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Why dont I cum when receiving bj?
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By *amietxx OP Man
over a year ago
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Dont get me wrong sometimes receiving a bj is a magical feeling but I have never been able to unload in her mouth as much as I've wanted to and have tried.
Can cum quick enough other ways.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my entire time on this earth only 2 women have made me cum during a blowjob and every time too. If it happens it happens, techniques, being relaxed enough, theres lots of reasons.. dont overthink it just enjoy it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need to be relaxed and comfortable , preferably not full of booze. Not to brag but am going too av never not made a guy cum from my bj  "
5 or 6 guys here so far that will take that challenge lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps they're giving you a shit bj?  "
Ive found most women go at it 'pornstar' style, deep throating and choking on it, this does nothing for me at all.
The ones that have made me cum have been sensual and read my body  |
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Sometimes I can cum via a bj within minutes other times I can't at all .maybe try to get your partner to try different techniques, maybe try masturbating but do not cum .then you are nearly there already .it's all about finding what works for you and having fun |
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"You need to be relaxed and comfortable , preferably not full of booze. Not to brag but am going too av never not made a guy cum from my bj
5 or 6 guys here so far that will take that challenge lol x"
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I’ve only known one woman who would consistently bring me to orgasm through oral stimulation. Don’t know why others can’t do the same for me, but I do think it’s related to my wife always stopping when she could taste my precum....... |
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"You need to be relaxed and comfortable , preferably not full of booze. Not to brag but am going too av never not made a guy cum from my bj
5 or 6 guys here so far that will take that challenge lol x"
It does look like a challenge to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we are all just different, Ive watched porn where guys are being sucked and his cock is soft for a while, I envy them , my cock is rock from the minute my shorts come off,I have come in. 9 or 10 girls mouths,(and I ould cum in all my partners mouths if they let me,) not all of them happy about it, think a girl should spit the cum back into our(mens) mouths , would teach us lol. |
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"Perhaps they're giving you a shit bj?
Ive found most women go at it 'pornstar' style, deep throating and choking on it, this does nothing for me at all.
The ones that have made me cum have been sensual and read my body "
Hit the nail on the head.
For me, liz, its tactile and sensual, sadly when you gents look at too much porn it's all frantic rubbing and banging away like a deranged chimp.
Total turnoff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont get me wrong sometimes receiving a bj is a magical feeling but I have never been able to unload in her mouth as much as I've wanted to and have tried.
Can cum quick enough other ways.."
Don't worry about it OP, lots of guys have this same predicament. I hardly ever cum from oral, even though I love it! Don't put pressure on yourself, porn is full of lies! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not given many blowjobs where the guy hasn't cum. Most give in after 5 minutes at most lol x"
James Dyson called, he wants his new technology back  |
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"Perhaps they're giving you a shit bj?
Ive found most women go at it 'pornstar' style, deep throating and choking on it, this does nothing for me at all.
The ones that have made me cum have been sensual and read my body
Hit the nail on the head.
For me, liz, its tactile and sensual, sadly when you gents look at too much porn it's all frantic rubbing and banging away like a deranged chimp.
Total turnoff."
Completely agree |
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I’m sure that’s perfectly normal. Lots of ladies don’t climax from receiving oral so I’d assume the same applies to men receiving oral.
As a poster said further up, if you really just want to cum in someone’s mouth then try another way of getting you almost to the point of ejaculation and then finish in her mouth.
Or just continue to enjoy the experience without worrying about the final out’cum’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need to be relaxed and comfortable , preferably not full of booze. Not to brag but am going too av never not made a guy cum from my bj "
I'd be up for putting that to the test haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be able to cum from a bj, but I suffered really bad domestic abuse and violence which sort of affected me. it's been 4 years now and its frustrating |
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"Dont get me wrong sometimes receiving a bj is a magical feeling but I have never been able to unload in her mouth as much as I've wanted to and have tried.
Can cum quick enough other ways.."
Covid ? Is that why? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"In my entire time on this earth only 2 women have made me cum during a blowjob and every time too. If it happens it happens, techniques, being relaxed enough, theres lots of reasons.. dont overthink it just enjoy it. "
Can I be the third? |
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I don't think there is a right way to give a bj but I suspect there are a number of wrong ways..Guys like it done differently.
It is not everyone's cup of tea and there are lots of other things to do.
It is not uncommon for guys not too cum via oral sex ..
Many ( hetero) married guys tell me their wife's either don't like doing it or do it with such little enthusiasm it doesn't do the trick...
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Simply put, whoever is performing the BJ hasn’t quite mastered what they need to do. My wife could never make me cum using her mouth but with practice she has improved to the point I cum every time.
For me I like her to wank the bottom of my shaft with her hand whilst her mouth goes up and down on the head. I also close my eyes and think of all the stuff that makes me cum when I’m masturbating myself. It’s such a nice feeling finishing in her mouth, I love it. It’s also a nice end for my wife as a compliment on a job well done. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting post OP .....
A good Bj does not always lead to climax for me to , whether that's a man or a women doing it (I am bisexual lol) , I would normally need extra stimulation like having my balls massaged or nipples tweaked - either of those does the trick
On a diffrent angle - recently I made a women climax whilst i was rimming her arse .......funny how our bodies play games lol
J xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find these threads bizarre - I find it incredibly stimulating - too stimulating much of the time! I know we’re all different; I used to think this was just men trying to get a bj by setting this challenge but clearly this is a real issue for some. Poor guys. |
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"I find pulling foreskin back and sucking hard on their bell end hard sends them over the edge nearly every time had lots of face loads lol ??"
