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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Must admit my guy is an amazing kisser and I didn't like kissing at first on a meet but have changed my mind as it is essential and although we do kiss on meets now its not like when we kiss together xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"kissing is part of it."
not if one half of the couple find it too intimate,people shoild never feel forced to do anything they are uncomfortable with,and the op did say his wife finds it too intimate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"An absolutely essential part of sex, can't understand why if you're going to fuck with somebody you think kissing is intimate? Isn't fucking?"
I find kissing more intimate than fucking.
I would never meet for a fuck without a snog, but would be quite happy for a snog without a fuck.....(but both is best!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We respect others choice if they choose not to kiss.
For us we feel its part of foreplay, its a massive turn on and very sexy
Love kissing ....mwaaaah xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Must admit my guy is an amazing kisser and I didn't like kissing at first on a meet but have changed my mind as it is essential and although we do kiss on meets now its not like when we kiss together xx"
Agree with this that there is intimate kissing with your partner which is different to kissing others while swinging  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Must admit my guy is an amazing kisser and I didn't like kissing at first on a meet but have changed my mind as it is essential and although we do kiss on meets now its not like when we kiss together xx
Agree with this that there is intimate kissing with your partner which is different to kissing others while swinging xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing a big part of any meet for us. I think without kissing it would be too cold. But that's just our oppinion and I can see why some couple prefer not to kiss as it is very intimate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is a personnal choice.... I know the first swing meet I had, I was asked if kissing was allowed.... it had never crossed my mind, as to me, kissing is part of the whole experience.
But, I am aware that some couples do consider it too intimate and therefore do not allow it. Only you can set your rules and boundaries, go with what you are comfortable with.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A must for us also.
We can fully understand and respect why others might not want to, but we will not meet couples who do not.
We on our part hope others respect our views and it is on our profile.
Kissing a must for us! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm going to be licking someone's bits then you can bet sure as little green apples I'm going to be doing the full tongue dance with them too, specially nice open-mouthed tip of the tongue jobbies
It'd be rude not to.
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Definately kissing for us. We have had meets without it, normally where the female feels it is too intimate, but something missing in it for us without it.
Agree withe ramming the tongue in though! nothing worse than that! |
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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago
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 How many times does this topic come up in a month.
F/F kissing yes, opposite sex kissing no. Never found anyone that wouldnt play with us because we dont when they were told. Personal preference. |
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my partner doesn't like to see me kiss another guy so we stipulate that. As so many others have said it's a personal choice just as everything else in swinging is and no one is better or worse for expressing that preference. |
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"We prefer to kiss, don't have a problem if others don't do it, if it's too intimate though - what's being shagged??!! Z
quite, or taking the other fella's willy in yr mouth and sucking it!
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lol - quite! that's also pretty intimate! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont get the non kissing thing ?? If your willing do perform oral etc and have sex with someone else then why wouldnt you kiss ??
Each to their own mind you lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The wife says kissing is too intimate for swinging but I think It's part of sex. What do others think? "
I don't kiss. Nothing to do with intimacy but that with a meet it does nothing for me. But then I don't need getting in the mood.
To be honest if your wife doesn't want kissing as part of what you do then she is the only person that's opinion matters.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We prefer to kiss, don't have a problem if others don't do it, if it's too intimate though - what's being shagged??!! Z
quite, or taking the other fella's willy in yr mouth and sucking it!
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I am not sure most people have a grip on what intimacy is . Most acts are purely sexual, to be honest nothing I do with anyone else is intimate. Intimate is between you and your partner. Sexual or erotic is between myself and others.
I can suck a cock and not fancy a guy but I would have to fancy him to fuck or kiss him. I dislike kissing during sex and normally position myself so a guy can't try let kiss me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don't get how u get started!? Isn't kissing the starter? What do u do get straight to the very non intimate oral? An how the hell am I going to taste myself if I don't kiss him after he's been licking my clit?  
