I have been to a couple of parties at local venues, but as a straight single male, I have feel quite uneasy being there.
I know you can talk with the ones holding the party/meet, but they cannot spend all evening with just you.
I have tried on Fab to find a female to accompany me, with no ties, just to help break the ice.
But it does seem to be a very closed shop and difficult to get accepted.
Any advice anyone? Thanks.  |
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Keep going.
The more that people see you and see you being polite, the more they'll begin to approach you.
Starting out in swinging clubs/parties is no different to starting out in any new social situation.
It takes time and effort to get to know people and build up friendship circles.
Speak to people without expectations, join in group discussions and you'll form connections.
Before you know it you'll be a recognised face and recognise people you have chatted with previously and feel more included  |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"Keep going.
The more that people see you and see you being polite, the more they'll begin to approach you.
Starting out in swinging clubs/parties is no different to starting out in any new social situation.
It takes time and effort to get to know people and build up friendship circles.
Speak to people without expectations, join in group discussions and you'll form connections.
Before you know it you'll be a recognised face and recognise people you have chatted with previously and feel more included "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi i went to eurekas as single male and found being polite and patient definitely pays off as in most situations stick with it some nights play some just chat but all good |
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"Keep going.
The more that people see you and see you being polite, the more they'll begin to approach you.
Starting out in swinging clubs/parties is no different to starting out in any new social situation.
It takes time and effort to get to know people and build up friendship circles.
Speak to people without expectations, join in group discussions and you'll form connections.
Before you know it you'll be a recognised face and recognise people you have chatted with previously and feel more included "
Exactly this build a good reputation |
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Keep going to places and you will get to know people, especially if you make the moves that aren't sexual approaches - you can do those respectfully too.. Makings a point of saying hello to people and some small talk will also mean that you establish some people who you know and that others recognise you. Most people aren't super confident, so being the person who initiates things helps to loosen the way. It doesn't matter if you are straight or bi, as boundaries are recognised universally. Rather than look for a partner to go with, wait for that to happen naturally, if it does. Many women are wary of being a ticket for easier club and party convenience. There are women who could appreciate a friend along with them but I'd wait for you ever having 1 identity that she'd like your company |
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