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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated   |
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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago
Heaven in the Midlands |
"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples. "
Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men. |
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.
Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men. "
4 people to please is always difficult but when it does happen it’s superb  |
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.
Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men. "
Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course). |
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over a year ago
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.
Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men.
Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course). "
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No advice as we find the same. I've given up for the time being as it is proving difficult to keep the messages going when we can't actually meet. We also often find a lot of couples either want an instant meet, which we don't do or are only here to get off on the chat and pics and have no intention of meeting.
We have been lucky enough to find a few great couples though so it is worth the effort x |
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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago
West Midlands and West London |
We've found it impossible. Ideally it's a romantic couple who are in their 20/30/40s and the lady is also bi. I have also found that some people showing interest have been very keen on photo sharing which is not my style at all x |
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Its difficult. Especially online (and of course even more so with the virus). To get mutral attraction between 2 let alone 4 is difficult. You just really can't tell if there will be that mutual attraction for everyone until to you meet in person. There's been times we liked a profile but the attractions just not right in person. But also we've bumped into people in clubs who's profile wouldn't fancy so much but in real life turn out to be great. Thats why going to clubs has always worked best for us and this is where we've found most success. |
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over a year ago
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In our experience many couples have quite strict list of what they are looking for and very often what they are really looking for is a bi-lady with supermodel good looks to join them for fantasy fulfilment and they put down couples in case they could persuade the female to play alone, nothing wrong with it but to be honest in that situation you're better off going to a professional.
Right now like most couples we're not looking because of the virus, and even before covid we found that the longer the messaging went on without actually meeting the more likely it would just fizzle out and never happen.
What did work for us is that just by being a bit more up front and suggesting a social after a few messages, at the very least it helps us quickly identify those who really have no intention of meeting. |
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"Its difficult. Especially online (and of course even more so with the virus). To get mutral attraction between 2 let alone 4 is difficult. You just really can't tell if there will be that mutual attraction for everyone until to you meet in person. There's been times we liked a profile but the attractions just not right in person. But also we've bumped into people in clubs who's profile wouldn't fancy so much but in real life turn out to be great. Thats why going to clubs has always worked best for us and this is where we've found most success. "
We find the same as this. Much preferred the real meets in clubs pre-Covid where you can vouch they are real and also read body language. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "
We have found similar experience to what others have said in this thread OP.
When things get a bit more normal socials, parties and clubs would be a good opportunity for you both.
We found meeting people face to face in clubs is far easier than through the site. We must admit that online has become a bit rude and impersonal in the past few years. |
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Also found that getting 4 way attraction online and by text/message is a challenge. There always seems to be one of the 4 who is articulate in person but just can't/won't write. It's why we prefer early on socials but with covid it's a little bit of a waiting game for even that so not contacting new couples often but still hoping for an occasional pair of chatty gems. |
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I Think we've been extremely lucky with our time on fab, we've been fortunate enough to meet a good number of other couples who we not only find attractive but we've developed lasting friendships with.
Of course not everyone we speak with will be for us and vice versa but we seem to have been fortunate in finding plenty of mutual attraction.
Definitely missing the ability to have socials and meet in clubs though.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is so much easier in clubs. We are actively looking for couples in our area and it's hard cos of covid and people being fussy, flakey or outright time wasters! That said we have have had some great meets |
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over a year ago
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.
Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men.
Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course). "
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over a year ago
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "
COVID is delaying our first bi foursome but I have to say we are having some lovely chats with some very sexy couples so hope it won’t be too difficult to organise to meet when the time comes |
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated
COVID is delaying our first bi foursome but I have to say we are having some lovely chats with some very sexy couples so hope it won’t be too difficult to organise to meet when the time comes "
Same! Were just keeping each other entertained in the meantime  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm half a couple who meets couples and seperately
It's v hard finding 4 way attraction and availability and most couples want bi fems, I'm 100% straight.
So we started meeting alone too due to this, if we want a meet together pre covid, we go to a club.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were just getting into it before covid happened! We actually met a couple for a social but sadly there wasn't 4 way attraction even though we had a great time. I reccon once you meet a couple you like and play with, they could prob introduce you to other couples who are similar. Thats what we hope anyway! X |
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over a year ago
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "
So difficult during Covid, we took the decision not to meet but prior to that we found that a club is by far the best way, lots of people around and if you arrange to meet a couple and you don’t quite hit it off your not stuck in an awkward situation. |
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We have met some lovely couples on here in the past and also in clubs. We do keep trying in here but think it is getting hard to find real couples for all the fakes. Also have to agree that being a bit more direct and asking to skype or whatever soon has the fakes running for the hills |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "
No much use now but you just have to have a lot of socials to find the matches.
