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By *ase OP Man over a year ago

Gourock

I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

they get abuse sometimes if they do.. same with couples.. my top tip is to write to people actively looking saying so on status, esp these days. Many ladies and couples are not actively looking, esp right now so chatting is not a big thing, unless with old friends etc

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By *lan157Man over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Maybe it would if you could resist the temptation to reply with another unwanted message "thanks for replying " etc .

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

Send 10 messages a day, get 10 rejection emails a day with various reasons why they don’t find you attractive enough to meet ...or just no answer.

Which would you really prefer ?

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

I used but then just get insulted by some and i can do without that.

Its sometimes obvious from that first line someone hadn't read your profile so I just delet without reading. Its also too time consuming to reply

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By *hocksandmissusCouple over a year ago

Chester-ish

The very first line of our profile text says we are not looking for single guys yet we still get around 20 messages a day from them with there various wanna fuck now's. fancy a shag, can i cum on your face and so on. So if they can't be botherd to read the first line of a profile why should we reply xxx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The very first line of our profile text says we are not looking for single guys yet we still get around 20 messages a day from them with there various wanna fuck now's. fancy a shag, can i cum on your face and so on. So if they can't be botherd to read the first line of a profile why should we reply xxx"

Block them from messaging with you message filters then. Problem solved!

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By *ase OP Man over a year ago

Gourock

Thanks for the feedback xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for the feedback xx"

A polite no thanks when we receive a polite message. Not one of the “Can I fuck your wife tonight” type messages or the other ones with no pics on their profile asking if we have more pics to show them.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Here what you're saying but we would take one look at your profile and think can not be both putting a paragraph of likes and dislikes verification but fails to display Red flags properly block you this is not a personal attack but there's no way we would ever respond to your profile even the best message in the world.

Sorry

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By *uriousk22Couple over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

My profile does state if i don’t reply then it’s a no thank-you. I’ve found when i do reply saying no, i get an inbox full of abuse. Just can’t win can we?!

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By *orbidden eastMan over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Unfortunately it happens all the time OP. You just need to get used to it. It’s really harsh but that’s how it is.

You cannot suit everybody’s preference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if a message i send just gets deleted and no reply then it means i am not for them, no words needed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks"

Not sure if I’d agree with the policy tbh Anyhow now that we’re not meeting surely you lovely ladies can concentrate on actually reading messages instead of fly tipping them ( not a rant by any means)

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By *uriousk22Couple over a year ago

newcastle under lyme

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks

Even tho there is no meeting atm, it doesn’t stop the messages. I can average 30-50 messages a day and if i’m online i will get more so as i’m replying or deleting, i am getting more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks

Even tho there is no meeting atm, it doesn’t stop the messages. I can average 30-50 messages a day and if i’m online i will get more so as i’m replying or deleting, i am getting more "

I didn’t think about that angle

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By *ase OP Man over a year ago

Gourock

I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Sorry"

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By *ase OP Man over a year ago

Gourock

Feelings mutual wouldn't be interested in you 2

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks

It's not my policy, whether we agree or not that's what fab says.

Why should women read mail? A huge majority that message are just chancers that are only looking to get their dicks wet even tho we aren't meant to be meeting. Also not a rant

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By *orth_hantscplCouple over a year ago

camberley

These are a few of our most recent messages.

I like wot I see, hope u do 2

Oi Oi

You wanna meet for BJ

Mmmm....

We’re a couple so don’t get anywhere near as many messages as single women, are we supposed to spend time replying to messages like that? It seriously sucks the fun out of being on here.

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By *ootprints1629Couple over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks"

Where about can we find the fab rules?

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

It's like ground hog day with this particular forum post

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks

Where about can we find the fab rules? "

https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks

Where about can we find the fab rules? "

Home page at the very bottom I think, that's where the q & a section is

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"It's like ground hog day with this particular forum post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As per our crap boring profile I answer all messages therefore freeing up my wife to reply to just the ones she want to which works well for us as this our third attempt at fab.

But to be fair I wish I could just not reply or just be blunt with all men that go tit blind when they see tits and forget all respect or reason when sending a crap wasted message.

Op just try and enjoy your adventure on here and good luck.

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By *harAndBryCouple over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Do you send a polite "not interested" to every email you get? Every piece of paper mail you get through your door?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Saying no. Means that. It's true the abuse.. Or why? Question.

Its in fab rules. If we don't chat we not interested I send messages to males who don't respond works both ways OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Why?

What do they owe you, out of the hundreds of messages that are received? And what do you get from the 'no', other than wasted time reading it.

This place is like a sweetshop for women ..they pick and chose. It's humbling at first, but its important to get over yourself ...those that don't answer obviously have.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Do you send a polite "not interested" to every email you get? Every piece of paper mail you get through your door?"

Exactly ..imagine if we sent a polite 'not interested' to every pizza delivery company or kebab shop that sent crap through the letter box... christ I'd be writing for days.

Most ladies say something like ..if I don't reply it means I'm not interested. Believe them the first time.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"Feelings mutual wouldn't be interested in you 2 "

Just so you know (if you didn't already), the little green arrow by your name when pressed, shows all the threads you've posted on.

