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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone had any luck finding a friend with benefits here. I was in a swinging couple for years here but split 2 years ago. Can't go vanilla again. Any ladies interested |
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Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? |
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I did have a good tiny run but that’s about it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had a few off of here, currently have 2 and live with 1 of them... I bloody love fab... For the most part  |
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I have over the years. There are some lovely people on Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?"
I think that you are right with that x  |
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I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one...
It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit.
I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is something I have looking for. More so since hubby has worked away Monday to Friday. He's luckily been home since the first lockdown, but may have to go away again soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is something I have looking for. More so since hubby has worked away Monday to Friday. He's luckily been home since the first lockdown, but may have to go away again soon"
Well there's nothing wrong with that x you should go ahead and find a fwb x its always nice to be able to phone a fwb when you get that overwhelming urge x |
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A fwb is lovely to have, an understanding and a bit of fun at the same time. Where they pop up next is anyones guess. I'd love a fwb near work to go for a coffee and find places to muck about. |
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I would not mind one when I go to a club in Blackpool mostly Friday or Saturday day |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
I've met a few who have been happy with the friends with benefits situation and it's nice as you are able to enjoy any social aspects without any thoughts on the sexual side it's good and very relaxing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friends with benefits is great to have.
It is difficult on here to find that though |
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By *azpiz1Man
over a year ago
Camberley |
Love to find a fab female fwb.. not fussed if she is single or in a swinging relationship.
The F bit is as important as the B bit too me. |
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I had a great friend with benefits, we were seeing each other for just over 3 years and he was there for me at the worst time of my life. Unfortunately, life got in the way and he left the scene  . Would love a new one when we're allowed, but not many people are able to meet when I am available. |
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I am lucky to have mine, seen him on and off for years, lots of fun and laughter, in and out of the bedroom |
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Plenty of opportunities and I've had a few over the years via fab |
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one...
It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit.
I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. "
You did have one! |
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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
We meet on here 3 years ago and still going strong despite the current situation. |
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By *eenawMan
over a year ago
anywhere and everywhere |
Yes....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Universal Credit and a 50g pouch of imported tobacco |
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"This is something I have looking for. More so since hubby has worked away Monday to Friday. He's luckily been home since the first lockdown, but may have to go away again soon"
Hey guys Thomas works nights so angie knows how you feel we are near you,friends and meet a cpl of times at the old Sussex social I will ddrop you a hello x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one...
It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit.
I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. "
I’m happy to help out . |
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I’m looking for a fwb myself as well |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I've found men just want the benefits, without the friendship.
They think checking in on WhatsApp once a month is a friendship  |
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"I've found men just want the benefits, without the friendship.
They think checking in on WhatsApp once a month is a friendship "
Story of my life |
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I have a wonderful FWB... over 10 years (met in 2010!)
He’s a great friend, buys me gifts, texts every day, have banter, great sex and I’d be lost without him in my life xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there is anyone in Yorkshire that wants both friends the benefits hit me up, I’m straight . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would like FWB... Each to own but i think the benefits are always better when there is some friendship there |
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one...
It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit.
I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. "
You would still be ‘single’ with a FWB as it’s not a relationship. I’ve a lovely FWB but I would not expect him to nurse me. |
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a FWb is a one way thing for a guy , take these scenarios..
1 her - what you doing ..fancy coming over ?
me - yeah ok ( shes horny)
after several weeks..
1 me - you ok ?
her yeah
me fancy meeting up ?
her no
No idea whats going on here !
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me - what you doing tonight ?
her i'm busy , painting the bathroom ceiling, planning a party for my sisters neice brother in law !
( i was horny ) !
Tips for guys ..
1 get several fwb's
2 don't get married ones
3. get some new hobbies
Tips for ladies ..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've found men just want the benefits, without the friendship.
