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Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
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over a year ago
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The bi cpls I’ve spoken to over the years tend to be the guy whose up for a meet ,always an excuse why the wife can’t or not interested ,so it works both ways ..i had bi on my profile but I’m much more str8 then bi so went back to straight . |
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"The bi cpls I’ve spoken to over the years tend to be the guy whose up for a meet ,always an excuse why the wife can’t or not interested ,so it works both ways ..i had bi on my profile but I’m much more str8 then bi so went back to straight ."
Definatly not the case of us making an excuse for me not playing but if I don't think a guy is attractive I won't play with him, I have had s few mmf meets with bi men... |
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I think sadly there are many men who are not comfortable or confident about bisexuality. But there are also a load of desperados on here who will say anything to score. Either way you don't want to be messed around. So people who can't be upfront and honest with you in the first place are best to avoided. |
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Im orally bi and enjoy fucklicking and have changed my status on Fab from straight to reflect this.
A lot of profiles though are now off limits to me. It is surprising how many women will not entertain a bicurious male (funnily enough they usually enjoy anal, something which i would never give or recieve) and giving oral themselves.
So i have a lot of sympathy with the blokes who are 'Fab straight'... There are loads of 'Fab Straight' blokes too as my inbox could testify |
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over a year ago
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We tend to tell them to come round.. They'll have to play with hubby till I get turned on enough then I'll join in. We don't play with straight guys, a lot of the time we feel they are just saying what we want to hear to get at me.. |
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I like having my cock sucked by men when I'm in bi group meets with my bi gf,however on my profile I have put straight ,this is because I'm predominantly in to women,
Although recently I have felt the urge to suck a nice cock lol,.
If there was a bi oral box to tick I would have ticked it ,dont like to be pigeonholed, sometimes I'm bi ,sometimes I'm not ,most of the time I'm straight ,so that's the box I ticked ,just be honest and be yourself ,and dont mislead people, love and peace  |
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"We tend to tell them to come round.. They'll have to play with hubby till I get turned on enough then I'll join in. We don't play with straight guys, a lot of the time we feel they are just saying what we want to hear to get at me.. "
This is exactly what I mean, we don't play with straight men either and have noted this on our profile, we still obv get them, they start messaging without even suggesting they are bi, then when we ask if they are, they say well I haven't tried it but have thought about it, and they actually think we are daft enough to say yeah come on over....or ok fine come and play with hubby if your serious then they ask is your wife going to watch or be present lol...it just cracks me up |
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By *gcplMan
over a year ago
Dumfries |
Fab is a bit behind the times. We're familiar with the pigeon holes: straight bi/curious or gay but there's another category: men who have sex with men (m4m, msm). I first thought that would be inmates, soldiers, castaways or just plain desperate. There are men who have no emotional or physical attraction to other men but are willing to have some cock fun. It's about time Fab and Fab members updated their ideas. |
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over a year ago
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"Fab is a bit behind the times. We're familiar with the pigeon holes: straight bi/curious or gay but there's another category: men who have sex with men (m4m, msm). I first thought that would be inmates, soldiers, castaways or just plain desperate. There are men who have no emotional or physical attraction to other men but are willing to have some cock fun. It's about time Fab and Fab members updated their ideas. "
I just spat out my wine..... |
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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago
co durham |
We aren’t looking for straight men, we have a lot who message then when I ask they say they’ll let the Male half suck their cock or that they are bi but they don’t put it on as it puts straight couples off. It’s a shame as we’re looking for more than oral play obvs when it’s safer |
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As time goes on we are noticing more that some men have a lack of understanding to the words bi curious, their idea of that is that they will say stuff like I will let hubby suck me but not giving it back x |
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"Fab is a bit behind the times. We're familiar with the pigeon holes: straight bi/curious or gay but there's another category: men who have sex with men (m4m, msm). I first thought that would be inmates, soldiers, castaways or just plain desperate. There are men who have no emotional or physical attraction to other men but are willing to have some cock fun. It's about time Fab and Fab members updated their ideas. "
Situational homosexuality, is when there is no alternative, so guys shag each other (not heard of it in the army. But there is a comment about the navy "it's only queer, if you're tied to the pier")
I think that hetero-romantic men who enjoy Bisexual activity get confused.
There's sex and there's love.