You may want to consider a less rude approach, it might just work.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Women don't have the time to write a polite no thank you, they're to busy with other stuff to respond to your interest. You just have to deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My approach is that if someone has obviously read my profile (it's specific about what I am looking for) and has taken the time to write a short, individual message - then I will respond. Even if it's a polite 'No thanks'.

But the majority of messages I receive are clearly either from men who haven't read my profile, copy and paste messages, or just 'hi' or 'meet now'. They all get deleted.

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By *ase OP Man over a year ago

Gourock

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Do you send a polite "not interested" to every email you get? Every piece of paper mail you get through your door?"

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By *ase OP Man over a year ago

Gourock

No their not wanting fucked...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No their not wanting fucked..."

using language like this and replying.. wouldn't be interested in you either..

might be part of your problem... ladies and couples are just getting on with life and not looking all the time

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By *ountry Boy FreshMan over a year ago

Huddersfield

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

So you get depressed from 50 no thanks to the 50 messages you sent out and you don't pester any one of them with a why not?

The reality is if a woman replies it sits in a guys in box and as its the only reply he pesters you only have to talk to women on here to realise this is true. A no reply is a no thanks on here.

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By *essiejamesABCCouple over a year ago

Salisbury

"Feelings mutual wouldn't be interested in you 2

Just so you know (if you didn't already), the little green arrow by your name when pressed, shows all the threads you've posted on.

You may want to consider a less rude approach, it might just work."

Well said, having just scanned all forums the op has posted in it's very apparent that he would not interest us at all. Also viewed the ops profile and it seems very lazy to us. We state in our profile about our philosophy on mail contact on this site. Most ignore it so get deleted without reply, those that don't ignore it get to chat or a polite no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Feelings mutual wouldn't be interested in you 2 "

And with that response alone you have just evidenced what many are saying about why they don’t even bother with a polite “no thanks”.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On the occasions when we lift the filters preventing contact from single guys we get inundated with messages which would make the average cro-magnon man look like Einstein.

Fire has experience as a single guy before we met, and knows from his own experience how difficult it can be for single guys to get meets. But, should he tolerate somebody not showing respect to his partner because of that ? The answer there is a firm “no” because the person he respects the most is Smoke - not some random bloke who lives 200 miles away and who will either be abusive, a pest, or a “keyboard hard man” in response to being turned down.

We make it clear that we’re a couple and politely ask that any messages be addressed to us both (and when they aren’t it’s actually Smoke who gets annoyed). But 99.9 % of the time that’s ignored, or there is a cursory attempt at acknowledging the existence of Fire ( and that is also from “cpls” ).

If people are going to ignore what we’ve written why should we feel even remotely obliged to respond to them.?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

Op, if you check my comment I asked a question. You failed to answer it, so even you decide what you’ll reply to and what you’ll ignore.

So it’s easily done, this ignoring comments or messages, so you no longer can complain, why you or other guys get ignored as well. As we all do it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sure it would be nice to get a reply either way. Especially if you've taken the time to write a sensible message of a few paragraphs as I usually do. I never send 1 line messages, check for typos etc. And I would never send an abusive message to anyone on here.

But I also accept that people get loads of messages a day so simply don't have the time to reply to everyone. When I first joined the site it was kind of disappointing not to get any reply at all. But it didn't take very long just to accept it for what it is.

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By *irty PrettyWoman over a year ago

Cardiff

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks

I read all mine. Then I delete them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I normally reply saying thank you but no thanks and I hope they find someone. Usually get a reply saying thanks for replying to said man but if several weeks later he messages me again and it's always the same message, then I will block him because it's just going round in circles because he can't take no for an answer. Rudeness and being abusive is a big turn off so we as women have a right to block. I've had to put up with this for years on here and I'm sure other women have too

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By *irty PrettyWoman over a year ago

Cardiff

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks

Oh, and it doesn’t matter if you don’t agree with the FAQs. No reply means no thanks according to site admin. If one doesn’t agree with a site’s policies, one doesn’t have to use the site in question.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have over 400 unread messages... no way could I reply back to them all!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What would a polite “no” achieve?

Just delete your sent messages and you won’t ever know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure what you mean as I don't get messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's like ground hog day with this particular forum post

Sure is a regular post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me I always use a standard greeting with a face pic when messaging me anyone. If I see the msg is deleted (I wouldn't know if they mass deleted or not) I don't contact them again. Most of the times (if not all) I don't msg the person until I get a reply (even if I see they've read it)

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple over a year ago

midlands

I've deleted posts.

If you quote posts that are against the rules, they will also be deleted.

Site rules are that no response is a no thank you.

Critique posts, not the posters.

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

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By *evil with the haloWoman over a year ago

Crystal Peaks

In all honesty guys a no thanks more often will get a "but why not" back and so on and so on.

Would it be better for women just to block and no matter how you improve your profile to make it interesting for you to never be able to contact again?

Just think on that one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks"

This.

OP just accept there's no interest. Just block those who show no interest so you can then be focussing solely on those who might.

Simply use it as a filter like the others fab offers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks"

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By *orthern PowerhouseMan over a year ago

Chesterfield

A deleted message is a clear no thanks it really is come on guys we all know that.

A no thanks reply is only wanted by people who aim to open a conversation and try and persuade people to change their mind and grind them down.