They think checking in on WhatsApp once a month is a friendship "
Not all men, I've had FWB's and im more than happy to have it feel in part like a relationship where you're there for each other through whatever may come but it's not a full relationship. Its not exclusive and and you're both still single and live that way, just that it's a proper friendship where sex is also involved.
I like things that way too but then its probably because I'm polyamorous. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"What's the benefit?"
you get 2 for the price of one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"a FWb is a one way thing for a guy , take these scenarios..
1 her - what you doing ..fancy coming over ?
me - yeah ok ( shes horny)
after several weeks..
1 me - you ok ?
her yeah
me fancy meeting up ?
her no
No idea whats going on here !
3.
me - what you doing tonight ?
her i'm busy , painting the bathroom ceiling, planning a party for my sisters neice brother in law !
( i was horny ) !
Tips for guys ..
1 get several fwb's
2 don't get married ones
3. get some new hobbies
Tips for ladies ..
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Where's the friendship? |
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lol so basically you're good enough to fuck but not good enough to be considered as a girlfriend
You're supposed to keep your life on hold and wait around for a possible booty call |
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"a FWb is a one way thing for a guy , take these scenarios..
1 her - what you doing ..fancy coming over ?
me - yeah ok ( shes horny)
after several weeks..
1 me - you ok ?
her yeah
me fancy meeting up ?
her no
No idea whats going on here !
3.
me - what you doing tonight ?
her i'm busy , painting the bathroom ceiling, planning a party for my sisters neice brother in law !
( i was horny ) !
Tips for guys ..
1 get several fwb's
2 don't get married ones
3. get some new hobbies
Tips for ladies ..
Where's the friendship?"
Exactly!!! |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
If you're both married and understanding that you can't meet at the drop of a hat , have fun nsa , |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've found men just want the benefits, without the friendship.
They think checking in on WhatsApp once a month is a friendship "
Not all men, and you'd be surprised at what some women think is acceptable for the F part.
In an FWB, the F is hugely important to me. So, meeting socially, for coffee, drinks, meals, walks, etc. Being there as best you can for each other. But not an exclusive thing. You could have several. The benefits are obvious, enhanced by the F part. If you're lucky enough to get a great friendship, and equally great benefits, then hold on to it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife is looking for a female fuck buddy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol so basically you're good enough to fuck but not good enough to be considered as a girlfriend
You're supposed to keep your life on hold and wait around for a possible booty call"
No, that's not it at all... you're describing a fuck buddy.
I think the crux of it comes down to two things. Are you ready for or do you want a commitment? Do you want exclusivity?
Crucially, it's not down to any hardened definition of what an FWB arrangement is. That definition is something that is agreed or understood (or should be) by both parties.
In my past experience, it wasn't unlike a boyfriend / girlfriend arrangement, with the significant differences in that each was free to see others, and we were not "an item". So meals, drinks, walks, days out, helping out... all part of the package. |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
Twickenham |
I have a Friend On Benefits
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I used to have a friend with benefits at school she was up for anything we used to hang around on weekends alot.now I don't have one but would like to find a new one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its something we hoped we had both found . Was good while it lasted and hopefully it might happen again |
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I know I don't want a fuck buddy!
or to be treated like an unpaid prostitute, which guys on here do |
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"I've found men just want the benefits, without the friendship.
They think checking in on WhatsApp once a month is a friendship
Not all men, and you'd be surprised at what some women think is acceptable for the F part.
In an FWB, the F is hugely important to me. So, meeting socially, for coffee, drinks, meals, walks, etc. Being there as best you can for each other. But not an exclusive thing. You could have several. The benefits are obvious, enhanced by the F part. If you're lucky enough to get a great friendship, and equally great benefits, then hold on to it!"
In my experience the F part is more important, being there for each other, walks, chilling out together, hanging out, shopping together, having a laugh.
No one should be expected to have sex even with a FWB! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know I don't want a fuck buddy!
or to be treated like an unpaid prostitute, which guys on here do"
What do you want?
An FB arrangement should be something mutual, for both sides.