Being bi it should be a bit easier , finding straight separate room only couples to regularly go out with as friends, have dinner and fuck in separate rooms or houses is hard, we have only found about 3 in 2 years. |
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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago
Portsmouth |
We now find age as a big factor, which we find a big shame, as when we started out in swinging, we found older couples much more genuine and fun. So meeting couples was not a problem for us, the fact is, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen, that's what horny sex is all about. Xx |
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We find that the numbers on the site in the last 5/6 months have aired more towards more single male profiles than couples . We struggle to get past it all tbh as when we do find a couple we like they are usualy the other end of the country. |
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples. "
This is exactly it for us too, its very hard for all parties to be attracted to each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.
This is exactly it for us too, its very hard for all parties to be attracted to each other "
Exactly this |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"I Think we've been extremely lucky with our time on fab, we've been fortunate enough to meet a good number of other couples who we not only find attractive but we've developed lasting friendships with.
Of course not everyone we speak with will be for us and vice versa but we seem to have been fortunate in finding plenty of mutual attraction.
Definitely missing the ability to have socials and meet in clubs though.. "
Same for us, we have been blessed with making some life long friends through fab, with private messages and party invites where we have met friends of friends. |
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We thought it would be easy to meet couple for fun but quickly learned as per the gist of the thread.
We have met some lovely couples that we have met on more than one occaison.
Funnily we have had more couples contacting us during lockdown for post covid rendezvous but that looks a millions miles away. 
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Think we've been very lucky, and chatvto a good fe couples, all we'd happily meet, and one we have met for a fantastic night.. soft swing, but all involved.. nice couples are out there, and if you're willing to put the time in, rewards are great. |
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over a year ago
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "
Did at first but thankfully we have 2 lovely couples we see (when we're not in lockdown lol) and are in chat with a few also. Try doing another forum post whith your preferences, ya never know might get lucky  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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me and hubs gave up on meeting couple years ago they just came with too much baggage everytime ..and always something different had one wife become a stalker to me had a few guys who wanted to meet alone after we've already met them with there partner but wanted too behind partners back and then we had our fair share of couples who were unbalanced ie jealous hub or wife or one sided ie one wanted to swing and the other didnt and then the rat run of fakes so we gave up ...the best way and only way we feel to meet couples is clubs |
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"me and hubs gave up on meeting couple years ago they just came with too much baggage everytime ..and always something different had one wife become a stalker to me had a few guys who wanted to meet alone after we've already met them with there partner but wanted too behind partners back and then we had our fair share of couples who were unbalanced ie jealous hub or wife or one sided ie one wanted to swing and the other didnt and then the rat run of fakes so we gave up ...the best way and only way we feel to meet couples is clubs"
Clubs are definitely the easiest plus we have had fun every time |
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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
We've yet to meet a couple, inundated with gents and not all bad but we'd love to meet a couple and try that dynamic... really seems that half the couples that have messaged are fake. |
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "
Us too |
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"me and hubs gave up on meeting couple years ago they just came with too much baggage everytime ..and always something different had one wife become a stalker to me had a few guys who wanted to meet alone after we've already met them with there partner but wanted too behind partners back and then we had our fair share of couples who were unbalanced ie jealous hub or wife or one sided ie one wanted to swing and the other didnt and then the rat run of fakes so we gave up ...the best way and only way we feel to meet couples is clubs
Clubs are definitely the easiest plus we have had fun every time "
For all the same reasons, we have yet to meet up with anyone directly from Fab. All our experiences have been with people we have met at clubs or spas.
Obviously the virus makes things more complicated. |
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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated
Us too"
And us!!! |
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Same for us as well.
We've had times where the "couple" suddenly became a single guy due to wife suddenly becoming ill, wife being invited to an improptu party that he wasn't invited to etc.
Also I organised a surprise blindfolded threesome for the wife and my portfolio of five blokes, on the night, became one.