We really don't need a no thanks when not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That used to annoy me but some literally do get 100s a day and alot are dick pics or just plain nasty so I can't blame them. They dont have time to reply to all

I'm sure if they are a nice, original message or a face pic they like they will reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know many women used to reply with polite no thank yous and just get abuse back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve updated my profile to include a header and also a note advising if I don’t reply it is as they are not for me. I’ve raised with admin to see if we could get a link or template that can be used. Certainly would help.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks"
that answers it in one easy message

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Ojh I love this question...

It appears at least once a week with all the same answers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I deleted those who can’t accommodate or haven’t read my profile straight away and I get abuse x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A deleted message is a clear no thanks it really is come on guys we all know that.

A no thanks reply is only wanted by people who aim to open a conversation and try and persuade people to change their mind and grind them down.

We really don't need a no thanks when not interested. "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

The site is very clear that no reply = no thanks. Keep things simple, where in Rome, and all that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rarely reply with a no thanks..

Otherwise the tennis match of abusive messages come thru..

My block list is over 450 now!

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Ojh I love this question...

It appears at least once a week with all the same answers

You know those signs at factories; x number of days since an accident. We should get one that reads: “0 days since someone moaned about not getting a reply” we wouldn’t need any numbers though!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple over a year ago

Coventry

To be fair we are terrible at replying to messages (new or ongoing conversations). Mainly because generally we like to get together an answer them together. Due to our circumstances this can often mean a week or more to get back to people.

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By *irty desireWoman over a year ago

newcatle

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

No worth the abuse.. like already mentioned no reply = not interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Feelings mutual wouldn't be interested in you 2

Just so you know (if you didn't already), the little green arrow by your name when pressed, shows all the threads you've posted on.

You may want to consider a less rude approach, it might just work.

We both find the most frustrating thing is when your messaged and it’s completely clear that they haven’t even read our profile and nine out of ten times it’s the males posing as couples only to respond that Oh she’s just fallen asleep but completely fine with me being online without her. Delete Delete Delete

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By *not123Couple over a year ago

sp1

Me and p have it sorted I answer single men as easy for me to flirt p Answers couples then between us as a couple decide about meets. I do get cross and ignore when they are insulting then block or then get nasty when they ask to meet me on my own when it states I dont I joined fab with p to experiment and fulfil fantasies together. But I do try to reply even if not at the moment Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Me and p have it sorted I answer single men as easy for me to flirt p Answers couples then between us as a couple decide about meets. I do get cross and ignore when they are insulting then block or then get nasty when they ask to meet me on my own when it states I dont I joined fab with p to experiment and fulfil fantasies together. But I do try to reply even if not at the moment Thank you "

Exactly how we feel. It’s nice that you guys obviously come on here together as we do. We thought we were the only couple that enjoys this together!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But why do you feel the need for that “no, thank you!”?

I mean why is an active rejection better than a discrete delete, unspokenly agreed that it is not a match?

I reply to well written and lengthy messages even if they are not my cup of tea, but if I had to have a back and forth after each “hey, how’s fab treating you?” kinda one liner, I’d never have time for anything else.

Just accept that you weren’t for them (:

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By *iss LovelyWoman over a year ago

Here and There

I always explain in my profile what I’m looking for. It’s always very clear. If I get messages from people who are outside of what I’m looking for, I don’t reply and just delete because it’s obvious they either haven’t read my profile or have ignored it.

At the moment my profile says that I don’t want to chat to strangers, if you message me I won’t respond and if you send me a dick pic, have a dick pic as an avatar or repeat message me when I don’t reply the first time I’ll block you.

Despite all that my inbox is full everyday with messages from strangers who often include a picture of their unattractive penis and/or message again when previously ignored. It’s infuriating. So i follow my rules, I’ve blocked over 50 people in the past week.

To me, reading a profile is a basic manners. If I saw a guy I quite fancied but his profile said he was into petite blonde girls in their 20’s then I wouldn’t message him. If I did, I’d 100% expect to be ignored because I’ve shown him no respect by contacting him in the first place. That’s what happens on here all the time.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I always reply to a well written profile or message, as they are so rare.

If someone ignored what I've written, then I don't feel bad deleting their message, it works both ways.

Plus as already said, if you reply with a no thanks it creates why not or abuse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Maybe they just aren't interested in pandering to your needs for a reply.

Site rules ,no reply equates to not interested

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By *urfs Up JesusMan over a year ago

Boston

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Maybe they just aren't interested in pandering to your needs for a reply.

Site rules ,no reply equates to not interested"

Its not site rules its what they point out and an opinion and that is just one its still ignorant.

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Ojh I love this question...

It appears at least once a week with all the same answers

You know those signs at factories; x number of days since an accident. We should get one that reads: “0 days since someone moaned about not getting a reply” we wouldn’t need any numbers though! "

I know!

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

This thread will DEFINITELY have a significant impact.

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"This thread will DEFINITELY have a significant impact."

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Had it today, guy shows us a face pic, Kitty says no.

But why

Because you’re not attractive to her

But I’m nice

But you’re not attractive to her

But I like bi play

But you’re not attractive to her *block*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Maybe they just aren't interested in pandering to your needs for a reply.