Not helped by the assumption that Bisexual men must perform all possible acts. |
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"Fab is a bit behind the times. We're familiar with the pigeon holes: straight bi/curious or gay but there's another category: men who have sex with men (m4m, msm). I first thought that would be inmates, soldiers, castaways or just plain desperate. There are men who have no emotional or physical attraction to other men but are willing to have some cock fun. It's about time Fab and Fab members updated their ideas. "
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By *oe_prMan
over a year ago
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Labels are not great l wish most people wouldnt use them but rather just laid out what they were comfortable with playing and move on.
Am l the only one who thinks the amount of effort dedicated to discussing why some one chose to label themselves and straight instead of bi curious or bisexual could be better spent in persuit of actual fun and friendships
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My all time fantasy is to play with both at the same time but like I said fantasy because a lot of bi couples tend to be just a guy after a blowjob to "prove" you are really bi, again these are my personal experiences so I get how hard it is for genuine bi couples to find genuine bi men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get this a lot profile says straight but looking for tv ts mm male etc sometimes gives it away"
This always makes me laugh or when you get a message from a "straight" guy complementing your cock but then again I suppose that's called fabs straight lol |
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By *oe_prMan
over a year ago
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"My all time fantasy is to play with both at the same time but like I said fantasy because a lot of bi couples tend to be just a guy after a blowjob to "prove" you are really bi, again these are my personal experiences so I get how hard it is for genuine bi couples to find genuine bi men."
Your experience mirrors mine |
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By *rouble1998Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
I had this experience today actually! Got a message from a ‘straight’ man asking if I wanted to participate in a bi MMF, I was a bit confused as to who that would be with considering his profile said he was straight
Turns out he’s actually bi but won’t put this on his profile incase someone he knows sees him here? |
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over a year ago
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"My all time fantasy is to play with both at the same time but like I said fantasy because a lot of bi couples tend to be just a guy after a blowjob to "prove" you are really bi, again these are my personal experiences so I get how hard it is for genuine bi couples to find genuine bi men.
Your experience mirrors mine "
Gets old fast dosent it. |
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By *rith47Man
over a year ago
Erith |
All people, however they define themselves have the entitlement to experiment with changing their identity or bursting out the closet. That said, beyond that, self-acceptance is the first step. More support, less judgement. |
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over a year ago
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"I had this experience today actually! Got a message from a ‘straight’ man asking if I wanted to participate in a bi MMF, I was a bit confused as to who that would be with considering his profile said he was straight
Turns out he’s actually bi but won’t put this on his profile incase someone he knows sees him here? "
Ah that old chestnut.. Must be a goof four days since we heard that one. Or the classic "putting bi on puts the ladies off so I don't advertise it".. To thine own self be true |
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By *RayMan
over a year ago
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"I like having my cock sucked by men when I'm in bi group meets with my bi gf,however on my profile I have put straight ,this is because I'm predominantly in to women,
Although recently I have felt the urge to suck a nice cock lol,.
If there was a bi oral box to tick I would have ticked it ,dont like to be pigeonholed, sometimes I'm bi ,sometimes I'm not ,most of the time I'm straight ,so that's the box I ticked ,just be honest and be yourself ,and dont mislead people, love and peace "
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I have recently, well in the last 5 years lets say, became orally bi and enjoyed it. I changed my profile from str8 to bi-cur to reflect a more true image of the person I am. I know that may put some singles and couples off, but I feel if they think that I would not want to meet anyhow. So its a win win situation..
I am 100% into women, but I do enjoy dabbling orally. mmmmmm |
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I get it and I don't it.
I get it: saying you are 'bi' will put certain people off.
But I don't it: there's more than enough bi-comfortable people to message first.
If you can't say what you're after on a largely anonymous swingers site, then when can you say it! |
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I (cream) believe alot of bi guys put straight incase they get recognised by someone in there social circle work or friends and although we live in a more tolerant world it can still bring them some grief so to avoid being put on the spot decide its better jst to put straight. Ofcourse this wont be true for all the guysand it is jst a personal opinion. |
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over a year ago
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We reckon that the male in a couple write they are straight,(because they generally are) & think that it would put off other generally straight males..
-female of typing--however when we are actually playing it's a relief to be with guys not shy to at least wank and lick eachother while we're all together. Afterall females touch & lick eachother that aren't lesbians. It's just fun isn't. Doesn't mean anything |
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"We reckon that the male in a couple write they are straight,(because they generally are) & think that it would put off other generally straight males..