Having had FWB arrangements, feeling like an unpaid prostitute was never part of the equation. And if you wish to equate, a prostitute would be much cheaper. |
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I feel like everyone on here wants regular FWB type play... unfortunately for me! |
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"lol so basically you're good enough to fuck but not good enough to be considered as a girlfriend
You're supposed to keep your life on hold and wait around for a possible booty call"
This is exactly why I don’t do FWB lol! What’s the point in getting to know someone and spending time with them none sexually for it never to go anywhere.
Have friends, have sex, and date. Keep it all separate haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wish I could find a FWB, definitely in need X |
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The issue is everyone has a different idea on what FWB means. It varies between someone you see for sex, see socially now and then and message regularly but will never be more than that. Whereas other ppl see it as someone you call up when you fancy sex with no strings.
Its all above finding the ground you both want rather than what's it called |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did for about 4yrs with a lady but that went all tits up. Just got played about. Took me ages to realise it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have had a few off here over the years. Some we continue to remain friends with each other when things changed. It takes a while to find OP. You must remember not everyone on here are looking for that, for those who do there's differing expectations too, some exclusive, some not. Be open with what you're after and you're more likely to find it than if you're not. |
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Yes but it was on tinder. When not on lockdown we meet every Monday for drinks and a night of amazing sex, Go for a nice lunch together and then I drop her off home. It’s a very good arrangement. |
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So what is your definition of a FWB as opposed to a FB? |
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Yes, I was lucky to find one early on, and I have others where our dynamic could fall into that category. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Yes but it was on tinder. When not on lockdown we meet every Monday for drinks and a night of amazing sex, Go for a nice lunch together and then I drop her off home. It’s a very good arrangement."
Tinder can be great, I had a lady friend i met on there used to have a take out on a friday ...go out drinking...lots of sex .some sleep ...cooked breakfast and she would drop me back home ... |
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"a FWb is a one way thing for a guy , take these scenarios..
1 her - what you doing ..fancy coming over ?
me - yeah ok ( shes horny)
after several weeks..
1 me - you ok ?
her yeah
me fancy meeting up ?
her no
No idea whats going on here !
3.
me - what you doing tonight ?
her i'm busy , painting the bathroom ceiling, planning a party for my sisters neice brother in law !
( i was horny ) !
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That's not FWB but more FB. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have two though not seen since lockdown so much etter than having a relationship, I decided when hubby passed he was my swing partner I wasn't replacing him, so FB are the best alternatives |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some very lucky guys and gals in here... |
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For me a FWB is at least 80% friendship. There’s more to life than sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me a FWB is at least 80% friendship. There’s more to life than sex. "
I totally agree I value my friendships above sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol |
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol"
You are right unfortunately
I would love to find someone nice and keep him for longer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol"
that may be true for some but definitely not all. Some of us still have some class about us  |
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol that may be true for some but definitely not all. Some of us still have some class about us "
I believe so, but they usually live far from me  |
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol
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that may be true for some but definitely not all. Some of us still have some class about us "
When I read the former of the above quotes I thought "Cue all the replies detaching themselves from that label".
The second quote confirms that I should have been faster on the keys!
Come on, favour curriers and good impression seekers, where are the rest of you? |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
I'd like it, more emphasis on the friends part and not just the sex. Someone to do stuff with and have the fun as a perk |
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"I'd like it, more emphasis on the friends part and not just the sex. Someone to do stuff with and have the fun as a perk"
Exactly this....living the dream  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd like it, more emphasis on the friends part and not just the sex. Someone to do stuff with and have the fun as a perk"
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The terms FB and FWBs are massively different. I met my last FWBs family on a number of occasions including her mum and son. She met my daughter and my friends too.
To be honest I’m not bothered about having a FB. People are far more interesting than just that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one...
It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit.
I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. "
Hope you recover well and glad you have friends to rely on - sometimes a better bet.