Site rules ,no reply equates to not interested

Its not site rules its what they point out and an opinion and that is just one its still ignorant. "

Why do you feel its still ignorant?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Have you replied to every post on your thread OP? Didn't think so.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"Had it today, guy shows us a face pic, Kitty says no.

But why

Because you’re not attractive to her

But I’m nice

But you’re not attractive to her

But I like bi play

But you’re not attractive to her *block*"

Bloody annoying, but I'd recommend keeping it as a joint response. Everything should be stated as what you *both* think. Don't... Blame

her, you're in this together, right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any type of reply would be nice sometimes. I know women get a lot of messages and it isn't possible for them to reply to everyone, but there are only so many well written and thought out messages that I can send before it gets to me.

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Easier to not reply for us I'm afraid when we do reply we either get abuse or 100 questions why or they try and change our minds

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Maybe they just aren't interested in pandering to your needs for a reply.

Site rules ,no reply equates to not interested

Its not site rules its what they point out and an opinion and that is just one its still ignorant. "

Correction,I worded that wrong

*Site facts,not site rules*

And no,it's not ignorant

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's been suggested many times over the years that fab could introduce a tab option much like reply but a 'No thanks'. A one directional message that dents a polite no thank you but also prevents the receiver from messaging back again.

However there are those who don't think it's rude, there are those who do.

I've found the simple solution is to follow Fabs guidelines as no reply mean no interest and then block those who don't reply as there is no point wasting your time or theirs.

Spend your time then searching those who might be interested.

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By *heEvilWithinWoman over a year ago

Barnsley

I have received 300 messages today and it's 3:15pm. So could you imagine how long it would take me to reply no thanks to 300 people? And that's a slow day!

Men often complain of no reply but then send shitty messages. Like these are some examples of messages I have received today:

Hey xx

How r u?

Fancy a meet?

Blow me

Wanna chat?

I mean if its taken someone less than 30 seconds to write a message to me then why should I reply? Also how do you even respond to those messages? When you get asked 500x a day hi how are you? It gets a bit tedious to reply. Also if you can't be bothered to write more than 1 line on your profile why should anyone meet you?

Sorry that may seem blunt and harsh but at the end of the day with the amount of time wasters and fantasists and dicks and arrogant arseholes I really don't blame women for having a blunt profile and not replying to anyone.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Maybe they just aren't interested in pandering to your needs for a reply.

Site rules ,no reply equates to not interested

Its not site rules its what they point out and an opinion and that is just one its still ignorant. "

I’m afraid it is. You had another post on the same subject where you were told the same thing. No reply is a no thanks. That’s it.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman over a year ago

crawley

If someone put an effort to read my long profile, I say thanks but no in polite manner. If I get copy paste, I don't reply or I simply tell them to f off (last option goes to the most disturbing types, who want to get me pregnant, take a Line on my pussy, or want to "unload" and go)

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"Any type of reply would be nice sometimes. I know women get a lot of messages and it isn't possible for them to reply to everyone, but there are only so many well written and thought out messages that I can send before it gets to me.

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you. "

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

There’s at least one other on this thread that has sent abuse too.

But here they are claiming the recipients of their unwanted attention should reply because to not do so is rude. Beggars fucking belief.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't. "

Did I?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s at least one other on this thread that has sent abuse too.

But here they are claiming the recipients of their unwanted attention should reply because to not do so is rude. Beggars fucking belief.

V x "

I recieved an abusive message from someone myself and I bet if I mentioned it in the forum, it would be like one rule for women and another for men.

Men are always painted in a bad way when it comes to this.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I? "

You just admitted you did after being called out.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"There’s at least one other on this thread that has sent abuse too.

But here they are claiming the recipients of their unwanted attention should reply because to not do so is rude. Beggars fucking belief.

V x

I recieved an abusive message from someone myself and I bet if I mentioned it in the forum, it would be like one rule for women and another for men.

Men are always painted in a bad way when it comes to this. "

You're wrong. All abusive messages are wrong and should be reported and the sender blocked.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"There’s at least one other on this thread that has sent abuse too.

But here they are claiming the recipients of their unwanted attention should reply because to not do so is rude. Beggars fucking belief.

V x

I recieved an abusive message from someone myself and I bet if I mentioned it in the forum, it would be like one rule for women and another for men.

Men are always painted in a bad way when it comes to this. "

Absolutely not. Abuse from anyone to anyone should not be tolerated.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I?

You just admitted you did after being called out."

I think you should read it again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you. "

Listen I’m not gonna have a big thing about it but just for the sake of you maybe doing better in the future;

You’re a grown man. You quite clearly have a clear idea of the meaning of the words you have sent... I mean if you ever have to question if a message is abusive or not, just image if your mam/daughter/wife getting it...

Anyway, water under the bridge, do better next time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s at least one other on this thread that has sent abuse too.

But here they are claiming the recipients of their unwanted attention should reply because to not do so is rude. Beggars fucking belief.

V x

I recieved an abusive message from someone myself and I bet if I mentioned it in the forum, it would be like one rule for women and another for men.

Men are always painted in a bad way when it comes to this.

Absolutely not. Abuse from anyone to anyone should not be tolerated.

V x "

You don't think there are double standards on here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Listen I’m not gonna have a big thing about it but just for the sake of you maybe doing better in the future;

Anyway, water under the bridge, do better next time.