Luckily he was very good and it was brilliant.
It seems this site is a fantasy stomping ground for dreamers and chancers.
Abfabs (old) and BGHS is where we've been most lucky with some memorable meets.
We leave and return here because there's the rare genuine couple and singles that make it worth it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i would like to find a couple who would let me meet and play with the male without the female being there at all. Am straight so would only want the male. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"That’s why we like going to clubs . But if we met a couple in a club that we all get along then it opens different possibility’s xxx "
Agreed, we have had more fun with couples and singles meeting in clubs.
Body language and tone make up 93% of communication, some thing that is difficult to express on platforms like fab. |
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.
Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men.
Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course). "
Same here
only time we have really connected with couples are at club or party nights , so much easier meeting single guys |
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.
Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men.
Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course). "
We have found this too. Getting the 4 way attraction seems difficult at times. With neither of us interested in bi-play this also appears to count against us.
We would love to find a couple post covid to socialise and enjoy fun with. |
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Me and my wife were in the same boat. Now we decide to play separately as we could never agree on couples. Meeting separately created its own issues for me, but she was still Meeting people before covid. Hopefully the reflection over covid will improve things after it all settles down. Good luck finding that elusive couple |
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over a year ago
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "
You do know there is a pandemic going on, don't you? |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated
You do know there is a pandemic going on, don't you?"
No.... when did that happen? |
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated
You do know there is a pandemic going on, don't you?"
Where have they said that they are looking to meet now ? |
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated
You do know there is a pandemic going on, don't you?
Where have they said that they are looking to meet now ? "
As above we have not asked to meet now but spoke about experiences we have encountered and hopefully link like minded people together to spark a conversation is that ok? |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
Ppl have already said it but 4 way attraction and “clicking” is hard. Threesomes are far easier.
Most of our MFMF fun has been at parties/clubs and the subsequent friendships and meet ups thereafter.
We have met cpls through sites but definitely harder. As we are Bi F and St8 M it means:
- Both girls must fancy & like both guys.
- Both girls must fancy & like other girl.
- Both guys must fancy & like both girls.
- Both guys must like the other guy.
- Nobody should be taking one for the team!
That’s a lot of combos. Just comes off easier and more relaxed in a party atmosphere. |
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"Ppl have already said it but 4 way attraction and “clicking” is hard. Threesomes are far easier.
Most of our MFMF fun has been at parties/clubs and the subsequent friendships and meet ups thereafter.
We have met cpls through sites but definitely harder. As we are Bi F and St8 M it means:
- Both girls must fancy & like both guys.
- Both girls must fancy & like other girl.
- Both guys must fancy & like both girls.
- Both guys must like the other guy.
- Nobody should be taking one for the team!
That’s a lot of combos. Just comes off easier and more relaxed in a party atmosphere."
Even harder when you are both straight |
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
portsmouth |
"Ppl have already said it but 4 way attraction and “clicking” is hard. Threesomes are far easier.
Most of our MFMF fun has been at parties/clubs and the subsequent friendships and meet ups thereafter.
We have met cpls through sites but definitely harder. As we are Bi F and St8 M it means:
- Both girls must fancy & like both guys.
- Both girls must fancy & like other girl.
- Both guys must fancy & like both girls.
- Both guys must like the other guy.
- Nobody should be taking one for the team!
That’s a lot of combos. Just comes off easier and more relaxed in a party atmosphere."
That about sums it up. |
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It's not easy to find a couple and the 4 way attraction, but when you do find the right people, it's absolutely fantastic.
It's harder than ever at the moment to even keep conversation and the anticipation going at the moment due to restrictions.
We just keep hoping that when this is all over some people would like to meet us. You have to have hope. |
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By *andJDubaiCouple
over a year ago
Dubai, with visits to Glasgow, Edinburgh and London |
"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples. "
We totally agree with this. Also single guys are able to play much more on the spur if the moment. Doesn’t stop us from looking for that ideal 4sum |
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.
We totally agree with this. Also single guys are able to play much more on the spur if the moment. Doesn’t stop us from looking for that ideal 4sum"
Absolutely, we have found it very hard to meet a couple where there is attraction for all. Single females... Well forget. Single guys are easier to organise.... Finding the right one though that is another story haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely, we have found it very hard to meet a couple where there is attraction for all. Single females... Well forget. Single guys are easier to organise.... Finding the right one though that is another story haha x"
I found this when I had a couples profile |
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We're late to this thread.. but we play to our strengths.
