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How to get the mrs into swinging
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Take things slowly by talking about things, her needs and potential fantasies. Be prepared for her to have no interest. You can share your profile details and experience with her at the appropriate point, if and when she's ready to trust you with going further. Do you currently have an open relationship? If so, you could potentially use this as a basis for more exploration |
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over a year ago
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"Just show her your profile on here and see how she reacts.
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Lol. Lead balloon springs to mind.
Trust and honesty. Delete your profile and tell her you're interested in this site called fab which you want to explore together as a couple. |
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"Just show her your profile on here and see how she reacts.
Lol. Lead balloon springs to mind.
Trust and honesty. Delete your profile and tell her you're interested in this site called fab which you want to explore together as a couple."
& maybe don’t meet until Covid is over  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just show her your profile on here and see how she reacts.
Lol. Lead balloon springs to mind.
Trust and honesty. Delete your profile and tell her you're interested in this site called fab which you want to explore together as a couple.
& maybe don’t meet until Covid is over "
That should go without saying!!  |
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Sit down and have a very frank and honest conversation with her. Explain how you feel and listen closely to what she says and how she feels.
Only then can you decide how to go forwards, either with or without her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Currently in a relationship and want to involve the mrs any suggestions on how to pop the question...
Go to Argos
Buy a ring
Get down on one knee"
Argos???? He may have taste |
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"Currently in a relationship and want to involve the mrs any suggestions on how to pop the question...
Go to Argos
Buy a ring
Get down on one knee
Argos???? He may have taste "
At least it wasn't their boss who called the merchandise 'crap'! |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Currently in a relationship and want to involve the mrs any suggestions on how to pop the question..."
. Recently there was a program on channel 4 about swinging which has been on a couple of times.Why not watch it together and ask what she thought of the program and what she thinks about swinging her reaction could give you some idea if it’s something she wants to explore.If she asks you first what are your thoughts tell her that’s it something you would like to explore.Best of luck with everything.
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"Just show her your profile on here and see how she reacts.
Lol. Lead balloon springs to mind.
Trust and honesty. Delete your profile and tell her you're interested in this site called fab which you want to explore together as a couple.
& maybe don’t meet until Covid is over
That should go without saying!! "
You hope, wouldn’t you  |
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By *ustooCouple
over a year ago
East Fife |
Having been married for over 40yrs and looking to spice up our sex life I suggested to my Mrs to try swinging but it took nearly 2 yrs to convince her and what happened is she done all the playing with me watching which I was happy to do, she now agrees with me she shouldn’t have taken so long to make it happen |
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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago
Coventry |
Be honest. Be confident. In my experience for someone who doesn't know anything about lifestyle it takes time for idea to settle. At first there could be denial, questioning relationships, feelings, but honesty and confidence settles that.i think weak relations could fall apart at that point. Be prepared for one side swing - she could be willing to be shared, but not share you. If that's the case be absolutely certain you are ok. First time sitting at home and twisting thumbs, while your girl gets properly dicked can be stressful |
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Newest veri was 2 years ago so we jump to the conclusion that he's been cheating in THIS relationship?
I could be wrong.....
OP, I would bring the topic up with your partner and ask her opinion on swinging. Her response will tell you whether you pursue it with her or end the idea right there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Does she know your already swinging? If not be prepared for the shock to settle in. Id been with my partner 6 months before he told me, initially it came as a shock, tears and I felt he hadn't been honest with me but after the shock I became real about things its not something you blurt out on a first date and he needed to know and trust me to share this and I was curious to find out more. We only decided to explore this as a couple at the beginning of last year so not meet with many before covid struck but look forward to safer times and exploring more. The other thing I'd say is its going to take some adjusting on your part too from being a single on here to being a couple as you both need to openly talk about what you both want. |
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"Currently in a relationship and want to involve the mrs any suggestions on how to pop the question..."
. If you don't include watching porn as part of your sex fun start as soon as you can. Watch together some threesomes, groups. Gangbangs, bukakke etc and watch to see what she reacts reacts to. Assuming it's not just one on one... Ask her if she had ever thought of having group sex.. Or whatever it is. Or what her favourite fantasy is. It may take a while to get her to admit wanting sex with others as she may think you could be upset about it. But hopefully you will be able to reassure her you would want to help her experience. You can then discuss with her the possibility of meeting people at clubs or via sites such as this.. Up to you if you want to show her your profile. It may be more productive for you to remove your profile and create a new couples profile if she's interested.
