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So I’ve been single and not had any intimacy for a long time due to a hate of what i see in the mirror! Due to bullying and constantly being told I’m fat & ugly even by friends!!
I’ve done a bit within relationships but as ive been Outa the game I’m nervous I’m Gona be crap if/when I get a chance
My pics and vids on here are to push myself a bit.
What would you do/suggest?
I would like to fuck a women while her bloke/hubby watches but think that will have to wait lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, I don't see anything wrong with how you look in your photos. Well done for putting yourself out there with them. You should be proud of yourself.
Most people are nervous when they meet someone new. Talking enough before meeting up, then a kiss and cuddle normally help me to relax. |
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Same here. Well done, you!
Never let anybody get in your head, like that. I know it's hard, when you've been told that.
Most people have body insecurities - I hate my flabby belly, so never show it in my pics - but other people don't see them. Be kinder to yourself.
Have a wonderful time on here x |
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You have what is called a "dad bod" . There are loads of people who specify that body type as a preference x.
As for you mates who give you grief, they may just see it as banter. Let them know you aren't ok with it. Just give a "fuck off mate" to tell them to back off. Or give back as good as they are giving x
Good luck x |
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I've no issue with you're body, but I would ask you the read your profile out loud. It's like selling houses, you don't highlight the problems to sell a place. Try and be more positive with your wording |
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"I've gained confidence from adding pics, I've been lucky to only recieve compliments on here,
I hope you find what you're looking for OP. x"
I've done the same xx Lucky as only had one negative comment x |
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Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass. |
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"Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass. "
I go for what people are really like. Bodies can change, but who they are inside, how they engage my brain, how interesting they are is what really sells them to me.
You need to try and be more positive about yourself. Write down at least 5 things about you that you like. Can be absolutely anything from "I have great eyes" and "I am a good listener" to "I can cook a decent meal" and "I can change a car tyre". You'd be surprised how many men can't do the last three. |
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"Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass.
I go for what people are really like. Bodies can change, but who they are inside, how they engage my brain, how interesting they are is what really sells them to me.
You need to try and be more positive about yourself. Write down at least 5 things about you that you like. Can be absolutely anything from "I have great eyes" and "I am a good listener" to "I can cook a decent meal" and "I can change a car tyre". You'd be surprised how many men can't do the last three."
Good advice XXX
And after that watch "shallow hal" Adeel good film for people with self esteem issues. And Jack Black can raise anyone's spirits xx |
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As much as people can be dicks, there's no bigger critic of yourself than 'you'. I think we all go through stages like this feeling like we aren't good enough or can't compare. Be kind to yourself always and own who you are, that's the most attractive quality of anyone in my opinion. As for bullies, they are just miserable people projecting their own insecurities onto you, don't let them get in your head  |
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"Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass.
I go for what people are really like. Bodies can change, but who they are inside, how they engage my brain, how interesting they are is what really sells them to me.
You need to try and be more positive about yourself. Write down at least 5 things about you that you like. Can be absolutely anything from "I have great eyes" and "I am a good listener" to "I can cook a decent meal" and "I can change a car tyre". You'd be surprised how many men can't do the last three.
Good advice XXX
And after that watch "shallow hal" Adeel good film for people with self esteem issues. And Jack Black can raise anyone's spirits xx"
Thanks. It's something I made myself do more than once for similar reasons to the OP.
I love Shallow Hal. |
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And after that watch "shallow hal" Adeel good film for people with self esteem issues. And Jack Black can raise anyone's spirits xx
Thanks. It's something I made myself do more than once for similar reasons to the OP.
I love Shallow Hal."
It's one of my "go to" films x And I prefer the "real" Gwyneth in it! |
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Well I’m a bit of a joker I crack jokes and comebacks I also do impressions and make people laugh.
Shallow Hal is a good film I have it on dvd, my go to film is the wedding singer!
And as for being a listener I’m good at that been a shoulder etc for loads of my friends, cooking no problem stuffed mushrooms,chilli,spag bowl,a good steak no worries. And Changing a car tyre well 5 mins done I can strip it down and rebuild it too as I’m a qualified spanner monkey lol
The liking myself part is the hardest bit as I’ve not since I had an operation gained loads of weight and filled out at 14, so went from super fit sports guy to blob.