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
Twickenham |
"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol"
Open air or multistorey? |
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Would love a fwb just very hard to find |
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I found my fwb in a club, met, chatted for hours, played that night and kept meeting at clubs. It progressed to going out together, hanging out, lots of contact, weekends away etc and we must ring each other 4-5 times a day and met some from each other’s family. It’s nice without the complication of a relationship like living together. I wouldn’t say Fab is a good place to find a fwb as most just want a quick shag with no after care or contact afterwards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would definitely prefer FWB more fun without the cold wham bam see you later we need laughter and conversation too |
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By *69meMan
over a year ago
Cambridgeshire |
I've been looking for a FWB for a while now. No luck yet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d just like a friend these days |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I joined first I met a guy who became a fwb, it was great, plenty of hot sex , went to cinema , gym a couple of times dinner out and lunch even coffee dates. It lasted a year.
Would love to find something similar again |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
Would love a friend with benefits, |
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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago
forest |
Would love to have a regular fwb or a fwb couple |
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"I found my fwb in a club, met, chatted for hours, played that night and kept meeting at clubs. It progressed to going out together, hanging out, lots of contact, weekends away etc and we must ring each other 4-5 times a day and met some from each other’s family. It’s nice without the complication of a relationship like living together. I wouldn’t say Fab is a good place to find a fwb as most just want a quick shag with no after care or contact afterwards. "
That's not fwb that's a boyfriend! |
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My wife would love a younger fwb, a lady she could hang out with and also share intimate times, alas don’t think it will ever happen but we live in hope. |
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"I found my fwb in a club, met, chatted for hours, played that night and kept meeting at clubs. It progressed to going out together, hanging out, lots of contact, weekends away etc and we must ring each other 4-5 times a day and met some from each other’s family. It’s nice without the complication of a relationship like living together. I wouldn’t say Fab is a good place to find a fwb as most just want a quick shag with no after care or contact afterwards. "
This sounds good to me although we gave each other more space between seeing archer other. We saw each other about every month or so. It suited us both. |
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"I found my fwb in a club, met, chatted for hours, played that night and kept meeting at clubs. It progressed to going out together, hanging out, lots of contact, weekends away etc and we must ring each other 4-5 times a day and met some from each other’s family. It’s nice without the complication of a relationship like living together. I wouldn’t say Fab is a good place to find a fwb as most just want a quick shag with no after care or contact afterwards.
This sounds good to me although we gave each other more space between seeing archer other. We saw each other about every month or so. It suited us both. "
It works very well for us as FWBs, we are friends first and foremost with no pressure of a serious relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife and I found a really nice mature Geordie guy on here, who became her friend with benefits.
It was good for her, having the social side as well as the intimacy.
I enjoyed having him around too. The friend with benefits element made the scenario work extremely well for all of us. It lasted for a few years. Happy times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My wife and I found a really nice mature Geordie guy on here, who became her friend with benefits.
It was good for her, having the social side as well as the intimacy.
I enjoyed having him around too. The friend with benefits element made the scenario work extremely well for all of us. It lasted for a few years. Happy times. "
Mutual respect... Sounds nice and a good experience for you both. Good for you. |
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By *ernminiMan
over a year ago
darlington |
"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?"
Replying to a message is to much of a relationship for most women on here lol |
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?
Replying to a message is to much of a relationship for most women on here lol "
Women get over 500 messages a day so will pick and choose who they like to respond to. No response means no interest |
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?
Replying to a message is to much of a relationship for most women on here lol "
Hey as long as we admit it haha! |
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I found one... he was such a gentleman |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I found one... he was such a gentleman "
Good for you!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had them before, hope to find another one. |
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Any couples out there that have FWB?
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I dint see the point of fwb or fuck buddys
If u are constantly shaggin each other that must prove there is some attraction between u both so why not becone a couple then u can just shag when u want.
