Gut feeling is a big part of it for me, but even that doesn’t always help. As others have said, a social first is great - I like to have mine in a public place such as a cafe during the day, and I stick to soft drinks or coffee so my judgement isn’t impaired. I prefer to buy my own drink too. I also like to have the social on a different day to a play meet, and make it clear that there won’t be any play during or following the social.
I also like to chat to people for a while before even a social - it helps to establish if I actually get on with them, and also if someone is less than respectful they usually can’t hide it for any length of time. For me that includes things like repeatedly demanding nudes, or always wanting things I’ve already said I won’t do. For me those are red flags and I won’t go ahead with the person once those come up.
If possible, have someone you can trust and tell them who you’re meeting and where - maybe even for a social, but definitely for a play meet. When I say “who”, it’s probably more useful to give their Fab username (and/or Kik if you talk to them on there) as you don’t know if the name they give you is their real name.
I’d recommend not drinking before or during a play meet, but I know not everyone agrees with that. For me it’s important as again, I don’t want my judgement impaired. Don’t rely on them for transport, get there and back under your own steam. Bring condoms - in an ideal world, you’d expect the man to have some, but the number of guys who “forget” to bring any is unreal.
Oh, people have talked about verifications. Photo verifications and meet verifications can help to show someone is real, but they don’t really tell you that much more than that, and they can be faked. I didn’t look at your profile to see who you’re looking to meet, but if you’re only looking for single men fake profiles is less of a problem - why would anyone bother to make a fake male profile? With men you might find them using someone else’s photos, or really old photos of themselves, or lying about their age - but you’re unlikely to see a veri that says “yes this is a single guy but he doesn’t look anything like his pics”. If you’re looking for women or couples the potential for fake profiles, where it’s a man pretending to be a woman or couple, is much higher.
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As for lingerie, depends on your budget. I’ve had lots of lovely stuff from Primark which is also cheap, especially if you’re a “standard” bra size, not big cups like me. I love Pour Moi and Lovehoney but they’re more mid-range rather than super cheap (sales are good though). And I haven’t tried them yet myself, but a friend of mine loves them - Shein has some really nice stuff for very low prices. |
, don't know if this seems weird if so then sorry x
but yeah I'm trying to not be as wreck less while still having lots of fun lol x
Thanks everyone x