Have to have a smooch and a kiss  "
I get down and start on their cock. To be fair I rarely get touched. And very very rarely would a guy lick me.
I can't really ever remember kissing a guy to get it started. It's more verbal teasing then my hand wandering and my mouth straight down.
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"Dont get the non kissing thing ?? If your willing do perform oral etc and have sex with someone else then why wouldnt you kiss ??
Each to their own mind you lol "
just because you are prepared to perform one sexual act doesn't mean you want or have to perform every single one. I love giving a guy oral but dislike receiving, I wont do anal either it's a choice a preference. My partner doesn't like to see me kissing intimately i.e. french kissing I respect that, our sexual partners respect that just as they respect our other preferences.
It is each to their own indeed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"for me kissing is a part of it, teasing the mouth and body, turns some folk on
each to their own though"
I like to kiss the body but on here I'm not looking for passion. I just want the end result.
I only commented as the o p wife obviously has her own reasons and that is what he should be respecting
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"for me kissing is a part of it, teasing the mouth and body, turns some folk on
each to their own though
I like to kiss the body but on here I'm not looking for passion. I just want the end result.
I only commented as the o p wife obviously has her own reasons and that is what he should be respecting
Cali"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on each individual and what there boundaries are but for me kissing is a natural and intimate thing so i say kissing and shagging go hand in hand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" How many times does this topic come up in a month.
F/F kissing yes, opposite sex kissing no. Never found anyone that wouldnt play with us because we dont when they were told. Personal preference."
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Makes me giggle this thread...ya willing to fuck but not to kiss
You can stick ya dick n fingers in every hole but ya cant kiss on the lips.
Its not pretty woman ya know ya wont fall in love if ya kiss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Makes me giggle this thread...ya willing to fuck but not to kiss
You can stick ya dick n fingers in every hole but ya cant kiss on the lips.
Its not pretty woman ya know ya wont fall in love if ya kiss "
Why does it.. Kissing doesnt do anything for some.. others want to keep it for themselves. For me I find it time consuming.. and I dont need getting in the mood.. I prefer to get straight to it..
but then thats what I prefer.. I have kissed on some meets... I just tend not to.. Its not because I have any rules.. but I certainly can see why some couples keep it seperate..
I dont understand those that say they have to kiss to get in the mood.. but I dont think people are odd because of it.. I just know they have different things that make them tick...
I used to think there was something wrong with me because I dont like to kiss others.. now I just accept that if I am in the right mood I do.
but then I would bet most people on here have to fancy the person to suck or fuck them... me 99% of the time I dont even look up far enough to know if I do.. its a hard cock and I want it.
I only commented on this thread as while who kisses and who doesnt is interesting.. his wife doesnt want to.. so that is that.
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"The wife says kissing is too intimate for swinging but I think It's part of sex. What do others think? "
Dont you consider fucking/making love with fem or male swingers intimate, your giving someone other than your partner the use of your body. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me sex starts at first eye contact
For me the build up to sex is as important as sex itself
If i meet someone and we have a bit of a flirt, crafty kiss etc over a drink it just makes the sex so much better
For me kissing is forplay for forplay
i couldnt imagine having sex with someone and missing all that out
If you meet someone for a drink and get on, go back to the hotel room, or whatever, how do you start? does the guy just get undressed and i get straight down to sucking his cock? with no warm up, no kissing, no build up? i really dont think i could do that, seems to mechanical to me, im a person not a machine
i need warming up. turning on, not just having a cock waved in my face and expected to suck it
Everyones different of course, but i like to be made to feel like a person not a lump of meat and i honestly think if i met a guy who refused to kiss me but was happy to use my mouth for his cock id feel a little bit offended by that |
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"For me sex starts at first eye contact
For me the build up to sex is as important as sex itself
If i meet someone and we have a bit of a flirt, crafty kiss etc over a drink it just makes the sex so much better
For me kissing is forplay for forplay
i couldnt imagine having sex with someone and missing all that out
If you meet someone for a drink and get on, go back to the hotel room, or whatever, how do you start? does the guy just get undressed and i get straight down to sucking his cock? with no warm up, no kissing, no build up? i really dont think i could do that, seems to mechanical to me, im a person not a machine
i need warming up. turning on, not just having a cock waved in my face and expected to suck it
Everyones different of course, but i like to be made to feel like a person not a lump of meat and i honestly think if i met a guy who refused to kiss me but was happy to use my mouth for his cock id feel a little bit offended by that"
without some sort of emotion ya might aswell just be a hooker without pay |
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"Makes me giggle this thread...ya willing to fuck but not to kiss
You can stick ya dick n fingers in every hole but ya cant kiss on the lips.