I’ve yo-yo d with my weight ever since at my biggest I got to 20stone 10lb but then focused and in 14 months got down to 14stone, went away for New Years got chatting to a girl to be told by her friend that came over I was a fat c**t and should f**k off!!
I will get there I will trim down etc just takes time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’ve been single and not had any intimacy for a long time due to a hate of what i see in the mirror! Due to bullying and constantly being told I’m fat & ugly even by friends!!
I’ve done a bit within relationships but as ive been Outa the game I’m nervous I’m Gona be crap if/when I get a chance
My pics and vids on here are to push myself a bit.
What would you do/suggest?
I would like to fuck a women while her bloke/hubby watches but think that will have to wait lol "
Mate you need new friends!! Those aren’t friends! |
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
The South |
"So I’ve been single and not had any intimacy for a long time due to a hate of what i see in the mirror! Due to bullying and constantly being told I’m fat & ugly even by friends!!
I’ve done a bit within relationships but as ive been Outa the game I’m nervous I’m Gona be crap if/when I get a chance
My pics and vids on here are to push myself a bit.
What would you do/suggest?
I would like to fuck a women while her bloke/hubby watches but think that will have to wait lol "
Absolutely nothing wrong with what you see in the mirror.
I prefer to meet guys who don't have a super buff, gym fit, 6 pack physique.
It's fantastic that you're using your pictures and videos to boost your confidence.
Ignore the bulls, stand closer to those who support you. Put space between those who don't.
Life on Fab is tough for single men, don't let that put you off, or make you think that there's something wrong with you.
Be kind to yourself.
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"So I’ve been single and not had any intimacy for a long time due to a hate of what i see in the mirror! Due to bullying and constantly being told I’m fat & ugly even by friends!!
I’ve done a bit within relationships but as ive been Outa the game I’m nervous I’m Gona be crap if/when I get a chance
My pics and vids on here are to push myself a bit.
What would you do/suggest?
I would like to fuck a women while her bloke/hubby watches but think that will have to wait lol "
Perhaps get past the sex chat and talk a little about your personality, that will get you a lot further. |
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Most people, men and women, have issues with what they see in the mirror. I know I do. I'm no Adonis, and while I've lost weight in recent years, I've got a bit of sag now in it's place. Ladies who seek out that tall athletic physique, perfect hair, and good looks will not give me a second glance.
But I am a decent person. I'm thoughtful, considerate, polite, kind... a gentleman in the old-school tradition. I can be charming, witty, I'm educated and can hold an intelligent conversation on most subjects. That's my calling card, and I've had interest on the strength of that alone.
Be yourself. Identify your own strengths. Reserve the sex-chat and overtly sexual content until it's requested. I'd change your profile a bit... be more positive... it's your brochure.
But the thing I'd change most of all is your circle of friends. |
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On the friends front Over the last couple years I’ve ditched all the friends and don’t ever go out!
I now only have the lads at golf and 2 old friends I see maybe once a month as they have families and spend all their time doing that.
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Tackle things 1 step at a time. Pursue how to rebuild your confidence, which don't typically need sex. Counselling may be 1 approach. You might want to focus on other causes, potentially increasing your fitness levels - which won't in and of itself decrease body fat, unless there's a coordinated diet and exercise plan. Those tend to be longer term health management pursuits but getting healthier, potentially just losing the occasional kg may be a support. But, the issue is an internal aspect about you.
It's wise for all single men here to assure it's really hard to get sex on fab. More so because of the virus. If it isn't, it's a bonus and your expectations won't have led to disappointment.
Focus on those who are open to someone like you. No point in wasting time on those who don't.
Assuming you have a gew months to improve things for yourself, consider some realistic plans that could guide you forwards. Don't make fab your only sexual outlet - spread broader into the real world too. |
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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago
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I have a mum bod, well a rugby player mum bod, with a fat layer over lots of muscle, i do have the bonus of good boobs and legs, but be you at the end of the day, we like a dad bod, personality and charisma are more important. |
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You are doing a disservice to women and your fellow men on here saying about the asshole type.
