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Sorry bit of a rant on this but had some really hurtful and spiteful messages over the last few days about fairy. She is now coming away from this due to this. All because we say we don’t want to meet and things. Why do people have to be like that and put them down so much so you feel you can’t enjoy things  |
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Unfortunately people will say things online that they mostly know won’t have any consequences to themselves .
Block all messages and browse for people you like the look of and then make first contact your self. |
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You have only been here a few weeks do stay longer you do get a thick skin after a while yes some still get to me and I have been on and off the scene many years
Make use of the block button or just Mr read messages also filter for what you are looking for |
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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago
Weirdsville South Coast Dorset |
Use message filters to stop single guys from messaging. You can always revert it at anytime or message any single guys you are actually interested in.
Sadly you do need thick skin on here no matter who you are! A wise person once said "don't let the bastards get to you" and I fully stand by it. |
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I just wait ,to many idiots with no respect ,manners cost nothing and yes they do go a long way ,like I say I just wait , then I stand out from all the usual fab guys who do send nasty comments ,it's a bit of reverse cyclagolgy |
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Ermmmm... a bit sterotypical... but couples and even single ladies spoil things too.. that u had a bad experience wit a single guy or 2 doesnt mean all single guys are bad.. its human nature.. some people are bad while some are good.. bad could be couples or single ladies.. not just guys.. its unfair when couples think they have immunity from bad people just cos they are a couple. Bad people come into the life of anyone and everyone.. i have had horrible couples and disgusting ladies on here... but i dont judge everyone like that.. i move on and treat each other on their merit.. its life.. we come acrose bad people in all works of life.. at work.. with family.. with friends.. football.. normal clubs and of cos the swing scene. We are adults.. we learn to move on and cope with life. If the mrs is gonna leave the site cos of a bad experience then i guess the site is not for her... are we gonna always give up on life cos we have a bad experience?? We learn to cope n realise its life.. u can block single guys from contacting u etc... point is there is bad in everyone.. whether couples.. or singles.. i definitely have had bad experiences with couples.. but am not gonna give up would i?? |
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"Ermmmm... a bit sterotypical... but couples and even single ladies spoil things too.. that u had a bad experience wit a single guy or 2 doesnt mean all single guys are bad.. its human nature.. some people are bad while some are good.. bad could be couples or single ladies.. not just guys.. its unfair when couples think they have immunity from bad people just cos they are a couple. Bad people come into the life of anyone and everyone.. i have had horrible couples and disgusting ladies on here... but i dont judge everyone like that.. i move on and treat each other on their merit.. its life.. we come acrose bad people in all works of life.. at work.. with family.. with friends.. football.. normal clubs and of cos the swing scene. We are adults.. we learn to move on and cope with life. If the mrs is gonna leave the site cos of a bad experience then i guess the site is not for her... are we gonna always give up on life cos we have a bad experience?? We learn to cope n realise its life.. u can block single guys from contacting u etc... point is there is bad in everyone.. whether couples.. or singles.. i definitely have had bad experiences with couples.. but am not gonna give up would i??"
Completely agree and yes 1 or 2 not a problem and couples and ladies can be just a nasty at times if they want. How ever we have had over 25 messages all for single guys today ! All hurtful ! Any experience we have had with couples and ladies havnt been anything like that. |
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Although to many im not a "single male" due to the fact im married, there is a long line of single males on here and the small percentage make a big impression due to then being arseholes. The best thing you can do is block and report. Eventually they will get kicked off the site. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
Near Marlborough |
Consider hiding away and making the first move if and when you fancy. Any place online where you invite traffic to your inbox from strangers Is open for wankers to abuse it. The trick really is ... fuck em! They don’t know you and why do you care what they think? V x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't let the minority put you off.
Always going to get idiots in every walk of life, and sadly the swinging life is not averse to it.
Catch your breathe, smile ... And come back stronger xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry bit of a rant on this but had some really hurtful and spiteful messages over the last few days about fairy. She is now coming away from this due to this. All because we say we don’t want to meet and things. Why do people have to be like that and put them down so much so you feel you can’t enjoy things "
had pretty much the same thing when I was on with my wife and it put her off big time.we will stick to clubs together when safe to do so.
until she changes her mind I am here alone and get a lot less hassle from single guys  ..