Yes, partial foreskin retraction and running my tongue under the foreskin is what I find effective. And yes, sucking hard.
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"I find pulling foreskin back and sucking hard on their bell end hard sends them over the edge nearly every time had lots of face loads lol ??"
see I've found that most men dont like it too hard.. I've always found gentle and sloppy works.. with lots or eye contact.
As to the OP... it is often a psychological issue. My partner struggles with cumming from a BJ.
However he is learning to relax and let go |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My mrs knows when to push me close and when to stop. IMO it’s a different stroke she uses.
"I find pulling foreskin back and sucking hard on their bell end hard sends them over the edge nearly every time had lots of face loads lol ?? see I've found that most men dont like it too hard.. I've always found gentle and sloppy works.. with lots or eye contact.
As to the OP... it is often a psychological issue. My partner struggles with cumming from a BJ.
However he is learning to relax and let go "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dont get me wrong sometimes receiving a bj is a magical feeling but I have never been able to unload in her mouth as much as I've wanted to and have tried.
Can cum quick enough other ways.."
Blowjobs are over-sold as sexual nirvana when in reality there’s a whole heap of much more enjoyable things. I wonder if it’s a porn thing - easy visual shot to film and ubiquitous in almost every scene, but in reality that’s not really the main thing you’re after! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Neither me .. had loads of bjs not one woman has ever managed to get me close .. just invariably too aggressive with my cock lol .. im not fussed though plenty nice experience to have without cumming.. |
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By *enksMan
over a year ago
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I love receiving a bj, i just love the sensation but have only ever cumm twice from them, an ex actually celebrated when I shot my load in her mouth. Both the ladies who made me cumm could deep throat without gagging but don't think that is why I came as the one lady gave me loads. I just enjoy it as part of the process of having a great time. |
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By *amietxx OP Man
over a year ago
south ayrshire |
"You need to be relaxed and comfortable , preferably not full of booze. Not to brag but am going too av never not made a guy cum from my bj
Definitely bragging !  I’m kidding ! Maybe you can help this lad out ? "
Looking at her profile pic , if her bjs are as good as she is sexy then even I would be cumming in no time .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You need to be relaxed and comfortable , preferably not full of booze. Not to brag but am going too av never not made a guy cum from my bj
Definitely bragging ! I’m kidding ! Maybe you can help this lad out ?
Looking at her profile pic , if her bjs are as good as she is sexy then even I would be cumming in no time .
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Definitely agree with you there !
Anyway sounds great that she’s bragging good for her !
And who ever is lucky enough |
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"I can honestly say I have never failed to make a guy cum when giving him a BJ, just wish there were more straight/curious guys about willing to let me prove it"
Just like I would love to meet one of these self-proclaimed ‘bj queens’ who never fail to make a guy cum....... |
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I've never not had a man cum so I must be doing something right  but from speaking to them I think a lot of women just either don't put enough effort in or they presume men want a really fast bj with just sucking if that makes sense.
I remember we went to Eurekas and another girl joined us and we started giving Rob a joint bj, I think I moved away to kiss him and she just started going hard at it and he mouthed to me wtf is she doing, haha! I said just slow down babe to be nice and she said I want to make him cum, I had to be a bit direct after a few minutes and say well you are doing it wrong. I felt a bit bad because she ran to the bathroom in tears. She was younger than me though so maybe lack of experience.
I genuinely love it so maybe my enthusiasm turns men on, I make sure it's warm wet and with lots of wanking, rubbing over the tip, licking and sucking the tip, shaft and balls and yep always get an explosion  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never found someone who can make me cum with a BJ either I'm afraid. I've come close a couple of times but the sensation quickly goes annoyingly. Hopefully find a woman out there with mad sucking skills and who can handle a big load soon! |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"There is a art - and practice. If a woman just does it to please the man but doesn’t really
Enjoy it , the guy feels .. "
That’s very very true. The times I come from blow jobs, and not that often, are when you never have to ask, some women just absolutely adore a big hard cock in their mouth, they do it as much, if not more, for their own pleasure. It’s less about the technique and more about how much she desires to suck cock |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is a art - and practice. If a woman just does it to please the man but doesn’t really
Enjoy it , the guy feels ..
That’s very very true. The times I come from blow jobs, and not that often, are when you never have to ask, some women just absolutely adore a big hard cock in their mouth, they do it as much, if not more, for their own pleasure. It’s less about the technique and more about how much she desires to suck cock "
From someone who gives a lot of BJs,
I’d say you are right.
The person giving the BJ has to really enjoy what they are doing. They have to figure out what the guy likes using different techniques. Guys who are curcumcised tend to like a bj with firmer lip action. Uncut guys tend to get more out of tongue action under the foreskin and around the bellend.
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As many have said before;
- relaxation without to much booze
- a willing participant
- technique
Perhaps spice it up with a blindfold and restraints. Let the person providing the experience take charge. Let go of the controls. |
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"You need to be relaxed and comfortable , preferably not full of booze. Not to brag but am going too av never not made a guy cum from my bj
Definitely bragging ! I’m kidding ! Maybe you can help this lad out ?
Looking at her profile pic , if her bjs are as good as she is sexy then even I would be cumming in no time .
Definitely agree with you there !
Anyway sounds great that she’s bragging good for her !
And who ever is lucky enough "
Feel free too come to Newcastle |
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