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It all depends how long you have been in a relationship for.
If it’s recent then you having been on here for a while is really not an issue as it’s pre your partner.
The best way of testing the waters is to either watch something to do with this lifestyle together or bring it up in a conversation in a round about way and gauge her reaction.
Good luck, hope it works out. |
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"Just show her your profile on here and see how she reacts.
Hopefully that's her bum in the picture!"
Well hopefully not actually. Id be absolutely livid if pics of me were online without my knowledge |
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"Get her well pissed. Lol don’t do this
Not a good thing to so i ageee. Sex offenders list will be awaiting as not consensual sex. "
Maybe the poster who suggested
'Get her well pissed'
was replying to the OP's original question as to how he could get his wife to discuss the idea.
I can, however, fully imagine a time coming when it will be an offence even to talk about sex with someone who is inebriated. |
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"Get her well pissed. Lol don’t do this
Not a good thing to so i ageee. Sex offenders list will be awaiting as not consensual sex.
Maybe the poster who suggested
'Get her well pissed'
was replying to the OP's original question as to how he could get his wife to discuss the idea.
I can, however, fully imagine a time coming when it will be an offence even to talk about sex with someone who is inebriated."
Someone you have an intimate relationship no problem, a stranger you meet its sort of creepy. |
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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago
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When I got with L we used to watch porn together, mmfs and gb videos. Used to ask her if she'd be up for similar.
Then I just came out with my past exploits, was brutally honest and amazingly she was cool with it and wanted to experience it herself.
So in short honesty is best policy imo. |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
If I was in a relationship with someone who was actively swinging when me met I'd expect them to tell me about it right at the beginning of the relationship, otherwise that's a huge thing they have chosen to keep a secret. Relationships should be based on honesty from the start. |
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All you can do is be open and honest with her about your part in swinging, then leave the rest up to her...if she shows interest then great...talk it through...if she doesn't and you can see she is upset about it then leave it at that...you can't push someone into this lifestyle nor can you do it just to make someone else happy...it will end in tears..but as said previously honesty is the best policy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We got into it as a couple after a slight blip, which I won't go into and no he didn't cheat! He had already told me he'd done swinging before, and said he would like to get back into it. So it was actually me who set up the profile, more to see what it was all about. I was nervous and scared about it all, but I'm much more relaxed about it all. So I would say just talk to her. Maybe not show her your profile or actually say you're active on here, but be honest about wanting to try it with her involvement x |
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Wow!, and we get called dinosaurs.
The OP is 29 and states he is in a relationship.
We don't know how long he's been in said relationship, so they may of only recently got together and the verifications predate this.
Does his "Mrs" think he's a virgin?.
Lastly, is "Swinging" a correct term for a single guy having sex with a single girl as per his verifications?.
It's just good old fashioned sex surely.
To answer his question (in a non judgemental way, unlike some here) the way we both got into swinging was by watching the German channels (when you could move your satellite dish to pick other channels up), followed by Eurotrash and Rapido and later Sexettera.
It turned us both on so it seemed a natural progression to try it out.
Settle down one night with some swinging porn, Frolicme does porn for women.
If she hates it there's your answer.
If she gets turned on then winner winner chicken dinner.
Bored and shrivelled in a bath... |
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Introduce some naughty ideas under the sheets next time, and see how she reacts. Dont just tell her. Unless your a stoic sort unflinched by poentially shocking her ( which might not be a bad thing either ) |
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Have a naughty chat with her. Don't mention swinging.
As her if she has any fantasies she would like to try and promise anything she asks for you will support and help her fulfill whatever they might be.
They may not lead to swinging but should be fun trying out her fantasies.
Be aware she might ask for something you are not comfortable with but you need to be open and honest with her if you want her to open up to you |
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This is exactly what I did when I met wifey. I’ve been swinging for years and didn’t want to give it up but didn’t want to go behind her back. She agreed to try it and many years later we’re still at it when we can. Although I was naughty and threw her in at the deep end on her first meet lol.
Naughty hubby |
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"I can't understand couples who never seem to talk about sex, fantasies, bucket lists etc. What DO you talk about?"
 Me neither if me and my husband couldn’t tell each other our most intimate thoughts I would seriously have to question our Marriage .. |
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.. worked wonders for my wife, took 5 years mind 