-female of typing--however when we are actually playing it's a relief to be with guys not shy to at least wank and lick eachother while we're all together. Afterall females touch & lick eachother that aren't lesbians. It's just fun isn't. Doesn't mean anything "
I think the same, if both guys want to dabble and are comfortable with it why not. Does mean a thing, just that you are openminded and wanting to enjoy something new.. Love to dabble orally.. |
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We are a fully Bi Couple who suffer this same torment and can be extremely frustrating sometimes.
We keep our filters open as the occasional " straight " guy may be of interest to us.
Otherwise just block them and a very good way of sorting out the sheep from the goats ....Ha ha xxxx
"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
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"I like having my cock sucked by men when I'm in bi group meets with my bi gf,however on my profile I have put straight ,this is because I'm predominantly in to women,
Totally agree with this Orally Bi would be a good tick box
Although recently I have felt the urge to suck a nice cock lol,.
If there was a bi oral box to tick I would have ticked it ,dont like to be pigeonholed, sometimes I'm bi ,sometimes I'm not ,most of the time I'm straight ,so that's the box I ticked ,just be honest and be yourself ,and dont mislead people, love and peace "
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"I like having my cock sucked by men when I'm in bi group meets with my bi gf,however on my profile I have put straight ,this is because I'm predominantly in to women,
Although recently I have felt the urge to suck a nice cock lol,.
If there was a bi oral box to tick I would have ticked it ,dont like to be pigeonholed, sometimes I'm bi ,sometimes I'm not ,most of the time I'm straight ,so that's the box I ticked ,just be honest and be yourself ,and dont mislead people, love and peace "
Totally agree with this Orally Bi would be a good tick box |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We just say just be honest...change it to bi and get back to us when you have thought this out better lol..all sorts of human emotions come back as replies..right across the spectrum..Human nature at its best and worst.. |
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over a year ago
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
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Had this problem, if profile says straight, we delete message. If someone can't be honest about their sexuality on here, then they are not for us. Also some profesing to be bi to get a shag, they exist too. |
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"I had this experience today actually! Got a message from a ‘straight’ man asking if I wanted to participate in a bi MMF, I was a bit confused as to who that would be with considering his profile said he was straight
Turns out he’s actually bi but won’t put this on his profile incase someone he knows sees him here?
Ah that old chestnut.. Must be a goof four days since we heard that one. Or the classic "putting bi on puts the ladies off so I don't advertise it".. To thine own self be true "
Oh yes that one too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Openly bi and don’t hide the fact, I often got messages from straight males and couples asking to meet but I’m afraid it’s a delete from me.
If you can’t be open about your sexuality or likes / dislikes on here, then what’s the point  |
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Simple, guys who claim to be straight and aren't are liars. A bad start to any relationship in our view.
Guys tend to think in their own minds that being bi puts women off. We've been swinging for 40+ years. |
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"Fab is a bit behind the times. We're familiar with the pigeon holes: straight bi/curious or gay but there's another category: men who have sex with men (m4m, msm). I first thought that would be inmates, soldiers, castaways or just plain desperate. There are men who have no emotional or physical attraction to other men but are willing to have some cock fun. It's about time Fab and Fab members updated their ideas. "
Lol, men who have no physical or emotional attraction to other men are not interested in having cock fun. We have discussed this before. |
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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago
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There is a huge phobia towards bi men on here
Some male halves of couples seem to think that a couple where the male is bi will want to play with them.
Some women on here although bi themselves won’t meet with bi men
The hypocrisy of it all
We won’t meet with people who tell us they’re bi but don’t have it listed on their profile, if you’re ashamed of what your sexuality is, you’re not for us
If you’re a straight male couple, no problem, we respect all boundaries |
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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago
20 miles south of Edinburgh |
Also you get the “orally” bi brigade
They say they’re bi and will allow the male to suck them off but only if they have access to your wife whilst you do it and they won’t reciprocate
It’s a small price to pay to get fired in to the Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol!! That made me chuckle!!
Personally, I love bi guys... but I'd say 80% of the "straight" guys who mail me are very bi curious, but don't quite have the confidence to take the 1st step... |
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"There is a huge phobia towards bi men on here
Some male halves of couples seem to think that a couple where the male is bi will want to play with them.