wonder if it was some of the same guys for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there is no need to block all ..i block all abusive message's but i also block all those im not interested in guys/women and couples ..before doing this i had lots of negative messages and now i get very few ..use the tools fab provides it will make fab life easier ... as far as im aware theres no limit to how many you can block must be at least 1,000 on mine at the mo |
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Some of us guys have been on here years and never been blocked, never given abuse in messages either. You get a refusal (that’s life) and dust yourself down and move on, but....we still get a bad name. Please don’t tar us all with the same brush. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry bit of a rant on this but had some really hurtful and spiteful messages over the last few days about fairy. She is now coming away from this due to this. All because we say we don’t want to meet and things. Why do people have to be like that and put them down so much so you feel you can’t enjoy things "
Sadly it is easily for the internet coward to sit in their darken room in front of their PC surrounded by their crusty nest of tissues,throwing their alpha blocks out of the pram every time their profile of a scanned photo of ‘men’s health’ is turned down. It is a sad state of affairs that a little politeness would not go amiss in the world. These people can be happily ignored just as they will be ignored in any venture they partake in with that type of attitude xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry bit of a rant on this but had some really hurtful and spiteful messages over the last few days about fairy. She is now coming away from this due to this. All because we say we don’t want to meet and things. Why do people have to be like that and put them down so much so you feel you can’t enjoy things "
Sorry to hear this, its annoying but my take I can't let what someone who doesn't even know me and I don't care about says to me to put me down.
I've also had a few harsh words from some ladies on here and TV/TS because I say I'm not interested.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always say thanks for at least replying if i get a knock back messsge so we arent all abusive"
Yeah because polite is not something we see here often, when I get a reply from a few who basically say they're not interested or I'm not their type, I say thanks too |
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It’s perfectly valid to be upset.
I think the filter suggestions are constructive - you may not have thought of that.
I filter out the single males because I’m not interested.
All that said - seriously, it’s not ok for people to be sending abusive or horrible messages to people. Where do they get off? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
This is one reason we choose kit to reply/acknowledge one liners, just don’t start a dialog and block if needed , take control , if it’s upsetting your partner like that you should just deal with it and shield her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately with most online platforms, you're going to get trolls. And it's not just guys. Some of the most horrendous abuse I've had online has been from women.
Report, block, delete and try not to dwell on it too much. There are some genuinely lovely people on here. Just try and focus on those xx |
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"Sorry bit of a rant on this but had some really hurtful and spiteful messages over the last few days about fairy. She is now coming away from this due to this. All because we say we don’t want to meet and things. Why do people have to be like that and put them down so much so you feel you can’t enjoy things "
That's such a shame, don't let them get you down! I've just been called ugly as f**k because i said i wasn't interested!
There are some great guys here, worth looking for! |
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Just grow a thicker skin in regards to it all. It’s not just single men, it could be anyone on fab and if you let it get to you then it’s very upsetting. Just try not to take it personally and hopefully you will find what your looking for |
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It's not really single men that are the issue, it's some men being dicks.
If they weren't single they would still be dicks and still be causing trouble.
So them being dicks is most likely why 'they' are single. |
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It's a shame anyone causes that much trouble for anyone on here though.
Most I have chatted to seem lovely, it's just a select few that have been really spiteful and rude.
But, I know they aren't the majority so I'll just ignore them and have fun with the move people.
I hope you can ignore it and find the fun again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry bit of a rant on this but had some really hurtful and spiteful messages over the last few days about fairy. She is now coming away from this due to this. All because we say we don’t want to meet and things. Why do people have to be like that and put them down so much so you feel you can’t enjoy things "
Block single guys from messaging you |
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I must be extremely lucky both on my single and couple profile, I've never had the rudeness/spiteful BS that some of you seem to get,
Manners cost nothing,
I'm sorry you had this happen OP, maybe adjust your filters but don't let a few awful people ruin it for you, there are some really good people on here. X |
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I don’t understand people sending spiteful messages.
I’ve found this to be (mostly) a friendly place, and if I’m not wanted I just carry on looking for someone who might be a better match.
Pity the haters spoil things for all of us x |
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I don't subscribe to the notion that the act of individuals applies to the collective. You wouldn't think every doctor was Harold Shipman, so why taint all single men because of the actions of a few?
You need a thick skin here as you can go from hot to trot to hot mess if you turn down some men.
My advice: block immediately after saying no to prevent any negative comeback. Use your filters etc and enjoy Fab. There are entitled people on here, that's life, don't allow them to put you off.
Good luck. |
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I get nasty messages daily. Yes, usually single males but often couples too.
I play a game with myself that I now laugh at them and see who can send the worst.
It’s prob a defence mechanism as really I am hurt by them but it does seem to help |
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It’s such a shame that people on here can have such a hurtful mentality, but like others have said it’s not just single men...
I instantly block females or couples that act in a way that I think is sarcastic or hateful , no second chances , otherwise the nasty comments can grind on you.. so I learnt to use block early doors...
