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Hi folks,we have been setting up a meet for when this latest lockdown finishes,when asked if he practiced safe sex,he complained ,do I have to ffs wear a condom,
When I reminded him that safe sex was on his profile,he answered back I'll decide if I wear one !!!!!,to which I told him it's not how it works ,and blocked him,what is it about men wanting to ride someone's wife bare back?? Does no one think about their health on here???? |
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"Hi folks,we have been setting up a meet for when this latest lockdown finishes,when asked if he practiced safe sex,he complained ,do I have to ffs wear a condom,
When I reminded him that safe sex was on his profile,he answered back I'll decide if I wear one !!!!!,to which I told him it's not how it works ,and blocked him,what is it about men wanting to ride someone's wife bare back?? Does no one think about their health on here????"
It is definitely not up to others to decide. Just a complete idiot if they think it's up to them. No it isn't |
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over a year ago
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"Safe sex must be imperative until you get to know and trust someone for everyone’s health well we won't be getting to know him if that's his attitude it's not like there's not many men on here  "
True plenty to choose from ,im sure you will find someone compatible |
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"Hi folks,we have been setting up a meet for when this latest lockdown finishes,when asked if he practiced safe sex,he complained ,do I have to ffs wear a condom,
When I reminded him that safe sex was on his profile,he answered back I'll decide if I wear one !!!!!,to which I told him it's not how it works ,and blocked him,what is it about men wanting to ride someone's wife bare back?? Does no one think about their health on here????"
There's a few selfish idiots like that around here but it is a minority. We find insisting on a social only first meeting puts off a lot of those who're clearly just interested in getting their end away. Good for you for sticking to your guns. It's safe sex only for us too - no bareback ever! That's reserved for us and nobody else. |
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"Hi folks,we have been setting up a meet for when this latest lockdown finishes,when asked if he practiced safe sex,he complained ,do I have to ffs wear a condom,
When I reminded him that safe sex was on his profile,he answered back I'll decide if I wear one !!!!!,to which I told him it's not how it works ,and blocked him,what is it about men wanting to ride someone's wife bare back?? Does no one think about their health on here????
There's a few selfish idiots like that around here but it is a minority. We find insisting on a social only first meeting puts off a lot of those who're clearly just interested in getting their end away. Good for you for sticking to your guns. It's safe sex only for us too - no bareback ever! That's reserved for us and nobody else."
we've met him before lockdown for us it was boxing day it started ,he was ok no problems,then this morning chatting away,I mentioned safe sex and he went off on one,I'm sure you've heard the same old excuses ,you won't catch anything from me,  if I had a quid for everytime I heard that I'd be a rich man |
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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago
rochdale oldham border |
"Hi folks,we have been setting up a meet for when this latest lockdown finishes,when asked if he practiced safe sex,he complained ,do I have to ffs wear a condom,
When I reminded him that safe sex was on his profile,he answered back I'll decide if I wear one !!!!!,to which I told him it's not how it works ,and blocked him,what is it about men wanting to ride someone's wife bare back?? Does no one think about their health on here????"
You did the right thing and blocked him
There are some weirdo crazy people on here so always got to be careful and protect yourself at all times |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What surprises me are the ladies insisting on bareback and and of child bearing age! I ask if they are taking contraceptives and they say no, then often say “I’m allergic to the condom” or “I love the feeling of cum in me”. It’s at that point I pull out of the conversation - pun intended! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What surprises me are the ladies insisting on bareback and and of child bearing age! I ask if they are taking contraceptives and they say no, then often say “I’m allergic to the condom” or “I love the feeling of cum in me”. It’s at that point I pull out of the conversation - pun intended!"
Really, you've had girls ask you for totally unprotected?
I'm a woman of child baring age that's prefers to play bare, but I'm always on the pill when meeting! I have relied on just pull out, but only with my husband! Xx |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
Safe sex is a preference some people it is an essential part of the scene some don’t care
For me I always have condoms at the ready and have no issue with wearing them and wear them as I want to protect myself as well |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
I always wonder what goes through a person's mind at the point of being infected with an uncontrollable disease which is life changing is it at that point you regret the actions taken or think we'll I knew it would happen but it took it's time and was still able to enjoy the experience. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"I always wonder what goes through a person's mind at the point of being infected with an uncontrollable disease which is life changing is it at that point you regret the actions taken or think we'll I knew it would happen but it took it's time and was still able to enjoy the experience."
The worrying thing about your post is you seem to think a condom will save you from what you wrote. Condoms only allow safer sex , there is no such thing as safe sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both parties have to agree if it's going to be bareback. If not then condoms is a must. I hate them but will always wear one if needed. It's all about respect. |
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"I always wonder what goes through a person's mind at the point of being infected with an uncontrollable disease which is life changing is it at that point you regret the actions taken or think we'll I knew it would happen but it took it's time and was still able to enjoy the experience."
