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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The wife let me have anal set with her for the first time ever at the weekend. Normally I play around her arse with my cock but she never let me push it in. She does like a finger up it when I go down on her and during vaginal penitration but never let me stick my cock in before. She enjoyed it ( so did i) but I only used spit as lube. What lube do you recommend and how do you go about applying it without loosing the moment. |
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"The wife let me have anal set with her for the first time ever at the weekend. Normally I play around her arse with my cock but she never let me push it in. She does like a finger up it when I go down on her and during vaginal penitration but never let me stick my cock in before. She enjoyed it ( so did i) but I only used spit as lube. What lube do you recommend and how do you go about applying it without loosing the moment. "
Jeez you’re lucky she’ll let you ever try again just using spit use any lube you have and plenty of it |
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Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right? |
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?"
That sounds a little unfair, she may not have had the same experience, at all? Transference of your negative experience won’t help, and it may have been positive for them both. If it wasn’t then clearly the OP needs to reassess things, but it’s not for us to all interpret that in such a way. On the same note, clearly it’s a shame you had such an experience, and a healthy reminder for all that it should be what everyone wants and consents to. |
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I really can't see how taking a minute (probably less than that!) to apply some lube would really 'lose the moment'. If the moment of you both wanting it lasts less than a minute I'd suggest it might not be for you both  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I use one from bandara, its an anal glide one called Bondara Anal Relax Lubricant.
Honestly take my word for it, she will thank you for this. It doesn't take away any sensation, just the stinging at the start, it feels amazing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really can't see how taking a minute (probably less than that!) to apply some lube would really 'lose the moment'. If the moment of you both wanting it lasts less than a minute I'd suggest it might not be for you both "
I’d agree with this - although it’s more practical than ‘sexual’ in some aspects, it’s still a positive reflection of you wanting to make sure you’re both enjoying it as much as you can. Just have it in the bedside drawer and it really shouldn’t even impact the moment that greatly. |
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?
That sounds a little unfair, she may not have had the same experience, at all? Transference of your negative experience won’t help, and it may have been positive for them both. If it wasn’t then clearly the OP needs to reassess things, but it’s not for us to all interpret that in such a way. On the same note, clearly it’s a shame you had such an experience, and a healthy reminder for all that it should be what everyone wants and consents to. "
I know a huge number of women who have had exactly the same experience as me, so it’s not reaching to think it was negative for this poor woman too. Our partners, who are supposed to love us, are often the worst for pressuring us into anal and then harming us by doing it incorrectly. Do you think that OP has thought for a second about her comfort or whether she enjoyed it? I don’t, because if he had then he would have already had lube available, as it’s clear from his post that he’s been trying for anal for a long time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use Liquid Silk and him rubbing it onto me and the sound of him rubbing onto him or me rubbing it into him is a huge turn on. The anticipation of knowing what’s to come is very exciting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?"
Ooh that’s a bit harsh. I agree that having a dry cock jammed up you’d bum, unwanted, is a terrible thing. I’ve had the same experience as you and needed an op to repair the damage done. But that’s what the op suggested here at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?
That sounds a little unfair, she may not have had the same experience, at all? Transference of your negative experience won’t help, and it may have been positive for them both. If it wasn’t then clearly the OP needs to reassess things, but it’s not for us to all interpret that in such a way. On the same note, clearly it’s a shame you had such an experience, and a healthy reminder for all that it should be what everyone wants and consents to.
I know a huge number of women who have had exactly the same experience as me, so it’s not reaching to think it was negative for this poor woman too. Our partners, who are supposed to love us, are often the worst for pressuring us into anal and then harming us by doing it incorrectly. Do you think that OP has thought for a second about her comfort or whether she enjoyed it? I don’t, because if he had then he would have already had lube available, as it’s clear from his post that he’s been trying for anal for a long time."
Well someone is grumpy today. I DIDN'T force it. She backed into me when we were having for play. I took it very slow and steady and all the time asked if she wanted to carry on and was ok. When SHE had enough I took it out carefully went to the bathroom to wash my cock,( not because it had shut OR blood on it) but so it was clean so we could carry on having sex. I asked what lube to use as I never planned yo have anal with her and was happy with what WE do. It was an unplanned first time that SHE initiated. So get of your high horse and don't label everyone with your bad experiences. |
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?
That sounds a little unfair, she may not have had the same experience, at all? Transference of your negative experience won’t help, and it may have been positive for them both. If it wasn’t then clearly the OP needs to reassess things, but it’s not for us to all interpret that in such a way. On the same note, clearly it’s a shame you had such an experience, and a healthy reminder for all that it should be what everyone wants and consents to. "
I had lots of anal back in my 20's and did not use lube and I was fine. Everyone is different... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Just so you all know. IT WASN'T FORCED UP AND SHE INITIATED IT. FUCK ME SOME WOMEN THINK ALL MEN ARE RAPISTS. I WAS ASKING ADVICE SO IF IT HAPPENS AGAIN IT WILL BE EVEN BETTER FOR HER. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?