Concentrate on how you can fit into peoples needs when they match your own and you will do well.
It’s a great site and once you get the hang of it and build up a decent reputation then the fun begins. |
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"So I’ve been single and not had any intimacy for a long time due to a hate of what i see in the mirror! Due to bullying and constantly being told I’m fat & ugly even by friends!!
I’ve done a bit within relationships but as ive been Outa the game I’m nervous I’m Gona be crap if/when I get a chance
My pics and vids on here are to push myself a bit.
What would you do/suggest?
I would like to fuck a women while her bloke/hubby watches but think that will have to wait lol "
Get new friends |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"Clubs (when they reopen) will give you a better opportunity. "
Avoid clubs unless you are meeting someone there. If you have confidence issues clubs have the potential to make you feel even worse.
Trust me I know. |
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"I've no issue with you're body, but I would ask you the read your profile out loud. It's like selling houses, you don't highlight the problems to sell a place. Try and be more positive with your wording"
I’ve had a little go at updating my profile see what you think |
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"I'm also struggling with confidence. It's brutal on here for single males. agreed it’s awful "
Is it confidence or shyness? Because if it was confidence then would you really join a swingers site??  |
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"Clubs (when they reopen) will give you a better opportunity.
Avoid clubs unless you are meeting someone there. If you have confidence issues clubs have the potential to make you feel even worse.
Trust me I know. "
Fab is the worst place If you have confidence issues. Messaging 100 people and getting no where will, will make you worse.
Clubs are the best place to meet loads of different people and will do good for a person's confidence.
It's done good for mine. Its fab that knocks a guys confidence. |
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"I'm also struggling with confidence. It's brutal on here for single males. agreed it’s awful
Is it confidence or shyness? Because if it was confidence then would you really join a swingers site?? "
A bit of both but mostly confidence
For an example when I used to go clubbing I’d see a girl I liked, others would go try and pull her I look and basically judge n jury it as she ain’t Gona want someone like me. So not even bother n it’s been like that for years!!
I’m so crap a women has got to grab me n snog me for me to know I’ve got any chance
As for joining this site I’ve always been super horny and like seeing naked or semi clothed women plus I get off on watching and being watched
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"Clubs (when they reopen) will give you a better opportunity.
Avoid clubs unless you are meeting someone there. If you have confidence issues clubs have the potential to make you feel even worse.
Trust me I know.
Fab is the worst place If you have confidence issues. Messaging 100 people and getting no where will, will make you worse.
Clubs are the best place to meet loads of different people and will do good for a person's confidence.
It's done good for mine. Its fab that knocks a guys confidence. "
For men who (despite what may be argued) aren't well endowed and chiselled and young Fab can be brutal.
I don't agree that clubs can be much easier. You can spend an evening chatting and interacting with someone only to be turned down and then you see them with someone else.
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"Clubs (when they reopen) will give you a better opportunity.
Avoid clubs unless you are meeting someone there. If you have confidence issues clubs have the potential to make you feel even worse.
Trust me I know.
Fab is the worst place If you have confidence issues. Messaging 100 people and getting no where will, will make you worse.
Clubs are the best place to meet loads of different people and will do good for a person's confidence.
It's done good for mine. Its fab that knocks a guys confidence.
For men who (despite what may be argued) aren't well endowed and chiselled and young Fab can be brutal.
I don't agree that clubs can be much easier. You can spend an evening chatting and interacting with someone only to be turned down and then you see them with someone else.
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Clubs must be rubbish down south or people are more friendly up north.
I have only had 1 bad day at a club, and that's only because there was hardly anyone there. I have always got to talking to loads of people and apart from that one time have always had fun.
Clubs are much easier because you can actually get chatting to loads of people and that leads sex.  |
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When i look in the mirror in the morning i see a man, its like a recurring nightmare since i was a kid, hate myself and wish i had the confidence to change it, but alas i am doomed to only occasionally be who i want to be xx
dont let it get you down, everyone feels this way at least sometimes. Set small goals a work towards what you want to achieve x |
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"Clubs (when they reopen) will give you a better opportunity.