Some women on here although bi themselves won’t meet with bi men
The hypocrisy of it all
We won’t meet with people who tell us they’re bi but don’t have it listed on their profile, if you’re ashamed of what your sexuality is, you’re not for us
If you’re a straight male couple, no problem, we respect all boundaries "
This ^
Most women won't give you a look in if you say you're bi, easier to say you're straight and let the other person know you're bi if it comes up in conversation. |
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I actually have an increasing amount of sympathy for the "straight" guys. I think it's very common for people to run away from someone listed as bi, presuming there MUST be MM action etc. From there onwards, you can say why would you want to play with someone that is that stupid / narrow minded / bigoted. But when it comes to Fab, it's such a poorly written site, I think it's fair to game it to get to end results that everyone is happy with.
I said a cheeky hello to a nice looking straight couple.. just being friendly. And they were friendly back, but said they weren't after bi couples (which of course means bi men.. as she was bi...). If there's a beautiful woman and a guy naked in front of me, I sure as hell know where my interests lie... bi be damned! |
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over a year ago
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My profile switched between straight and bi curious depending on mood I’m in , I’m straight acting guy who looking to explore bi oral fun but l consider meeting guys too gay. For my liking so the Liklyhood of ever meeting a couple to explore bi oral fun msybe more isn’t probably going to happen , I keep day breaking about being invited by a couple to share his cock with heer but can’t see it ever happening for real oh well msybe it’s not to be |
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over a year ago
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
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Some guys will say or do anything to get some pussy. That includes sucking a cock or taking it up the arse. |
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By *lly2018Couple
over a year ago
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
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We get this all the time xx |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
North of Okehampton, South of Bideford |
Had a message last week from a Guy, paying compliments, telling us all about himself and how much he enjoyed the company of ladies. Said he was 100% genuine and totally straight and totally honest.
His profile said ‘STRAIGHT’ interest included Couples, MF MM and TV
He had been verified by a TV by meeting and was quite descriptive. When reading his profile, it mentioned he also had another profile on FABGUYS.
   Think he meant as ‘ Straight ‘ as a Slinky
Don’t forget he was 100% Honest.... |
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It reminds me of an article I once read about male adult performers. They do ‘gay for pay’ films, they’re in no way turned on or gay themselves but if it pays the bills, they’ll act in the films.
So not dissimilar to a guy, doing gay to play with a chance to play with the wife / partner. No real interest but willing to put up with having to do acts they’re not really into.  |
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We had a long discussion about what to put down on our profile. We are a soft swing( we don't have full sex with others but very happy with oral) who both identify as "straight". However, depending upon who we are meeting and their preferences both of us enjoy some sexual fun with members of the same sex. I wouldn't meet a man on my own just for sex and L wouldn't meet a woman on her own just for sex, it is always something we do together.
Bi-curious doesn't really cover it because it isn't something we are wondering about we know where we are on it and generally just like to go with the flow with the people we are with. I mention the soft swing jus too highlight the fact this isn't something we do just so I can have a shag with another woman, it is just how we do it.
The labels dont fit but we would be being more misleading if we said we were bi on our profile. We try to explain it in our profile, which we think is the way forward than just a blanket decision based on a label.
Thats our contribution to the debate anyway  |
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"We had a long discussion about what to put down on our profile. We are a soft swing( we don't have full sex with others but very happy with oral) who both identify as "straight". However, depending upon who we are meeting and their preferences both of us enjoy some sexual fun with members of the same sex. I wouldn't meet a man on my own just for sex and L wouldn't meet a woman on her own just for sex, it is always something we do together.
Bi-curious doesn't really cover it because it isn't something we are wondering about we know where we are on it and generally just like to go with the flow with the people we are with. I mention the soft swing jus too highlight the fact this isn't something we do just so I can have a shag with another woman, it is just how we do it.
The labels dont fit but we would be being more misleading if we said we were bi on our profile. We try to explain it in our profile, which we think is the way forward than just a blanket decision based on a label.
Thats our contribution to the debate anyway "
But... that’s really not straight. It just isn’t.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they are serious about being bi or curious. Then theyll agree to a separate first meet with me. Where I will ruin him. Before we ever even consider letting him anywhere near Lu. So many men try it to get to the female side of a couple it's just not funny. They're not exactly hard to spot.