I was speaking the truth though wasn't I

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"There’s at least one other on this thread that has sent abuse too.

But here they are claiming the recipients of their unwanted attention should reply because to not do so is rude. Beggars fucking belief.

V x

I recieved an abusive message from someone myself and I bet if I mentioned it in the forum, it would be like one rule for women and another for men.

Men are always painted in a bad way when it comes to this.

Absolutely not. Abuse from anyone to anyone should not be tolerated.

V x

You don't think there are double standards on here? "

Often yes. But that’s not what this post was discussing.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Listen I’m not gonna have a big thing about it but just for the sake of you maybe doing better in the future;

Anyway, water under the bridge, do better next time.

I was speaking the truth though wasn't I

Unbelievable...

I’ve not reported that message but I’m off to do just that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Listen I’m not gonna have a big thing about it but just for the sake of you maybe doing better in the future;

Anyway, water under the bridge, do better next time.

I was speaking the truth though wasn't I

Unbelievable...

I’ve not reported that message but I’m off to do just that.

Go ahead of you think it was so abusive, but it sure wasn't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will probably get banned now but when I reported someone nothing happened to them.

Double fab standards again

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

I got abuse on this thread by a bloke, rather than actually answer a question I posed. He decided to be a coward and send me a nasty message instead.

I’m very sympathetic to both sides of the argument, without single guys this place wouldn’t be worth visiting. However nobody is owed anything, there are guidelines if you choose to read them.

If the site isn’t what you’re expecting or too hard to actually work out, the best way to try and get a meet that’s on you, not the women or couples on here.

Plenty of guys get meets on here, it wouldn’t take too long to check other guys profiles to see it’s true, as those guys have worked out how best to approach the site and those that use it.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I?

You just admitted you did after being called out.

I think you should read it again "

It's very clear you admitted to sending a message that was seen as abusive to someone who hadn't messaged you at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

In an ideal world woman would reply to every message and men would accept any knock back with good grace. But Fab is not an ideal world.

But Fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I?

You just admitted you did after being called out.

I think you should read it again

It's very clear you admitted to sending a message that was seen as abusive to someone who hadn't messaged you at all.

I didn't admit to sending an abusive message but if that is how it was taken I apologise for that. It really shouldn't of though in my opinion though.

It doesn't matter what I say here now because you have already made up your mind about me.

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman over a year ago

The place where fairies live

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I?

You just admitted you did after being called out.

I think you should read it again

It's very clear you admitted to sending a message that was seen as abusive to someone who hadn't messaged you at all.

I didn't admit to sending an abusive message but if that is how it was taken I apologise for that. It really shouldn't of though in my opinion though.

It doesn't matter what I say here now because you have already made up your mind about me.

I've just read all this thread and it's blatantly obvious you admitted to sending an abusive message!

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By *heNYCSausageMan over a year ago

Everton

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks"

Lost count of the “no thank yous” I’ve had. A polite “thank you for giving me the respect of a reply” is what I’ll send back in return. Manners don’t cost a thing.

I know I’m in the minority

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I?

You just admitted you did after being called out.

I think you should read it again

It's very clear you admitted to sending a message that was seen as abusive to someone who hadn't messaged you at all.

I didn't admit to sending an abusive message but if that is how it was taken I apologise for that. It really shouldn't of though in my opinion though.

It doesn't matter what I say here now because you have already made up your mind about me.

I've just read all this thread and it's blatantly obvious you admitted to sending an abusive message! "

No I admitted to sending *a message* not an abusive message.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks

Lost count of the “no thank yous” I’ve had. A polite “thank you for giving me the respect of a reply” is what I’ll send back in return. Manners don’t cost a thing.

I know I’m in the minority "

oh minority you are in sausage

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

The vast majority of messages we get are a complete waste of time. Writing "No thank you" takes more effort that the user has put into their message to us.

If somebody says something interesting to us I will always reply but I'm not going to respond to somebody who has absolutely nothing to say. I have tried that and it's a total waste of time.

Our profile says we're not meeting single men. It says what types of messages we will and won't respond to. Most people should know the outcome of a message to us before they even write it. I don't have to tell them a second time.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

I haven't read the other responses, apologies if I'm repeating.

Our profile clearly states those messages which will be ignored and deleted. If people don't read our profile, they don't deserve a response.

We can get 400-600 messages a day at times, more when the club is open and has big nights on. If messages come through from people who clearly haven't read our profile, I don't have the time to reply and they don't get to moan either...just read the profile. It saves all the boo hooing

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By *axxonBlackMan over a year ago

north

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

The majority of men here is like 70-30 compare to women. You just have to make your message stand out with a pic too. I’m sure you get a response with that. I take my time to Create a message for anyone I’m interested in but sometimes you get a reply or no reply at all. It’s a shame it’s just how fab is. Plenty fishes in the water but difficult to catch that one you want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agreed. Personally I try not to meet people outside my distance limit, when I decline and say they are too far away they reply that they can drive!! Same with married men.. I usually just delete those.

