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"Someone tell him,I can't be bothered" Probably best that someone isnt me Im in a ' tell him like it is' mood | |||
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"Someone tell him,I can't be bothered" I cant be bothered either.. Mum always said cant say anything nice..dont bother. | |||
"Someone tell him,I can't be bothered I cant be bothered either.. Mum always said cant say anything nice..dont bother. " There isn't anything nice to say really. Shouldn't the profile be in the fantasies section?? | |||
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"All advice welcome. Been on here for a few months but not getting much luck, not sure if it's me, my profile, or both. Any advice or thoughts would be greatly appreciated. TIA" It's the Covid situation mostly, a lot of people who would normally be interested in a chap like yourself will not be logging on at the moment. There is not anything wrong with your profile x | |||
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"Thanks all. Yes I know covid about, but, 1.theres still people meeting and 2. Things have to start by talking anyways, but it's not even that. Or are people just not bothering in general?? " I'm not bothering, and anyone who's meeting is, at my very most charitable interpretation of their behaviour, breaking the law  | |||
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"I'm a little lost, why would it be in the fantasies section? " Because almost your entire profile is a (badly spelt, badly punctuated) fantasy. | |||
"I'm a little lost, why would it be in the fantasies section? " If you hit the quote button below the message you're replying to, we'll know who you're replying to. | |||
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"It's only a fantasy if it's not true... " Stories and Fantasies covers both. I'll be honest, I didn't read it, I read the first sentence and went "ugh pass" and skipped it (also any disclaimer about photos is meaningless and unenforceable) | |||
"It's only a fantasy if it's not true... Stories and Fantasies covers both. I'll be honest, I didn't read it, I read the first sentence and went "ugh pass" and skipped it (also any disclaimer about photos is meaningless and unenforceable)" Exactly this I got that far as well and skipping it as well. Some people are put off with stories or fantasies on your bio. | |||
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"Paragraphs are imperative. 'I find the whole: let me describe what I'm going to do to you' a bit creepy and cringy and unoriginal - unless someone specifically asks for a blow by blow...
OK, so general consensus is that the paragraph has to go?
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"Paragraphs are imperative. OK, so general consensus is that the paragraph has to go? " Sorry to be a pedant (not sorry) but.. it's not a paragraph... it's an imposition | |||
"Paragraphs are imperative. 'I find the whole: let me describe what I'm going to do to you' a bit creepy and cringy and unoriginal - unless someone specifically asks for a blow by blow...
"Agreed. If someone absolutely has to put “erotica” on their profile, they should at least proofread it first, and make sure the spelling and grammar is correct. Preferably make sure it’s actually good but we can’t have everything. | |||
"Paragraphs are imperative. 'I find the whole: let me describe what I'm going to do to you' a bit creepy and cringy and unoriginal - unless someone specifically asks for a blow by blow...
Agreed. If someone absolutely has to put “erotica” on their profile, they should at least proofread it first, and make sure the spelling and grammar is correct. Preferably make sure it’s actually good but we can’t have everything."Probably better is to leave it in the stories section and name it in the profile so it can be searched (although depends on quality whether you should or not) | |||
"Paragraphs are imperative. 'I find the whole: let me describe what I'm going to do to you' a bit creepy and cringy and unoriginal - unless someone specifically asks for a blow by blow...
Agreed. If someone absolutely has to put “erotica” on their profile, they should at least proofread it first, and make sure the spelling and grammar is correct. Preferably make sure it’s actually good but we can’t have everything."I'd rather read a shopping list.. or a recipe.. one man's profile text actually is a recipe... for chocolate cake or something... very meta. On the plus side OP .. I like your pics (one of them is doubled though)... and your name. They are great.  | |||
"It’s all good. It’s just covid. "Thank you x | |||
"Paragraphs are imperative. 'I find the whole: let me describe what I'm going to do to you' a bit creepy and cringy and unoriginal - unless someone specifically asks for a blow by blow...
Agreed. If someone absolutely has to put “erotica” on their profile, they should at least proofread it first, and make sure the spelling and grammar is correct. Preferably make sure it’s actually good but we can’t have everything.
I'd rather read a shopping list.. or a recipe.. one man's profile text actually is a recipe... for chocolate cake or something... very meta.
On the plus side OP .. I like your pics (one of them is doubled though)... and your name. They are great. "OK, that's another idea! Thanks anna greatly appreciated.
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"Paragraphs are imperative. 'I find the whole: let me describe what I'm going to do to you' a bit creepy and cringy and unoriginal - unless someone specifically asks for a blow by blow...
Agreed. If someone absolutely has to put “erotica” on their profile, they should at least proofread it first, and make sure the spelling and grammar is correct. Preferably make sure it’s actually good but we can’t have everything.
