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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi All,
Im relativly new to the site and to swinging, im photo verified, have good amount of pics, send non pushy, polite messages to girls but to this day i never get messages back, i dont think im unattractive, but maybe i am? Who knows?
Just want to get other oroples views and possible reasons why this isnt happening for me!
Thanks x |
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By *r-MissCouple
over a year ago
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Perhaps update your profile so it looks like you are looking for women, and include more detail.
At the moment your profile just looks like you are looking to meet TV' s, changing your status update might help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've only been here 3 weeks
It takes time
Also you claim to be straight, but are interested in meeting TV/TS
Some will view your sexuality differently to how you do.
It will be a turn off to many (and a turn on to some) women.
I hope the tide turns for you soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps update your profile so it looks like you are looking for women, and include more detail.
At the moment your profile just looks like you are looking to meet TV' s, changing your status update might help. "
mate single men are pond life there are a thousand men to one girl on any site all men struggle you have got to be chilled and dont expect action at a drop of a hat
go in the chat room ... clubs ... coffee meets your local events and get your face seen  |
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Personally, I read the profile before the message.
If a man can't accommodate, has straight but looking to meet tvs...and no matter how "convincing" they are, they're men, I'd be put off. Don't like young guys looking for cougars either.
But that's my preferences, you maybe just what someone else is looking for.
You can't please everyone: don't try.
Manage your expectations: no one is going to move at warp speed to meet you.
Have patience, chill, join in, have fun...and welcome! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"mate single men are pond life
Sorry but if thats how you see yourself, dont be surprised when people start agreeing with you..."
That's why I always call the zip in my trousers a Damsel-fly...  ;)
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"Cheers guys,
Im definatly not just lookin for ts, ive tweaked the profile so lets hope i get somewhere lol"
sorry very confused here staust asks for ts to message you and in the profile youve have set up it states
I do like to meet TS but you must be youngish, clean, and very convincing!
saying one thing here and a totally different thing on profile would be huge turn off for me and for meny others no doubt .
then you say youre tweeking proifle as def not what you want ? comes across either you
A dont know what you want
B will just say anything to get a meet
Neither very attractive traits and certainly not ones id want in a meet
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also stating straight when looking for TS doesnt ring right to me .also the dont accomm will be a deal breaker for lots . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The forum's on here are great but if you want to have a meet, join plenty of fish. Search for women who want casual dating with no commitment. Job done.
Or take a ticket and wait your turn!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no age perimeters set.. are you really willing to meet 80 year old grannies?
You have much more of a chance if you get to a club or social and actually meet people in the flesh than try "hooking" up with internet people - not saying it's not going to happen, but it's pretty much unlikely considering singles guys are 2 a penny, as you not exactly experienced in this "swinging lark" ?? seriously..
You might be an experienced single "player" meeting girls in your local club, but "swinging" is completely different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No idea, your not a bad looking lad
Are you making sure your mailing people who are looking for you, ie who you mail want single guys in your agew group?
there are loads of reason people may not apply
make sure they are also what they are looking for and state on your profile, i get loads of messages from guys who are after women aged 18 to 30, wont meet smokers etc and that does put mer off, im not going to reply to a message from a guy whos age group im outside of
it really could be anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi All,
Im relativly new to the site and to swinging, im photo verified, have good amount of pics, send non pushy, polite messages to girls but to this day i never get messages back, i dont think im unattractive, but maybe i am? Who knows?
Just want to get other oroples views and possible reasons why this isnt happening for me!
Thanks x"
i looked at the profile and the photos 
u seem to have a good profile and photos, if i was meeting i would def send you a message.
but if you are looking to meet tvs etc are you bi or straight as its a bit confusing
have fun x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Cheers for all the posts guys,
I say im straight because i only like the female form which is why i will never meet man, or tv, TS (in my eyes) are a bit different and portray a female
Image, although everyone has different views.
I get the 'men who cant accom' thing as im guessing alot of men who cant probably have gf's or wifes?
Any ways thanks guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its the sexuality thing, you got a good profile apart from the ts lark.
look at your friends list, look at you saying ok i will do ts if you basically fit n convincing, plus says straight, better off to change to bi curious if you want ts as well, then you wont be excluding yourself from people/couples who dont care if your bi
coz if your messages are like you say they are, well the rest of your profile is fine, but if you send out a confused message about your sexuality it puts off people who dont want to meet bi people, but also puts off people who dont mind that your bi or want to meet bi people.
at the moment you put most of them off apart from TVs, which explains why your friends list is just TVs |
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"Hi All,
Im relativly new to the site and to swinging, im photo verified, have good amount of pics, send non pushy, polite messages to girls but to this day i never get messages back, i dont think im unattractive, but maybe i am? Who knows?
