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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I feel that my wife is missing out on all the gorgeous sexual experiences that she could have. Can anyone please offer me advice in how I can broach the subject without causing an argument. All advice gratefully received x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I understand thank you. I know that she has slept with other men. She met someone else a few years ago. She used to come home early hours of the morning and get into bed next to me and I would get turned on thinking that she was full of another guys cum. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Oh yes she told me. But like I said this was a few years ago and now she acts like the Virgin Mary "
I see. So assuming you didn't break up, did you tell her the thought of her with others actually turns you on?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not her missing out on all the great sexual experiences. It would appear that you want to forfill those experiences yourself through her whether perhaps she wants to or boy. It's your selfish attitude towards your fantasy in my opinion. Hey. It's quite common. Does not mean you are a perv etc. We all have them. How fo you know what she wants. You cNt just decide on her behalf. After all it takes two to tangle. |
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"I feel that my wife is missing out on all the gorgeous sexual experiences that she could have. Can anyone please offer me advice in how I can broach the subject without causing an argument. All advice gratefully received x"
its a v slow process..communications the key and being dead honest with each other..little steps ....never push...ask your Mrs if she would be interested in this life no matter how vanilla and start from there .....we went down the massage route so the Mrs gets attention without pressure to perform ....looks hot also ....lol...good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel that my wife is missing out on all the gorgeous sexual experiences that she could have. Can anyone please offer me advice in how I can broach the subject without causing an argument. All advice gratefully received x"
Unfortunately her Libido may be a lot lower than back then so she may not think about sex as often as she used to and just thinks you are happy with the way things now are.
A good chat over a couple of glasses of Shiraz should do the trick. With us being on lockdown she wont feel under pressure to do anything straight away and may see a sexy chat as a little relaxing one evening. |
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"I feel that my wife is missing out on all the gorgeous sexual experiences that she could have. Can anyone please offer me advice in how I can broach the subject without causing an argument. All advice gratefully received x"
She has her own profile here and has had a ball - or 2!!! |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"I feel that my wife is missing out on all the gorgeous sexual experiences that she could have. Can anyone please offer me advice in how I can broach the subject without causing an argument. All advice gratefully received x"
How are we supposed to know, she is your wife? Do you talk to your wife ask, her how she is feeling, what she thinks of? Do you make love to her or have sex with her?
Did you talk when she told you she was sleeping with other men, did you encourage her or did you get angry?
Do you tell her you enjoy seeing the looks on other men's faces when they see her?
How would she react if you told her you get turned on think about when she slept with other men and came home filled with their cum?
We cannot guide you as we don't know your wife, it may come as a surprise but they all react in a different way and what makes one woman happy annoys or bores another.
Talk to her about anything and everything then perhaps you will find out what makes her tick. |
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By *S1407Couple
over a year ago
dartford |
Have you tried talking through fantasies. Introduce the idea of you watching her fuck another man or would she like to see you with another woman. See how she reacts. May spice things up and get her libido stirring.
I spent 6 months plucking up the courage after 27 years of monogamous marriage. I suggested bringing another girl into our playtime. I picked my moment after a really good session and she said that sounds like fun.
5 years later we are stronger as a couple and have met some amazing people in this lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ignore the judgemental replies as people love to throw their opinions on anything .
You both have to decide what's best for your sexual life and you both equally should enjoy it and not just be there to fulfill ones fantasy. |
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How will she be knowing that you've gone ahead and joined already?
Trust is key. If you are expecting to encourage her because you are already involved, it could be a lack of trust that is the result. That could break the relationship - are you up for that too?
Communication and trust are the tools to get this to work. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I feel that my wife is missing out on all the gorgeous sexual experiences that she could have. Can anyone please offer me advice in how I can broach the subject without causing an argument. All advice gratefully received x
Unfortunately her Libido may be a lot lower than back then so she may not think about sex as often as she used to and just thinks you are happy with the way things now are.
A good chat over a couple of glasses of Shiraz should do the trick. With us being on lockdown she wont feel under pressure to do anything straight away and may see a sexy chat as a little relaxing one evening."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile sounds like you want more than just sex. We have no idea the state of your relationship to be honest. You've been on site a while, so guessing not as you would like it. Other than the advice that's already been given ref talking to her, sharing fantasies, etc. I wouldnt like to hazard a guess what would be best for the two of you.
Hope you find what you are looking for though.
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"I feel that my wife is missing out on all the gorgeous sexual experiences that she could have. Can anyone please offer me advice in how I can broach the subject without causing an argument. All advice gratefully received x"
What makes you feel like your wife is missing out?
I don't mean this in a bad way but if you don't know how to broach the subject with the woman you probably know better than anyone without causing an argument, it's unlikely we will. I suggest working on your communication together first so you can both talk without fear of it causing upset. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be honest and open. Tell her what turns you on and what you fantasizing about. Do it with gentleness and compassion and state it as "I want this" vs you need to be like this. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel that my wife is missing out on all the gorgeous sexual experiences that she could have. Can anyone please offer me advice in how I can broach the subject without causing an argument. All advice gratefully received x
Unfortunately her Libido may be a lot lower than back then so she may not think about sex as often as she used to and just thinks you are happy with the way things now are.
A good chat over a couple of glasses of Shiraz should do the trick. With us being on lockdown she wont feel under pressure to do anything straight away and may see a sexy chat as a little relaxing one evening. thank you "
Ha ha, no worries. We are doing a lot of that at the moment  |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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From your profile and another thread it looks like you’re on here without her knowledge? And she’s cheated on you. My own opinion is you have more to fix than trying to get her to join fab. Good luck. I hope you both can find a way through.
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I remember when my fella first brought it up. It shattered my self confidence, why did he want to have sex with others? Why did he want me to have sex with others? From initial conversation to going to our first club, was about 2 years. We talked and talked, and talked and talked.. we talked about fantasies and what we enjoy and dont. The key here is communication. I thought I was open minded before but, my eyes and mind were opened even more after our first club night! Like another poster has said... there is no going back...! |
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"I remember when my fella first brought it up. It shattered my self confidence, why did he want to have sex with others? Why did he want me to have sex with others? From initial conversation to going to our first club, was about 2 years. We talked and talked, and talked and talked.. we talked about fantasies and what we enjoy and dont. The key here is communication. I thought I was open minded before but, my eyes and mind were opened even more after our first club night! Like another poster has said... there is no going back...!"
nice to be .....open minded  |
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