Like wise wuth fuck buddy
Butcif your shsggin soneone one day but also seein someone else aswell
I dont get it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who’s interested? |
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"I dint see the point of fwb or fuck buddys
If u are constantly shaggin each other that must prove there is some attraction between u both so why not becone a couple then u can just shag when u want.
Like wise wuth fuck buddy
Butcif your shsggin soneone one day but also seein someone else aswell
I dont get it "
Because being ‘a couple’ is not what everyone wants. Not everyone wants that commitment or to shag the same person all the time. Some want a nice friend with benefits but to also see others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dint see the point of fwb or fuck buddys
If u are constantly shaggin each other that must prove there is some attraction between u both so why not becone a couple then u can just shag when u want.
Like wise wuth fuck buddy
Butcif your shsggin soneone one day but also seein someone else aswell
I dont get it
Because being ‘a couple’ is not what everyone wants. Not everyone wants that commitment or to shag the same person all the time. Some want a nice friend with benefits but to also see others. "
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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago
Dublin |
"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol that may be true for some but definitely not all. Some of us still have some class about us
I believe so, but they usually live far from me "
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Had a lovely fwb for quite a few yrs, we played on here and on holidays abroad etc. She can’t unfortunately play any more so it would be fantastic to find someone local to join the fun as well as meals out, weekends away etc! |
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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?"
Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading |
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Had a lovely fwb who was a great friend and amazing swinging partner
We met outside of the bed for a chat and meals as well as giving mutual support so friendship
She found someone she wanted a relationship with so stopped swinging
Because he got jealous of our friendship we went our separate ways |
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?
Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading "
Why? I’ve got a friend who I have sex with.....works well. Some guys on here just don’t want to be friends but take the sex and run. Glad I’m only here for the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?
Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading
Why? I’ve got a friend who I have sex with.....works well. Some guys on here just don’t want to be friends but take the sex and run. Glad I’m only here for the forums. "
I agree with you and I'm a man...Being a friend to the person is always more attractive for me ... Im not going to judge FB's... That's people's own choice and if both consenting to that then so be it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?
Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading "
How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Would love a fwb just very hard to find "
We are here just waiting to be found. |
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I’ve met a couple of FWB’s over the years on here and it’s worked well. It’s finding that needle in a haystack though.. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"I’ve met a couple of FWB’s over the years on here and it’s worked well. It’s finding that needle in a haystack though.. "
We are stuck in the hay loft . Waiting to be found. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had a couple of FWB's off here in the past from this site. As long as its mutually what both parties want it can work. Hopefully i can find the same again in the future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?
Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading
How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! "
Some people hate getting to know anything about each other which is fine if both are happy with that... Whatever floats your boat... But i think when the brain is stimulated so is the body...Also with a fwb you get to laugh, tease and flirt before anything which definitely z bonus that you don't get with FB |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands |
"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one...
It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit.
I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. "
Twice in the past year I have had to bluff my way through the overnight post sedation system.
The older one gets the harder it becomes to avoid being miserable |
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I’d love a Friend with benefits... someone I get in with, can hang out and have a good social time with, but also someone who if we both feel like it can get together and explore sexually.
No pressure to actually have sex but similarly no actual strings or commitment if you do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?
Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading
How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! Some people hate getting to know anything about each other which is fine if both are happy with that... Whatever floats your boat... But i think when the brain is stimulated so is the body...Also with a fwb you get to laugh, tease and flirt before anything which definitely z bonus that you don't get with FB"
Oh I meant actual friends ... instead of the fab "benefit with friends" type of arrangement ... exactly the same as any other life friend! |
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?
Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading
How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! Some people hate getting to know anything about each other which is fine if both are happy with that... Whatever floats your boat... But i think when the brain is stimulated so is the body...Also with a fwb you get to laugh, tease and flirt before anything which definitely z bonus that you don't get with FB
Oh I meant actual friends ... instead of the fab "benefit with friends" type of arrangement ... exactly the same as any other life friend! "
Not all of us found our ‘friend’ on Fab. It’s the last place I would look for a fwb.....! |
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I had a FWB for 2 years but she has moved abroad, I am interested in FWB. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?
Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading
How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! Some people hate getting to know anything about each other which is fine if both are happy with that... Whatever floats your boat... But i think when the brain is stimulated so is the body...Also with a fwb you get to laugh, tease and flirt before anything which definitely z bonus that you don't get with FB
Oh I meant actual friends ... instead of the fab "benefit with friends" type of arrangement ... exactly the same as any other life friend!
Not all of us found our ‘friend’ on Fab. It’s the last place I would look for a fwb.....! "
Definitely the last place I'd look! I have fab "benefits with friends" but not interested in looking here for fwbs as wouldn't work for me ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is something I have looking for. More so since hubby has worked away Monday to Friday. He's luckily been home since the first lockdown, but may have to go away again soon"
Wish you lived closer! |
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol"
All men want a quick grope and fuck in a car park. Some want other things as well |
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol
All men want a quick grope and fuck in a car park. Some want other things as well "
Yeah like a f**k and grope in a wagon, a car, a park....anywhere if he is given permission to. Not for me. |
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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago
worcester weekend in exmouth |
I’ve had a couple of FWB and it’s worked really well and been great fun for both
Fingers crossed I’m lucky enough to have another one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a lot of guys and girls on here looking for fwb. Sometimes they cum along like buses quite frequent other times it's like looking for hens teeth . Keep looking you will eventually find someone m8 |
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The hardest thing is to find someone who lives close enough to you, I always find the perfect woman but she always lives up north lol |
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"The hardest thing is to find someone who lives close enough to you, I always find the perfect woman but she always lives up north lol"
The night is dark and full of terrors. Sexy little things those wildlings aren’t they ?? |
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"The hardest thing is to find someone who lives close enough to you, I always find the perfect woman but she always lives up north lol"
We are very perfect up here haha |
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"The hardest thing is to find someone who lives close enough to you, I always find the perfect woman but she always lives up north lol
We are very perfect up here haha "
Northern women are the best!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have THE most amazing FWB. If we were both in a different point in our lives I know I'd want more from the relationship but for now I'm happy to have him in my life any way I can get him. |
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"I have THE most amazing FWB. If we were both in a different point in our lives I know I'd want more from the relationship but for now I'm happy to have him in my life any way I can get him."
Can I borrow him please after Covid ? Thank you |
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Didn't find him here, but at wheelchair basketball training |
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always opened to the idea as had successful ones |
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"I have THE most amazing FWB. If we were both in a different point in our lives I know I'd want more from the relationship but for now I'm happy to have him in my life any way I can get him.
Can I borrow him please after Covid ? Thank you "
What's wrong with the one you have?!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to find the benefits part easy enough, but when you want the friends part women tell me im on the wrong site and this isnt a dating site! So i suppose each to their own some want more than casual meet ups, some dont but just a matter of riding the lows and enjoying the highs i guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"always opened to the idea as had successful ones"
I have a sneaky feeling you will not be short of offers... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a previous fab life, I met a woman and had what I thought was an amazing "FWB" situation. As time went on, it became complicated, and she became very contradictory in what she wanted, or didn't want. As time passed in the relationship, I learned more about what we hadn't got than what we had, and eventually, to my absolute shock and horror, I was ghosted.
Everything she said she wanted I was offering, and everything she needed I provided. We had great sex together, with lots of passion, so I'm fairly sure the desire was there too. An FWB has to be built on honesty and trust. While I was completely honest with her, she didn't always believe or accept that, and when it ended, I found myself doubting everything she ever said to me.
I'm not closed off to the idea of an FWB situation. Actually, I think it's much nicer. But if I were to find myself in that situation again (and I actually hope I do at some point) then I now know that it is utterly crucial for both parties to openly and frankly discuss their hopes, needs and expectations from the arrangement, with total honesty.
