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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey hope everyone’s well and happy new year all !!!
New year new start new experiences.
Looking at progressing to meeting couples and be my first time totally in meeting a couple and doing alone,
obviously know need to be careful and safe with COVID snd not ruin my journey either.
What was your first meet with couple like and any input advice be appreciated.
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By *haunMan
over a year ago
Halton |
If you can?
Look to meet socially first in a neutral place. So you can meet them face to face.
Giving you the chance to chat, feel how comfortable you feel speaking with them and look to establish ground rules.
i.e. are you planning on meeting to be just with one of them or its it going to be all three etc.
And trust your gut instinct, if it doesn't feel right chatting then will this change if you meet them?
Consider a location where you'll meet.
Hotel (so neutral), their place?
Also consider their experiences (with a pinch of salt), fab verifications.
If they appear to have great experiences in this already?
Then could offer a level of comfort that they know what their doing.
As if they new to this also (so to speak).
Do they know what they are getting into? You don't want to turn up and become the middle of a domestic when either one goes mental at the other for maybe enjoying 'you' too much and ignoring them.
So that social might give you a clue about body language etc.
As it's not nice to turn up finding out that maybe 'she's reluctant and only doing it because 'he' wants sex with another woman.
When you do finally meet, have an acceptance this is might initially be awkward, fumbled and a little bit of where do we start.
As it's creating that dynamic between three people and bodies and arms etc. Could be all over the place before you settle into the groove.
Common sense, gut instinct and ground rules / expectations.
It is a lot of fun, some amazing experiences ( obviously I'm coming at this as a single man as part of a mfm).
And I'm sure (when it can finally be arranged), you'll have an amazing time and experience.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you can?
Look to meet socially first in a neutral place. So you can meet them face to face.
Giving you the chance to chat, feel how comfortable you feel speaking with them and look to establish ground rules.
i.e. are you planning on meeting to be just with one of them or its it going to be all three etc.
And trust your gut instinct, if it doesn't feel right chatting then will this change if you meet them?
Consider a location where you'll meet.
Hotel (so neutral), their place?
Also consider their experiences (with a pinch of salt), fab verifications.
If they appear to have great experiences in this already?
Then could offer a level of comfort that they know what their doing.
As if they new to this also (so to speak).
Do they know what they are getting into? You don't want to turn up and become the middle of a domestic when either one goes mental at the other for maybe enjoying 'you' too much and ignoring them.
So that social might give you a clue about body language etc.
As it's not nice to turn up finding out that maybe 'she's reluctant and only doing it because 'he' wants sex with another woman.
When you do finally meet, have an acceptance this is might initially be awkward, fumbled and a little bit of where do we start.
As it's creating that dynamic between three people and bodies and arms etc. Could be all over the place before you settle into the groove.
Common sense, gut instinct and ground rules / expectations.
It is a lot of fun, some amazing experiences ( obviously I'm coming at this as a single man as part of a mfm).
And I'm sure (when it can finally be arranged), you'll have an amazing time and experience.
xxx"
Aww excellent advice there never considered all that so thank you xx |
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You need to talk about what everyones expectations are in advance, and make sure that fits into your comfort level. Socials are crucial especially your first time out. You are not in any rush, make sure the first time is right... I think I may have said that the other day to you.. After you feel comfortable enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You need to talk about what everyones expectations are in advance, and make sure that fits into your comfort level. Socials are crucial especially your first time out. You are not in any rush, make sure the first time is right... I think I may have said that the other day to you.. After you feel comfortable enjoy. "
Thank you excellent advice again definitely need to communicate with all parties which will do and go slow too  |
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"You need to talk about what everyones expectations are in advance, and make sure that fits into your comfort level. Socials are crucial especially your first time out. You are not in any rush, make sure the first time is right... I think I may have said that the other day to you.. After you feel comfortable enjoy.
Thank you excellent advice again definitely need to communicate with all parties which will do and go slow too "
Most of all enjoy and take the whole situation in so you can enjoy the memories over and over again. |
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Most of the Single ladies we know go to clubs, as they feel safer than going to someone's home, you can still meet first for a social if you want to or just meet in the club early and have a social then. And if you don't click with them there mite be someone who you do  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Got to echo what others say as in meet socially first (post covid), the reason is that both people who you meet may want a polite get out and time to discuss what their partners feel about you both before committing to a meet. You will likely want to do the same. Most couples are happy to arrange a social and step things up if they feel welcome. I have often had socials followed by a coffee at our place and then play starts, but no guarantees of that. Tasmin (played as part of married couple for 7 years)  |
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First of all, think about what you would like when meeting a couple. Are you bi/bi-curious so happy to play with both of them? Or would you rather just play with the lady with the man watching? Or just spoil him with the lady. How far would you like to go? Soft swap only, with no penetration? Or full-on sex?