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By *oberts_onMan over a year ago

King's Lynn

Its frustrating for a guy to not get messages read, but, if im ignored, just move on, its all you can do. Dont see the sense in pestering people that dont reply, its not going to help!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Female here I must I don't always answer back , coz if people can't be arsed messaging a half decent message other than mmmmmm hi then I can't be arsed replying & honestly what do you say back to that ??? And yes we've had a fair few of these. Plus some people just don't take no or not interested at the minute as an answer they keep on sending messages gets tiresome best not answering at times but I still feel bad but my partner doesn't lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I usually ask those I message to just delete if there's no interest, no need for a reply... But that doesn't happen either!

If I don't hear from them after a week, I move on - but I tend to get moaned at for removing my pics when they've read and not replied until about 2 weeks later!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Agreed. Personally I try not to meet people outside my distance limit, when I decline and say they are too far away they reply that they can drive!! Same with married men.. I usually just delete those. "

I have exactly the same thing, my normal response is to tell them that I drive too, but still dont want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I?

You just admitted you did after being called out.

I think you should read it again

It's very clear you admitted to sending a message that was seen as abusive to someone who hadn't messaged you at all.

I didn't admit to sending an abusive message but if that is how it was taken I apologise for that. It really shouldn't of though in my opinion though.

It doesn't matter what I say here now because you have already made up your mind about me.

Sounds like you sent an abusive message and are backtracking.

Then people like you wonder why you are not successful on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I?

You just admitted you did after being called out.

I think you should read it again

It's very clear you admitted to sending a message that was seen as abusive to someone who hadn't messaged you at all.

I didn't admit to sending an abusive message but if that is how it was taken I apologise for that. It really shouldn't of though in my opinion though.

It doesn't matter what I say here now because you have already made up your mind about me.

Sounds like you sent an abusive message and are backtracking.

Then people like you wonder why you are not successful on here. "

Okay I'm a bastard and I send ladies abusive messages all the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I?

You just admitted you did after being called out.

I think you should read it again

It's very clear you admitted to sending a message that was seen as abusive to someone who hadn't messaged you at all.

I didn't admit to sending an abusive message but if that is how it was taken I apologise for that. It really shouldn't of though in my opinion though.

It doesn't matter what I say here now because you have already made up your mind about me.

Sounds like you sent an abusive message and are backtracking.

Then people like you wonder why you are not successful on here.

Okay I'm a bastard and I send ladies abusive messages all the time

Admitting is the first step to healing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Their silence says it all, move on x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I could do any worse if I just sent a cock pic and a fancy a fuck message everytime and treated it like a numbers game. No wonder men send copy and pasted messages to everyone.

And yet you decide to send abusive messages when you don’t get a reply...

Accountability is important.

It got to me that day and I wasn't trying to be abusive I just spoke the truth, sorry if it hurt you.

Wow.

You sent abuse to someone who didn't reply and you wonder why women don't.

Did I?

You just admitted you did after being called out.

I think you should read it again

It's very clear you admitted to sending a message that was seen as abusive to someone who hadn't messaged you at all.

I didn't admit to sending an abusive message but if that is how it was taken I apologise for that. It really shouldn't of though in my opinion though.

It doesn't matter what I say here now because you have already made up your mind about me.

Sounds like you sent an abusive message and are backtracking.

Then people like you wonder why you are not successful on here.

Okay I'm a bastard and I send ladies abusive messages all the time

Admitting is the first step to healing. "

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

I get a few nice no thanks that’s fine.

The ones I call fakes are the no reply and no delete which get classed also and picture hunters.

Then you get the ones that show as never read. These are just collectors to see how many they get.

99% won’t have a click so there is lots needed to find a real one that actually likes you.

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By *moothGrooveWoman over a year ago

Durham

"I get a few nice no thanks that’s fine.

The ones I call fakes are the no reply and no delete which get classed also and picture hunters.

Then you get the ones that show as never read. These are just collectors to see how many they get.

I don't know how you can class someone as a picture hunter for not deleting your message if you have sent your photo unsolicited in the first place?

99% won’t have a click so there is lots needed to find a real one that actually likes you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get a few nice no thanks that’s fine.

The ones I call fakes are the no reply and no delete which get classed also and picture hunters.

Then you get the ones that show as never read. These are just collectors to see how many they get.

99% won’t have a click so there is lots needed to find a real one that actually likes you.

I guess I must be fake since I read and don’t delete sometimes as I mass deleted every few days.

When unhidden and with pictures and if I get on. Hot photos I can leave messages unread for days as there so many and it takes a while to get to the bottom. So I must be a collector too...

Why speculate? If they’re interested they’ll respond, that’s it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Deleted message or just no reply tells you everything you need to know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

If I get messages that are from guys who havnt read my profile and are not what I have stated I dnt bother because it never stops there. You say thank you but not for. Then next is but why I have a big one. Sorry not interested in size you are not my preference then it just goes on. So I state if you arent what I want and you message I wnt answer. Simple really

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"
My thanks but no thanks is on my profile .

The site tells you a no reply should be taken as a no thank you

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By *entlecaressMan over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

I just take it that if I dont get an answer then they are mot interested, simples no abusive text from here.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"I get a few nice no thanks that’s fine.

The ones I call fakes are the no reply and no delete which get classed also and picture hunters.

Then you get the ones that show as never read. These are just collectors to see how many they get.

99% won’t have a click so there is lots needed to find a real one that actually likes you.

Gosh. I’m fake too then.

Good grief

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get a few nice no thanks that’s fine.

The ones I call fakes are the no reply and no delete which get classed also and picture hunters.