Its not pretty woman ya know ya wont fall in love if ya kiss "
Why does this personal preference make you giggle? I know I wont fall in love with someone if I kiss him and so does my partner but he doesn't like to see it, why do you find that funny? |
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"For me sex starts at first eye contact
For me the build up to sex is as important as sex itself
If i meet someone and we have a bit of a flirt, crafty kiss etc over a drink it just makes the sex so much better
For me kissing is forplay for forplay
i couldnt imagine having sex with someone and missing all that out
If you meet someone for a drink and get on, go back to the hotel room, or whatever, how do you start? does the guy just get undressed and i get straight down to sucking his cock? with no warm up, no kissing, no build up? i really dont think i could do that, seems to mechanical to me, im a person not a machine
i need warming up. turning on, not just having a cock waved in my face and expected to suck it
Everyones different of course, but i like to be made to feel like a person not a lump of meat and i honestly think if i met a guy who refused to kiss me but was happy to use my mouth for his cock id feel a little bit offended by that without some sort of emotion ya might aswell just be a hooker without pay "
I take a exception to that! Are you suggesting that because I don't kiss I'm a hooker or as good as? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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") without some sort of emotion ya might aswell just be a hooker without pay "
I could live with people thinking that.. but to be honest I feel no emotion other than wanting the cock and cum.. I like them if its one to one.. but I rarely play.
It also never feels mechanical.. its just how I like it.. it would feel an act if I was wasting time doing touching and kissing first.. lol
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For those who find kissing ranks lower on the range of intimacy.
Which is more intimate a fuck or a thoughtfully written love letter.
Intimacy for me is linked to romance and loving someone.
Fucking is far more sexual than a love letter, but not more intimate than sharing your inner most thoughts and feelings with someone else.
Kissing can be both sexual and intimate, but I can empathise with those who cannot seperate kissing from their intimate loving experiences alone with there partner, if we where all wired the same way it would be a dull world.
We prefered to kiss, but we also went to clubs and met people who prefered not to or where shy about doing so, it did not feel weird, we just kissed each other whilst playing.
I can see it being awkward, if is more seperate room fucking 1 on 1. But even then never say never. |
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"We thought no kissing at start as it was just for us,,, went out the window within 5 mins of first meet,,, kissing is a horny part of it!! "
That happened to us too, still it's good to have rules to break. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How about no kissing, obviously fingering and oral would be too intimate so... cock in a tesco plastic bag, do the lady from behind, oh remember no talking or holding hands as far too intimate, wipe cock on curtains on the way out ? |
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"How about no kissing, obviously fingering and oral would be too intimate so... cock in a tesco plastic bag, do the lady from behind, oh remember no talking or holding hands as far too intimate, wipe cock on curtains on the way out ? "
so it's acceptable for people to have boundaries, limits and preferences unless it's kissing that's off limits? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How about no kissing, obviously fingering and oral would be too intimate so... cock in a tesco plastic bag, do the lady from behind, oh remember no talking or holding hands as far too intimate, wipe cock on curtains on the way out ? "
lmfao.. love it |
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"How about no kissing, obviously fingering and oral would be too intimate so... cock in a tesco plastic bag, do the lady from behind, oh remember no talking or holding hands as far too intimate, wipe cock on curtains on the way out ?
so it's acceptable for people to have boundaries, limits and preferences unless it's kissing that's off limits?"