When that FWB relationship failed, it took me to edge. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"a FWb is a one way thing for a guy , take these scenarios..
1 her - what you doing ..fancy coming over ?
me - yeah ok ( shes horny)
after several weeks..
1 me - you ok ?
her yeah
me fancy meeting up ?
her no
No idea whats going on here !
3.
me - what you doing tonight ?
her i'm busy , painting the bathroom ceiling, planning a party for my sisters neice brother in law !
( i was horny ) !
Tips for guys ..
1 get several fwb's
2 don't get married ones
3. get some new hobbies
Tips for ladies ..
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That's a fuck buddy not a fwb. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one...
It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit.
I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. "
I be happy to look after you :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a previous fab life, I met a woman and had what I thought was an amazing "FWB" situation. As time went on, it became complicated, and she became very contradictory in what she wanted, or didn't want. As time passed in the relationship, I learned more about what we hadn't got than what we had, and eventually, to my absolute shock and horror, I was ghosted.
Everything she said she wanted I was offering, and everything she needed I provided. We had great sex together, with lots of passion, so I'm fairly sure the desire was there too. An FWB has to be built on honesty and trust. While I was completely honest with her, she didn't always believe or accept that, and when it ended, I found myself doubting everything she ever said to me.
I'm not closed off to the idea of an FWB situation. Actually, I think it's much nicer. But if I were to find myself in that situation again (and I actually hope I do at some point) then I now know that it is utterly crucial for both parties to openly and frankly discuss their hopes, needs and expectations from the arrangement, with total honesty.
When that FWB relationship failed, it took me to edge."
Perhaps she had an altogether different perception |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps she had an altogether different perception "
Who knows? It all stopped so abruptly and without explanation, that she left more questions than answers, and more contradictions than certainties.
Lesson learned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps she had an altogether different perception
Who knows? It all stopped so abruptly and without explanation, that she left more questions than answers, and more contradictions than certainties.
Lesson learned."
What lesson is that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s what I’m looking for ideally |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What lesson is that?"
All that glitters isn't gold, especially on fab!
Honestly, this lady took me in so much, was so utterly convincing, that when she ghosted me it was like ripping my heart out. I never expected that someone who I'd given so much to, who appreciated everything I did so much, could do something she hated having done to her by others, to me, especially with the knowledge I shared her views on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What lesson is that?
All that glitters isn't gold, especially on fab!
Honestly, this lady took me in so much, was so utterly convincing, that when she ghosted me it was like ripping my heart out. I never expected that someone who I'd given so much to, who appreciated everything I did so much, could do something she hated having done to her by others, to me, especially with the knowledge I shared her views on it."
I'm never that keen on just hearing one side of a story |
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I have had in the past!!
Don’t get me wrong, I love all things sexual as I wouldn’t be on here...but it does get difficult to distinguish between your feelings and what the other person is thinking....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'m never that keen on just hearing one side of a story "
She hasn't given me hers, so I guess you are no more likely to hear it than I am! |
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"always opened to the idea as had successful ones I have a sneaky feeling you will not be short of offers... "
beg to differ. quality over quantity.. too many people do alot of idle talking these days
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"always opened to the idea as had successful ones I have a sneaky feeling you will not be short of offers...
beg to differ. quality over quantity.. too many people do alot of idle talking these days
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totally agree....its trying to filter the good from the bad that's the tricky part... Good luck finding that needle in the haystack |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I’m just looking for lady who wants a human sex toy  pickup and put down when they want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would be happy just to make new friends. N X |
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"I think I’m just looking for lady who wants a human sex toy pickup and put down when they want. "
Not my style! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would love to find one but for me it’s not all about sex. |
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A friend at the moment would be good even just to chat to, benefits would be great but not till safe, so any ladies like a chat pm me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Based on my experience, I think the FWB can work, and work well. There needs to be a high level of trust and understanding between those involved, and equally, clear boundaries.
