if this helps.
Enjoy
Sorry but when Inviting a man or a women to join you they are NOT there just for you. There are there form themselves to. They are not coming to join as a spare part to your fun. It's their fun too. Tbsts probably the worst advice I've seen on here.
Couldn't agree more, everyone needs to be treat the same, we find a social to talk about what everyone want and don't want works best for us "
I mean come on, so many threads where women say that when they join couples it's not felt inclusive, felt like an and added extra, there for the couples needs, even one where a lady was made to feel "lucky" they " picked her" been given lists or what they want. But to tell a couple that by inviting a man he is there for you? Why? Yes discuss with hubby what you BOTH would like from the experience, what she wants and he wants, then to ask the person joining you what they would like to get from it too! It has to be mutually beneficial all round. I mean there are some guys who would join anyone for anything , but are they the kind of guys you want to be meeting? |
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"You and hubby should discuss what YOU want from it and then chat with the guy about do's and don'ts. Do you want to have threesome fun, sleep and maybe round 2 or do the 3thing and then have your own time together (reclaim sex of sorts)? Just remember he is there for you.
Not sure if this helps.
Enjoy
He is not a sex toy, for it to work everyone needs to feel comfortable and have fun without en pressure "
Not what I meant at all, just not to let him think he can shot and leave. Unless that's what you want. Of course you all need to be on the same page, I just think the couple need to decide which page.  |
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"You and hubby should discuss what YOU want from it and then chat with the guy about do's and don'ts. Do you want to have threesome fun, sleep and maybe round 2 or do the 3thing and then have your own time together (reclaim sex of sorts)? Just remember he is there for you.
Not sure if this helps.
Enjoy
Sorry but when Inviting a man or a women to join you they are NOT there just for you. There are there form themselves to. They are not coming to join as a spare part to your fun. It's their fun too. Tbsts probably the worst advice I've seen on here. "
What makes you think he won't? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You and hubby should discuss what YOU want from it and then chat with the guy about do's and don'ts. Do you want to have threesome fun, sleep and maybe round 2 or do the 3thing and then have your own time together (reclaim sex of sorts)? Just remember he is there for you.
Not sure if this helps.
Enjoy
Sorry but when Inviting a man or a women to join you they are NOT there just for you. There are there form themselves to. They are not coming to join as a spare part to your fun. It's their fun too. Tbsts probably the worst advice I've seen on here.
Couldn't agree more, everyone needs to be treat the same, we find a social to talk about what everyone want and don't want works best for us
I mean come on, so many threads where women say that when they join couples it's not felt inclusive, felt like an and added extra, there for the couples needs, even one where a lady was made to feel "lucky" they " picked her" been given lists or what they want. But to tell a couple that by inviting a man he is there for you? Why? Yes discuss with hubby what you BOTH would like from the experience, what she wants and he wants, then to ask the person joining you what they would like to get from it too! It has to be mutually beneficial all round. I mean there are some guys who would join anyone for anything , but are they the kind of guys you want to be meeting? "
Instead of berating you could try talking. I did say they talk together as a couple then talk to him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm having a threesome with my Sir and another guy. We've all been talking about what we'd like and then discussing it to see what the others think. We're all on the same page now which is vital. Communication is key along with safe words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You said discuss with hubby what want and that the guy your inviting is there for you.. so it very much sounds all about her and just inviting a guy for what you want."
I also said discuss with the guy all the do's and don'ts, which If you're a decent couple will include his. As a single guy you are entering their relationship without it you are redundant. |
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To be fair some guys would like the idea of being a couples sex toy and being there just to please them and do what they want and please them.
The biggest issue i have had from MMF meets is getting from the social aspect to the play time; who decides, how and when.
I had one mmf meet where it was clear he wanted to play I wanted to play but I got the distinct impression I was not for her, so nothing happened, but we had a great evening chilling !
Another time we were in the hotel bar and within ten minutes we were in my room that time it was clear we all wanted to play and there and then.
Its a communication thing, just invite the guy round and as soon as he walks in get him naked ! (now that is a test for all of you lol)
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"You said discuss with hubby what want and that the guy your inviting is there for you.. so it very much sounds all about her and just inviting a guy for what you want.
I also said discuss with the guy all the do's and don'ts, which If you're a decent couple will include his. As a single guy you are entering their relationship without it you are redundant."
Without it you are redundant? Do you mean the couples.? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met a few couples. Some in a club, some at their home and some out for a drink then off for a bit of fun. Loved all the experiences but the best ones were meeting at a pub for a few first for a little chat. Makes a longer nicer experience |
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"So me and the hubby have agreed to have a threesome with a man. We both looking forward to it!
We have had couples and single females before but how do other couples tend to play it with another male. Social still and make a night or it or more of come and play only?
Would love you hear people’s thoughts and experiences xx"
Communication is the key. First you and hubby need to discuss what you would like to happen. Do you want him to watch at first and then join in? Does he want to watch at first and then join in? Do you want both men to play with you from the start, are you going to allow the guy to kiss you, etc. Once you decide how you want things to go you need to communicate that to whoever you choose to meet.
Before meeting a guy tell him your sexual likes and dislikes. Makes sure he knows if he tries to do anything you have said you don't like sexually the meet will end.
I prefer to know what a couple or single woman does and doesn't like to do sexually before meeting them. Thay way I can make sure I only do things they like doing sexually. |
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Talk with each other about what you both want from it and go from there.
For us we like to invite a guy straight to our room where C likes to dress in very little and for him to be under no illusion of what she wants. We like a couple of hours of play as a 3 some then to be left for some us time and for us to have our ‘reclaim’ sex. We communicate this to the guys from the start and all the ones we’ve spoken to and met seem happy with this.
It all depends on what you as a couple want to get out of it. C likes the way we do it as she just want an extra guy or 2 for some horny no strings sex. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Be clear with your partner what rules limits and how the other guy will interact. Personally I prefer to orchestrate and use him as an assistant , with pre agreed rules, if she’s special to me at least, but some ladies prefer a free for all style and want to change rules in the moment |
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