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What am I doing wrong?
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"The first thing to smack you right in the face you claim your 25, but the profile says 27. Is it lies or deception" fixed | |||
"I think myself as a good looking young man who keeps himself In shape have a decent size cock have my own home so free most time unless at work I’ve messaged couples and female but never have any luck I haven’t been verified yet and close to deleting this can anyone give me any advice? I can’t have my pics as public as with my job I need a certain limit to discretion...." Loads of advice on other threads. My opinion, and only an opinion, you can verify on camera in the chat rooms so that should r me an option. No one is meeting so what is it you’re looking for? Your profile text doesn’t stand out, what do you want and what can you give. Make it personal to you. If people moan in a profile even about verifications it can put people off. Enjoy the site during this time, make connections in chat rooms and forums and who knows what may happen | |||
"I think myself as a good looking young man who keeps himself In shape have a decent size cock have my own home so free most time unless at work I’ve messaged couples and female but never have any luck I haven’t been verified yet and close to deleting this can anyone give me any advice? I can’t have my pics as public as with my job I need a certain limit to discretion...." You joined during a time when play meets are illegal - did you expect to meet during lockdown? | |||
" I haven’t been verified yet and close to deleting this can anyone give me any advice? " Your profile says "not new here so know how it works. I have lost all my verifications" | |||
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" I haven’t been verified yet and close to deleting this can anyone give me any advice? Your profile says "not new here so know how it works. I have lost all my verifications"" This OP. Your post contradicts the info on your profile. | |||
"Of course not but I’m trying to organise a meet for when these restrictions disappear " How do you know when that will be? | |||
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"I think myself as a good looking young man who keeps himself In shape have a decent size cock have my own home so free most time unless at work I’ve messaged couples and female but never have any luck I haven’t been verified yet and close to deleting this can anyone give me any advice? I can’t have my pics as public as with my job I need a certain limit to discretion...." Well being verified can help so are options to get too know each other via chatting before I met my first we chatted constantly 6 months solid before meeting temptation was there but holding back was teasing for both till the right moment came along at the drop off a hat and was well worth the wait and you can always send pictures via chat once you feel comfortable as chatting is part of the chemistry so I myself if I was you I wouldn't rush to delete your account and this year has been a terrible year for all especially for meeting others so have a little faith pal  | |||
"Lack of photos. No actual profile . Nothing to make me want to message you. Your one pic is a messy bathroom and you have your socks on. That’s the last thing I want to be seeing. We aren’t currently meeting so our photos are off at the moment but you really need to stand out with the photos you present. If your 27 you should be able to take a decent selfie or two " This 100%. We all want to have fun, don't state the obvious. Try to sell yourself a bit on your profile. Add some pics with better background. Talk to people on cam/forums. | |||
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"At the risk of sounding unhelpful, where you're going wrong is being another guy on a swinging site. There are hundreds of guys, many of whom are reasonably decent looking and with a decent size cock. Unfortunately on here you're just one of many, and its easy to get lost amongst the masses of similar guys in women's inboxes." This  | |||
"Of course not but I’m trying to organise a meet for when these restrictions disappear " Probably be best to do that once the restrictions have disappeared since no one knows how long that piece of string is. | |||
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"Lack of photos. No actual profile . Nothing to make me want to message you. Your one pic is a messy bathroom and you have your socks on. That’s the last thing I want to be seeing. We aren’t currently meeting so our photos are off at the moment but you really need to stand out with the photos you present. If your 27 you should be able to take a decent selfie or two " . FYI my house is clean I was clearly about to get in the shower but thanks for judging! | |||
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"Well guys some of you are clearly just simply rude so what if I got socks on In My pic doesn’t make me unmeetable and guys I can’t predict the future I don’t know when I can meet clearly but I would like to speak to people for when the time is right! I lost my verifications as I deleted my old profile and thanks anyone who give me genuine advice I’ll add more detail to my profile! " It's not rude to point out that planning for meets (with total strangers) at some unknown time in the far distant future is not an attractive prospect for many women & couples here. Good luck with whatever advice you choose to follow. | |||
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"Well guys some of you are clearly just simply rude so what if I got socks on In My pic doesn’t make me unmeetable and guys I can’t predict the future I don’t know when I can meet clearly but I would like to speak to people for when the time is right! I lost my verifications as I deleted my old profile and thanks anyone who give me genuine advice I’ll add more detail to my profile! " I am sorry you feel offended. I would like to think none of the responders to your post where trying to hurt your feelings. Still, you wanted comments and you have received them. Good luck. | |||