Probably better is to leave it in the stories section and name it in the profile so it can be searched (although depends on quality whether you should or not)"Thanks for the advice ladies and gents! | |||
"Thanks all. Yes I know covid about, but, 1.theres still people meeting and 2. Things have to start by talking anyways, but it's not even that. Or are people just not bothering in general?? " Theres still people meeting? What does that mean? | |||
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"Thanks all. Yes I know covid about, but, 1.theres still people meeting and 2. Things have to start by talking anyways, but it's not even that. Or are people just not bothering in general?? Theres still people meeting? What does that mean?" There's people that are still doing meets, even in locldown | |||
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"It's a bit daunting to read someone's detailed fantasy on a dating profile. It gives the impression there are specific and impossible requirements that the other person is expected to participate in, a fetish designed to get one person off but not necessarily the other. The fact that it can't be read easily is the capper." That's fair enough... I've taken your advice and removed it, hopefully it'll help a little | |||
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"Hello Op. First and foremost, your profile is an unapealing solid wall of text. There is no way I'd bother to wade through that lot. Why not break it up a little, at least into paragraphs? However, it appears that at least you put some effort into writing that all out, though these stories are often copy and pasted from elsewhere. Also be aware that spelling mistakes etc can put people off. It's all about showing yourself in the best light possible, and if someone can't read, or more likely is put off from reading your profile, they won't. They will simply move on. You say on your profile you are 'looking to explore and experiment with women and couples (FM)', but further down your profile it clearly states 'Couples (FF) Women'. If you don't know what you're looking for then why should anyone else? You're in the military, and we support you guys all the way. However, given that there are Marines in Exeter, Taunton, Barnstaple & Plymoth. The RN in Yeovil and Plymouth and a smattering of Army units as well, we, as a local couple have had our fair share of Service men that say they want to meet, then swear blind at the last minute that they've been put on a guard shift or similar, and it put's us off meeting military guys. You may find that others in this area are in a similar boat; it's only fair to let you know. You can't accom, and that's fair enough, people will probably assume quite rightly that you're in barracks. Similar to the above though; many people will assume that you're here for a short time on a course or similar, and won't bother to get to know you as you'll of moved on by the time people can meet safely again. As an example we are looking for local guys your age, but have never seen your profile before tonight, supporting that theory. You can travel, that's also good. However, it seems that your wanting to travel for sex with a woman in the nineties? If that's true then fair enough, but to most people it shows that you can't be bothered to put effort into your profile and are happy to leave the defaults on. Photo's. Firstly you have a good body. However, two of your four photo's are identical... what's the point in that? Also, 50% of your profile picture is your bathroom tiles and tap, not exactly the image that most people get enticed by. You've been on here four months. During almost all that time meeting up with others has not been allowed by Law. So are you seriously expecting to entice others to break the Law based on the above? As a last thought. Tonight is the first time you've posted on the forums. Are you aware that a lot of people interact on the forum as well as in the chatroom, and they are great ways of getting yourself known a bit. This can help form links that can become meets in the future. Good luck "Wow, that's a lot of advice... But there's a lot of things that you've said that I didn't know, so thank you!! | |||
"Thanks all. Yes I know covid about, but, 1.theres still people meeting and 2. Things have to start by talking anyways, but it's not even that. Or are people just not bothering in general?? Theres still people meeting? What does that mean? There's people that are still doing meets, even in locldown" And? Would you REALLY wanted to be contacted by someone who could potentially kill you, or have you kill someone else? "Hi, I think so little of your health and welfare, my own health and welfare and anyone that may come into contact with either of us that I wondered if you fancied sucking my dick" Stunning that, that's how I interpret people wanting to meet. Things don't always start by talking on here. An awful lot of people do their talking at clubs and socials and merely use fab to keep in touch after they've connected "outside" | |||
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"Thanks all. Yes I know covid about, but, 1.theres still people meeting and 2. Things have to start by talking anyways, but it's not even that. Or are people just not bothering in general?? Theres still people meeting? What does that mean? There's people that are still doing meets, even in locldown And? Would you REALLY wanted to be contacted by someone who could potentially kill you, or have you kill someone else? "Hi, I think so little of your health and welfare, my own health and welfare and anyone that may come into contact with either of us that I wondered if you fancied sucking my dick" Stunning that, that's how I interpret people wanting to meet. Things don't always start by talking on here. An awful lot of people do their talking at clubs and socials and merely use fab to keep in touch after they've connected "outside" " It was more of a "people are still meeting" so people are still using and looking on fab. But if not many people use fab to talk, then that would explain a lot | |||
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"Your profile seems ok it's doable add more pictures and if the messaging isn't working change your approach it's lovely even at times like these just getting to know each other and connect" Thanks man, and yeah that's exactly it, as many people do have in their bios that they wanna talk and get to know people | |||