Just want to get other oroples views and possible reasons why this isnt happening for me!
Thanks x"
The TV thing let's your profile down, we would have arranged a meet no problem, but you cannot class yourself has straight and meet TV's  |
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"its the sexuality thing, you got a good profile apart from the ts lark.
look at your friends list, look at you saying ok i will do ts if you basically fit n convincing, plus says straight, better off to change to bi curious if you want ts as well, then you wont be excluding yourself from people/couples who dont care if your bi
coz if your messages are like you say they are, well the rest of your profile is fine, but if you send out a confused message about your sexuality it puts off people who dont want to meet bi people, but also puts off people who dont mind that your bi or want to meet bi people.
at the moment you put most of them off apart from TVs, which explains why your friends list is just TVs"
Good spot...never looked at the friends list
You cannot really say that was a accident can you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've only been here for 3 weeks, which is no time at all, Patience with a capital "P" is the watchword around here.
Also, your age will be against you with a lot of women, also you can't accommodate.
And you seem to have a problem re your sexuality, you can't meet TV/TSs and be straight!! A lot of women around here don't like guys who speak with forked tongues!
So I'm afraid it's all down to the 3 Ps, patience, patience, and patience!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheers for all the posts guys,
I say im straight because i only like the female form which is why i will never meet man, or tv, TS (in my eyes) are a bit different and portray a female
Image, although everyone has different views.
I get the 'men who cant accom' thing as im guessing alot of men who cant probably have gf's or wifes?
Any ways thanks guys"
if you find a nice TS i'll have a 3sum with you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get rid of the bi curious bit and love of TS's, it puts women off
erm its HIS profile"
yeah and he's moaning about women not wanting to meet him, so why not give it a try, can always change it back again. |
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"get rid of the bi curious bit and love of TS's, it puts women off
erm its HIS profile"
But he did ask for peoples views....so that leaves him open to all suggestions...doesn't mean he has to do it.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheers for all the posts guys,
I say im straight because i only like the female form which is why i will never meet man, or tv, TS (in my eyes) are a bit different and portray a female
Image, although everyone has different views.
I get the 'men who cant accom' thing as im guessing alot of men who cant probably have gf's or wifes?
Any ways thanks guys
if you find a nice TS i'll have a 3sum with you "
check out her veris, she's very democratic in her tastes and genuine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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personally i think people should be honest, loads of people moan that bi guys lie and put straight on their profile so its nice to see someone whos not ashamed of their sexuality and willing to be open about what they are looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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me too, but tbh, it does put many women off, just read the forums, and cpls, so taking it off and seeing what happens could work? It is totally wrong that its so OK for me to be bi, but not a man, but it does seem to be thee way it goes now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get rid of the bi curious bit and love of TS's, it puts women off"
Doesn't put me off at all. You're obviously not messaging the right people (hint hint)  |
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But the mention of cougars/older women does put a lot off on here. You simply set the age range to your preferred ages and don't mention it in the text. Though leaving it all the way up to 99 as many do is lazy and suggests no discernment! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get rid of the bi curious bit and love of TS's, it puts women off
Doesn't put me off at all. You're obviously not messaging the right people (hint hint) Your busted remember...... "
Only an ickle bit. I'm almost fixed. And anyway busted or not I can still flirt.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheers for all the posts guys,
I say im straight because i only like the female form which is why i will never meet man, or tv, TS (in my eyes) are a bit different and portray a female
Image, although everyone has different views.
I get the 'men who cant accom' thing as im guessing alot of men who cant probably have gf's or wifes?
Any ways thanks guys"
I think they are referring to you with the comment about not being able to accommodate as you haven't said, to be honest though at the age you are, I suspect you either live at home or shared accommodation.
Nice tattoos by the way |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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maybe the bum fight that broke out a few posts above shows that what people tell you should be taken with a pinch of salt...
some things will work for some... may put off others.....
the question I would ask is what were you expecting if after 3 weeks the "why am i getting nowhere" post comes out...
unless you are very very very very lucky... it doesn't tend to be "insta-shag"
just because people swing, it doesn't mean they will swing with anyone, wont drop there knickers at the hint of a hello and will bend over for all and sundry..... 
time, patience, and a healthy does of common sense..... now is 3 weeks really showing you have given it time, or showing that you have patience..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"personally i think people should be honest, loads of people moan that bi guys lie and put straight on their profile so its nice to see someone whos not ashamed of their sexuality and willing to be open about what they are looking for "
thats it, if ur profiles confused it puts most people off,
if your honest then your still in with people who not afraid of bi or are actually looking for it. if ur good looking lad, genuine and dont send messages from hell then they will be plenty of bi couples i reckon who will take a chance on you if ur genuinly bi as they struggle sometimes to find people who actually are bi instead of pretending hoping to bang the mrs lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mmmm your a pretty young thing aren't you.