"Lack of photos. No actual profile . Nothing to make me want to message you. Your one pic is a messy bathroom and you have your socks on. That’s the last thing I want to be seeing. We aren’t currently meeting so our photos are off at the moment but you really need to stand out with the photos you present. If your 27 you should be able to take a decent selfie or two . FYI my house is clean I was clearly about to get in the shower but thanks for judging! " You asked for opinions we gave you ours. Good luck wearing your socks in the shower . And if we think this way you can be sure many others will. | |||
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"The first thing to smack you right in the face you claim your 25, but the profile says 27. Is it lies or deception" Closely followed by "not new here so know how it works" then your asking for advice to why it's not working for you. If you've been here before you know exactly how this works as a single man. | |||
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"Lack of photos. No actual profile . Nothing to make me want to message you. Your one pic is a messy bathroom and you have your socks on. That’s the last thing I want to be seeing. We aren’t currently meeting so our photos are off at the moment but you really need to stand out with the photos you present. If your 27 you should be able to take a decent selfie or two . FYI my house is clean I was clearly about to get in the shower but thanks for judging! " That is a genuine advice ! It’s not judging . Your socks and whatever is on the floor are the first things I noticed when I read this thread last night and I’m probably not the only one . Your photos and your profile are your only tools to make an impression so use them well .  | |||
"Lack of photos. No actual profile . Nothing to make me want to message you. Your one pic is a messy bathroom and you have your socks on. That’s the last thing I want to be seeing. We aren’t currently meeting so our photos are off at the moment but you really need to stand out with the photos you present. If your 27 you should be able to take a decent selfie or two . FYI my house is clean I was clearly about to get in the shower but thanks for judging! " You asked where you are going wrong and believe us that picture is one of the big things your doing wrong. The user was helping you out. People judge you on your profile text (none existent atm) and your pictures. If you can't handle that then this is definitely not the site for you buddy. KJ | |||
"Most women dont like men stating thier cock size in thier user name. " Shows how old I am. I thought 7 inch meant he had the single, not the album. | |||
"Most women dont like men stating thier cock size in thier user name. Shows how old I am. I thought 7 inch meant he had the single, not the album. " Haha I think I remember those | |||
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"Lack of photos. No actual profile . Nothing to make me want to message you. Your one pic is a messy bathroom and you have your socks on. That’s the last thing I want to be seeing. We aren’t currently meeting so our photos are off at the moment but you really need to stand out with the photos you present. If your 27 you should be able to take a decent selfie or two . FYI my house is clean I was clearly about to get in the shower but thanks for judging! " Chill josh, don't rise to the bait. A lot of women will read people's forum posts and attitude and decide if they're a potential meet partner or not on this alone. Just remember if someone posts negative comments it's their issue not yours. I've seen this a lot and the best posters turn it around by using humour rather than attack back Life's short, be happy Good luck  | |||
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"You need to actually write a profile. I guarantee someone on this site has the exact same wording virtually. You need to tell readers about yourself and why makes you stand out. No one cares about if you’ve ‘been here before’ and ‘know how the site works’ If you had veris, why did you leave to loose them? Veris are like gold for single guys! Take a look at the forums. Join in the conversation, you’ll meet more people that way! " Majority of members on here don’t read people’s profiles and that’s a fact. Hence why now a lot of people now have a line saying such things as... ‘Put toothpaste in the title so I know you’ve read my profile’ The amount of couples I get asking if I want to try my bi side when it clearly states I don’t is ridiculous. Then you see them moaning on their status about people not reading their profile when they receive messages from other members..   | |||
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"Most women dont like men stating thier cock size in thier user name. Shows how old I am. I thought 7 inch meant he had the single, not the album. " lol | |||
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"Lack of photos. No actual profile . Nothing to make me want to message you. Your one pic is a messy bathroom and you have your socks on. That’s the last thing I want to be seeing. We aren’t currently meeting so our photos are off at the moment but you really need to stand out with the photos you present. If your 27 you should be able to take a decent selfie or two . FYI my house is clean I was clearly about to get in the shower but thanks for judging! " You may want to empty the bath and take your socks off before you shower  | |||
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"At the risk of sounding unhelpful, where you're going wrong is being another guy on a swinging site. There are hundreds of guys, many of whom are reasonably decent looking and with a decent size cock. Unfortunately on here you're just one of many, and its easy to get lost amongst the masses of similar guys in women's inboxes."