But same as with all meets anyway. Unless both of us have a connection with them/attracted to them. They're never even gonna get past the message stage and a social.
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"We had a long discussion about what to put down on our profile. We are a soft swing( we don't have full sex with others but very happy with oral) who both identify as "straight". However, depending upon who we are meeting and their preferences both of us enjoy some sexual fun with members of the same sex. I wouldn't meet a man on my own just for sex and L wouldn't meet a woman on her own just for sex, it is always something we do together.
Bi-curious doesn't really cover it because it isn't something we are wondering about we know where we are on it and generally just like to go with the flow with the people we are with. I mention the soft swing jus too highlight the fact this isn't something we do just so I can have a shag with another woman, it is just how we do it.
The labels dont fit but we would be being more misleading if we said we were bi on our profile. We try to explain it in our profile, which we think is the way forward than just a blanket decision based on a label.
Thats our contribution to the debate anyway
But... that’s really not straight. It just isn’t. "
No it’s not but straight is probably more accurate than bi, and we try to clarify it in the profile. It’s not like we are hiding our position on it. |
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"Lol!! That made me chuckle!!
Personally, I love bi guys... but I'd say 80% of the "straight" guys who mail me are very bi curious, but don't quite have the confidence to take the 1st step..."
I agree with statement. I get lots of "straight" guys watching me cam and sending messages. Its ok to dabble.. I love giving oral to both sexes btw.. |
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"We had a long discussion about what to put down on our profile. We are a soft swing( we don't have full sex with others but very happy with oral) who both identify as "straight". However, depending upon who we are meeting and their preferences both of us enjoy some sexual fun with members of the same sex. I wouldn't meet a man on my own just for sex and L wouldn't meet a woman on her own just for sex, it is always something we do together.
Bi-curious doesn't really cover it because it isn't something we are wondering about we know where we are on it and generally just like to go with the flow with the people we are with. I mention the soft swing jus too highlight the fact this isn't something we do just so I can have a shag with another woman, it is just how we do it.
The labels dont fit but we would be being more misleading if we said we were bi on our profile. We try to explain it in our profile, which we think is the way forward than just a blanket decision based on a label.
Thats our contribution to the debate anyway
But... that’s really not straight. It just isn’t.
No it’s not but straight is probably more accurate than bi, and we try to clarify it in the profile. It’s not like we are hiding our position on it. "
You are bi. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get at least one message a day from so called "straight men" claiming that theyre really bi. But dont put it on profile as it puts people off. They all get the same reply, we are put off by bullshit, they tend not to like that |
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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago
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I get straight men messaging me very often wanting me to give them a BJ.
I always point out that their profile says they are straight, and they all come back with the same reply haha. " its something Ive always wanted to try".
so i always reply." well when youve tried it then come back".
I ve had some great fun with couples where the male is Bi |
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"Get at least one message a day from so called "straight men" claiming that theyre really bi. But dont put it on profile as it puts people off. They all get the same reply, we are put off by bullshit, they tend not to like that "
I get that perspective, but do you not wonder if you're shooting yourself in the foot there at times? |
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"Get at least one message a day from so called "straight men" claiming that theyre really bi. But dont put it on profile as it puts people off. They all get the same reply, we are put off by bullshit, they tend not to like that
I get that perspective, but do you not wonder if you're shooting yourself in the foot there at times?"
Those sorts tend not to be worth meeting anyway, so not really! |
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If you are bi then put it on your profile,just be honest i get it all the time,straight guys who say someone knows me on here,ladies dont like so it limits my messages,my best mate and is wife are on here and dont know i am bi.
WELL IF YOU ARE BI THEN PUT IT ON PROFILE AND STOP LYING ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES.
SIMPLES REALLY.
PROUD TO BE HONEST. |
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"I like having my cock sucked by men when I'm in bi group meets with my bi gf,however on my profile I have put straight ,this is because I'm predominantly in to women,
Although recently I have felt the urge to suck a nice cock lol,.
If there was a bi oral box to tick I would have ticked it ,dont like to be pigeonholed, sometimes I'm bi ,sometimes I'm not ,most of the time I'm straight ,so that's the box I ticked ,just be honest and be yourself ,and dont mislead people, love and peace "
iam the same as this guy abit bi but not fully and swing more towards women but I do enjoy bi mmf play if both present and playing the amount of couples that say bi and its just the hubby wanting cock eg gay in hiding its hard for single guys here x |
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First thing we look at - if profile says straight we just delete/block -same for any wink/friend request.
