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Morning Fabbers , just a quick 1 we have had a guy constantly winking or messageing us , we have sent him a message saying he's not for us but he continues to pester us . The question is how do we block him permanently when he keeps setting up new accounts ?
Lucy & Ian |
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I guess you can’t if he keeps making new profiles. Have you reported him? |
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"Morning Fabbers , just a quick 1 we have had a guy constantly winking or messageing us , we have sent him a message saying he's not for us but he continues to pester us . The question is how do we block him permanently when he keeps setting up new accounts ?
Lucy & Ian"
You can't. Just keep reporting him to admin and they may do something about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Arrange to meet. Educate face to face. |
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Sadly if he is setting up new accounts it will be tricky.
You can tell admin they maybe able to block his IP address but that will only stop those who don't have a little IT knowledge in how to get around that block.
If it was me, I'd leave your current account dormant.
Set up your own new account and then let those who you want to keep in touch with know of your new profile.
On the new profile change it enough to make sure he does not spot it.
Different names, ages, hometown and photos should do the trick.
Also leaving the current profile dormant will mean that he will be less likely to look for a new one (unlike if you closed the old profile).
Sadly if that does not work and you feel it is reaching harassment levels you may need the police.
I know people get attached to their profiles and say its not right that the victim has to change. But you cant change the will of the perpetrator by good thoughts. |
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You can't block him permanently if he kerps setting up new accounts but you can enable message filters to prevent new profiles, unverified profiles and profiles with no pictures from messaging you. That would be a start  |
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"Sadly if he is setting up new accounts it will be tricky.
You can tell admin they maybe able to block his IP address but that will only stop those who don't have a little IT knowledge in how to get around that block.
If it was me, I'd leave your current account dormant.
Set up your own new account and then let those who you want to keep in touch with know of your new profile.
On the new profile change it enough to make sure he does not spot it.
Different names, ages, hometown and photos should do the trick.
Also leaving the current profile dormant will mean that he will be less likely to look for a new one (unlike if you closed the old profile).
Sadly if that does not work and you feel it is reaching harassment levels you may need the police.
I know people get attached to their profiles and say its not right that the victim has to change. But you cant change the will of the perpetrator by good thoughts. "
Bit extreme!!!
Just ignore him, delete button takes less than a second and block. If he wants to waste his time with new profiles let him carry on...
And I think we can all agree that the Police have bigger things to worry about than unwanted messages on a swingers website.
It’s a mere irritation... nothing more and all I’d see it as. I certainly wouldn’t be carrying out any of the actions suggested above. |
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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago
Weirdsville South Coast Dorset |
Arrange a meet, hand him some knitting needles and wool and tell him to take up a new hobby. |
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By *wosWoman
over a year ago
east london |
Adjust your filters so new members cant message you |
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Does he send identical messages from new profiles for you to be sure it's the same guy ? |
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Put the single guys filter on he can’t message or wink you then (I think) |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
hiding from cock pics. |
You can only block each individual account or you could block new profiles.
if you are sure it's him you could block his messages without even opening them, it's going to be really boring for him to continue to pester you, he might get tired of it, without you even reading the content |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Morning Fabbers , just a quick 1 we have had a guy constantly winking or messageing us , we have sent him a message saying he's not for us but he continues to pester us . The question is how do we block him permanently when he keeps setting up new accounts ?
Lucy & Ian"
Ignore him, he'll soon tire of mailing ye. I too have had repeat a accounts constantly msging. I just don't block anymore cos there's no point they create another. |
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Bit extreme!!!
Just ignore him, delete button takes less than a second and block. If he wants to waste his time with new profiles let him carry on...
And I think we can all agree that the Police have bigger things to worry about than unwanted messages on a swingers website.
It’s a mere irritation... nothing more and all I’d see it as. I certainly wouldn’t be carrying out any of the actions suggested above. "
Unfortunately it's not extreme as it can be classed as stalking. And is a very serious issue. If this person won't take no for an answer online and continues in this manner who knows how far he would go. I'm sorry but it's more than unwanted messages on a site and could turn worse if he's not stopped.
OP I would advise that a new account would be a good idea, but if that didn't work then yes contacting the police is the next step id take.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can't block him permanently if he kerps setting up new accounts but you can enable message filters to prevent new profiles, unverified profiles and profiles with no pictures from messaging you. That would be a start "
This
or keep an eye on his profile, when he deletes it change your user name |
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