We've had many great chats with fellow nerds, met up with 2 nerdy couples etc.
Nerd stuff is great.. gaming, movies etc etc tons of topics! stops things getting stale as soon as they hit kik etc! |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
harwich |
we too had the romantic notion of finding a couple but getting a good connection 4 ways is very difficult
all changed when we became club goers on a regular basis .We then found a circle of friends with whom we would play in various combinations.
We found odd numbers to be easiest with just another couple its just swopping add an extra body and the dynamics change
so the conclusion is friends and party first and see where that leads |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
harwich |
"We now find age as a big factor, which we find a big shame, as when we started out in swinging, we found older couples much more genuine and fun. So meeting couples was not a problem for us, the fact is, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen, that's what horny sex is all about. Xx"
yes weve found exactly the same we never had an age criteria but now were at the senior stage we cant find people to play with |
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"We now find age as a big factor, which we find a big shame, as when we started out in swinging, we found older couples much more genuine and fun. So meeting couples was not a problem for us, the fact is, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen, that's what horny sex is all about. Xx
yes weve found exactly the same we never had an age criteria but now were at the senior stage we cant find people to play with"
To be fair, we've found even in the conversation stages it dries up fast with people under 30 :P |
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"We now find age as a big factor, which we find a big shame, as when we started out in swinging, we found older couples much more genuine and fun. So meeting couples was not a problem for us, the fact is, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen, that's what horny sex is all about. Xx
yes weve found exactly the same we never had an age criteria but now were at the senior stage we cant find people to play with"
We are not in the young category, but in normal times it’s quite easy to find playing couples , maybe it’s areas you live |
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We have been very lucky to find another couple where there’s 4 way attraction. It’s now got to the point where we are going to try separate dates with each other’s man.
I have really clicked with another couple recently but they are a good few miles away but I’m hoping to have a phone/webcam relationship first ‘swinger pen pals’ so to speak and see what develops from there |
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Clubs have been the answer for us. Clearly that is a no no for now, but when they re open arrange to meet at a Club and see if you click. We have met some people where we justvdidn’t click and others where it was easy. Of course, being in a Club you also get to look at other eye candy as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve been lucky enough to find two couples we really gel with. It’s quite tricky for us as we are a quirky couple and not everyone’s cup of tea.
Once you make that connection it’s easy to build on it. Even more so during Covid. The ones that have stayed in touch despite knowing we weren’t meeting are definitely “keepers” |
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We've only been on fab for a year or just over. Understand the couples dynamic can be tricky with 4 way attraction needed, but it's definitely doable with a bit of patience and perseverance. I (Mr E) do most of the Fabmin looking around, filtering out those not to either of our tastes and also fakes as best I can. Then I show the results to Mrs E and see who takes her fancy. If we left it to Mrs E she'd quickly lose patience and become disheartened with the whole thing. Then we ping a message or wink when we find someone we're both interested in (messages always a joint effort). Definitely move swiftly to trying to organise a social if we like each other's face pics. And the meet is where you really find out if the chemistry works or not. It just requires a bit of patience but they are out there. We've met some lovely couples on here.
Clubs are definitely great when they're open and we found ourselves playing with people we wouldn't necessarily have searched for on fab and loved it. Flip side is, there might not be anyone there you fancy if it's a smaller do.
Different strokes for different folks I guess but it seems to be working for us. X
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"It’s great to know some couples have found this gives us hope also x"
We find clubs or socials the best places, easier to mingle, but this whole world at the moment doesn't work like that any more... |
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By *ostosaCouple
over a year ago
North of England |
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "
Honestly, stick with it, there are some lovely genuine couples out there. We have been very lucky as the couples we have met have all been great company. We can relate to most of the comments on this thread but with some patience and perseverance, you will find what you are looking for. Xx |
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Just to add in
As well as matching the matrix of who wants what or whom -
when *real* couples chat (fakes yes all been there!), we are all cautious and really easy to trigger over sometimes random crud. Hardly surprising as there will be at least 2 people with their "partner protecting" hat on. We fill in the gaps about the other side - right or wrong - and go Nope!