Brutal, maybe.
But there is a *huge* difference between a confident bi guy (who could be a lot of fun) vs one who isn't. the sort who think about it only, or only when a woman isn't around, or "will let you suck my cock" etc.
Its not that we are overly bi, but relaxed bi guys are much more fun than ones who just think they are.
Its not worth getting into their reasons for saying straight, it does not matter if they are a liar, or their mate is on here, or they don't want to discount people who don't play with bi guys, or their ex is on here, or they are considering it but aren't sure.
Not worth our time meeting someone who only says what you want to hear, or someone who may change their mind mid session.
Relaxed, confident and open all the way!
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"Get at least one message a day from so called "straight men" claiming that theyre really bi. But dont put it on profile as it puts people off. They all get the same reply, we are put off by bullshit, they tend not to like that
I get that perspective, but do you not wonder if you're shooting yourself in the foot there at times?
Those sorts tend not to be worth meeting anyway, so not really! "
Exactly! More dodging the bullet rather than shooting in foot. |
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"Get at least one message a day from so called "straight men" claiming that theyre really bi. But dont put it on profile as it puts people off. They all get the same reply, we are put off by bullshit, they tend not to like that
I get that perspective, but do you not wonder if you're shooting yourself in the foot there at times?
Those sorts tend not to be worth meeting anyway, so not really!
Exactly! More dodging the bullet rather than shooting in foot. "
That's quite probably true. But when it's as hard as it is to find decent people, I think it's important to often recheck your strategy. Just lots of received wisdom around here that we soon felt was nonsense. |
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"I like having my cock sucked by men when I'm in bi group meets with my bi gf,however on my profile I have put straight ,this is because I'm predominantly in to women,
Although recently I have felt the urge to suck a nice cock lol,.
If there was a bi oral box to tick I would have ticked it ,dont like to be pigeonholed, sometimes I'm bi ,sometimes I'm not ,most of the time I'm straight ,so that's the box I ticked ,just be honest and be yourself ,and dont mislead people, love and peace iam the same as this guy abit bi but not fully and swing more towards women but I do enjoy bi mmf play if both present and playing the amount of couples that say bi and its just the hubby wanting cock eg gay in hiding its hard for single guys here x"
Again, your profile says straight |
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"I like having my cock sucked by men when I'm in bi group meets with my bi gf,however on my profile I have put straight ,this is because I'm predominantly in to women,
Although recently I have felt the urge to suck a nice cock lol,.
If there was a bi oral box to tick I would have ticked it ,dont like to be pigeonholed, sometimes I'm bi ,sometimes I'm not ,most of the time I'm straight ,so that's the box I ticked ,just be honest and be yourself ,and dont mislead people, love and peace iam the same as this guy abit bi but not fully and swing more towards women but I do enjoy bi mmf play if both present and playing the amount of couples that say bi and its just the hubby wanting cock eg gay in hiding its hard for single guys here x"
What’s the definition of a bit bi though? Sounds like you’re both bi with some limits I.e. enjoy being sucked etc.. but don’t want to be fucked
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"We had a long discussion about what to put down on our profile. We are a soft swing( we don't have full sex with others but very happy with oral) who both identify as "straight". However, depending upon who we are meeting and their preferences both of us enjoy some sexual fun with members of the same sex. I wouldn't meet a man on my own just for sex and L wouldn't meet a woman on her own just for sex, it is always something we do together.
Bi-curious doesn't really cover it because it isn't something we are wondering about we know where we are on it and generally just like to go with the flow with the people we are with. I mention the soft swing jus too highlight the fact this isn't something we do just so I can have a shag with another woman, it is just how we do it.
The labels dont fit but we would be being more misleading if we said we were bi on our profile. We try to explain it in our profile, which we think is the way forward than just a blanket decision based on a label.
Thats our contribution to the debate anyway
But... that’s really not straight. It just isn’t.
No it’s not but straight is probably more accurate than bi, and we try to clarify it in the profile. It’s not like we are hiding our position on it.
You are bi."
Maybe it’s easy for me (Chris, straight] to say but for those who title themselves straight on fab, and then explain they’re curious in their description (there’s a few examples ITT) -
Why not just use the bi curious label on your profile? Best of both worlds?