If you are bi/bi-curious, how far would you like to go with the lady? Also be prepared that you could be lied to regarding particularly the lady's experience and expectations. You might be told "oh, yes, she's so bi" but when it comes to it, she might be happy with you pleasuring her but she may not reciprocate.
Make a list of soft limits (ones that could be negotiated) and hard limits (ones that are absolute no-nos).
When chatting with the couple online, do insist on chatting to the lady, too, don't take any excuses. If you're more comfortable with that, make the first social with the lady only, or at least make sure you speak on the phone (if you're happy to do that) with the lady.
Before the meet, make sure everyone is aware of your rules and prepared to follow them, but also that you are comfortable with the couple's rules/boundaries that have been established.
Make sure you bring your own lube and condoms if you decided on full penetration. And have an exit strategy in case something doesn't feel right- don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do.
Most importantly- don't get discouraged if your first meet or two don't go the way you'd like. Getting on well online with someone does not mean the same in reality. But hopefully you will enjoy meeting couples, when we finally can- the dynamic is so much different than 1:1 meets, and can be an amazing experience. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
Safety above all else.
No amount of fun is worth your physical and mental well being.
Just because a women is present does not make it any less dangerous than meeting a single person for the first time.
Do not be pressured into doing things you either don’t want to or are not keen on.
Its hard to find out how people deal with a “no” in a social setting, but if you can it will help understand how they may react if you say no during a meet. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Most of the Single ladies we know go to clubs, as they feel safer than going to someone's home, you can still meet first for a social if you want to or just meet in the club early and have a social then. And if you don't click with them there mite be someone who you do xx"
Great advice.
Often sites like this my have slightly incongruent people behind the keyboard.
Face to face, incongruent behaviour has nowhere to hide. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"First of all, think about what you would like when meeting a couple. Are you bi/bi-curious so happy to play with both of them? Or would you rather just play with the lady with the man watching? Or just spoil him with the lady. How far would you like to go? Soft swap only, with no penetration? Or full-on sex?
If you are bi/bi-curious, how far would you like to go with the lady? Also be prepared that you could be lied to regarding particularly the lady's experience and expectations. You might be told "oh, yes, she's so bi" but when it comes to it, she might be happy with you pleasuring her but she may not reciprocate.
Make a list of soft limits (ones that could be negotiated) and hard limits (ones that are absolute no-nos).
When chatting with the couple online, do insist on chatting to the lady, too, don't take any excuses. If you're more comfortable with that, make the first social with the lady only, or at least make sure you speak on the phone (if you're happy to do that) with the lady.
Before the meet, make sure everyone is aware of your rules and prepared to follow them, but also that you are comfortable with the couple's rules/boundaries that have been established.
Make sure you bring your own lube and condoms if you decided on full penetration. And have an exit strategy in case something doesn't feel right- don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do.
Most importantly- don't get discouraged if your first meet or two don't go the way you'd like. Getting on well online with someone does not mean the same in reality. But hopefully you will enjoy meeting couples, when we finally can- the dynamic is so much different than 1:1 meets, and can be an amazing experience. "
Thank you great advice x  |
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My first meet with a couple was also my first introducting into swinging. A very relaxed atmosphere, pleasant chat that soon evolved naturally and was followed by a hot and heavy session in the bedroom.
It opened rhe floodgates for me to try many things over rhe next year or so. Ticked so much off a list i didnt even know i had before meeting them... |
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I was lucky to meet a husband and wife couple a number of years ago and it was a fantastic experience.
However it was made a lot easier by us communicating for many weeks in advance of the meet and we skyped each other too.
By the time we met up I knew for instance what wine she preferred, what her sexual desires were and what the dynamics were likely to be between the three of us.
We therefore avoided any embarrassing pitfalls and had the best time imaginable. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was lucky to meet a husband and wife couple a number of years ago and it was a fantastic experience.
However it was made a lot easier by us communicating for many weeks in advance of the meet and we skyped each other too.
By the time we met up I knew for instance what wine she preferred, what her sexual desires were and what the dynamics were likely to be between the three of us.
We therefore avoided any embarrassing pitfalls and had the best time imaginable."
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