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"Hello Op, I realise that you opened this thread four days ago, and appear to have modified some aspects of your profile text since then. People have responded to your request for feedback, and it's clear you don't like the feedback you've been given, but the fact that so many agree must surely tell you something? Given that you are in the bracket that we are looking for, here's some more advice from our perspective. Please remember that this isn't a personal jibe at you, but is intended for you to undeerstand what people like us think when they look at profiles. If you had messaged us then, like almost everyone we know on this site, we would have had a look at your profile and made a decision there and then whether we would reply or not. It sounds brutal but as the saying goes, you only have one chance to make a first impression, and people will only look further if they feel that initial attraction. The first thing we notice about your profile is that you haven't taken any time over it, which makes us question whether you truelly are looking to meet, or whether this site is some sort of quick buzz for you. If a profile is littered with spelling mistakes etc then it is off putting, and people will not spend the time reading it, they will simply delete your message or skip past your profile and look for someone else. Reading into your blurb it does state that your bi curious, but then again your profile says you are straight. I get it, the moment you put bi curious then you think you'll be hounded by single men. Well, to save yourself that problem, use the email filters to block single men. What you choose to do is of course your business, but contradictions within your profile will put some people off. I note that you age has changed from 25 to 27 in the past few days. The sugar mommy comment, though probably meant in a light hearted way, does come across as you wanting someone else to pay your way for you. If that's what you want then fine, but once again it will put some people off; and I'm sure that you could find a better way of conveying the message if that is not the case. Your profile is unverified after being here four months, again this will put some off. As you have joined months after a ban on meeting up was placed on us, and will not be removed any time soon, it leaves you just one option. Relying on messages alone seldom works, so why not use the chatroom and get yourself verified that way? It gives people another way to see aspects of your personality and maybe they will consider meeting in the future. The other aspect of the site where people can interact with you is of course these forums. You'll be suprised how often people will use the forum as a way of interacting with a potential meet, or be introduced to one. Photo's. your original post to this thread states very clearly 'I can’t have my pics as public as with my job I need a certain limit to discretion' but you have chosen to show your fface pic on your profile. Again, it's your business, but some might then question the contradiction. So many people are listed on sites like this or dating apps or whatever, so the chances are that if anyone you know in person found out your on here they wouldn't bat an eyelid, as they themselves would have to be on here to see it in the first place. However, if discretion is what you are looking for wouldn't it be better to have a nice face pic on the site rather than pictures of your cock? Which one would you prefer to be seen by someone you know? More importantly, which one do you feel is more likely to attract someone? Socks. Everyone agrees, that is not the greatest photo, well everyone except you. If that's what you want to show the world then go ahead, but why not take another quick selfie now, with no discarded clothes on the floor... and no socks on your feet. Interests. You seem to have ticked every single one. If that's the case then so be it, but once again most people will consider that your throwing your net as wide as possible, which isn't an attraction. Also, do you really want to have sex with people in the 90's? Good luck with that. The fact is that your profile isn't bad per se, but it does have enough contradictions that we just wouldn't bother looking further. And let's be honest, it would take no more than ten minutes to change all of them. Perhaps now you might have an understanding how people looking for someone like you view your profile. But ultimately Mr Grey it is your profile and you choose to show what you want to show. Take some time to ponder the good feedback people have given you, and decide what you want to do from there. Good luck "What a great post, the fact you spent so much time to try and help this guy is an great gesture. KJ | |||
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I admire your patience | |||
"Great advice I admire your patience"thanks | |||