Whatever their sex and orientation, everyone with a bit of experience on fab knows that being upfront about their sexuality will allow you to get ten times more out of the lifestyle. |
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I’m bisexual but in the 6 years since I admitted it to myself and put it on my profile I’ve had sex with a man once. I’m considering handing back my bi-card |
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I've met 6 couples of the last few years and 5 out of those the guy has turned out to be bi 'but don't tell the missus!' it usually explains to fondness to attempt DVP |
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By *ohn1953Man
over a year ago
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A lot of men on here say they are st8, It use to say St8 on my profile too until I met a few couples that was bi or bi curious unknowing to me at clubs and in the sex cinema, then suddenly they are both sharing and sucking your cock together and I was asked my one lady to suck her hubbys cock which I did because I was turned on having fun with that couple, so I don’t mind meeting bi or bi curious couples as well at st8 couples. So I say I am bi curious because I had loads of offers from bi guys for them to suck my cock and I always told them no unless are a male - female couple |
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There are men who have commented on threads just like this professing that they are straight who have contacted us looking for bi fun.
Any women or couples who specify they only want straight men I’d say there’s about a 50/50 chance you are getting what you asked for, regardless of what it says on the profile. |
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
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It's very easy to deal with. Tell the fake bi giys the first meet will be man on man with the female not there.
The fake bi guys wil soon run a mile.
I know a fake bi guy. He will happily suck a cock if means he also gets the females pussy. |
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"We tend to tell them to come round.. They'll have to play with hubby till I get turned on enough then I'll join in. We don't play with straight guys, a lot of the time we feel they are just saying what we want to hear to get at me.. "
so do you find that when playing with the mr they not 100 per cent bi just oral or wank to try to get to you, tbh we used to get that the other way round play with her to get to me.
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
It's very easy to deal with. Tell the fake bi giys the first meet will be man on man with the female not there.
The fake bi guys wil soon run a mile.
I know a fake bi guy. He will happily suck a cock if means he also gets the females pussy. "
I get quite a few couples contacting me, then later I find out it’s just the guy wanting to meet. If you have a couples profile I’m aiming to meet the couple involved as that’s the intention, to meet two people.
I actually don’t have a problem playing with the guy as the partner watches or plays later. But genuine bi couples will find that genuine bi people won’t be up for that scenario. |
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
It's very easy to deal with. Tell the fake bi giys the first meet will be man on man with the female not there.
The fake bi guys wil soon run a mile.
I know a fake bi guy. He will happily suck a cock if means he also gets the females pussy. "
But that just sounds like a trap in itself anyway. Far shittier. Even if it's just words, anyone should run a mile from a ploy like that. |
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"We tend to tell them to come round.. They'll have to play with hubby till I get turned on enough then I'll join in. We don't play with straight guys, a lot of the time we feel they are just saying what we want to hear to get at me.. so do you find that when playing with the mr they not 100 per cent bi just oral or wank to try to get to you, tbh we used to get that the other way round play with her to get to me."
If you suck cock or like to get sucked by a guy or fuck or be fucked you are bi.
Bi curious is you want to but haven’t yet.
As far as I’m concerned anyway |
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"We had a long discussion about what to put down on our profile. We are a soft swing( we don't have full sex with others but very happy with oral) who both identify as "straight". However, depending upon who we are meeting and their preferences both of us enjoy some sexual fun with members of the same sex. I wouldn't meet a man on my own just for sex and L wouldn't meet a woman on her own just for sex, it is always something we do together.
Bi-curious doesn't really cover it because it isn't something we are wondering about we know where we are on it and generally just like to go with the flow with the people we are with. I mention the soft swing jus too highlight the fact this isn't something we do just so I can have a shag with another woman, it is just how we do it.
The labels dont fit but we would be being more misleading if we said we were bi on our profile. We try to explain it in our profile, which we think is the way forward than just a blanket decision based on a label.
Thats our contribution to the debate anyway
But... that’s really not straight. It just isn’t.
No it’s not but straight is probably more accurate than bi, and we try to clarify it in the profile. It’s not like we are hiding our position on it.
You are bi."
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"We tend to tell them to come round.. They'll have to play with hubby till I get turned on enough then I'll join in. We don't play with straight guys, a lot of the time we feel they are just saying what we want to hear to get at me.. so do you find that when playing with the mr they not 100 per cent bi just oral or wank to try to get to you, tbh we used to get that the other way round play with her to get to me.