Avoid clubs unless you are meeting someone there. If you have confidence issues clubs have the potential to make you feel even worse.
Trust me I know.
Fab is the worst place If you have confidence issues. Messaging 100 people and getting no where will, will make you worse.
Clubs are the best place to meet loads of different people and will do good for a person's confidence.
It's done good for mine. Its fab that knocks a guys confidence. "
Have to agree with this regarding fab. Yes my profile isn't very good, and thankfully I'm a very self confident person both in my professional and personal life, but I can certainly see why messaging so many lovely ladies without a jot in return could crush a man's confidence. I'm also aware that women get inundated and likely have a load of messages to trawl through before they even get to mine. Which then makes me realise that the ration of men to women must be phenomenally high (and not in the men's favour!).
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"Clubs (when they reopen) will give you a better opportunity.
Avoid clubs unless you are meeting someone there. If you have confidence issues clubs have the potential to make you feel even worse.
Trust me I know.
Fab is the worst place If you have confidence issues. Messaging 100 people and getting no where will, will make you worse.
Clubs are the best place to meet loads of different people and will do good for a person's confidence.
It's done good for mine. Its fab that knocks a guys confidence.
Have to agree with this regarding fab. Yes my profile isn't very good, and thankfully I'm a very self confident person both in my professional and personal life, but I can certainly see why messaging so many lovely ladies without a jot in return could crush a man's confidence. I'm also aware that women get inundated and likely have a load of messages to trawl through before they even get to mine. Which then makes me realise that the ration of men to women must be phenomenally high (and not in the men's favour!).
Cest la vie"
Even so they check your messages then dont reply but dont delete. If your not going to reply then why dont they just delete the message?
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass. "
but i am entitled to what i want....i am now in a wheelchair, with constant pain,ive had to chop all my hair off... but im still entitled to whatever it is that i want..and if that means keeping my head up my own ass, then so be it....you dont have to put other people (women)down to pick yourself up.its not kind and its not nice.maybe thats how you sabotage yourself.hmmm? want to swap places?no, i dont think so....shake off your shit and go have some fun, for you and for me (when allowed) xx |
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"Clubs (when they reopen) will give you a better opportunity.
Avoid clubs unless you are meeting someone there. If you have confidence issues clubs have the potential to make you feel even worse.
Trust me I know.
Fab is the worst place If you have confidence issues. Messaging 100 people and getting no where will, will make you worse.
Clubs are the best place to meet loads of different people and will do good for a person's confidence.
It's done good for mine. Its fab that knocks a guys confidence.
For men who (despite what may be argued) aren't well endowed and chiselled and young Fab can be brutal.
I don't agree that clubs can be much easier. You can spend an evening chatting and interacting with someone only to be turned down and then you see them with someone else.
Clubs must be rubbish down south or people are more friendly up north.
I have only had 1 bad day at a club, and that's only because there was hardly anyone there. I have always got to talking to loads of people and apart from that one time have always had fun.
Clubs are much easier because you can actually get chatting to loads of people and that leads sex. "
Massive generalisation there and the typical North/South stereotypical view.
Chatting leads to sex - correct that to chatting can sometimes lead to sex.
Maybe people in the North aren't as fussy as they are in the South. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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What would you do/suggest? "
Find some different friends for a start , if they tell you that you’re fat amd ugly , and make you feel insecure, they aren’t friends.
Amd please don’t turn into a whiny man like all those ^ or no will be interested, it’s a much bigger turn off than being a little overweight |
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"Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass. but i am entitled to what i want....i am now in a wheelchair, with constant pain,ive had to chop all my hair off... but im still entitled to whatever it is that i want..and if that means keeping my head up my own ass, then so be it....you dont have to put other people (women)down to pick yourself up.its not kind and its not nice.maybe thats how you sabotage yourself.hmmm? want to swap places?no, i dont think so....shake off your shit and go have some fun, for you and for me (when allowed) xx"
I didnt mean it like that I mean people like Kim and Kanye or Gemma Collins
Very bad role models for youngsters or anyone!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Clubs (when they reopen) will give you a better opportunity.