We persevere |
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yes, we like the social side too, hard to find 4 way attraction though as seems to be the thoughts of many. We'd be quite happy to chat on kik at the moment but finding THAT other couple is tricky |
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over a year ago
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated
COVID is delaying our first bi foursome but I have to say we are having some lovely chats with some very sexy couples so hope it won’t be too difficult to organise to meet when the time comes
Same! Were just keeping each other entertained in the meantime "
And from the look of your photos you are having a wonderful time doing just that |
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over a year ago
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples. "
same as us . We find it easier less hassle
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For ourselves, developing a genuine friendship first pays dividends in the long run, but how many are prepared to work on that? Instant (or almost instant) sexual gratification seem to be the order of the day. For us going to a club appears to be 'hedging your bets', instead of taking time with one particular couple you may have chatted with for a while and felt a mutual attraction.
We have several long term swinging couple friends we've known and played with for years. |
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Oh what the post and what kindred spirits!
We’re finding it hard to find people who want people to chat to about the everyday, not just a pissing contest of who would do what to who’s whatever’s. We’re not big in to pic swaps and much prefer to chat over FaceTime.
To enjoy someone’s company, their wit, their smarts and as well as their fantasies.
You can forget all the single-bi-female’s, the 420 party people, and the in-out-shake-it-all-about’s. A couple of sexy friendships would be blissful . |
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There are lots of genuine couples out there, stick with it and hopefully you find what your looking for.
I agree its difficult to both find what your looking for.
We have had some amazing experiences on holiday in gran canaria or weekends away.
Always looking for other couples for a night out before onto a party when the virus is under control.
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It could be because many cpls don't believe in chatting and building up a connection . Most want instant results and some chats go dry after two days.
Club goers have a different mindset when looking for other cpls to play with .
People who meet privately have more patience I believe. |
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By *i de BiCouple
over a year ago
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"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.
Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men. "
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We love the excitement of meeting new couples aswell as how much we love meeting our regular couple friends. For us its the mental click more than the physical. You have to find someone attractive to sleep with them yes, but we love finding people on our wavelength too as its makes playtime more fun |
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Always tough. Lots of couples in the middle age range on here that are not quite balanced if that makes sense. In other words one is in better shape/better looking than their partner so you then have a taking one for the team situation.
We've found a few but mainly via clubs |
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"Ppl have already said it but 4 way attraction and “clicking” is hard. Threesomes are far easier.
Most of our MFMF fun has been at parties/clubs and the subsequent friendships and meet ups thereafter.
We have met cpls through sites but definitely harder. As we are Bi F and St8 M it means:
- Both girls must fancy & like both guys.
- Both girls must fancy & like other girl.
- Both guys must fancy & like both girls.
- Both guys must like the other guy.
- Nobody should be taking one for the team!
That’s a lot of combos. Just comes off easier and more relaxed in a party atmosphere.
Even harder when you are both straight "
Pretty spot on its equally hard when straight female bi guy most couples the female is bi, the whole 4 way attraction is a tough one |
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We found it an impossibility, we’re not a ‘couple’ couple and trying to organise 4 different diaries just doesn’t work. The only way we’ve managed a foursome of sorts is at a club |
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"Did any couples sign up thinking it would actually be easy to meet other couples via here?"
We did and we have met some really nice couples some straight some bi but usually at a club.
We have played with couples in clubs that to be honest we probably wouldn't have played with if we hadn't met them in a club |
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My fwb and I have a couples profile and yes we have found it hard meeting the right people. Pre Covid had a few social meets but did not click and discovered some time wasters.
Found clubs are much better for meeting people. |
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By *lay PairCouple
over a year ago
Warrington |
We recently went to Hedo and there was a take over group there from USA & Canada.
They have a couples for couples group and web site. FaceTime vetted to join the group and both parters must be available on the face time.
Talking to some of the couples who were members of the group it’s now much easier to find genuine couples and that hard to find 4 way attraction. |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
This is a scenario that we’d love to find. Did have it before until they moved halfway round the world!
4 way attraction is very important but unfortunately a bit tricky to find, hence we’re still looking... |
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We play with other couples when we can and when all 4 are attracted to each other.
Difficult to find but we’ve been lucky in that we have some very close friends now that we play with.
To give advice to the OP, all you can do is keep talking to couples and see what arises.