That sounds a little unfair, she may not have had the same experience, at all? Transference of your negative experience won’t help, and it may have been positive for them both. If it wasn’t then clearly the OP needs to reassess things, but it’s not for us to all interpret that in such a way. On the same note, clearly it’s a shame you had such an experience, and a healthy reminder for all that it should be what everyone wants and consents to.
I had lots of anal back in my 20's and did not use lube and I was fine. Everyone is different... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just so you all know. IT WASN'T FORCED UP AND SHE INITIATED IT. FUCK ME SOME WOMEN THINK ALL MEN ARE RAPISTS. I WAS ASKING ADVICE SO IF IT HAPPENS AGAIN IT WILL BE EVEN BETTER FOR HER. "
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?
That sounds a little unfair, she may not have had the same experience, at all? Transference of your negative experience won’t help, and it may have been positive for them both. If it wasn’t then clearly the OP needs to reassess things, but it’s not for us to all interpret that in such a way. On the same note, clearly it’s a shame you had such an experience, and a healthy reminder for all that it should be what everyone wants and consents to.
I had lots of anal back in my 20's and did not use lube and I was fine. Everyone is different... "
Think the assumptions about the op were a bit unfair. We’ve done anal quite a few times without using lube and not had any issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The wife let me have anal set with her for the first time ever at the weekend. Normally I play around her arse with my cock but she never let me push it in. She does like a finger up it when I go down on her and during vaginal penitration but never let me stick my cock in before. She enjoyed it ( so did i) but I only used spit as lube. What lube do you recommend and how do you go about applying it without loosing the moment. "
If you cant get out to get anything suitable, I hear Vaseline will do the job. You must have some of that lying around in a bathroom cabinet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I use one from bandara, its an anal glide one called Bondara Anal Relax Lubricant.
Honestly take my word for it, she will thank you for this. It doesn't take away any sensation, just the stinging at the start, it feels amazing.
Have fun "
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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?"
That’s terribly presumptuous, there has been no indication that any pain or damage has been administered or caused, the OP is asking for lube advice, you could have given the same response but entirely differently, “ OP I would recommend using blah blah but please be careful as when I was younger I given permanent damage by someone with no lube”. It’s the same answer but without the negative and quite frankly accusatory tone given by you.
Can’t we all just get on and help each other??
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We just use the regular stuff - Durex, KY, even Asda own brand - they all work fine for us.
We get a pump type bottle, then when the time is right, Dave pumps some onto a finger & inserts it, then some onto his dick (only takes a few seconds) and slides in gently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We prefer any kind of silicone based lube for anal play as tend to find the water based lubes dry up after a little while and you can feel it begin to tug and it's better if the lube stays oily if that makes sense |
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"The wife let me have anal set with her for the first time ever at the weekend. Normally I play around her arse with my cock but she never let me push it in. She does like a finger up it when I go down on her and during vaginal penitration but never let me stick my cock in before. She enjoyed it ( so did i) but I only used spit as lube. What lube do you recommend and how do you go about applying it without loosing the moment. "
Slip it in then whisper in her ear “I’ve a swingers account on my own”...... then hold on tight for the ride of your life |
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By *andy IanMan
over a year ago
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We use Ann summers anal lube it has a dumbing agent that helps her relax. Put plenty on and in her bum and on my cock then it glides in. The first time though with the lady I have now she had squirted and gushed so much we used that as lube she was tight at first but she had asked me to do it |
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I've come across both situations. One lady friend of mine was extremely willing but at the slightest intrusion was simply in so much pain I backed off immediately. She would have loved it, but it was never going to happen! Another couple of ladies I met absolutely loved it and with no preparation whatsoever simply took everything I had to offer and loved it. As has been commented. Horses for courses and put your partners health and safety as the top priority?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The wife let me have anal set with her for the first time ever at the weekend. Normally I play around her arse with my cock but she never let me push it in. She does like a finger up it when I go down on her and during vaginal penitration but never let me stick my cock in before. She enjoyed it ( so did i) but I only used spit as lube. What lube do you recommend and how do you go about applying it without loosing the moment.
Slip it in then whisper in her ear “I’ve a swingers account on my own”...... then hold on tight for the ride of your life "
People jump to conclusions on here quickly how do you know his wife doesn’t know about the account? |
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?"
Talk about coming to conclusions. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We just use the regular stuff - Durex, KY, even Asda own brand - they all work fine for us.
We get a pump type bottle, then when the time is right, Dave pumps some onto a finger & inserts it, then some onto his dick (only takes a few seconds) and slides in gently."
Thanks for info and not judging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The wife let me have anal set with her for the first time ever at the weekend. Normally I play around her arse with my cock but she never let me push it in. She does like a finger up it when I go down on her and during vaginal penitration but never let me stick my cock in before. She enjoyed it ( so did i) but I only used spit as lube. What lube do you recommend and how do you go about applying it without loosing the moment.