Avoid clubs unless you are meeting someone there. If you have confidence issues clubs have the potential to make you feel even worse.
Trust me I know.
Fab is the worst place If you have confidence issues. Messaging 100 people and getting no where will, will make you worse.
Clubs are the best place to meet loads of different people and will do good for a person's confidence.
It's done good for mine. Its fab that knocks a guys confidence.
For men who (despite what may be argued) aren't well endowed and chiselled and young Fab can be brutal.
I don't agree that clubs can be much easier. You can spend an evening chatting and interacting with someone only to be turned down and then you see them with someone else.
Clubs must be rubbish down south or people are more friendly up north.
I have only had 1 bad day at a club, and that's only because there was hardly anyone there. I have always got to talking to loads of people and apart from that one time have always had fun.
Clubs are much easier because you can actually get chatting to loads of people and that leads sex.
Massive generalisation there and the typical North/South stereotypical view.
Chatting leads to sex - correct that to chatting can sometimes lead to sex.
Maybe people in the North aren't as fussy as they are in the South."
People in the north are more friendly, it's a well known fact.
You go into a bar and people will chat to you. In the south definitely not the case. (Especially london) if you where having a heart attack in the middle of the street, in london people would just walk past.
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass. but i am entitled to what i want....i am now in a wheelchair, with constant pain,ive had to chop all my hair off... but im still entitled to whatever it is that i want..and if that means keeping my head up my own ass, then so be it....you dont have to put other people (women)down to pick yourself up.its not kind and its not nice.maybe thats how you sabotage yourself.hmmm? want to swap places?no, i dont think so....shake off your shit and go have some fun, for you and for me (when allowed) xx
I didnt mean it like that I mean people like Kim and Kanye or Gemma Collins
Very bad role models for youngsters or anyone!!
Sorry if you took affence "
my girls are just fine, they dont take any shit..they dont need role models. they were trained to believe in themselves. My sons had shit role models and they vowed never to be like them, and they are not...its a mind set.. |
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"Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass. but i am entitled to what i want....i am now in a wheelchair, with constant pain,ive had to chop all my hair off... but im still entitled to whatever it is that i want..and if that means keeping my head up my own ass, then so be it....you dont have to put other people (women)down to pick yourself up.its not kind and its not nice.maybe thats how you sabotage yourself.hmmm? want to swap places?no, i dont think so....shake off your shit and go have some fun, for you and for me (when allowed) xx
I didnt mean it like that I mean people like Kim and Kanye or Gemma Collins
Very bad role models for youngsters or anyone!!
Sorry if you took affence my girls are just fine, they dont take any shit..they dont need role models. they were trained to believe in themselves. My sons had shit role models and they vowed never to be like them, and they are not...its a mind set.."
Not Gona win no matter what I say, as anything I say will be wrong I’m guessing!!
So will agree to dis-agree And leave it at that
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass. but i am entitled to what i want....i am now in a wheelchair, with constant pain,ive had to chop all my hair off... but im still entitled to whatever it is that i want..and if that means keeping my head up my own ass, then so be it....you dont have to put other people (women)down to pick yourself up.its not kind and its not nice.maybe thats how you sabotage yourself.hmmm? want to swap places?no, i dont think so....shake off your shit and go have some fun, for you and for me (when allowed) xx
I didnt mean it like that I mean people like Kim and Kanye or Gemma Collins
Very bad role models for youngsters or anyone!!
Sorry if you took affence my girls are just fine, they dont take any shit..they dont need role models. they were trained to believe in themselves. My sons had shit role models and they vowed never to be like them, and they are not...its a mind set.."
I’m sure you are their role model
Everyone has role models whether it’s family, friends, celebrity, social media, even fab !
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
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"Clubs (when they reopen) will give you a better opportunity.
Avoid clubs unless you are meeting someone there. If you have confidence issues clubs have the potential to make you feel even worse.
Trust me I know.
Fab is the worst place If you have confidence issues. Messaging 100 people and getting no where will, will make you worse.
Clubs are the best place to meet loads of different people and will do good for a person's confidence.