It can take time but it’s worth it in the end.
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"We've found it hard too. Made harder by both of us being straight - majority of couples seem to want the female half to be bi"
What baffles us is that , cpls playing with singles mostly ,prefer to bi fem play when it comes to other cpls.
We would love straight swap with cpls unless the male half is bi to make it juicy foursome fun but no exclusive bifem show. |
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By *tt1Couple
over a year ago
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"No advice as we find the same. I've given up for the time being as it is proving difficult to keep the messages going when we can't actually meet. We also often find a lot of couples either want an instant meet, which we don't do or are only here to get off on the chat and pics and have no intention of meeting.
We have been lucky enough to find a few great couples though so it is worth the effort x"
Couldn’t agree more, messages frequently get harder to keep going when you can’t discuss meets ... |
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"No advice as we find the same. I've given up for the time being as it is proving difficult to keep the messages going when we can't actually meet. We also often find a lot of couples either want an instant meet, which we don't do or are only here to get off on the chat and pics and have no intention of meeting.
We have been lucky enough to find a few great couples though so it is worth the effort x
Couldn’t agree more, messages frequently get harder to keep going when you can’t discuss meets ..."
Absolutely agree, we have gone quite, as we don’t want to meet at the moment with the Covid situation. Very hard keeping messages going. Haven found it too to meet great couples, however we like people with personalities and we’re not kids lol. |
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We are one of the couples who have chatted, swapped pics and gone quiet. With our personal life and priorities for others, the current climate has really put a cock block on us getting fully into the swing of things. We hope those we have spoken to and had a connection with understand and we can pop our cherries in a club or a safe meet when all calmed down R&K x |
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We've got a couple of lovely couples we've been chatting with and would love to meet but have had to say..
"Let's pick this up again once restrictions are loosened again. See you on the other side."
They're all very understanding. We're all in the same boat afterall. Keep your fingers crossed for a mega effort to roll these vaccines out. We'll be playing again before you know it x
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Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated
COVID is delaying our first bi foursome but I have to say we are having some lovely chats with some very sexy couples so hope it won’t be too difficult to organise to meet when the time comes "
Same here we have a few we have chatted to during covid we plan to meet once safe to do so. |
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Also looking for a couple that we get on with and can have social and fun times together. Everyone being bi would be ideal to.
Give us a shout if you like the sound of us. |
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It's really hard to find couple who want to play equally. Clubs were so much easier. It can be difficult to guage personality from an online chat or profile. The chemistry builds face to face, that's why we have a social first. But it's been so long now and covids making it worse. It's bringing out the worst in people. The messages are getting more crass and disrespectful. Ok it's a sec site but that doesn't mean I'm going to accept someone talking about my wife like a piece of meat. They definitely won't get any further with that attitude no matter how hot a couple they are. Respect speaks volumes and seems to be in short supply. Damn we miss clubs |
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"It's really hard to find couple who want to play equally. Clubs were so much easier. It can be difficult to guage personality from an online chat or profile. The chemistry builds face to face, that's why we have a social first. But it's been so long now and covids making it worse. It's bringing out the worst in people. The messages are getting more crass and disrespectful. Ok it's a sec site but that doesn't mean I'm going to accept someone talking about my wife like a piece of meat. They definitely won't get any further with that attitude no matter how hot a couple they are. Respect speaks volumes and seems to be in short supply. Damn we miss clubs "
Sex site , damn my thumbs |
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"It's really hard to find couple who want to play equally. Clubs were so much easier. It can be difficult to guage personality from an online chat or profile. The chemistry builds face to face, that's why we have a social first. But it's been so long now and covids making it worse. It's bringing out the worst in people. The messages are getting more crass and disrespectful. Ok it's a sec site but that doesn't mean I'm going to accept someone talking about my wife like a piece of meat. They definitely won't get any further with that attitude no matter how hot a couple they are. Respect speaks volumes and seems to be in short supply. Damn we miss clubs "
If they talk bad about your woman during messages id expect they will show little respect when having sex with her. Id give people like that a wide birth. |
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"Very hard and most of the times 98% u realise all the effort was wasted that's why we only done club fun for the last few years where u get everything u want hassle free and no waste of time ??"
Same for us, always have fun when we go to a club...really looking forward to being able to go again. |
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