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I have recently met a guy that wants to be a sub,
Worship me and be told what to do!
This turns me on massively and I really want to explore that side of me with them......
And advice please for a newbie....
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Remember YOU are in charge, don't do to him what he wants you to do; do what you want and make him do what you want him to do. Within agreed parameters.
Same with what you wear, you choose don't let him dictate what you wear.
Find out what his limits are, some submissives crave pain, some humiliation, see what he can and cannot do.
Take it one stage at a time and enjoy it, dominance is not for everyone try it and see where it takes you
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I have recently met a guy that wants to be a sub,
Worship me and be told what to do!
This turns me on massively and I really want to explore that side of me with them......
And advice please for a newbie....
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Communication, negotiation and consent are key principles.
I would suggest you speak with him to find out what it is he is expecting from you.
Then figure out what it is you want to do, experience and/or explore.
Dom/sub covers so much, but I would expect that what he wants is someone to take charge in the bedroom.
Once you know more about what it is you want to do, then your questions may elicit more specific answers that help you. |
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"I have recently met a guy that wants to be a sub,
Worship me and be told what to do!
This turns me on massively and I really want to explore that side of me with them......
And advice please for a newbie....
Communication, negotiation and consent are key principles.
I would suggest you speak with him to find out what it is he is expecting from you.
Then figure out what it is you want to do, experience and/or explore.
Dom/sub covers so much, but I would expect that what he wants is someone to take charge in the bedroom.
Once you know more about what it is you want to do, then your questions may elicit more specific answers that help you. "
This is super helpful! Thank you x |
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Search google for a list of bdsm activies and get him to complete likes/dislikes/never that way it allows you to understand what he is like as a sub and how far you can push him.
Every dom/sub commitment is different, for some its pain, for some its humiliation, restraint, mental etc, use the list to work out what parts excite you as Dom and then enjoy the connection you have. |
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"I have recently met a guy that wants to be a sub,
Worship me and be told what to do!
This turns me on massively and I really want to explore that side of me with them......
And advice please for a newbie....
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Lucky man !! I have been seeking that for years |
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"I have recently met a guy that wants to be a sub,
Worship me and be told what to do!
This turns me on massively and I really want to explore that side of me with them......
And advice please for a newbie....
Lucky man !! I have been seeking that for years "
She’s out there somewhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have recently met a guy that wants to be a sub,
Worship me and be told what to do!
This turns me on massively and I really want to explore that side of me with them......
And advice please for a newbie....
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I would get him to sign a contract. Search Google for cuckold contract. I know he is not looking to be a cuckold but it will give you ideas for your Dom/sub contract with him. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
"I have recently met a guy that wants to be a sub,
Worship me and be told what to do!
This turns me on massively and I really want to explore that side of me with them......
And advice please for a newbie....
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If you're looking for advice then I would suggest listening to a podcast called 'Off the cuffs'. It covers all types of kinks, some that you may not be interested in, but if you listen from the first one it may be of help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have recently met a guy that wants to be a sub,
Worship me and be told what to do!
This turns me on massively and I really want to explore that side of me with them......
And advice please for a newbie....
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Talk to him. Discuss what he likes and think about what you like.
There are no rules, just both of you must be happy.
If you like him choosing your outfits that's ok.
He might just like being bossed around and made to fuck you. Or be tied up and teased. Or he may want much more SM things.
Any or all of that is ok if you are *both* happy. |
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"I have recently met a guy that wants to be a sub,
Worship me and be told what to do!
This turns me on massively and I really want to explore that side of me with them......
And advice please for a newbie....
Talk to him. Discuss what he likes and think about what you like.
There are no rules, just both of you must be happy.
If you like him choosing your outfits that's ok.
He might just like being bossed around and made to fuck you. Or be tied up and teased. Or he may want much more SM things.
Any or all of that is ok if you are *both* happy. "
That’s great advice thank you |
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