If you suck cock or like to get sucked by a guy or fuck or be fucked you are bi.
Bi curious is you want to but haven’t yet.
As far as I’m concerned anyway"
Can't agree there at all. Whatever the wording bi-curious is the closest thing to "a bit bi", "orally bi" or whatever. a lower level of commitment in some form or other. |
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
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I have the opporsite problem I get messages winks from bi or bi curious guys who refuse to believe what it says on my profile. I'm straight and happy thanks. |
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
I have the opporsite problem I get messages winks from bi or bi curious guys who refuse to believe what it says on my profile. I'm straight and happy thanks."
So use the site properly and stop them messaging you. |
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
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Not a bi couple but just wanted to say this constitutes 90% of the messages I get. Really gets my back up xx |
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By *iseekingbiCouple
over a year ago
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We get so many messages from men whose profile says they are straight but, in the message, they claim to be bi.
We dont care what your excuse is. If you aren't even honest on your profile, you aren't for us
It's a delete and block every time |
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"I like having my cock sucked by men when I'm in bi group meets with my bi gf,however on my profile I have put straight ,this is because I'm predominantly in to women,
Although recently I have felt the urge to suck a nice cock lol,.
If there was a bi oral box to tick I would have ticked it ,dont like to be pigeonholed, sometimes I'm bi ,sometimes I'm not ,most of the time I'm straight ,so that's the box I ticked ,just be honest and be yourself ,and dont mislead people, love and peace "
Very much the same.. Wish I started earlier tbh.. |
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"We tend to tell them to come round.. They'll have to play with hubby till I get turned on enough then I'll join in. We don't play with straight guys, a lot of the time we feel they are just saying what we want to hear to get at me.. so do you find that when playing with the mr they not 100 per cent bi just oral or wank to try to get to you, tbh we used to get that the other way round play with her to get to me.
If you suck cock or like to get sucked by a guy or fuck or be fucked you are bi.
Bi curious is you want to but haven’t yet.
As far as I’m concerned anyway"
yup agree with you on that one |
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There seem to be two categories of guys who put straight on their profile but then claim to be at least bicurious. Some put straight on their profile so as not to alienate women who might be in touch. I can understand this, as a significant (and rather surprising) proportion of the women on here seem to be biphobic. I get messages from such guys myself. At the same time there's a lot of straight guys who will try to make out they're bicurious to get in with women in couples. I think we should respect what they've put on their profile rather than their messaging. |
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"We had this. People say it’s because straight women don’t want cock that’s being in a man :-/
And straight men don’t want a guy round who they think mite dive on the mans cock! "
We had this too, what is that all about? Lol |
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We delete any messages from profiles who lie about their sexuality. Heard every excuse under the sun as to why they can’t be honest about being Bi.
There’s only one reason. It might stop them from getting a meet. |
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"I like having my cock sucked by men when I'm in bi group meets with my bi gf,however on my profile I have put straight ,this is because I'm predominantly in to women,
Although recently I have felt the urge to suck a nice cock lol,.
If there was a bi oral box to tick I would have ticked it ,dont like to be pigeonholed, sometimes I'm bi ,sometimes I'm not ,most of the time I'm straight ,so that's the box I ticked ,just be honest and be yourself ,and dont mislead people, love and peace iam the same as this guy abit bi but not fully and swing more towards women but I do enjoy bi mmf play if both present and playing the amount of couples that say bi and its just the hubby wanting cock eg gay in hiding its hard for single guys here x
Again, your profile says straight "
I know, that's because my rusty bullet hole is a bit sore at the mo and dont want anymore cock in there at the mo ,and hate having to turn couples and guys down about doing anal, I'm looking for nice female now, when my bumhole is ready for more ,I'll change back to bi , |
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"Ok so we get flooded with straight men who then msg saying they are bi or bi curios and say they have often thought of sucking a cock.
So question to the bi couples out there, how do you deal with this?
The men who say they have always thought about sucking cock, we tell them to go and do it and if it's something they like then come back to us, or the hubby will say ok...wife isn't keen but you can come and play with me, usually after that you don't hear back lol.
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Does it matter how people choose to define themselves if they have/are what you're looking for? |
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