The "Friends" bit is probably the most misunderstood part, but the crucial part to determine it being different to an "FB" situation. Communication is key, just as it is for great sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have THE most amazing FWB. If we were both in a different point in our lives I know I'd want more from the relationship but for now I'm happy to have him in my life any way I can get him.
Can I borrow him please after Covid ? Thank you "
That'll be a no!!! Keeping him for myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I’m just looking for lady who wants a human sex toy pickup and put down when they want.
Not my style! "
It has to be someone’s though. Someone with a busy life that just wants her needs attending to. Then off you pop until I need you again. |
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"I think I’m just looking for lady who wants a human sex toy pickup and put down when they want.
Not my style!
It has to be someone’s though. Someone with a busy life that just wants her needs attending to. Then off you pop until I need you again. "
As I said not my style. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I said not my style."
But for many people, especially in the modern age, and in particular amongst those who for whatever reason are not or cannot be emotionally available, it can be a wonderful thing. Needs being fulfilled, company, companionship and a safe and caring environment. |
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"As I said not my style.
But for many people, especially in the modern age, and in particular amongst those who for whatever reason are not or cannot be emotionally available, it can be a wonderful thing. Needs being fulfilled, company, companionship and a safe and caring environment."
His ‘advert’ didn’t feature ‘caring’? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"His ‘advert’ didn’t feature ‘caring’? "
The important thing is both parties discuss the arrangement, understand the expectations and limitations, and that they are each on board with it all. Any FWB situation I've been in has always had a large "caring" element. |
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"His ‘advert’ didn’t feature ‘caring’?
The important thing is both parties discuss the arrangement, understand the expectations and limitations, and that they are each on board with it all. Any FWB situation I've been in has always had a large "caring" element."
Not debating this with you dear but that’s the sort of fwb you want, it’s not what the comment I replied to asked for so please take a moment to read back. Enjoy the rest of your day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"His ‘advert’ didn’t feature ‘caring’?
The important thing is both parties discuss the arrangement, understand the expectations and limitations, and that they are each on board with it all. Any FWB situation I've been in has always had a large "caring" element."
Totally depends on what a person's definition of a FWB is surely? I don't have any kind of agreements, understandings, expectations or limitations with any single one of my friends! Be a hideous thought ... aren't you more describing a 'benefits with friends' or fb type arrangement? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a FWB on here a few years back, had some of the best times of my life with him.
We don’t do the sex now but I still class him as a very close friend!
I certainly wouldn’t be without him xx |
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Over the years I have had four long term FWB type relationships. The friends bit is key. Glad to say all bar one who sadly died have remained friends and remain in contact and we care about each other |
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Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
I have had fwb a number of times.
Playing in kink it is essential, well for me it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we been lucky. |
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too "
What is a select Feb? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too
What is a select Feb? "
I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it? |
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too
What is a select Feb? I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it? "
Lol I get scared of googling anything on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too
What is a select Feb? I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it?
Lol I get scared of googling anything on here "
Haha... Every day is a school day here... I always have Google ready!! There is probably some guy sitting in Google watching my search history and thinking.."what crazy shit is this guy into?" |
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too
What is a select Feb? "
Maybe it's when there's a leap year?!!! |
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too
What is a select Feb? I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it?
Lol I get scared of googling anything on here Haha... Every day is a school day here... I always have Google ready!! There is probably some guy sitting in Google watching my search history and thinking.."what crazy shit is this guy into?" "
The first rule of Fab - do NOT Google it. Never Google. Not ever  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too
What is a select Feb? I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it?
Lol I get scared of googling anything on here Haha... Every day is a school day here... I always have Google ready!! There is probably some guy sitting in Google watching my search history and thinking.."what crazy shit is this guy into?"
The first rule of Fab - do NOT Google it. Never Google. Not ever "
i normally don't Google somethings from here before I go to sleep cos I could wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night! But otherwise being informed is the best form of defense!! |
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By *etnetWoman
over a year ago
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