It's acceptable to have your own limits, but not to accept everyone else's.
Personally if they can't cook me a romantic meal, I feel they are holding back. |
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"Makes me giggle this thread...ya willing to fuck but not to kiss
You can stick ya dick n fingers in every hole but ya cant kiss on the lips.
Its not pretty woman ya know ya wont fall in love if ya kiss
Why does this make you giggle? I know I wont fall in love with someone if I kiss him and so does my partner but he doesn't like to see it, why do you find that funny?"
Its my personal preference to giggle at this thread
So are you saying you would kiss the face of eveyone you play with given the chance but your partner wont let you? |
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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago
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as long as every one is ok by it yes kissing is good , met one couple who when we got into the bedroom , said no kissing for anyone !!!!!!!!!!!! well i ask you , when you are fucking / or been fucked kissing is part of it .
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"Makes me giggle this thread...ya willing to fuck but not to kiss
You can stick ya dick n fingers in every hole but ya cant kiss on the lips.
Its not pretty woman ya know ya wont fall in love if ya kiss
Why does this make you giggle? I know I wont fall in love with someone if I kiss him and so does my partner but he doesn't like to see it, why do you find that funny?
Its my personal preference to giggle at this thread
So are you saying you would kiss the face of eveyone you play with given the chance but your partner wont let you?"
No! I'm saying that we have discussed it and he isn't comfortable with it so I don't do it, we respect each other's boundaries. I do find kissing especially french kissing very intimate and prefer to reserve that for him only. |
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"How about no kissing, obviously fingering and oral would be too intimate so... cock in a tesco plastic bag, do the lady from behind, oh remember no talking or holding hands as far too intimate, wipe cock on curtains on the way out ?
so it's acceptable for people to have boundaries, limits and preferences unless it's kissing that's off limits?
It's acceptable to have your own limits, but not to accept everyone else's.
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Yes I understand that and I understand that if one of my boundaries is a step too far for someone then they may choose not to meet me. What I struggle with is the way that some people imply that not kissing is wierd. I really shouldn't let internet forums get to me hsould I lol |
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"Makes me giggle this thread...ya willing to fuck but not to kiss
You can stick ya dick n fingers in every hole but ya cant kiss on the lips.
Its not pretty woman ya know ya wont fall in love if ya kiss
Why does this make you giggle? I know I wont fall in love with someone if I kiss him and so does my partner but he doesn't like to see it, why do you find that funny?
Its my personal preference to giggle at this thread
So are you saying you would kiss the face of eveyone you play with given the chance but your partner wont let you?"
Won't let you????
Surely part of being a couple is sharing life together, saying he won't let you is a bit disingenuous.
I may want to blow all our money on a horse race, but I respect my partners wishes that food for the kids and a roof over our heads is a nessesity, it's not her not letting me, but us as a couple agreeing the basis of our relationship.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I understand that and I understand that if one of my boundaries is a step too far for someone then they may choose not to meet me. What I struggle with is the way that some people imply that not kissing is wierd. I really shouldn't let internet forums get to me hsould I lol "
I to be honest know that my preferences are a bit on the weird side.. but I do love to kiss Master... and with a regular guy I may do it.. but for me I don't find sex and kissing go hand in hand.. and I get defensive because many seem to state its wrong..
Its not wrong to do most things we want on here.. its just how someone chooses to do something.
What would be wrong is not telling someone your preferences before you meet.. and them then being left feeling a bit off because they like to kiss and you don't.
Kissing or not kissing.. as long as all are in agreement then its each to their own.
I still think that the OP should just respect his wifes wishes..
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"How about no kissing, obviously fingering and oral would be too intimate so... cock in a tesco plastic bag, do the lady from behind, oh remember no talking or holding hands as far too intimate, wipe cock on curtains on the way out ?
so it's acceptable for people to have boundaries, limits and preferences unless it's kissing that's off limits?