Then you get the ones that show as never read. These are just collectors to see how many they get.

99% won’t have a click so there is lots needed to find a real one that actually likes you.

You really are enjoying

this site,aren't you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get a few nice no thanks that’s fine.

The ones I call fakes are the no reply and no delete which get classed also and picture hunters.

Then you get the ones that show as never read. These are just collectors to see how many they get.

99% won’t have a click so there is lots needed to find a real one that actually likes you.

I often have a quick read and unread, as if I leave on read I get abuse. If I don’t reply I get abuse. If I reply no, it carries on.

Women can’t win on here.

As faqs state, no reply is a no

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol

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By *ountry Boy FreshMan over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol"

Some people get the hump that others don't really, others get the hump that people get the hump they dont reply. Even more get the hump people message them without reading their profile and even more that the non repliers don't use their filters and complain.

Lets be honest every group is just rude and ignorant and only deserver to eat arse for their tea.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol

Lets be honest every group is just rude and ignorant and only deserver to eat arse for their tea.

What about us vegetarians?

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol"

You haven’t hit a nerve with anyone as far as I can see.

You have shown how immature you are and how you negatively generalise those who aren’t interested in you and don’t reply though. Those of us responding are showing how way off the mark you are.

It’s nothing we’ve not read or heard before on here. Lots of bitter men who make big generalisations when they’re unsuccessful rather than looking at themselves and what they’re doing...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol

You haven’t hit a nerve with anyone as far as I can see.

You have shown how immature you are and how you negatively generalise those who aren’t interested in you and don’t reply though. Those of us responding are showing how way off the mark you are.

It’s nothing we’ve not read or heard before on here. Lots of bitter men who make big generalisations when they’re unsuccessful rather than looking at themselves and what they’re doing...

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think an average Joe like myself could put all the time and effort in and still not click with anyone who I fancy.

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

"Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol

You haven’t hit a nerve with anyone as far as I can see.

You have shown how immature you are and how you negatively generalise those who aren’t interested in you and don’t reply though. Those of us responding are showing how way off the mark you are.

It’s nothing we’ve not read or heard before on here. Lots of bitter men who make big generalisations when they’re unsuccessful rather than looking at themselves and what they’re doing...

Well I still know I am right lol.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol

You haven’t hit a nerve with anyone as far as I can see.

You have shown how immature you are and how you negatively generalise those who aren’t interested in you and don’t reply though. Those of us responding are showing how way off the mark you are.

It’s nothing we’ve not read or heard before on here. Lots of bitter men who make big generalisations when they’re unsuccessful rather than looking at themselves and what they’re doing...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think an average Joe like myself could put all the time and effort in and still not click with anyone who I fancy. "

Just because you fancy them doesn't mean they fancy you... I don't respond to men I don't find facially attractive, unless it's about the local social. Nobody can help who they are attracted to... Or who they are attractive to. The only thing you can be is decent, then when someone does fancy you back, you improve your chances.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think an average Joe like myself could put all the time and effort in and still not click with anyone who I fancy.

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol

You haven’t hit a nerve with anyone as far as I can see.

You have shown how immature you are and how you negatively generalise those who aren’t interested in you and don’t reply though. Those of us responding are showing how way off the mark you are.

It’s nothing we’ve not read or heard before on here. Lots of bitter men who make big generalisations when they’re unsuccessful rather than looking at themselves and what they’re doing...

Well I still know I am right lol. "

Of course, it’s better for your ego to say “I’m right everyone else is wrong” rather than address your own faults and failings that contribute to you being unsuccessful here.

If the same thing keeps happening to you over and over (like messages deleted with no response) it’s time to look closer to home as to why...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can receive up to 100 messages a day. Fewer now I have removed most of my photos.

I do read every single one.

I will reply if a message peaks my interest. Which is about one in every 200.

And it's not about it being a numbers game. Just because there's lots of dick on offer, doesn't mean there are lots of options to choose from.

Most of the messages are lazy, from entitled men with uninteresting profiles.

If all the men were interesting, I'd reply to their messages. A great message and profile will stick out.

Just like a well written CV and covering letter. And equally poorly written ones will go in the bin without explanation.

But one thing I won't tolerate is entitlement to my time and labour, just because you decided to reach out to me. If you can't respect that small thing, how can I expect you to respect me in sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had it a couple of times where a couple have politely rejected me, then upon seeing my nice reply wishing them a 'great evening'they've then asked to meet. I do accept that they'd probably been let down by someone else.. But that's the nature of this lifestyle, thick skin and chilled attitude is essential x

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By *ove2lickJemWoman over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

I used but then just get insulted by some and i can do without that.

Its sometimes obvious from that first line someone hadn't read your profile so I just delet without reading. Its also too time consuming to reply "

Yep!! Our profile says we don't meet others yet still get messages to meet, erm, obviously fucking no, twice so cos you can't read

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Would you feel better with an inbox full of messages saying no thanks?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those that accept a no thanks there's an equal amount who then resort to abuse or trying to change your mind. It's pretty tiresome & easier to just ignore.

Fab FAQs state take no reply as a no thanks"

Exactly this

. We have lots of female friends on here and if they were to reply to every single message they would need to employ a personal secretary.