Precisely
I wonder why some women would ask for unprotected sex with someone they (probably) barely know  |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
We would never play bareback or even meet people who do. It is not the case of just playing bareback on this occasion but more the cavalier attitude to sexual health it implies.
It starts to beg questions about what else they get up to and how much care they take. If they are irresponsible with their own health then why should we trust them with ours?
The simple fact that we are swingers and therefore not monogamous means our risk profile is already higher. Why add to that?
I am curious about those who insist on playing bareback regarding what other steps they take? Do they have STI tests regularly (full spectrum)? Do they insist their bareback play partners do also? Do they just not care (or get a thrill) about the risks? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi folks,we have been setting up a meet for when this latest lockdown finishes,when asked if he practiced safe sex,he complained ,do I have to ffs wear a condom,
When I reminded him that safe sex was on his profile,he answered back I'll decide if I wear one !!!!!,to which I told him it's not how it works ,and blocked him,what is it about men wanting to ride someone's wife bare back?? Does no one think about their health on here????"
Well as he’ll only be getting to fuck his own hand guess he won’t have to worry about it  |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"Hi folks,we have been setting up a meet for when this latest lockdown finishes,when asked if he practiced safe sex,he complained ,do I have to ffs wear a condom,
When I reminded him that safe sex was on his profile,he answered back I'll decide if I wear one !!!!!,to which I told him it's not how it works ,and blocked him,what is it about men wanting to ride someone's wife bare back?? Does no one think about their health on here????
Well as he’ll only be getting to fuck his own hand guess he won’t have to worry about it "
Wonder if his hand will insist on a glove |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We would never play bareback or even meet people who do. It is not the case of just playing bareback on this occasion but more the cavalier attitude to sexual health it implies.
It starts to beg questions about what else they get up to and how much care they take. If they are irresponsible with their own health then why should we trust them with ours?
The simple fact that we are swingers and therefore not monogamous means our risk profile is already higher. Why add to that?
I am curious about those who insist on playing bareback regarding what other steps they take? Do they have STI tests regularly (full spectrum)? Do they insist their bareback play partners do also? Do they just not care (or get a thrill) about the risks?"
Completely agree. We only have bareback with each other as that is our preferred option.
Have played with a guy who initially didn’t want to wear anything but it was a case of if no protection, no fun. |
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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"We would never play bareback or even meet people who do. It is not the case of just playing bareback on this occasion but more the cavalier attitude to sexual health it implies.
It starts to beg questions about what else they get up to and how much care they take. If they are irresponsible with their own health then why should we trust them with ours?
The simple fact that we are swingers and therefore not monogamous means our risk profile is already higher. Why add to that?
I am curious about those who insist on playing bareback regarding what other steps they take? Do they have STI tests regularly (full spectrum)? Do they insist their bareback play partners do also? Do they just not care (or get a thrill) about the risks?"
This is how I feel about it, too.
I was a little shocked to see it defended very strongly as a preference here on the forums before.
I think it is irresponsible and has the potential to spread infection to more sexual partners than just those who have agreed to go unprotected, as condoms can only minimise the risk and not fully protect. |
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"Hi folks,we have been setting up a meet for when this latest lockdown finishes,when asked if he practiced safe sex,he complained ,do I have to ffs wear a condom,
When I reminded him that safe sex was on his profile,he answered back I'll decide if I wear one !!!!!,to which I told him it's not how it works ,and blocked him,what is it about men wanting to ride someone's wife bare back?? Does no one think about their health on here????"
Safe(r) sex is really important to us. There are guys out there who'll shag anything with a pulse and couldn't care less about sti's or anything else. You did the right thing and exactly what we'd have done.  |
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
South Fife |
I think a lot of guys here don't quite understand what is actually going on when a loving couple invite you into their sexual and even social relationship. It is a huge thing for most couples when they decide to invite you into the most intimate part of their lives. For a guy to get all uppity when things are not to his liking is not good .... Things have to be right for everyone involved not just him and particularly the couple in the situation. |
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His responses sound so poor I would of assumed he was having a joke (as that sort of humour doesn't come across well in text). But I guess he wasn't joking and it beggars belief so people are like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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His reply is a massive cunt move and I’m sure you have dodged a bad meet there.
However someone’s sexual health is different for everyone. If you only want safe sex then there’s fuck all wrong with that, but again if you only want bare sex then again, it’s up to the person.
You are responsible for your own sexual health and risk taking, well done for sticking to your guns in making sure you had safe sex, but that’s all that matters really, who cares if someone else doesn’t, long as you are straight with everyone then it doesn’t matter.
I prefer bare, but also play safe if requested or in a GB as that’s what’s expected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have not gone bare with anyone yet, but are open to it if we trust the other people enough and they can prove they are clean with recent test results. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would like to point out that if a guy decides to slip the condom off on the sly, this is now legally classified as r@pe. So those guys out there that think it's cool, enjoy being the register for the rest of your life |
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