Slip it in then whisper in her ear “I’ve a swingers account on my own”...... then hold on tight for the ride of your life "
Hahaha this comment actually made my day, thanks, I've been having a shitty one |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?"
Ouch! To the comment & the trauma. Not all women are the same. An ex introduced me to the delights and i can't even remember him spitting to be honest, was never a concern. Nice slow gentle penetration and before you know it bingo!
I do hope it never gave you lasting damage, apart from the trauma of remembering the pain etc
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?
Ouch! To the comment & the trauma. Not all women are the same. An ex introduced me to the delights and i can't even remember him spitting to be honest, was never a concern. Nice slow gentle penetration and before you know it bingo!
I do hope it never gave you lasting damage, apart from the trauma of remembering the pain etc
Mrs _d40"
Unfortunately I wasn’t exaggerating about the damage, 20 years later I can safely say it won’t be going back to normal (or what used to be normal, anyway) or it would have done by now. I wish I’d been braver and able to put my foot down at the time, but I was too inexperienced and didn’t know how to resist that kind of pressure. |
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?
Ouch! To the comment & the trauma. Not all women are the same. An ex introduced me to the delights and i can't even remember him spitting to be honest, was never a concern. Nice slow gentle penetration and before you know it bingo!
I do hope it never gave you lasting damage, apart from the trauma of remembering the pain etc
Mrs _d40
Unfortunately I wasn’t exaggerating about the damage, 20 years later I can safely say it won’t be going back to normal (or what used to be normal, anyway) or it would have done by now. I wish I’d been braver and able to put my foot down at the time, but I was too inexperienced and didn’t know how to resist that kind of pressure."
What happened to you was awful and you deserve empathy for that, but it wasn't fair to project your bad experience onto OP and he'd probably appreciate an apology for that. Hope you're okay.  |
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I did it previously with an old partner , lots of soft anal play before hand and lube, anal lube from lovehoney. Every step of the way i let her lead, made sure i wasn't just going in and made sure she was comfortable if it got uncomfortable I'd wait a few seconds, and if it was still uncomfortable I'd slowly help it easy of. It's not just push in and fuck, anal is different and can be alot pain. Listen to others advice and speak to her whilst before and during. It's not a wham bam and done job it takes time. But she should try not tense up abd breathe whilst taking it. That's my personal experience and she enjoyed it alot so give it ago
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"Your poor wife, what a rotten thing to do to her. I have permanent damage and a fair amount of trauma from someone doing that to me. But as long as you get yours and don’t “lose the moment”, who cares if she’s going to bleed for days, right?
Ouch! To the comment & the trauma. Not all women are the same. An ex introduced me to the delights and i can't even remember him spitting to be honest, was never a concern. Nice slow gentle penetration and before you know it bingo!
I do hope it never gave you lasting damage, apart from the trauma of remembering the pain etc
Mrs _d40"
For you personally I feel it was a terrible experience for you and genuinely feel for you in that. I truthfully hope this gentleman doesn't follow what he did. But I can safely say it can be better experience and I hope OP makes sure it's a better experience for his partner |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Just so you all know. IT WASN'T FORCED UP AND SHE INITIATED IT. FUCK ME SOME WOMEN THINK ALL MEN ARE RAPISTS. I WAS ASKING ADVICE SO IF IT HAPPENS AGAIN IT WILL BE EVEN BETTER FOR HER. "
Shouting is never a good look.
While not all men are rapists, you aren't helping the not all men are cheats optic as your profile doesn't mention anything about being married. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Buy the best you can get following recommendations from others. If you hurt her she may not ever let you go there again. I had an injury nearly 4 years ago and still have daily pain from it, I'll never do it again.
So my only advice is lube, lube and more lube. |
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"The wife let me have anal set with her for the first time ever at the weekend. Normally I play around her arse with my cock but she never let me push it in. She does like a finger up it when I go down on her and during vaginal penitration but never let me stick my cock in before. She enjoyed it ( so did i) but I only used spit as lube. What lube do you recommend and how do you go about applying it without loosing the moment. "
Eros UltraX fisting gel (on amazon)
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Water-soluble silicone-based gel with a slight numbing effect with long-lasting lubricating properties.
Free from oil, grease and perfume. Odourless, isn't sticky and doesn't drip.
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Free from oil, grease and perfume. Odourless, isn't sticky and doesn't drip.
Safe to use with latex condoms.
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"The wife let me have anal set with her for the first time ever at the weekend. Normally I play around her arse with my cock but she never let me push it in. She does like a finger up it when I go down on her and during vaginal penitration but never let me stick my cock in before. She enjoyed it ( so did i) but I only used spit as lube. What lube do you recommend and how do you go about applying it without loosing the moment. "
I’m baffled why a grown adult man would admit to not knowing how to apply lube and ask a bunch of strangers how to?  |
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