When myself Miss Nice had a single female account I was overwhelmed with all the messages from single guys. So like our lovely friend from Blackpool says take it as a no if you don't get a reply.

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By *ab jamesMan over a year ago

ribble valley

"I've had it a couple of times where a couple have politely rejected me, then upon seeing my nice reply wishing them a 'great evening'they've then asked to meet. I do accept that they'd probably been let down by someone else.. But that's the nature of this lifestyle, thick skin and chilled attitude is essential x"

I've had this too. Is it a test, to see if you're one of those guys who gets nasty hearing "no thanks"

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By *ussexcouple40Couple over a year ago

Sussex

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol

Maybe it would if you could resist the temptation to reply with another unwanted message "thanks for replying " etc . "

This

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"No their not wanting fucked..."

Mr Charmer ! I don't see your situation changing anytime soon. Change your attitude.

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

"Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol

You haven’t hit a nerve with anyone as far as I can see.

You have shown how immature you are and how you negatively generalise those who aren’t interested in you and don’t reply though. Those of us responding are showing how way off the mark you are.

It’s nothing we’ve not read or heard before on here. Lots of bitter men who make big generalisations when they’re unsuccessful rather than looking at themselves and what they’re doing...

Well I still know I am right lol.

Of course, it’s better for your ego to say “I’m right everyone else is wrong” rather than address your own faults and failings that contribute to you being unsuccessful here.

If the same thing keeps happening to you over and over (like messages deleted with no response) it’s time to look closer to home as to why..."

I have no faults lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol. Looks like I hit a nerve with some. Guess I was right lol

You haven’t hit a nerve with anyone as far as I can see.

You have shown how immature you are and how you negatively generalise those who aren’t interested in you and don’t reply though. Those of us responding are showing how way off the mark you are.

It’s nothing we’ve not read or heard before on here. Lots of bitter men who make big generalisations when they’re unsuccessful rather than looking at themselves and what they’re doing...

Well I still know I am right lol.

Of course, it’s better for your ego to say “I’m right everyone else is wrong” rather than address your own faults and failings that contribute to you being unsuccessful here.

If the same thing keeps happening to you over and over (like messages deleted with no response) it’s time to look closer to home as to why...

I have no faults lol"

Hopefully your Charm School has gone the same way as Habitat and Thomas Cooks!

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By *otTheReal01Man over a year ago

London

If they're not interested I prefer either a no thanks or just a delete because then I know where I stand.

What confuses me is when people just read your message, don't delete it then never do anything about it. And by never I mean I've NEVER had anyone follow up at a later date etc after doing that. What's the point?

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"If they're not interested I prefer either a no thanks or just a delete because then I know where I stand.

Why even bother looking? Send a message and forget about it. Stop checking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If they're not interested I prefer either a no thanks or just a delete because then I know where I stand.

Why even bother looking? Send a message and forget about it. Stop checking."

Agree.

I find it weird that people check their sent messages so much lol!

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"If they're not interested I prefer either a no thanks or just a delete because then I know where I stand.

Why is that confusing? I don’t need to actually delete because they disappear off the end of my inbox. If no reply is “no thanks” then surely if you haven’t got a reply it’s clearly no thanks.

Here’s an example. I messaged a guy. He replied. I replied. He didn’t reply so I accept a no thanks. I’ve no need to question it. If he’s interested he would have replied. It’s a non issue.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If they're not interested I prefer either a no thanks or just a delete because then I know where I stand.

Here’s an example. I messaged a guy. He replied. I replied. He didn’t reply so I accept a no thanks. I’ve no need to question it. If he’s interested he would have replied. It’s a non issue.

V x

V x "

This.

Like you say after a certain number of messages are in the inbox they disappear off the bottom as more come in x

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"I know ladies get tons messages & maybe do a mass delete, But if they don't a polite not interested would be good lol"

Entitled man comes to mind. No reply means no, when are guys on here going to accept that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's all bollocks these days, the main stream media and channel 4 ruined the scene years ago mate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If they're not interested I prefer either a no thanks or just a delete because then I know where I stand.

Your profile says youre laid back and respectful of people's boundaries. Funny you need to express that. If you are those things, people will see it. But your sense of entitlement here just proves you're not.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"If they're not interested I prefer either a no thanks or just a delete because then I know where I stand.

What's the "point" in the lowest effort way of deal with a message you aren't interested in? How is that not just painfully obvious in itself?

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By *iL DeVeLWoman over a year ago

Luton

wow people really seem to fret over it one way or another! Some people have real issues if they have people with deleting a message they really have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

do you send a letter back to the piza shop that sent you an unwanted flyer through your door, or throw it in the bin?????????

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By *ayscotMan over a year ago

Central

I understand if there is no attraction and 100% fine with being told that, if my message gets deleted i know what that means. The annoying ones are those who just read and don't reply but I do get it still, just frustrating lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would be nice but alas it doesn't work like that the female members do what they want I'm afraid ya just gotta take it and just carry on most will ignore you through there own choice few will actually reply to you and then there are those ladies that you simply can't stop chatting with ya gotta take the good the bad and the ignoring dude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guys I get loads of replies and basically pre covid apocalypse was it took about a day with a decent picture and the right attitude. All you have to do is say 'meet for a social' it calms everyone's nerves and shows you are genuine.

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