It's acceptable to have your own limits, but not to accept everyone else's.
Yes I understand that and I understand that if one of my boundaries is a step too far for someone then they may choose not to meet me. What I struggle with is the way that some people imply that not kissing is wierd. I really shouldn't let internet forums get to me hsould I lol "
If you let them get to you, then you should stop now. It's just opinion, there are far more dangerous opinions written in newspapers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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From what most have said, people are of the same opinion as me about the kissing. But not kissing the same way we kiss when not playing. I think licking pussy is more intimate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Must admit my guy is an amazing kisser and I didn't like kissing at first on a meet but have changed my mind as it is essential and although we do kiss on meets now its not like when we kiss together xx
Agree with this that there is intimate kissing with your partner which is different to kissing others while swinging xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The wife says kissing is too intimate for swinging but I think It's part of sex. What do others think? "
whatever someone is not comfortable with in a meet should be respected just coz you ok with it don't mean anyone who isn't is wrong. I love anal but not all men i chat to will do it but if they tick all other boxes and the social meet goes well then i happy to not get the anal. When i get it is great but isn't a deal breaker |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The wife says kissing is too intimate for swinging but I think It's part of sex. What do others think?
whatever someone is not comfortable with in a meet should be respected just coz you ok with it don't mean anyone who isn't is wrong. I love anal but not all men i chat to will do it but if they tick all other boxes and the social meet goes well then i happy to not get the anal. When i get it is great but isn't a deal breaker "
So you love anal do you? Hmmmm.... next time your down in Kent....... Ha ha!
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By *ustpartyCouple
over a year ago
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To us, a no kissing rule just implies an underlying jealousy issue. Couples with no kissing rules should seriously consider whether swinging is right for them before it destroys their relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To us, a no kissing rule just implies an underlying jealousy issue. Couples with no kissing rules should seriously consider whether swinging is right for them before it destroys their relationship."
What a sweeping statement. Yes it maybe true for some but not all. And seeing as many of us don't need to kiss as long as everyone is in agreement it doesn't matter.
As to the person that said I don't know how people don't kiss as in, it just happens. For me it just doesn't. If I kiss I.'ve had to think about it. Everyone does things differently and just because a couple chose to keep something for them doesn't mean they have issues.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To us, a no kissing rule just implies an underlying jealousy issue. Couples with no kissing rules should seriously consider whether swinging is right for them before it destroys their relationship."
i have thought this a few times
I have never met a single, male or female, that does not kiss, yet i have met many couples who dont
Does make you wonder
I never get the couples who say kissing is to intimate but the women will kiss other woman, not sure what i read into that, is that the woman saying sex with women isnt real sex so they will kiss them or is it a case of their fella gets turned on watching his mrs kissing other women so allows that but not men?
Theres so many things in this game that seem to contradict each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To us, a no kissing rule just implies an underlying jealousy issue. Couples with no kissing rules should seriously consider whether swinging is right for them before it destroys their relationship."
or maybe it's just because we really have no interest in it-i love kissing women because it turns me on...that's me...but I generally have absolutely no in kissing the guys we meet either in a couple or single men...funnily enough it doesn't seem to affect our ability to get meets...we're always open about it from the beginning so don't mislead anyone
We met through swinging...we enjoy it
immensely-we're not insecure or jealous in the slightest perhaps because of the origin of our relationship which has included others from the start
If either of us were single and meeting other singles, I imagine we might feel differently but in the meantime we'll just carry on conducting our swinging in our own way and not dictate to or judge others in how they conduct theirs...
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I need to kiss a woman, otherwise I find it difficult to function, so to speak! Because, if I sense there is no intimacy, it just feels like a mechanical operation. Strangely, I don't like kissing guys but will go down on them no problem and get an erection as a result! Oh, and my partner can enjoy being fucked by a guy without kissing him too. |
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