It's done good for mine. Its fab that knocks a guys confidence.
For men who (despite what may be argued) aren't well endowed and chiselled and young Fab can be brutal.
I don't agree that clubs can be much easier. You can spend an evening chatting and interacting with someone only to be turned down and then you see them with someone else.
Clubs must be rubbish down south or people are more friendly up north.
I have only had 1 bad day at a club, and that's only because there was hardly anyone there. I have always got to talking to loads of people and apart from that one time have always had fun.
Clubs are much easier because you can actually get chatting to loads of people and that leads sex.
Massive generalisation there and the typical North/South stereotypical view.
Chatting leads to sex - correct that to chatting can sometimes lead to sex.
Maybe people in the North aren't as fussy as they are in the South.
People in the north are more friendly, it's a well known fact.
You go into a bar and people will chat to you. In the south definitely not the case. (Especially london) if you where having a heart attack in the middle of the street, in london people would just walk past.
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Have you ever been to London?
Oh and this might go to dispel some of the petty regionalism you're spouting.
An audit by London Ambulance Service has found that members of the public gave life-saving cardio-pulmonary resuscitation (CPR) to nearly 2,500 people in the capital.
London has one of the best cardiac arrest survival rates in the world.
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over a year ago
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Hugs Op...
My mother told me every pot has a lid.....
You just have to find yours......
I would suggest a trip To Ukraine or Thailand as a holiday destination.....
The women over there would make you feel like a king...... |
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"I've no issue with you're body, but I would ask you the read your profile out loud. It's like selling houses, you don't highlight the problems to sell a place. Try and be more positive with your wording
I’ve had a little go at updating my profile see what you think "
I think you should sell your best self. Read it back as though it’s written by someone you find physically attractive, would it make you want them?
It reads very much like you’re looking for someone to hold your hand and lead you on a path through Fab. I’m not sure how attractive that is. In general, confidence and putting your best aspects forward is the best way to be successful here. Sometimes you have to fake it til you make it. I’d also review your pics. Select the ones you think are the most attractive.
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"So I’ve been single and not had any intimacy for a long time due to a hate of what i see in the mirror! Due to bullying and constantly being told I’m fat & ugly even by friends!!
I’ve done a bit within relationships but as ive been Outa the game I’m nervous I’m Gona be crap if/when I get a chance
My pics and vids on here are to push myself a bit.
What would you do/suggest?
I would like to fuck a women while her bloke/hubby watches but think that will have to wait lol "
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"So I’ve been single and not had any intimacy for a long time due to a hate of what i see in the mirror! Due to bullying and constantly being told I’m fat & ugly even by friends!!
I’ve done a bit within relationships but as ive been Outa the game I’m nervous I’m Gona be crap if/when I get a chance
My pics and vids on here are to push myself a bit.
What would you do/suggest?
I would like to fuck a women while her bloke/hubby watches but think that will have to wait lol "
Goodness just ignore people. Think of what you like about you and make the most of that.
Negative thoughts about yourself are just a waste of energy.
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"Sorry about my profile I’ll try n sort it out a bit
But as said if your a single bloke on here that’s not a Geordie Essex Chelsea body/asshole type you’ve got no chance! Or very little
I don’t like Women that have arrogance and think they are entitled to what they want Just because they have the body etc, they need to pull their head out their ass. but i am entitled to what i want....i am now in a wheelchair, with constant pain,ive had to chop all my hair off... but im still entitled to whatever it is that i want..and if that means keeping my head up my own ass, then so be it....you dont have to put other people (women)down to pick yourself up.its not kind and its not nice.maybe thats how you sabotage yourself.hmmm? want to swap places?no, i dont think so....shake off your shit and go have some fun, for you and for me (when allowed) xx"
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So no one's pointed out your profile name. That on its own would put me off I'm afraid. It's self deprecating.
Accept who you are, play to your strengths, be positive.
Not everyone wants gym fit. There's plenty of women that want a good chunk of man. But even on that basis you're still fighting for attention against thousands of other chunky men on fab. Its not the greatest place for raising self confidence, definately look at other avenues, hobby clubs, dating sites etc when covid allows. |
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