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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone we are Laura and dan
We have recently came out off a polyamorous relationship after a couple of years.
We was wondering if anyone else has been in the same position as us the hard part of all this mess is that we generally really care about these people and also they have become to be are best friends
Don’t really want to get into details about it but has anyone been in this situation and was it solved ? |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
Yes, and in our case it ended messily.
You care about them, you still like them as people but like any relationship breakdown it just didn’t work.
Depending on the reason for the break down, it just takes time to get over it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How long was you together? We wasn’t sure how to approach because when you care about people and love them you don’t want them feeling sad so we feel like giveing them a big cuddle ect ect or would it be better to just leave it? |
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By *andRCouple
over a year ago
barry |
We spent the most part of last year in a poly relationship with a single girl. It was the best year of our lives , it ran it's course and she backed off, was a bit younger than us and not ready for a further long lasting commitment but it ended well ish. Xx G |
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At what point does the couple cease to be a couple and the bond between all three is just as strong? Then there’s no single, per se. Perhaps that’s only achievable if you all come together early on in the relationship, though maybe that’s quite rare? |
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By *lwenWoman
over a year ago
De12 area |
I was in one for 5 years.. It only ended when 1 Moved away for work and he met someone while working away.. And decided not to come back.. Been looking for a replacement now for 2 years.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I lived with a bi couple for just over two years and it was amazing. No doubt there were complications but overall it was a wonderful few years. It only ended when they moved abroad for work and I wasn’t keen to move. We stayed in touch for several years but have since lost touch |
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"I guess it's inevitable that the singles in this type of relationship are always going to move on. The couples still have each other. "
See this is so often the issue here. If its a relationship then nobody is single but if there's a continuing attitude of "couple + single" that's usually where there's a problem. |
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Been in the situation a couple of times, first ended very messy, second not so.
Luckily the second situation ended as friends and is still that way. Still have great affection for a special friend. (If you read this you know who you are) xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think it depends on your relationship and how strong ii is, there’s nothing wrong with having singles as really good friends and taking it from there and whatever happens happens, but happiness is key and communication is important x |
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We had a live-in girlfriend for nearly 4 years.
When it was good, it was awesome, but when it was bad it was a nightmare!
It's hard to prevent at least a little jealousy/competition between the same sex partners, regardless of much in love they are. There was also the problem of "it's been my kitchen for x years, I'm not sure I can let someone else in" |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"This is something we want to with another couple . But hard to couples who want the same near us ."
Well, yeah, because if you’re looking for a quad you’re each in four relationships - one with each participant plus the four of you together. It’s really hard to do and is starting polyamory on advanced mode. |
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