Just be you, put in your profile what you want. So what if thinhgs you write will put some people off, you can't jump through hoops to try and attract people, why should you.
I think you have a nice profile, with some very attractive pics. Just be patient, but you've done the right thing in putting the post up and getting yourself a bit of attention. Great to be proactive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A single guy interested in meeting TSs wouldn't put me off, even if the guy identified as primarily straight.
I'd also probably be up for a FMTS threesome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Put what you want to be honest. Who you sleep with is your own damn business. If someoneone won't meet because you have Bi down, or meet TS, then sod them in all honesty. I find judgemental idiots a far bigger turn off than someone who is just being honest and themselves. |
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"Put what you want to be honest. Who you sleep with is your own damn business. If someoneone won't meet because you have Bi down, or meet TS, then sod them in all honesty. I find judgemental idiots a far bigger turn off than someone who is just being honest and themselves."
"Just want to get other oroples views and possible reasons why this isnt happening for me!"
Did you miss that bit of the op or were you too quick being a "judgemental idiot"...oh the irony!
The op asked a question, everyone answered giving their point of view without being judgemental...apart from you!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Put what you want to be honest. Who you sleep with is your own damn business. If someoneone won't meet because you have Bi down, or meet TS, then sod them in all honesty. I find judgemental idiots a far bigger turn off than someone who is just being honest and themselves.
"Just want to get other oroples views and possible reasons why this isnt happening for me!"
Did you miss that bit of the op or were you too quick being a "judgemental idiot"...oh the irony!
The op asked a question, everyone answered giving their point of view without being judgemental...apart from you!
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They were making a judgement on him based upon the fact he either wasn't averse to meeting a TS or had a TS on his friends list. So instead of actually bothering to say hello and maybe asking him some questions they were all saying I wouldn't meet you because X. Y Z is on your profile. In my book that's being judgemental, but hey, it's the internet so what do I care if a few people get their jammies ruffled. |
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"Put what you want to be honest. Who you sleep with is your own damn business. If someoneone won't meet because you have Bi down, or meet TS, then sod them in all honesty. I find judgemental idiots a far bigger turn off than someone who is just being honest and themselves."
We would never meet a bi bloke...nothing to do with being judgemental about there lifestyle, just not our thing..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We would never meet a bi bloke...nothing to do with being judgemental about there lifestyle, just not our thing..... "
I'd put good money on the simple fact that you probably already have, considering how many "straight" guys have approached me in the last 6 months.
Bi guys don't have any markings, so the only way to tell is if they're being honest. I just don't believe in punishing honest people and rewarding liars.
End of the day it's up to you who you shag. I don't know you and we'll never meet, so meh. |
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"Put what you want to be honest. Who you sleep with is your own damn business. If someoneone won't meet because you have Bi down, or meet TS, then sod them in all honesty. I find judgemental idiots a far bigger turn off than someone who is just being honest and themselves.
"Just want to get other oroples views and possible reasons why this isnt happening for me!"
Did you miss that bit of the op or were you too quick being a "judgemental idiot"...oh the irony!
The op asked a question, everyone answered giving their point of view without being judgemental...apart from you!
They were making a judgement on him based upon the fact he either wasn't averse to meeting a TS or had a TS on his friends list. So instead of actually bothering to say hello and maybe asking him some questions they were all saying I wouldn't meet you because X. Y Z is on your profile. In my book that's being judgemental, but hey, it's the internet so what do I care if a few people get their jammies ruffled."
It's my experience the people who get their "jammies ruffled" are those that feel excluded in some way. I haven't looked, but I wager you're bi by your responses!
I don't question or get uppity if someone doesn't want to play with me or hurl insults around.
I actually know I'm not everyones cup of chai and don't expect to be. But hey, that's just me!
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Just wanted to add that I have many friends on here, and they're not all my fb's. I'm a friendly person, help others, and some people like to chat, catch up etc. Seeing me as their friend on their list doesn't imply they've had fun with me, and sure there are many others like me.
Also remember that TS also includes female to male people - not all of us T's were born male. We're not labels, we're just people, like you and the next person. Also, if someone has TS etc in their willing to meet interests, doesn't say 'willing to fuck', it's merely an openness to being sociable.
Some of my best friends are straight, bi, bicurious and transgendered - I think of them as friends, not labels.
Sorry for the slight diversion from our friend posting this, who's hit a rocky patch. I think it's unfair for him to be pilloried etc, just because he'd thought a certain way.
He's new, he's a single guy and he'll learn, if he has tenacity, that things can get better. Most of us are open minded (I have no official stats on that count), accept others for who they are, and our tastes sometimes vary. |
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