There’s plenty of nice folk here to talk to , the nasties can mingle with each other  |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Sorry bit of a rant on this but had some really hurtful and spiteful messages over the last few days about fairy. She is now coming away from this due to this. All because we say we don’t want to meet and things. Why do people have to be like that and put them down so much so you feel you can’t enjoy things "
People do and say things that upset others, that's life.
It is not just single men couples and single women can be just as hurtful.
Just ignore and live your life as you want to. |
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By *attM73Man
over a year ago
Oldham |
"Ermmmm... a bit sterotypical... but couples and even single ladies spoil things too.. that u had a bad experience wit a single guy or 2 doesnt mean all single guys are bad.. its human nature.. some people are bad while some are good.. bad could be couples or single ladies.. not just guys.. its unfair when couples think they have immunity from bad people just cos they are a couple. Bad people come into the life of anyone and everyone.. i have had horrible couples and disgusting ladies on here... but i dont judge everyone like that.. i move on and treat each other on their merit.. its life.. we come acrose bad people in all works of life.. at work.. with family.. with friends.. football.. normal clubs and of cos the swing scene. We are adults.. we learn to move on and cope with life. If the mrs is gonna leave the site cos of a bad experience then i guess the site is not for her... are we gonna always give up on life cos we have a bad experience?? We learn to cope n realise its life.. u can block single guys from contacting u etc... point is there is bad in everyone.. whether couples.. or singles.. i definitely have had bad experiences with couples.. but am not gonna give up would i??
Completely agree and yes 1 or 2 not a problem and couples and ladies can be just a nasty at times if they want. How ever we have had over 25 messages all for single guys today ! All hurtful ! Any experience we have had with couples and ladies havnt been anything like that."
Not all us single guys are like this stop tarnishing us with the idiots on here, it’s a bit insulting to us!. |
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By *arkmanMan
over a year ago
hounslow |
"Imagine spending your time being hurtful and spiteful to others? Odious behaviour. Ignore them, block them, forget them. Focus on nice people. X"
Odious. Love that word. Sums those people up perfectly.
There will be people who want to get down with you guys so just hang in. |
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"Unfortunately people will say things online that they mostly know won’t have any consequences to themselves .
Block all messages and browse for people you like the look of and then make first contact your self. "
This was the magic bullet for us. Of course occasionally we still get the odd fool, but that's because we've chosen poorly. We also get the same from women and couples at times. It just dries up.
It's not all men, but the majority at times unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The downside of life on Fab unfortunately.
The rose tinted glasses come off fairly quickly and there are times when you will become totally disillusioned with the site.
Persevere and learn to use Fab the way that’s best for you both. As others have said, use your filters and always report and block abuse which believe me can come from couples and women too.
Good luck!
Miss V
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"Sorry bit of a rant on this but had some really hurtful and spiteful messages over the last few days about fairy. She is now coming away from this due to this. All because we say we don’t want to meet and things. Why do people have to be like that and put them down so much so you feel you can’t enjoy things "
After you say no to somebody block them. It saves them contacting you again in the future by mistake. Also if you block somebody after saying no thanks they cannot send spiteful childish messages. |
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"Sorry bit of a rant on this but had some really hurtful and spiteful messages over the last few days about fairy. She is now coming away from this due to this. All because we say we don’t want to meet and things. Why do people have to be like that and put them down so much so you feel you can’t enjoy things "
Some blokes think their cock is a magic wand, that melts knicker elastic !!
The rejection by you is perfectly justified. Its your choice. So if their ego gets dented, their insecurities send a shitty message. Ignore the pricks. Don't let them ruin your fun.. and it proves your instincts correct. Sniffed out the fucktard gene
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I deal with messages (mr) and tell them no, and block straight away. What annoys me in chat, it was in general chat room, is getting abuse (slut , dog, whore) and the bias moderator protects 'mates' and gave as a warning.... asking around apatently its a know thing for this room |
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You need a very thick skin to be on here .
These people don't even know you so why is she letting them get to her in this way ?
All it proves is these are not people ud want to be meeting anyway so blocked them and move on .
Anything you feel us abusive then report them to admin .
Never let small minded people who don't even know you get to you! |
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By *van ArdenMan
over a year ago
Coleford, Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire. |
I agree with you on that point. I have been on this site for many years now and I rarely receive negative comments from other 'members ' on here. Not that I'd take any notice of negativity anyway lol. The important thing for me is respect for other people on here because after all we're all after the same thing, a bit of harmless fun.
Happy and horny fabbing you sexy people and keep safe  |
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If she's got upset over total strangers saying stuff about her that won't ever meet her then maybe its not the site for her/both.