"Thanks all. Yes I know covid about, but, 1.theres still people meeting and 2. Things have to start by talking anyways, but it's not even that. Or are people just not bothering in general?? Theres still people meeting? What does that mean? There's people that are still doing meets, even in locldown And? Would you REALLY wanted to be contacted by someone who could potentially kill you, or have you kill someone else? "Hi, I think so little of your health and welfare, my own health and welfare and anyone that may come into contact with either of us that I wondered if you fancied sucking my dick" Stunning that, that's how I interpret people wanting to meet. Things don't always start by talking on here. An awful lot of people do their talking at clubs and socials and merely use fab to keep in touch after they've connected "outside" It was more of a "people are still meeting" so people are still using and looking on fab. But if not many people use fab to talk, then that would explain a lot" Makes sense | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic" I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene" What were you expecting when you joined? Bearing in mind we are living through the worst health crisis for hundreds of years? | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene" . 100%. Don’t even get a look in or get judged. If it was in person would be completely different. But since I participated in forums. It’s abit easier to show your character abit. | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene" All demographics face their challenges. But this will be unusually challenging, because most people are obeying the rules so far as I can see. My updates is so much quieter than it was pre pandemic. | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene What were you expecting when you joined? Bearing in mind we are living through the worst health crisis for hundreds of years?" Honestly I was expecting to talk to more people... | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene. 100%. Don’t even get a look in or get judged. If it was in person would be completely different. But since I participated in forums. It’s abit easier to show your character abit. " Yeah 100% Tbh I didn't realise how many people use the forums and how active they are | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene All demographics face their challenges. But this will be unusually challenging, because most people are obeying the rules so far as I can see. My updates is so much quieter than it was pre pandemic." . Even getting conversation is difficult though. Especially with the woman I’m attracted to | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene All demographics face their challenges. But this will be unusually challenging, because most people are obeying the rules so far as I can see. My updates is so much quieter than it was pre pandemic." Yeah, it's very understandable that not many people are meeting, due to the crisis | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene All demographics face their challenges. But this will be unusually challenging, because most people are obeying the rules so far as I can see. My updates is so much quieter than it was pre pandemic.. Even getting conversation is difficult though. Especially with the woman I’m attracted to" Sure. That's the challenge for guys. | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene All demographics face their challenges. But this will be unusually challenging, because most people are obeying the rules so far as I can see. My updates is so much quieter than it was pre pandemic.. Even getting conversation is difficult though. Especially with the woman I’m attracted to" Yeah same here mate. Just think of how many messages women get, it's hard to not only stand out but also be what that person is looking for | |||
"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene What were you expecting when you joined? Bearing in mind we are living through the worst health crisis for hundreds of years? Honestly I was expecting to talk to more people... " To what ends though? No one has a clue when we will be able to meet safely again. Lots of people are stressed to the max just trying to hold it all together. And most of the time, guys just want wank fodder anyway, so people would be loathe to enter into conversations. | |||
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"People do use Fab to talk. It's hard as a single guy to get noticed and people meeting are going to be fewer during a pandemic I agree, it is hard as a single man, especially if you're new on the scene What were you expecting when you joined? Bearing in mind we are living through the worst health crisis for hundreds of years? Honestly I was expecting to talk to more people... To what ends though? No one has a clue when we will be able to meet safely again. Lots of people are stressed to the max just trying to hold it all together. And most of the time, guys just want wank fodder anyway, so people would be loathe to enter into conversations." I guess with how things are, forums probably are the best place to chat. The only thing with that is that it's not as personal, but, it's better than nothing | |||
"I can see getting to know people. Personally I'm not, too frustrating and the whole death and destruction thing does a number on my libido. But it will be more challenging than normal - and it's not easy for guys at the best of times." We're just in shit times and it's taking its tole on everyone in one way or anotger | |||
"I can see getting to know people. Personally I'm not, too frustrating and the whole death and destruction thing does a number on my libido. But it will be more challenging than normal - and it's not easy for guys at the best of times. We're just in shit times and it's taking its tole on everyone in one way or anotger" Yes. I have great fun normally, and this site is a great starting point (women face their own issues). Now? Nope. I talk to those I know and I'm hibernating sexually until I'm fully vaccinated. | |||
"I can see getting to know people. Personally I'm not, too frustrating and the whole death and destruction thing does a number on my libido. But it will be more challenging than normal - and it's not easy for guys at the best of times. We're just in shit times and it's taking its tole on everyone in one way or anotger Yes. I have great fun normally, and this site is a great starting point (women face their own issues). Now? Nope. I talk to those I know and I'm hibernating sexually until I'm fully vaccinated." But there is a lot more going on in the forums than I thought, which I like, and I guess is a good place to start, especially now | |||
"It's a bit daunting to read someone's detailed fantasy on a dating profile. It gives the impression there are specific and impossible requirements that the other person is expected to participate in, a fetish designed to get one person off but not necessarily the other. The fact that it can't be read easily is the capper. That's fair enough... I've taken your advice and removed it, hopefully it'll help a little " So it was a fantasy? ? | |||
"It's a bit daunting to read someone's detailed fantasy on a dating profile. It gives the impression there are specific and impossible requirements that the other person is expected to participate in, a fetish designed to get one person off but not necessarily the other. The fact that it can't be read easily is the capper. That's fair enough... I've taken your advice and removed it, hopefully it'll help a little So it was a fantasy? ?" It's more of an altered story | |||
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